Harlen Kelly

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  1. Posted · Edited by Harlen Kelly

    9 minutes ago, Terell Kirby said:

    What's factual is that humans have the ability to choose, what's inherent is the choice itself.

    You made my point once again. 

    9 minutes ago, Terell Kirby said:

    Do you also agree that polygamy is not inherent? Nothing in your comments alluded to it, as you seem to have a bias in favor of looking at polygamy as being more inherent the monogamy.

    Of course. 

  3. Posted · Edited by Harlen Kelly

    53 minutes ago, Terell Kirby said:

    It is quite arrogant for a single human to claim what they feel/value is inherent to all other humans.

    Maybe you don't know the definition of the word inherent. Here it is: 

    ''existing in something as a permanent, essential, or characteristic attribute''.

    Monogamy has not even remotely been the main relationship pattern humans have utilized to procreate and survive throughout history, therefore, is not inherent to humans. 

    Your argument would be equivalent to asserting that countries are inherent to the human species even though countries (just like socially enforced monogamy) is a recent human invention. 

     

  4. Posted · Edited by Harlen Kelly

    1 hour ago, Terell Kirby said:

    In 2020, there were 62.34 million married couples in the United States. This is an increase from 40.2 million married couples in 1960.

    The US population in 1960 was approx. 180 million people, in 2021 the US population is 330 million people which you are not taking into account. 

    The marriage rate of the US went from 80% in the 1960s to 33% in the year 2019. 

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    As I stated previously, monogamy is a relatively recent societal invention and it's definitely not inherent to the human species. 

  5. Posted · Edited by Harlen Kelly

    42 minutes ago, Globalcollective said:

    It can also became impulsive and addictive.

    That sounds like over 90% of monogamous relationships. 

    22 minutes ago, Terell Kirby said:

    so saying that humans are not monogamist

    Saying humans are not monogamous is an evidentially observable, measurable, factual statement. 

    The human species has evolved to make commitments between males and females in regards to raising their offspring, however that bond can fit into all kinds of relationship patterns such as polygyny, single parenthood, monogamy, etc. 

    Monogamy is a relatively recent human/societal invention, it has only been practiced since the last 1,000 years out of the approximately 200,000 years modern humans have been roaming around the earth. 

  12. Posted · Edited by Harlen Kelly

    7 hours ago, SQAAD said:

    My parents never loved me unconditionally and they rejected some parts of myself

    Most people won't love you unconditionally ( with very rare exceptions ), you yourself don't love yourself unconditionally. 

    Furthermore, there is no rule that says other people are obligated to love/accept you unconditionally, you just made that up, that belief will only create unnecessary suffering in your life. 

  15. Posted · Edited by Harlen Kelly

    15 minutes ago, Max8 said:

    i bet  i  know more about self help than you do , try me. 

    Sounds like what a developed, mature adult would say. 

    15 minutes ago, Max8 said:

    but it never really worked it kinda worked but it's just an illusion and very little results or non at all

    Then focus exclusively on the basics if that's what you are looking for. Leo's advice is really not for newbies who are barely getting by in regards to their basic needs. 

    Tony Robbins would be better in your case. 

    By the way, by newbie as previously stated I mean somebody who like yourself has not been able to fulfill their basic needs as you mentioned multiple times. 

    ''fulfill my basic needs such as making money and dating and mental health and you know the list but it never really worked ''

  17. Posted · Edited by Harlen Kelly

    @Max8 All your comments reflect your projection of inadequacy and infantile understanding of development onto others. 

    If you perceive yourself as a newbie in terms of your personal development ( a person who is barely surviving in terms of their basic needs such as money, dating life, etc..) then you should focus on getting by and fulfilling your basic needs first. 

    Leo has made countless videos about this, focus on the basics. 

  19. Posted · Edited by Harlen Kelly

    10 hours ago, Surfingthewave said:

    @SamC Reading your posts I'm  getting  the impression you've been hurt by women in the past? 

    Most people both men and women have once experienced hurt or negative emotions within a romantic relationship. 

    Jubilee uploaded a video not too long ago about women issues in today' society and the majority of women stated they sometimes experience fear when being with men. There are university polls with extensive sample sizes that confirm this as well.

  20. Posted · Edited by Harlen Kelly

    1 hour ago, StarStruck said:

    I'm just being done with being nice. And for a nice guy it is not possible to be 50% less nice. I noticed that I really have to swing to the opposite side of the pendulum.

    There are not that many things that are as repulsive to women as being overly nice and meek.

    Just keep practicing and interacting with women as frequently as possible, you will eventually develop the skills but it requires constant practice.

    Spend more time doing approaches and less time getting distracted by noise.

  21. Posted · Edited by Harlen Kelly

    1 hour ago, Mason Riggle said:

    There is no objective way the Universe should or shouldn't be. 

    Therefore there is no reason to say ''lets don't overpopulated the planet'' or ''it means we prioritize all sentient life, current and future'' as you stated previously since there is no particular way the Universe ought to be and we are not in a position to say what 'should' happen in the world.

    1 hour ago, cookiemonster said:

    Death is not to be feared, but to be respected.

    That's like saying you should respect santa claus, an imaginary character. Death is to be recognized as an illusion. 

  24. Posted · Edited by Harlen Kelly

    41 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    After you date a few prostitutes and strippers

    That's called anecdotal evidence, otherwise known as worthless information. Your particular experience with a stripper does not constitute truth about strippers. 

    ''Anecdotal evidence is a factual claim relying only on personal observation, collected in a casual or non-systematic manner.''