Solvinden

Lasting longer in bed

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I had the same problem. You can strengthen your pc muscle which will eventually help you having an orgasm without ejaculating and if done right you can have multiple orgasms. Works for me. There are many resources on the internet. Give it a try

 

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4 hours ago, mmKay said:

Cum in 20 seconds say compliments to the cheff and go for round two

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7 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

This is horrible advice.

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This is not medical advice

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6 hours ago, mmKay said:

Cum in 20 seconds say compliments to the cheff and go for round two

Yeh, I was just going to say the same but there's actually no need to cum. 

Pressing the pc muscle stops ejaculation. The other muscles go through their motions as usual, but the semen is retained. You'll still feel "finished" and need some time to recover, but you can regain that desire to empty your balls pretty quickly :D          

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I have this same problem.

1). In my experience, there's a specific muscle (the same one that you hold in your pee with) that is often overworked with PE. You need to start to focus on relaxing this muscle. As you start getting closer to orgasm, try to *fully* relax this muscle (if you think you are fully relaxed, relax even more). This is where the control comes from. It will be hard to avoid clenching this muscle, especially as you get closer to orgasm, but if you are able to stand your ground and keep the muscle in the fully relaxed state, you will start to gain some control back. As you practice this, you should start to be able to "get over the hump" of the need to ejaculate. You will need to "relax through" the body's attempt to orgasm. After you get over the hump, you should immediately have more control, and if you can maintain the muscle relaxation you should be able to keep the control (sometimes). 

2.) Get yourself used to feeling pleasure without ejaculating. Set aside long sessions (20-30 mins each to start - set a timer) to slowly masturbate and practice the relaxation I mentioned. Allow yourself to feel pleasure without allowing yourself to go too far. You need to desensitize yourself and train your brain and penis not to ejaculate so quickly and to get used to feeling pleasure without ejaculating. Increase the length of your sessions over time. After your timer is up, sometimes you can allow yourself to ejaculate, but it is best to limit yourself to only ejaculating 1/3 sessions or so (try to be disciplined with this). It's good to learn to masturbate and not ejaculate. Over time your body will start to get used to this and should not trigger the ejaculation mechanism as easily.  

3.) Learn which sex positions give you the most control. Angling your back a certain way can make a big difference, for example. Use your masturbation training to figure out how to set yourself up for the most control. Masturbation is practice for sex.

4.) Make her cum in other ways before you allow yourself to put your penis in her. Takes some of the pressure off.

5.) Do your research and all that, but SSRIs (and Adderal) are effective for this. I use 10mg Lexapro daily. 

Good luck. Shit sucks. 

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Premature Ejaculation is 90% mind/thoughts, 'thinking too much' and not being present, 10% state of health of the body, poor diet/lifestyle ect..

Meditation and Mindfulness my friend. The greater the stillness within yourself, the more (in the moment) you experience life.

You can last indefinitely with full control when you want to ejaculate or not with practice of mindfulness.

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Thanks for the advice guys! (:

I'm experimenting with it right now and started reading "The Enlightened Sex Manual" by David Deida. I'll update you how these things work out.

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1. Firm decision to not cum

2. Breeeeaatheee

And relax your anus. A buttplug is a good tool to force you to stay relaxed and let the sexual energy flow back through the body instead of building up in one place and squirting out.

I highly recommend getting one. Or just ask her to stick a finger up there when you're close.


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Posted (edited)

On 8.2.2021. at 2:05 PM, Quantum Toad said:

Premature Ejaculation is 90% mind/thoughts, 'thinking too much' and not being present, 10% state of health of the body, poor diet/lifestyle ect..

Meditation and Mindfulness my friend. The greater the stillness within yourself, the more (in the moment) you experience life.

You can last indefinitely with full control when you want to ejaculate or not with practice of mindfulness.

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It is correct. Can confirm. 

Spiritual pracises=Sex beast. 

My lady is very greatful like all of em before. 

Healthy diet, go to gym and don't watch porns and see for yourself. 

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No time for her to think about masculine containment. xD

Had to I apologize. 

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Posted (edited)

The trick i use to last forever and to cum on demand at the same time with my partner is to relax the body, be present and to not think about a sex fantasy. 

If im about to cum, il turn off my sex brain. Its basically a recontextualization. I was experiencing from a context that built up ejaculation pressure, then switched it to a neutral context. The real trick is that you should always be in the neutral context. 

Im sure there is a more advanced spiritual method with unification... Not sure how to go about training or unlocking it. 

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On 31/01/2021 at 10:58 AM, Solvinden said:

Hey Guys,

do you have any tips on how to last longer in bed?
Especially when I trust very hard and fast I last less than a minute.
I tried deep/slow breathing, relaxing, focussing on sth different/changing the position/starting slow, etc.

While these things help, they do not help enough.
Are there techniques with which I can thrust very hard and fast for a long period of time?
Maybe techniques that give you an orgasm without ejaculation can help?

Thanks for your advice guys!
Solvinden

 

My husband experienced this same problem. All the things you have tried are great techniques for helping premature ejaculation, and although it may not have worked for you, you should still try these in conjunction with other newfound techniques for a greater impact. Other things you can try that helped my husband are using sex toys and climax delay condoms, indulging in foreplay, and including aphrodisiac foods in your diet. I think what would help the most is looking into why you are experiencing premature ejaculation and trying to resolve the deeper issue. Here's a great article on natural ways to help cure premature ejaculation that I think will help: https://www.vivastreet.co.uk/blog/how-to-cure-premature-ejaculation-at-home/ 

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