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  1. That's something I really appreciate about how you run things here. I've felt it to be quite off putting with other content creators when they get too pushy and manipulative with their marketing.
  2. Who cares? It's just one girl whose choosing to be closed off for what ever reason, that's her problem, just move on and focus your attention on having fun interactions with the other girls. What does this mean to be a 'sexual threat'? I think you've got some limiting beliefs you need to sort out here. Being attractive is not a threat to women, women want to be around attractive guys. No, do not physically escalate on a girl who is so closed off to you. You seem to be obsessing over this one girl and I strongly recommend leting go of those feelings of neediness. Using your awareness find the emotion of neediness/desire for a certain outcome and simply watch it with your consciousness without trying to resist the experience or change it in anyway. Don't think about the emotion or try to verbalise it (feeding your thoughts with energy will only make things worse), simply place your consciousness on the emotion itself and allow yourself to fully feel and let the emotion run it's natural course. After a few minutes you will suddenly find that you feeling lighter and more free. Continue this process every time negative emotions are triggered.
  3. There's something very unhealthy about the way you view friendships. Relationships are one of the most important aspects of life and major domain of self-actualisation (along with career and spirituality, ignoring any of these areas will lead to an unfulfilled life). Think about it, you are conscious and there are other conscious human beings who you have the opportunity to experience and enjoy life with, there's something quite miraculous about that. From what you've written it appears that you are on the path to leaving school only to be left with no friends, is this something you'd truly be okay with? Not having social relations can lead to a great deal of loneliness, neurosis, and depression which will impact all areas of your life. I strongly recommend against going down this road. In terms of your career, developing your personality, confidence, and social skills is incredibly important for that too, you'd ideally want to be able to establish rapport with your clients and develop strong connections with you colleagues, it's just as important as having the technical skills in your field. I'd recommend making it a high priority to develop social skills especially while your still young and in school where you're in an environment where you have plenty of opportunities to interact with your peers. Do you, or have you ever enjoyed spending time with your friends? If it is something you like doing then It'd probably be a good idea to play some games with them every so often and just enjoy some time with them. High school isn't particularly hard, you have more than enough time to focus on your studies and have some free time to hangout with friends, and you'd probably do better at your studies this way since you need some time to relax (finding the right balance for you is important). If you truly don't enjoy spending time with them and simply don't click with them, then I'd strongly recommend being proactive in finding the people that you do resonant with, at least on some level, and forming strong connections with them.
  4. @JonasVE12 Wow, thanks for sharing this. I have found this to be true in my experience, the way people respond to me seems to be nearly entirely determined by my own level of energy, the difference is so stark it almost as if experiencing a different reality. When I'm in low vibration energy (ie. anxious, angery, needy, insecure, competitive, ect.) people seem to be repulsed by me and will, for instance, avoid eye contact and not respond with all that much positivity in social interactions. While when I'm a higher state of consciousness (ie. love, joy, peace, collaborative, connected, creative, free/uninhibited, authentic, ect.) people seem to be inherently drawn towards me. I often won't even need to be the one to initiate a conversation, people will say hi to me as I walk past and it becomes very natural and effortless to socialise with all those around me, as if I can feel our underlying connectedness like there's no barriers between us. Attracting women becomes the default, it seems that most women will suddenly light up and have a huge smile just from making eye contact. The problem I'm currently grappling with is that when I do drop down into low vibration energy it can be quite difficult to raise out of it, since the illusion feels so real when you're in it even (if you consciously know that it is false since it becomes difficult to truly remember what it was like to be in a state of love and joy). It appears that low vibration energy blinds you and prevents you from being conscious of how you control your own mind. For instance, when in low vibration energy it may literally feel like the world is against you and impeding you from getting what you want, you don't see that it is you who is creating these beliefs and making the world appear like a hostile place or that you are choosing to feel the negative emotion; all these cognitive process are unconscious. While in a higher state of consciousness you are aware of all these processes and you can simply choose to let go of a negative belief or emotion in an instant and it becomes so easy to consciously use your mind as you've demonstrated here and do things like 'consciously bring up joy and love in the heart'. Do you have any advice on how to raise your level of energy, particularly when you seem to be stuck in the mist of a pain-body attack?
  5. Yes, mushrooms will quickly do this for you.
  6. Without a doubt if you have any sizable amount of money you don't want to keep it in a bank account. The interest rates are so low now that you'll be rapidly losing your money to inflation (which is about 7 to 15% per year). Crypto can certainly be very lucrative but you have to do your research first and understand what your getting in to. You'll also want to learn when the right time to get in is so as to avoid being a fomo buyer who gets in at the peak of the cycle. And of course, just like any investment/trade you have to accept the risk and assess whether the risk/reward is right for you and your current life situation.
  7. Do you believe it's likely that you'll get a well balance, unbiased opinion about reasons to vote for Trump on a clearly left-leaning forum? If you're seeking a genuine answer you'll have to step out of you bubble, find a right-leaning forum and ask them.
  8. It was a few years ago that I took the course, at that time I had been doing a lot of contemplation in order to discover what it is that I authentically want to purse as my vocation and what contribution I want to make to humanity. The life purpose course helped me to crystallize my vision and develop a deep commitment to that vision. It comprehensively covers the deep internal actualisation work needed to purse your life purpose as well as the core principles of success. I also find that much of this information is just as applicable to areas outside of your career. If you're thinking about purchasing the course definitely do it. The value you'll be getting from the course far exceeds the price.
  9. The right woman will not just appear in your life without working on this area, and if they did you wouldn't be capable of attracting them unless you've developed yourself as a man. @Bridge to Infinity Great idea to take some time to get this part of your life handled. The longer you put this off the more neuroses will fester inside of you. There's a lot great experiences to be had in meeting women and it really requires you to grow. There seems to be some resistance to 'pick up' by people who seem to believe meeting women is frivolous. This is far from the case; the game is ultimately there to teach you how to let go of your egoic self agenda and to embody love. When your far enough along the path you'll see that is in fact a spiritual journey. Check out RSD for some great content.
  10. Relationships are one of the major areas of your life which you need to get sorted and begin actualising on if you are to be happy and fulfilled. Drop this 'X is (insert colour)' nonsense. You are closing yourself off from potential growth. Social relationships are a whole area of mastery, just like life purpose or spirituality. There are skills to be developed and lessons to be learnt. Once your further down the path you will be in an infinitely better position to use these skills to share your gifts. What resource have you found that goes in to more depth and breadth in to social relationships and is as high consciousness than RSD? I recommend taking full advantage of the information being offered to you. Now. The longer you put off getting this area of life in order, the greater your suffering will get.
  11. Sounds like an emotional train wreck, to put it bluntly. Sorry but nothing about what you said sounds like a healthy relationship. Very needy and codependent. You deserve better than this, but you have a lot of work to do to develop yourself as a man. A poly relationship can work if both partners mutually agree and are both at the very least capable of sleeping with other people. Continue to dig up and release your trauma energy. This is very important. In addition, learn how to meet and attract women so that you can interact and come together with women in a positive way. At the moment you are not capable spreading real love in your intimate relationships, your neediness and insecurities cut you off from that potential and you aren't well developed in your masculine essence so you don't have anything to offer women sexually or romantically. You cannot love from a place of scarcity, you must cultivate an abundance in order to enable you to share your gifts. The good news is that this is all very much fixable, we've all had low points of our lives, but you have to be willing to heed the call and put in the necessary work. Most people choose to regress in to comfort and turn their backs on growth, I can guarantee you this is a mistake.
  12. Begin learning and experiencing this part of life now. There's no need to put it off until you reach some future milestone in business, this is likely a rationalisation stemming from fear. Wherever there is fear, that's your call to action. The fact that you made this post suggests that some part of you is dissatisfied with your current trajectory. Relationships are a major part of life, along with career and spirituality. Failure to align yourself with your highest conceivable good and actualise in any of these areas results in neurosis. Having success in one of these areas will certainly flow over to the others, but you'll without a doubt have to dedicate the time and energy to each individually if you want to engage with life fully. Your exact balance is something you'll have to figure out through experience and contemplation, and will change throughout the course of your life.
  13. Not interested, move on. Learn how to meet and attract women and develop yourself in this area so you can cultivate an abundance. Here's some starting references for you:
  14. It is near impossible to let go through thought alone. The emotion is capable of generating an infinite amount of varying thoughts, you can't keep up. Take your conscious attention away from your thoughts and instead place it on to the emotion itself. Emotions want to run their course and leave, by engaging in thoughts you are keeping the negative emotion there. Don't try to change the emotion or do anything to it. Simply place your awareness on the emotion and experience it fully. Do not resist the emotion, and allow it to leave whenever it wants to. Surrender any attachment for it to be anything other than how it is. The emotion may momentarily get stronger at first when you try this but eventually it will run its course. Consciousness is key here. Increasing your level of awareness through meditation will certainly help you with this process. Give this a sincere go and see what happens. --------------- Another angle to your problem is that you engage in such pettiness because you have not aligned yourself with you higher purpose in this area of your life. I have found for myself that my overarching purpose for social relationships is to spread love, joy, and peace. You'll have to do all the work necessary to find out what it is for you. When you know how it is that you truly want to engage with life reactions such as holding grudges or seeking revenge will seem petty and simple not worth engaging in. There are much more preferable ways of being. Good luck.
  15. @Leo Gura It's interesting that you've chosen to dismiss the discussion at this point. Is there something you're not willing to face? Perhaps a good opportunity for some inner work. I'm well aware of your position on JP, the points in my previous post still stand. In this thread so far you've called JP a devil and likened his followers to Nazis, can you see how this degradation of other human beings is problematic? @Yog I agree that green certainly does have a dark side. And that shadow can get quite ugly too. Ken Wilber, a proponent of spiral dynamics, is willing to recognise this shadow, so it's rather interesting that people on this forum are unwilling to acknowledge it and instead use the spiral dynamic model to dismiss other perspectives (and even people) as 'blue' or 'orange'. It seems that they are using this model to defend and propagate their own positionalities and avoid entertaining ideas which may pose a threat to their ideological attachments. As egos tend to do. It goes to show you that being highly developed in one area of life does not mean you will be advance in all others. You need to dedicate the time and work to actualise in all aspects of your personal growth.
  16. There is a positive and negative side to both masculinity and femininity. Your goal in this work is to cultivate the positive and then integrate these two poles within yourself so that they compliment each other (to transcend the dichotomy). David Deida has some good work on the masculine/feminine polarity. Keep in mind that David Deida uses stereotypical/exaggerated examples for teaching purposes, the reality for you will likely be something more balanced, say 60%M 40%F, you'll have to discover exactly what your balance is for yourself. "Toxic masculinity" is certainly being used by certain individuals to push an ideological agenda. So don't let those ideas impact your growth. Positionalities such as modern day feminism and MGTOW/red pill are very toxic for your personal growth and for your relationships with others since they are very divisive and seek to pit men and women against one another. Hence they do not cultivate a positive relationship between the feminine and the masculine. Men and women need to learn to come together in a positive way. The play between the masculine and feminine between two people can make for quite a special relationship. This means that you'll need to learn how interact with and attract women; integrate your own masculine and feminine (you cannot healthily disown either); learn to release your underlying neuroses (relationships are a vital point to do so since they tend to bring up your deep seated neuroses - read Letting Go by David Hawkins to learn how to surrender your negative energy); and cultivate love/joy within yourself so that you can spread this to others in your interactions. RSD have started to make some really great, high consciousness videos about how to interact positively with women in recent years. They also definitely know how to attract women, so I recommend checking them out. Ultimately, social relationships, particularly intimate relationships, are about the spread of love, joy and peace. Seek to align yourself with this overarching goal. It won't be easy, you'll have to let go of many of your egoic attachments, but it'll be worth it in the end.
  17. @Leo Gura It's interesting to see how closed minded and demonising you become when it comes to politics (perhaps I'm misinterpreting you, but there appears to be some ugliness in your posts here). Have you sincerely dedicated time to listen to his teachings yourself or are you just going off of second hand reports? I ask become what you've described of JP doesn't match my own experience of him. He seems to have some pretty good ideas which a lot of people find helpful and he can be quite insightful at times, his biblical series and recounts of his clinical experiences i find interesting. Of course there are many areas where his ideas are questionable, although it would be an unreasonable standard to expect any individual to be correct about every belief they hold (or even a majority). I'm quite wary of demonisation of certain groups and cutting myself off from differing view points. I've come to realise that no perspective is 100% false, there are varying degrees of truth to all perspectives and if we want to implement policies which leave the world better off (or at least just not cause harm) then a very well thought out and nuanced consideration of the truth behind many different perspectives (as well as their limitations) is required. This requires the setting aside of prejudice/dogma in order to place yourself in the shoes of people with different circumstances and worldviews from your own. To honestly empathise with an open mind and without ulterior agenda. Blind ideological commitment (on any side) can be rather dangerous. It is so important that we become aware of and acknowledge our own biases and projections. The ego can be very tricky. Consciousness and surrender are key in this sort of work. Also, you seem to place a great deal of faith in the spiral dynamic model. Its a pretty decent framework from what I can tell, but like all models it has its limitations and many aspects in which it does not capture the whole truth. Thus it is important to remain open to consider where other models/perspectives may fit reality more accurately and to be mindful not to become ideological strung up on any one set of beliefs. Perhaps you might like to consider what payoffs you receive for your commitment to spiral dynamics?
  18. @flowboy Your current state is not authentic. Infatuation is a projection on to another person and a way to avoid facing your own problem(s) which you have repressed. There is a deeper issue at play here which you must become conscious of and resolve in order to get closer to your authentic core.
  19. Spend time away from her without any contact for 6 months or so, until your infatuation is gone. It's not authentic to be needy or to treat people as something to be possessed. You have already lost status in her eyes and so she has lost attraction to you. Re-ground yourself in your purpose, only from there can you truly love (as someone with a masculine essence your mission comes first, from this place energy can overflow in to your relationships). If you have not found your life purpose yet, resume the search.
  20. Definitely check out Finding God Through Sex by David Deida.
  21. I had an insight into this earlier today. Relationships are about the surrender to and flow of divine Love. The problem is that people get caught up into the false belief that love is given to them from someone else, and so they believe they need the other person when in fact the love was originating from within themselves. The infinite love of God is freely given to anyone who is opens themselves to it.
  22. Thanks @ajasatya & @Devi Shanti . I've only just started to explore this area and I find it difficult to come across high quality information on this topic, everyone's beliefs around relationships seem to be tainted by neuroses of various sorts. Do you have any advice on how to find the right partner? For instance; how can you know if someone is right for you? What is it that attracts people and which of these factors are more/less authentic/pure? To what degree is romantic love authentic or a distortion of reality? How active should one be in their search? Do you have any insight on how to go deeper in to love without possessiveness/neediness? What are your thoughts on masculine & feminine energy?
  23. Be honest and open about it. Inauthenticity leads to neurosis, if you are rejected it'll be a lot less of a burden on you than maintaining a falsehood.