Something Funny

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  4. Posted

    @mr_engineer dude, who are you talking about? You are not nice, you have no moral goodness. Just recently, you have started a thread where you called everyone who you didn't agree with a simp, left and right. Is that what niceness looks in your opinion.

    Also, have you ever hear anyone say 'If you have to tell us that you're nice, you're not nice' in real life? Have you considered getting out of your dreamworld, maybe?

  6. Posted · Edited by Something Funny

    17 minutes ago, KatiesKarma said:

    No you are twisting scripture how you want it to be. Jesus just says that HE is one with God. Not you.

    How do you know that ypu are not twisting the scripture the way you want it to be? 

    How do you know that those bibleref guys are not twisting the scripture the way they want it to be?

    How do you know that the original meaning of his words wasn't lost in translation over 2000 years?

    How do you know that it was interpreted correctly when it was first heard? After all, if you believe the above paragraphs, he said it during the stoning. It must have been quite a public freakout with lots of people arguing and shouting.

    Adding to the point above, how do you know that Jesus didn't believe that other people are also one with god? Maybe he just didn't mention it at the moment. "I am one with the God" and "you are one with the god" are not mutually exclusive statements.

    Finally, how do you know that this John guy is trustworthy and isn't twisting Jesuses words the way he wants them to be? It doesn't say "Jesus 10:30", it says "John 10:30"

  11. Posted · Edited by Something Funny

    @flowboy to clarify. My issue is not that you haven't read enough books. My issue is that you are a money hungry, two faced, prick. Who pretends to be very nice but actually looks down on people. And I guess you have shown your true colors and your quality as a person to everyone, in this conversation, by repeatedly trying to put me down and call me names even though I have been trying to avoid doing the same to you up until now.

  12. Posted

    @flowboy and I never claimed to have the real answers, unlike you. I didn't even talk to you. I shared my perspective with the op without tagging you or anything. And pointed out that this is just my personal experience.

    But somehow you are still trying to debate me on which one of us is more knowledgeable.

    At least I am not running around a forum claiming to be a coach. So I am not sure why you feel the need to compare your level of knowledge to mine? Sure, you know more than me about it, cause it's not my profession. So what? I know more about logistics than you do. Let's have a debate about temperature controlled reefers, lol.

  13. Posted

    @flowboy And no, and I don't actually have an issue with coaches in general or with the self-help. I really admire Leo. I really admire my current coach. It's pricks like you that I have a problem with.

    15 minutes ago, flowboy said:

    Yes, and you know what, I do. I do have real answers. And they are earned through experience and study.

    That doesn’t mean I’m the wisest, or most experienced, far from it. I’m happy to humble myself to anyone with a modicum of experience and study in my field. I’m happy to step down from my pedestal if you had displayed a tiny bit of sense, of psychological insight.

    I’d be happy to talk about actual content… but I can’t because clearly you are talking out of your ass.

    And I pointed this out to you - the fact that you do not have knowledge of that which you speak of - upon which you started attacking me for being a coach and offering you something years ago.

    That’s really mature of you *ahem*

    Trying to make me look like shit and dragging me through the mud instead of acknowledging that you haven’t read a single book cover to cover about that which you were so sure “was an asspull”

    When you are so arrogant that you are willing to defend your wilful ignorance with attacks like these..

    You are just, for all intents and purposes, an idiot.

    You say I am attacking you. But I was actually the one who tried apologising first and ending the conflict. And you have been consistently trying to demean me and call me names, lol.

    I suggest you take a screenshot of your responses to me. And put them in a frame on a wall behind you when you are doing your coaching calls, so that you clients know who they are dealing with.

  14. Posted

    @flowboy oh you didn't? I confused you with someone else? Dude, I literally still have our conversation on this forum. And unlike you, I don't mass approach life coaches on here so it's hard for me to confuse you with someone since you are the only one I had this kind of conversation.

    Maybe you are the one who got blurry on the details after talking to hundreds of people? Here, let me remind you:

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    Rings a bell? You yourself called it "a short 10 minute call". Guess which one of us is full of shit, lol.

  16. Posted

    @flowboy oh wow. I wanted to stop this argument. And even made a first step. But since you want to continue, then lets go...

    20 minutes ago, flowboy said:

    That is for Leo to police, not you. This is not your forum.

    Forum members can, in fact, contribute to the forum if they feel like it. It doesn't have to be THEIR forum, for them to do this. This is why the report button exists for example.

    Also, I wasn't going to police anything. I wasn't going to bring this up with anyone. I just wanted to point it out. But, if you insist, I guess I will ask the moderators team their third party opinion on the issue.

    24 minutes ago, flowboy said:

    Where is all that bitterness coming from?

    Hmm, I wonder where. I wasn't really bitter at you originally. Just kind of sad and disappointed.

    ***

    You are calling me entitled for wanting free stuff. But I didn't come begging to you for life advise. You DMed me yourself! You pretended to emphasize with me, had me share some of my major insecurities and worries with you. All just to pitch me your coaching.

    And I mean, when you offered me a call and I agreed to it, I knew, that you were probably going to do something like that at some point. I was even open to that idea. But then I was shocked by how direct and impersonal it was, I guess.

    You basically listened to me describing what I struggled with for 5 minutes and than proceeded to offer me you coaching for a 1000 bucks. That's all it was. Oh, and you also shared a few of your youtube videos with me.

    That's not called "trying to help someone". That's called a sales funnel. You even sent me a few follow up texts after I started ignoring you, as if I was a part of your email newsletter, lol.

    Such, such a caring friend.

    ***

    But now I got annoyed because of you repeatedly talking down to me and trying to demean me by pointing out how superior your knowledge is. And we started talking about coaches and stuff, so I decided to bring it up.

    52 minutes ago, flowboy said:

    Why do you assume I pretended?

    Idk, maybe you had friends and family who charged you an hourly rate for spending time with you, but that's not what it looks like when someone sincerely care about you.

    My interaction with you can be basically broken down into:

    1. Cold approach

    You: Hey man, I really resonated with your post, what's up
    Me: Idk, kind of feeling like shit.
    You: Oh no, why is that?
    Me: well, I am really bothered by this thing and this thing
    You: yeah, that makes total sense man. I understand why you would feel this way. Anyway, I am actually helping people deal with this kind of stuff. If you want we can have a 10 minute call and I can give you some tips.

    Me, thinking to myself: shit, he just wants to sell me his course or something. Well, whatever, lets see where it goes.
     

    2. The sales pitch

    We have a call.

    I share my story a little bit -> you try to sign me up for paid sessions

    You might have given me some self-help tips which I don't remember by know (thank you, there is such a shortage of them on the internet), when I mostly just wanted some empathy and connection.

    3. The newsletter

    I decide to just quietly ignore you after the call. While you are sharing your youtube videos, podcasts, and 7 day retreats with me.

    ***

    THIS IS NOT WHAT ACTUALLY CARING AND TRYING TO HELP A PERSON LOOKS LIKE. That's why I said "pretend".
     

    1 hour ago, flowboy said:

    You've made a weird twist in your mind at that moment, thinking: "Oh, he's got a service he charges for. Everything up to this point must have been fake".

    I mean. No. The issue is not you having a service that you charge money for. The issue is our whole interaction being your sales funnel.

    If you actually cared, and bothered to spend time being a friend to me, just emphasizing, no need for some fancy self-help advise. And then were like: "Btw, I have those paid coaching sessions. If you ever feel like working on you situation more in depth, feel free to ask me about it if you will be interested"

    Then I would have no problem with it.

    I would also have no problem with you just straight up DM-ing me and being like: "hey man, I am offering this coaching program for 1000 bucks. I saw you post and thought that you might be interested".

    What bothers me is you playing these stupid games. And, up until this point, still trying to gaslight me into thinking that you somehow deeply cared about me.

    1 hour ago, flowboy said:

    I offered a chat. I made time for you. I gave you free tips and insights. And I cared.

    Oh, thank you. The next time I go for a "free chat with a car salesman" I will make sure to express my gratitude for him making this huge sacrifice and "making time for me", for purely altruistic reason. And even smiling at me 9_9

    1 hour ago, flowboy said:

    I do tons of free sessions and spend sometimes 3 hours with someone.

    Do you want me to give you a medal or something?

    1 hour ago, flowboy said:

    I give you what I promised, and more.

    Which is what? I am curious, what exactly do you think you gave me? What is "more"?

    1 hour ago, flowboy said:

    And by the way, the people who said yes during that time, which is almost 2 years ago now?

    Still in contact with them every week.

    They're still glad they said yes.

    Saying yes that day made a big impact on their life.

    Meanwhile, here you are trying to cling to the concept of "self-love", which is perhaps the highest teaching in the universe, but it's also a glorified cope when using it for shadow/trauma issues.

    Oh no, now I am going to regret this decision for the rest of my life.

     

    1 hour ago, flowboy said:

    Meanwhile, here you are trying to cling to the concept of "self-love", which is perhaps the highest teaching in the universe, but it's also a glorified cope when using it for shadow/trauma issues.

    There, I said it. Self-love as a strategy for solving psychological problems is a cope.

    There is a reason *actually* mentally healthy people, who aren't run by their repressed pain, don't need to talk about self-love and practice loving themselves everyday.

    It's because love is abundant, it is baked in, it is your birthright, it is something that you never consciously need to give yourself... there is always enough self-love, so much so that you have no need for the concept.

    IF you are not blocked by trauma energy.

    You can't add self-love on top of trauma energy and call it healing.

    That's a band-aid.

    Have fun coping, paying for learning more coping, and making ad-hominem attacks at people with real answers.

    Yeah, and then you wonder why you have communication issues when you talk like that. You wrote all this based on what? Me saying two sentences about self-love? One of which wasn't even addressed to you.

    You have no idea what I mean by self-love. You have no idea what I mean by practicing self-love. You have no idea what my beliefs are, what teaching and methods I am following, what my practice is.

    You have no idea what I am coping with, what I am not coping with, what I am paying money for, what I am learning. You are the one making ad-hominem attacks at me through my imaginary coping strategies.

    You are just projecting your own bullshit beliefs onto me.

    You even claim that you have "real answers", lol. I see that being too humble is not an issue for you.

  19. Posted

    8 minutes ago, flowboy said:

    And yet you still believe that all you need to do is "love yourself".

    You get what you pay for.

    Oh well, at least my teacher actually achieved something in her own life and has a direct experience of what she is talking about.

    And so does Leo actually.

    Maybe that's why they now don't have to invade other people's forums to hunt for customers.

    You seem like a perfect example of someone who became successful by starting to teach other people how to become successful.

  20. Posted

    @flowboy Oh, do not worry. I have no issue with paying for the services that I get. I've paid all my therapists for their sessions. I am paying my current teacher for sessions with her. And I have also bought a bunch of courses and self-help books.

    What really makes me sick though, is the audacity to proactively seek out a person who is in pain, pretend to be a caring friend, just wanting to help, and then try to pitch them your product while they are in this vulnerable, emotional state.

    Actually, I am not sure if your signature and what you are doing doesn't violate forum rules about no self-promotion.

    Quote

    What’s NOT Allowed:

    Self-promotion

    Coming here to start your teaching/coaching/guru business by leeching off this audience

    This forum is not for you to run up to people and try to sell them your coaching sessions like a trader selling watermelons at marketplace.

    7 minutes ago, flowboy said:

    I will defend to the death your right to say the uneducated ignorant things you are saying. You certainly have that right.

    5 minutes ago, flowboy said:

    And yet you still believe that all you need to do is "love yourself".

    You get what you pay for.

    Oh wow, so now you have gone and started a full on attack on my education level and financial situation. I guess this really show the quality of person that you are. Well, I am sorry for being such a plebs compared to you, professor.

     

  21. Posted

    But don't worry.

    Yes, I am a bit pissed off now, but not at you. Just this whole state of affairs in general.

    And it's not your fault, @flowboy. Just like it's not a fault of those porn girls. They are simply doing what they have to, to survive in our difficult world. But it's just frustrating for us, outsiders, that you only see us as some ignorant money bags.

    Besides, I've been super lucky to finally find a teacher who puts her whole heart and soul into this work.

  22. Posted

    29 minutes ago, flowboy said:

    Don't get me wrong. I am not a typical therapist, in fact I am not a therapist by any official standards (yet). And I argue with therapists. Several of my friends are therapists, and even they don't have a deep understanding of how trauma forms the psyche. Because they don't do the deep research, they don't read what I recommend them to read, and they don't have the fascination to understand how people become the way they are. How personalities are formed with all their quirks and flaws. It's not random. It's perfectly elegant and logical, but obfuscated.

    But all they (typical psychology masters) care about is diagnosing, protocols and prescribing. Tell me what to do with this kind of symptom please. Mind-numbing. Robotic. The opposite of holistic. They don't understand and they don't ask questions. It's all random to them, just like the universe. Random particles. Random big bang. Random everything out of nothing. Random psychological symptoms.

    Secondly, it is funny how in the text quoted below you dismiss me expressing my frustrations as a patient with people working in this field and write them off as me simply being ignorant, but then you do the same thing. Is that because you are an "insider" who has a right to say those things because you are sooo educated?

    Just now, Something Funny said:

    The fact that you think that a therapist can "fix" part of a person, an arbitrary part that he judges as something wrong to fix, then either you have met only shit therapists or your understanding of the subject matter is severely lacking.

    And yeah, I've had some experience with shit therapists, coaches, and self-help gurus.

    And you were actually one of them. I am not sure if you remember me but I was once in a pretty bad mental state, sharing my issues on this forum, and you reached out to me, pretending to care "oh so much" and wanting to help me. Only for it to turn out to be a pitch for your 1000+ dollar coaching package or something (I guess you must have been pretty desperate for clients at that time to hunt for them one by one on here). That kind of a behavior, finding someone in pain and then trying to make some money off of them, is a thing that really annoys me to be honest.

    Actually, now that I think of it, it's no wonder that you were standing up for those pornhub girls. What you are doing is not that different.

  23. Posted

    23 minutes ago, flowboy said:

    The fact that you think that a therapist can "fix" part of a person, an arbitrary part that he judges as something wrong to fix, then either you have met only shit therapists or your understanding of the subject matter is severely lacking.

    I am not saying that this is what a therapist does. I am saying that this is the intention I got from your original post.

    25 minutes ago, flowboy said:

    Of course the foot fetish was a detail in the story. The person had an inability to form healthy attachments to other humans, which is why they were in therapy, and the foot thing just came up as a result of regression sessions. No one is suggesting that liking feet is a reason to go to therapy. I have no judgments of your foot fetish, enjoy it!

    You can not "fix" a part of the person. You start with their feelings, such as shame and guilt for example, and you unravel them, trace them back, again and again and that leads to the undoing of the entire neurosis of the person.

    Notice how you didn't provide that context originally and are only now adding it. Maybe I wouldn't even started arguing with you if it was written like that from the beginning.

    27 minutes ago, flowboy said:

    Yes, I am annoyed, but not at you, I just took it out on you a bit. It's frustrating to me that the more I learn about trauma and healing, the less I am able to communicate this wisdom, because to the uneducated it just seems wishy-washy or fringe or whatever, while to me, having experienced and applied and been transformed by this knowledge, see link in signature for example, it's perfectly clear, simple and certain how it all works. It just makes crystal clear sense. And yet, I seem to not be able to explain it to anyone who is not already familiar.

    I believe this to be because of the defense mechanisms that everyone has in place. Basically, the mind defends unconsciously against information that would threaten its ability to keep repressing its massive store of pain. The mind's agenda is to not look where it most needs to look. And it's most effective diversion tactic is to mess with your perceptions, to make profound truths seem like ridiculous platitudes. And so the mind labels it as wishy-washy vague nonsense, just the same as my mind did before I knew anything.

    It's not your fault, @Something Funny just like it is not the fault of some of our parents that they think psychedelics make you jump off buildings. It's frustrating for the insiders that people on the outside believe that, though.

    All of that is to say that maybe you frustration comes from the fact that the way you communicate with people sucks, and not because of "ignorant outsiders who don't believe you".

  24. Posted · Edited by Something Funny

    @Javfly33 yeah, btw. You won't be able to deal with this Findom thing by "taking responsibility" or by using your willpower. What you need to work on is self-love.

    What's so neat about this is that it is a fundamental skill and you can just slowly chip away at it. As opposed to trying to find some mysterious moment in your past that will be crystal clear linked to your fetish, like your mom stealing your lunch money while you were playing under a dinner table ¬¬

    *not that analyzing your past is totally useless.

  25. Posted

    @flowboy seriously, If a patient comes to a therapist and shares that he has a foot "fetish" and that he has a lot of guilt and shame around it. And a therapist decides to fix the part of his client that likes feet instead of working with the shame and guilt, and promoting self-love and self-acceptance. Then I think that they are a shit therapist.

    This is my genuine opinion. Not as a medical professional, but as a client who is sick and tired of under-qualified, dumb therapists, coaches, and other self-help gurus.