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Let's Get Practical #3: Raising Self-Esteem

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04/06/2021 (Week 19)

If I bring 5 percent more integrity to my relationships...

  • my relationships would be more meaningful
  • I'll be more honest in my relationships
  • people would appreciate me more
  • I'll attract conscious people
  • I'll value relationships more
  • I'll get more satisfaction from my relationships

If I remain loyal to the values I believe are right...

  • I feel aligned with myself
  • I entertain high integrity
  • I'll would be more authentic
  • I'll be whole
  • I'll see less the need to defend myself
  • people would respect my more

If I refuse to live by values I do not respect...

  • I feel more authentic
  • I entertain high integrity
  • I'm living life for myself rather than for others
  • I'll let go of people who don't resonate with me
  • I'll let go of unneeded thoughts
  • I'll increase my self-respect

If I treat my self-respect as a high priority...

  • people would respect me more
  • my life would go my way
  • I'll be more able to make change
  • my life would become a high priority life
  • I'll more joy from life
  • things would go my way
  • the quality of my life would improve

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05/06/2021 (Week 19)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

  • align myself with my values
  • reach to people who have similar values
  • let go of people that I don't resonate with
  • do everything possible to entertain high integrity
  • am respectful of myself
  • assert myself in life
  • see my life as precious and as having my full priority

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06/06/2021 (Week 19)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

  • recognize that I lack integrity while doing this exercise because I'm filling sentences related to relationships that I don't have except currently the one with my mom
  • recognize that I lack integrity doing this sentence completion exercise
  • bring more integrity to this sentence completion exercise by completing appropriately the sentences according to my life and my beliefs
  • bring honesty to everything that I do
  • align myself with my values
  • refuse values that don't resonate with me
  • refuse when people want me to do things that I don't resonate with
  • let go of the hurt of projections of others
  • let go of what doesn't serve me
  • change myself to align with my values and raise my integrity
  • assert myself
  • increase my integrity more and more to the point that one day I'll penetrate the world with my purpose
  • see my life as important, precious, and worthy of love

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07/06/2021 (Week 20)

If the child in me could speak, he would say...

  • that he wants love
  • that he wants love from his dad
  • random joyful things
  • that he likes to be creative
  • that he likes to be artistic
  • that he wants some reassurance
  • that he wants some support

If the teenager I once was still exists inside me...

  • he would express anger
  • he would express disappointment
  • he would be stubborn
  • he would be addicted to video games
  • he would be rebellious
  • he won't listen to others

If my teenage-self could speak he would say...

  • that he wants attention
  • that he wants independence
  • that he doesn't like being judged that much
  • that he wants to be the best
  • that he wants to be strong
  • that he wants happiness
  • that he doesn't want to be left alone
  • that he wants friends

At the thought of reaching back to help my child-self...

  • I feel younger
  • I feel more connected with myself
  • I feel more like a child
  • I feel like I'm helping myself to grow
  • I feel some responsibility
  • I feel mature to help myself
  • I'm accepting my child self

At the thought of reaching back to help to teenage-self...

  • I feel the need to integrate him
  • I feel responsible
  • I feel less stubborn
  • I feel happy
  • I feel more connected to my teenage-self
  • I'm opening myself to grow

If I could make friends with my younger selves...

  • I would accept my younger selves
  • I would speak to my younger selves
  • I'll integrate my younger selves
  • I'll feel holier
  • I'll feel more in peace with myself
  • I'll feel in peace
  • I'll feel responsible
  • I'll help myself
  • I'll feel more accepted
  • I'll feel more loved

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08/06/2021 (Week 20)

If the child in me could speak, he would say...

  • laugh
  • random stupid things
  • that he likes to play
  • that he likes to learn
  • that he likes to discover the world
  • that he wants to feel safe
  • that he wants some security
  • that he wants a compassionate dad

If the teenager I once was still exists inside me...

  • he would express his frustration
  • he would express his anger
  • he would feel alienated
  • he would be jealous
  • he would want love
  • he would observe the world carefully

If my teenage-self could speak he would say...

  • that he wants freedom
  • a lot of insults
  • some stuff to please his ego
  • that he is the best
  • that he lacks love
  • that he wants some support

At the thought of reaching back to help my child-self...

  • I think I can know myself better
  • I think I can help myself at the same time
  • I feel nurturing of myself
  • I feel parenting myself
  • I feel more connected to myself
  • I feel that I can solidify a healthy base for my life
  • I feel responsible

At the thought of reaching back to help to teenage-self...

  • I feel that I need to give myself love
  • I feel that it will grow me a lot
  • I feel responsible
  • I feel connected to myself
  • I feel that I can fix teenage issues still present in me
  • I can purify and solidify my teenage base in life

If I could make friends with my younger selves...

  • I would be more at peace with myself
  • I would understand myself better
  • I'll feel more integrated
  • I'll feel holier
  • I'll be more loving
  • I'll help my younger selves grow up
  • I'll make progress faster

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09/06/2021 (Week 20)

If the child in me could speak, he would say...

  • that he likes to laugh for no reason
  • that he likes to play
  • that he likes to discover life
  • that he wants more affection from his dad
  • that he wants to feel safe
  • that he likes his mom
  • that he likes being crazy

If the teenager I once was still exists inside me...

  • he would want to prove himself
  • he would be frustrated
  • he would want to be free
  • he would want more independence
  • he would repress his emotions
  • he wouldn't show what he wants
  • he would be ashamed of himself
  • he would be ashamed of his body

If my teenage-self could speak he would say...

  • that he doesn't like being controlled
  • a lot of insults
  • that he doesn't like life
  • that he wants to be the best
  • that he doesn't care about others
  • that he doesn't need people

At the thought of reaching back to help my child-self...

  • I feel I can make peace with disowned parts of myself
  • I feel I can nurture myself
  • I feel I can improve my life
  • I feel I can be a good parent of myself
  • I feel responsible
  • I feel happy to reconnect with myself
  • I feel that I can grow a lot

At the thought of reaching back to help to teenage-self...

  • my teenage self would start to like himself
  • my teenage self would feel less isolated
  • I feel empower
  • I feel that I can empower my teenage-self
  • I feel that I can grow a lot
  • I feel that I can fix repressed emotions
  • I feel that I can fix repressed anger
  • I feel that I can fix repressed sadness
  • I feel that I can fix repressed feeling of unfairness
  • I feel that I can fix my shyness

If I could make friends with my younger selves...

  • I would grow a lot
  • my younger selves would work with me
  • my younger selves would be happier
  • my younger selves would express themselves healthily
  • I'll feel more at peace
  • I'll feel more acceptance
  • I'll love myself more
  • I'll radiate more love
  • I'll be more authentic
  • I'll be more connected with myself

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10/06/2021 (Week 20)

If the child in me could speak, he would say...

  • scream
  • express joy
  • say crazy things
  • ask as many questions as he wants
  • ask why his dad is always so angry
  • say how curios he is
  • share his discoveries

If the teenager I once was still exists inside me...

  • he would be angry
  • he would listen to him first
  • he would repress emotions
  • he would hide vulnerabilities
  • he would hide from people
  • he would be depressed
  • he would be sad

If my teenage-self could speak he would say...

  • that he wants attention
  • that he doesn't like to be mistreated
  • that he feels alone
  • that he feels disconnected from everyone
  • that he hates himself
  • that he feels inferior
  • that he wants to be the best

At the thought of reaching back to help my child-self...

  • I feel that I can nurture myself
  • I feel that I can grow a lot
  • I feel that I can become more authentic
  • I feel that I can be more sensitive
  • I feel that I can bring back my creativity
  • I can help myself

At the thought of reaching back to help to teenage-self...

  • I can understand his frustrations
  • I can understand my frustrations
  • I can solve my frustrations
  • I can understand myself better
  • I can understand what I want in life
  • I will be able to fix some of my shadows

If I could make friends with my younger selves...

  • I improve my relationship my myself
  • I would become more authentic
  • I'll solve conflicts within myself
  • My self-esteem would raise
  • I'll be more joyful
  • I'll feel more at peace

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11/06/2021 (Week 20)

If the child in me could speak, he would say...

  • random things
  • that he wants to discover the world
  • that he wants to succeed in life
  • that he likes art
  • that he would like a great dad
  • that he likes to be like an adult
  • nothing

If the teenager I once was still exists inside me...

  • he would be angry
  • he would insult people
  • he would be rebellious
  • he would socially isolate
  • he would feel depressed
  • he would hate the world
  • he would feel hopeless
  • he would be very insecure because of his body

If my teenage-self could speak he would say...

  • that he wants love
  • that he wants to be taken seriously
  • that he doesn't like to be bullied or humiliated
  • that he is afraid of people
  • that he is afraid of being assaulted
  • that he wants to be alone
  • nothing

At the thought of reaching back to help my child-self...

  • I think I can nurture the kid inside me that hasn't been nurtured enough
  • I think that I can improve my happiness
  • I can grow up a lot
  • I can improve the relationship that I have with myself
  • I feel like an adult helping a kid
  • I feel responsible

At the thought of reaching back to help to teenage-self...

  • I can reduce bitterness in myself
  • I can make peace with myself
  • I can make peace with people who hurt me
  • I can accept myself
  • I can reduce social anxiety
  • I can reduce hate of people
  • I can become more social
  • I can recover from school bullying

If I could make friends with my younger selves...

  • I would feel holier
  • I'll feel more authentic
  • I'll open up more to people
  • I would be less annoyed by people
  • I'll feel nurtured
  • I'll appreciate my life more

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12/06/2021 (Week 20)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

  • express my child self
  • express my teenage self
  • try to understand my child self
  • try to understand my teenage self
  • fulfill the needs of my child self and teenage that were unfulfilled
  • nurture the kid inside me
  • love the kid inside me

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13/06/2021 (Week 20)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

  • listen to my child self
  • listen to my teenage self
  • dive deep into my childhood to understand what I missed
  • understand the kid inside me
  • express my child self
  • express my teenage self
  • take responsibility to communicate with myself

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14/06/2021 (Week 21)

If my child-self felt accepted by me...

  • He would express more joy
  • He would not be afraid of its creativity
  • He would felt secure
  • He would be nurtured
  • He would say random stupid things
  • He would explore life more
  • He would self-express his craziness

If my teenage-self felt I was on his/her side...

  • He would be more motivated
  • He would push through challenges
  • He would felt less alone
  • He would be happier
  • He would felt some comfort
  • He wouldn't be that rebellious

If my younger selves felt I had compassion for their struggles...

  • They would feel understand
  • They would like me more
  • They would trust me more
  • They would give me their hands
  • They won't be afraid of me
  • They would walk the path of life with me

If I could hold my child-self in my arms...

  • My child-self would feel protected
  • I'll nurture my child-self
  • My child-self would get the security that he needs
  • My child-self would feel understood
  • My child-self would develop more
  • I'll felt more responsible for my child-self
  • My child-self would feel at peace with me

If I could hold my teenage-self in my arms...

  • My teenage-self would be less angry
  • My teenage-self would feel supported
  • I could be a good parent of myself
  • I'll give my teenage-self the love that he needs
  • I'll give my teenage-self the containment that he needs
  • I'll develop an healthy relationship with my teenage self

If I had the courage and compassion to embrace and love my younger selves...

  • I'll be an healthy parent of myself
  • I'll make peace with some parts of me
  • We would walk the path of life happier together
  • I'll feel holier
  • I'll understand myself better
  • We would all cry together
  • I'll tell them that it's OK to be how they are
  • They would love me back
  • I would feel more love in my life and have more courage

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15/06/2021 (Week 21)

If my child-self felt accepted by me...

  • he would express himself
  • he would feel more secure
  • he would express more joy
  • he would be more functional
  • he would be happier
  • he would be more curious
  • he won't take things too seriously
  • he would not take seriously serious things
  • he would take seriously non-serious things
  • he would take serious things seriously
  • he would not take seriously non-serious things

If my teenage-self felt I was on his/her side...

  • he would be more motivated
  • he would show his desire to improve
  • he would open up emotionally
  • he would respect me more
  • he would better trust me
  • he would like me
  • he would be less depressed
  • he would be less angry

If my younger selves felt I had compassion for their struggles...

  • they would trust me more
  • they would open up to me
  • they would work with me
  • they would be happier
  • they would feel understood
  • they would feel less isolated
  • they would share more about themselves

If I could hold my child-self in my arms...

  • he would feel protected
  • he would feel supported
  • I'll deepen my connection with my child-self
  • he would feel nurtured
  • he would become more comfortable with touch
  • he would feel loved

If I could hold my teenage-self in my arms...

  • he would feel understood
  • he would feel like his voice has been heard
  • he would be happier
  • he would enjoy life
  • he would open up a bit more
  • he would be less rebellious

If I had the courage and compassion to embrace and love my younger selves...

  • I'll feel more in touch with myself
  • my younger selves would work together
  • I'll feel holier
  • my younger selves would express themselves healthily
  • my younger selves would love me back
  • everyone would grow enormously: my child self, my teenage self, and my adult self

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16/06/2021 (Week 21)

If my child-self felt accepted by me...

  • he would love me
  • he would trust me
  • he would open to me
  • he would show his vulnerabilities
  • he would be more joyful
  • he would be happier

If my teenage-self felt I was on his/her side...

  • he would feel understood
  • he would be less angry
  • he would be less anxious
  • he would felt more secure
  • he would open up
  • he would be more motivated
  • he would have more courage
  • he would work with me

If my younger selves felt I had compassion for their struggles...

  • they would trust me more
  • they would felt understood
  • they would follow me more
  • we would all walk together holding each other hands
  • they would trust me more in challenging times
  • they would see me as good

If I could hold my child-self in my arms...

  • I would reassure him
  • I would give him love
  • he would feel more comfortable with me
  • he would feel protected
  • he would feel nurtured
  • we would deepen our connection
  • he would express himself more

If I could hold my teenage-self in my arms...

  • he would feel supported
  • he would feel reassured
  • we would deepen our connection
  • he would be less angry
  • he would feel less alone
  • he would open up to me
  • he would share his anxieties
  • he would share his doubts
  • we would start to work together to improve ourselves

If I had the courage and compassion to embrace and love my younger selves...

  • we would better communicate together
  • we would better work together
  • they would love me back
  • we would feel more like a single organism perfectly working together
  • we would understand ourselves much better
  • our relationship would progress

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17/06/2021 (Week 21)

If my child-self felt accepted by me...

  • he would cry when he wanted to cry
  • he would express all his emotions
  • he would trust me
  • he would communicate with me
  • he would open up
  • he would express his thoughts
  • he would express his creativity

If my teenage-self felt I was on his/her side...

  • he would trust me
  • he would be less angry against me
  • he would have more courage
  • he would feel less motivated
  • he would feel less alone
  • he would open up to me
  • he would let me know how he feels

If my younger selves felt I had compassion for their struggles...

  • they would feel nurtured
  • they would share with me
  • they would trust me more
  • they would share their deepest fears with me
  • they would accept me more
  • they would respect me more
  • they would express themselves

If I could hold my child-self in my arms...

  • he would cry in my arms
  • he would share his insecurities with me
  • he would feel protected
  • he would feel some support
  • I'll feel more responsible
  • he would love me

If I could hold my teenage-self in my arms...

  • he would explain to me the source of his anger
  • he would explain to me the source of his pain
  • he would feel comforted
  • he would feel supported
  • he would feel less alone
  • he would open up to me
  • he would cry in my arms

If I had the courage and compassion to embrace and love my younger selves...

  • we would have better communication together
  • they would get the support that they need
  • they would share their deepest concerns
  • we would all cry together
  • we would stop fighting together and start understanding ourselves
  • we would make peace together
  • we would grow together
  • we would walk together holding each other arms
  • we would unite and become one powerful entity

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18/06/2021 (Week 21)

If my child-self felt accepted by me...

  • he would trust me
  • he would open up to me
  • he would share his fears
  • he would like me
  • he would feel comfortable with me
  • he would communicate with me

If my teenage-self felt I was on his/her side...

  • he would explain to me the source of his anger
  • he would explain to me the source of his frustration
  • he would have more courage
  • he would be more motivated
  • he would push through difficulties
  • he would unleash his creative power
  • he would show his vulnerabilities
  • he would feel supported
  • he would be happier
  • he would communicate with me

If my younger selves felt I had compassion for their struggles...

  • they would share with me their difficulties
  • they would trust me more
  • they would love me more
  • they would feel comforted
  • they would feel reassured
  • they would be better nurtured
  • they would feel more secured

If I could hold my child-self in my arms...

  • he would feel reassured
  • he would trust me
  • he would be more comfortable with touch
  • he would be less sad
  • he would feel protected
  • he would open up more to me

If I could hold my teenage-self in my arms...

  • he would feel secure
  • he would feel that he can share
  • he would feel understood
  • he would cry in my arms
  • he would let me know the source of his pain
  • he would feel accepted

If I had the courage and compassion to embrace and love my younger selves...

  • they would love me back
  • they would be more functional
  • they would be more properly nurtured
  • they would feel great
  • they would communicate better with me
  • we would play together
  • we would trust each other
  • we would feel protected
  • we would walk holding each other arms
  • we would become one

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Working with my younger selves is making me cry.

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19/06/2021 (Week 21)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

  • let myself being vulnerable
  • let my younger selves express their emotions
  • take care of my younger selves
  • communicate with my younger selves
  • build back my relationship with my younger selves
  • accept my younger selves
  • love my younger selves

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Are you doing inner child work?

If so what resources are you using?

I've been meaning to start doing inner child work for a while now but i'm not sure where to start. Someone recommended this channel it seems pretty good from what i've seen.

 

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@Raptorsin7

I'm only doing this sentence completion exercise for the moment. The program has several weeks dedicated to the inner child. Apparently, in another book How to Raise Your Self-Esteem, Nathaniel Branden talks more about integrating younger selves, but I didn't read the book so far.

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20/06/2021 (Week 21)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

  • let my younger selves express themselves
  • let go of repressed emotions from my childhood
  • let go of repressed traumas from my childhood
  • let myself being completely vulnerable
  • nurture my younger selves
  • provide containment to my younger selves
  • build back the relationship with my younger selves
  • support my younger selves
  • give my hands to my younger selves

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