Decline Of Sex Interest Since Starting To Meditate

[Michael569]

I try to keep my mindset and nutrition/exercise on optimum level so wouldn't blame it on stress or lack of movement/ healthy food but generally noticing that I am not as interested in sex as I used to be a year ago when I started the self-actualized journey. I'd actually go as far as see it being a distraction sometimes. Although when I have sex, is more intense than it used to be which is good I guess

Any similar experiences? 

[Shin]

I don't know if that's common, but I experience the same thing.
It's been more than 2 week that I didn't ejaculate, and even though the need is sometimes present, I can control it (I even masturbate on purpose to force that ).

I guess it's because our mind stops to think all the time, we don't need to distract ourselves to appreciate life anymore,
And sex is a big distraction that your mind use when it feels empty, cause it thinks that will complete it.

After the 1235 times, you still need it, RIGHT ?!
So there is catch somewhere heh ?

 

[Prabhaker]

1 hour ago, Michael569 said:

I am not as interested in sex as I used to be a year ago when I started the self-actualized journey.

Sex is just an opportunity for a higher transformation of life energy. As far as it goes it is alright, but when sex becomes the whole, when it becomes the sole outlet for life energy, then it becomes destructive.

If your energies are needed somewhere else, somewhere more blissful, sex will disappear. It is not that the energy is sublimated; it is not that you have done something to it. Rather, a new way toward greater bliss has opened for you and automatically, spontaneously, the energy begins to flow toward the new door.

This is so automatic, so spontaneous, that no positive action against sex is needed. Whenever you are doing anything against any energy it is negative. The real, positive action is not even connected with sex but is concerned with meditation. You will not even know that sex has gone. It has simply been absorbed by the new.

The reason why sex is so important to religious seekers is because it is so nonvoluntary, so compelling, so natural. It has become a criterion to know whether the life energy in a particular person has reached the divine.

You will encounter something so blissful that sex will become irrelevant and it will subside by itself. Now your energy will no longer flow in that direction. Energy always flows towards bliss. Because bliss appears in sex, energy flows toward it, but if you seek more bliss — a bliss that transcends sex, that goes beyond sex, a bliss that is more fulfilling, deeper, greater — then, by itself, energy will stop flowing towards sex.

[Michael569]

@Prabhaker thanks for the insight. I think you are right. Quite often I thing about other ways I would prefer to spend the time & energy than to have sex.  I assume for most (especially single ) guys this would sound completely nuts since that is often a number one priority. Or maybe it is like drugs that once you've had enough of it in your life and you feel this side of your life satisfied, you can move on towards higher values. 

Lot of my energy currently flows towards the my life transition, exercise and studies so maybe it is simply a question of having no energy left. 

 

[Michael569]

@Shin yeah, you still need it but the urge even when you are super into it is just not as powerful. Not to mention things like tasty food, pc gaming, party, alcohol all of those I used to do a lot, the will to do those things is just not there anymore. Weird stuff indeed  

 

[pluto]

Yep, the more awakened you become (so to speak) the less sex is of interest instead.. Love becomes more drawn to and empowering for you.

I haven't had sex in a while, I'm actually feeling really great lately, full of energy, and wisdom and little to no animalistic thoughts or patterns. I mean.. the monks do say ejaculation is wasting spiritual energy. They're onto something i tell ya haha

Edited April 12, 2017 by pluto

[alyra]

well generally speaking libido and sex drive and attraction are nothing more than a self-feeding addiction, and meditation frees us of that. do not worry you will get your sexual excitement back in the long run, in the short run I guess you just take a break from the constant drug dosage

 

you don't know how good something is until you take a vacation from it  or maybe, in taking a break you find you don't need it at all I for one am the latter, but I know that others are the former. it's good either way

Edited April 14, 2017 by aryberry

[Loreena]

@aryberry What  do you think about female sex drive ?

[The White Belt]

@Michael569 I personally go in cycles, between low interest in sex, to high. Surprisingly, I quite often get an erection during meditation, yet, I think this is due to the frustration of sitting still for extended periods manifesting itself. 

[alyra]

32 minutes ago, Loreena said:

@aryberry What  do you think about female sex drive ?

as I hear, it is "female" characteristic to experience sexual drive responsively, while "male" characteristic to experience sexual drive spontaneously. basically, men go "ooh look I wanna bang that" and women instead need.. romance, buildup, sensual touch, before they can feel like they "wanna bang that".  But really it is just that it is more common according to gender, as it is definitely the case that many people of either gender have either or both types of drives. 

[Joel3102]

Happened to me as well. Fapping, porn and sex just don't have the same pull over me, it's quite liberating.