Let's Get Practical #3: Raising Self-Esteem

[Raphael]

04/03/2021 (Week 6)

If I wanted to raise my self-esteem today, I could...

• do a little of work even though I feel like crap because I didn't sleep
• take things slowly
• put intense focus to what I'm doing
• do things slowly
• relax
• be kind with myself
• accept my imperfections

If I am more accepting of my feelings...

• I'll handle my emotions more easily
• I'll develop more emotional mastery
• I'll experience difficult emotions
• I'll release trapped difficult emotions
• I'll feel more in peace with myself
• I'll more easily make progress in life

If I deny and disown my feelings...

• I'm disconnecting myself from myself
• I'm disconnecting myself from other people
• I create resistance in my body
• I entertain pain
• I don't feel authentic
• I entertain addictions

If I am more accepting of my thoughts...

• I'll have better control of my mind
• I'll be more efficient in using my mind
• I'll have clearer thought patterns
• I'll accept difficult thoughts
• I'll create more positive thoughts
• I'll realize that my mind can be use to create happiness

If I deny and disown my thoughts...

• my mind feels less clear
• my thoughts are agitated
• I have difficulties making decisions
• I have difficulties to create happiness
• I have difficulties to work
• I cut a part of myself
• I feel conflicted

[Raphael]

05/03/2021 (Week 6)

If I wanted to raise my self-esteem today, I could...

• meditate profoundly
• work with high intensity
• relax my body
• let my body language be authentic
• be assertive with people
• breath profoundly

If I am more accepting of my feelings...

• I'm opening myself to experiencing life
• I'll have more abilities to recognize my emotions
• I'll be more able to develop emotional mastery
• I'll feel better
• I'll move up on the emotional scale
• I'll grow faster

If I deny and disown my feelings...

• I cut myself into pieces
• I feel less authentic
• I entertain pain
• I feel resistance
• I keep too much weight inside me
• I limit my ability to live life to it's fullest

If I am more accepting of my thoughts...

• my thoughts would be clearer
• my thoughts would be better organized
• I'll be happy my use my thoughts
• I'll become better at using my thoughts
• my thoughts would become more and more sophisticated every day
• it will be easier for me to solve life problems

If I deny and disown my thoughts...

• I'm refusing to exercise my mind
• I'm repressing my genius
• I remove my best asset from my life
• I feel less authentic
• I lose my ability to deal with some problems
• I deny and disown myself

[Raphael]

06/03/2021 (Week 6)

I any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• accept to raise my self-esteem
• take responsibility to raise my self-esteem
• put intense focus in what I'm doing
• put intense focus in my work
• accept my emotions
• experience my emotions
• exercise my mind
• am confident in my ability to use my mind effectively

[Raphael]

07/03/2021 (Week 6)

I any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• take responsibility to heal my traumas
• accept my lack of self-esteem
• take responsibility to raise my self-esteem
• accept my emotions
• share my emotions
• feel my emotions
• put intense focus in my activities
• focus on one thing at the time
• accept to be great
• am more loving of myself
• am more loving of others

[Raphael]

08/03/2021 (Week 7)

If I am more accepting of my fears...

• I'll recognize my fears
• I'll understand where my fears are coming from
• I'll experience my fears
• I'll face my fears
• I'll breathe deeply when faced with my fears
• I'll try to fix my fears
• I'll try to make peace with myself
• I'll try to make peace with others

If I deny and disown my fears...

• I entertain my fears
• I create more fears
• I feel less natural
• I entertain this burning feeling in my chest and abdomen
• I get stuck in fears
• I don't make any progress in life
• I lose my self-control
• I live life dis-functionally

If I were more accepting of my pain...

• I'll understand where my pain is coming from
• I'll accept to cry in order to release my pain
• I'll recognize that I'm not the only one in pain
• I'll accept to experience my pain to its fullest
• I'll try to understand that the ones responsible for my pain were feeling painful too
• I'll be able to progressively let go of my pain

If I deny and disown my pain...

• I keep living with pain
• I forget the reason for my pain
• I entertain dysfunctions in my life
• I don't function properly
• I don't work properly
• I don't sleep properly
• I don't feel authentic
• I'm separated from myself

[Raphael]

09/03/2021 (Week 7)

If I am more accepting of my fears...

• I'll feel my fears
• I'll try to understand where my fears are coming from
• I'll be more open about being fearful
• I'll try to resolve my fears
• I start to create peace with myself
• I open myself to progress

If I deny and disown my fears...

• I entertain fears
• I live life non authentically
• I don't appreciate life
• I don't open myself to more possibilities
• I keep this burning feeling into my abdomen
• I don't take actions
• I get discouraged easily

If I were more accepting of my pain...

• I'll recognize that I'm suffering
• I'll feel my pain
• I can start resolving old traumas
• I'll share more about myself
• I'll accept being vulnerable
• I'll more easily let go of my pain

If I deny and disown my pain...

• I entertain my pain
• I find life difficult
• I have difficulties going through my days
• I feel conflicted
• I feel tensions in my body
• I entertain tics and other parasite behaviors

[Raphael]

10/03/2021 (Week 7)

If I am more accepting of my fears...

• I would be more accepting of the unknown
• I would be more accepting of spiders
• I would be more accepting of my dad
• I would be more accepting of Vishal
• I would be more accepting of people
• I would decrease my social anxiety
• I would feel more comfortable around people
• I would be more peaceful
• I would be less reactive

If I deny and disown my fears...

• I keep anger and resentment against people
• I keep anger and resentment against my dad
• I keep anger and resentment against Vishal
• I keep anger and resentment against Iqbal
• I feel constrained
• I feel prisoner of my emotions
• I don't feel authentic

If I were more accepting of my pain...

• I'll experience my pain
• I'll fully experience this burning feeling in my body
• I'll accept being in pain
• I'll accept not being perfect
• I'll accept my insecurities
• I'll be able to take responsibility for my life
• I'll start to open myself to new possibilities

If I deny and disown my pain...

• I continue to live in fear every day
• I feel agitated
• I feel restricted
• I feel restrained in my pain
• I don't try to do anything
• I feel non authentic

[Raphael]

11/03/2021 (Week 7)

If I am more accepting of my fears...

• I'll understand the source of my fears
• I'll open up on my fears
• I'll feel my fears
• I can start to heal my fears
• I can start to improve my mental health
• I'll face my fears
• I'll recognize my fears
• I'll try to understand where my fears are coming from

If I deny and disown my fears...

• I keep shadows in myself
• I keep unresolved traumas
• I stay fearful
• I don't feel authentic
• I keep difficult emotions in myself
• I contribute to low-quality nights
• I have difficulties make progress in life

If I were more accepting of my pain...

• I'll feel my pain
• I'll try to understand the source of my pain
• I'll try to understand which parts of me needs to be healed
• I'll let go of my pain
• it would help me to resolve my pain
• using my mind would be less painful
• I would be happier to use my mind
• I'll perform better
• I'll cry when its painful

If I deny and disown my pain...

• I accumulate resistance in myself
• I feel constrained
• I live my life with suffering
• I entertain a bad mood
• I entertain bitterness
• I close myself to improving my life
• I have anxious reactions against people
• I live with fear that something could happen to me
• it creates a loop of pain → fear of experiencing pain → pain caused by fear of experiencing pain

[Raphael]

12/03/2021 (Week 7)

If I am more accepting of my fears...

• I'll be closer to my fears
• I'll be more understanding of my fears
• I'll open myself more to my fears
• I'll accept having fears
• I'll experience my fears
• I would list my fears
• I'll recognize my fears
• I'll start to fix my fears

If I deny and disown my fears...

• I entertain fear in my body
• I contribute to having a disorganized mind
• I contribute to have difficult thought storms
• I limit my possibilities in life
• I feel constrained
• I keep anger and resentment towards people
• I don't feel good

If I were more accepting of my pain...

• I'll start to heal myself
• I'll start to forgive myself
• I'll understand that people who caused me pain were just ignorant, incompetent, and couldn't help themselves
• I would not put my pain on others
• I would break the chain of pain by accepting my pain
• I'll open my heart'
• I'll accept to cry when I feel pain
• I'll understand the source of my pain
• I'll start to resolve my pain

If I deny and disown my pain...

• I keep my pain in myself
• I become more and more bitter every day
• I am aggressive towards people
• I don't feel happy
• I keep sadness in myself masqueraded behind anger and aggressiveness
• I don't feel authentic
• I contribute to the creation of fear
• I feel heavy
• I close myself from myself
• my body language is non-authentic
• I entertain parasite thoughts
• I entertain tics and unwanted body movements

[Raphael]

13/03/2021 (Week 7)

I any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• recognize that I am in pain
• recognize that I am fearful
• accept to heal myself
• take responsibility to heal myself
• forgive people who hurt me
• relax my body
• breath profoundly
• allow myself to be myself

[Raphael]

14/03/2021 (Week 7)

I any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• accept being in fear
• accept being in pain
• breath when faced to pain
• try to find the source of my pains
• experience difficult emotions
• take responsibility to heal myself
• take responsibility to forgive people
• take responsibility to understand the dynamics behind pain and fear and their role in life
• accept being myself
• heal myself
• heal my traumas

[Raphael]

15/03/2021 (Week 8)

If I am more accepting of my anger...

• I'll understand where my anger is coming from
• I'll feel my anger
• I'll work on my anger
• I'll let go of my anger
• I'll be able to understand myself
• I'll be able to understand my suffering
• I'll be able to understand my pain

If I deny and disown my anger...

• I keep my anger in myself
• I share this anger with people
• I push back people
• I feel agitated
• I limit my progress
• I limit my love
• I entertain fear

If I am accepting of my sexuality...

• I'll accept that I have needs
• I wouldn't be ashamed of my sexuality
• my relationship to my body would be more healthy
• I'll appreciate being sexual
• I'll feel happier being myself
• I'll deal better with my sexual cravings

If I deny and disown my sexuality...

• I repress natural needs
• I feel restricted
• I feel limited
• I don't feel authentic
• I close myself from myself
• I stay away from finding a partner

[Raphael]

16/03/2021 (Week 8)

If I am more accepting of my anger...

• I'll release my anger
• I'll develop more emotional mastery
• I'll move faster the emotional scale
• I'll understand where it is coming from
• I'll understand that anger is part of life and that I don't need to be guilty for being angry
• I'll fix my anger
• I'll accept being human

If I deny and disown my anger...

• I feel restricted
• I keep anger inside me
• I'm angry against people
• I unconsciously share anger
• my mind doesn't function properly
• my anger increases every day
• I become more bitter and more hateful every day

If I am accepting of my sexuality...

• I accept having natural needs
• I won't be guilty saying that I want a girlfriend to have sex
• I feel more authentic
• I feel more comfortable with my sexuality
• I feel more sexual
• I feel happier
• I'll fap when I'll need

If I deny and disown my sexuality...

• I repress basic life needs
• I don't work well
• I close myself from authenticity
• I try to be someone that I'm not
• I keep too much sexual energy in my body which leads to feeling restricted and having strange body languages
• I don't feel healthy
• I'm basically starving

[Raphael]

17/03/2021 (Week 8)

If I am more accepting of my anger...

• I'll become conscious of my anger
• I'll find the root cause of my anger
• I'll go through my anger by being angry
• I'll let my anger explode
• I'll understand that anger hides sadness and pain
• I'll understand that I'm just a hurt kid
• I'll let myself be vulnerable
• I'll resolve my anger

If I deny and disown my anger...

• I entertain sadness
• I keep pain in my body
• I'm disagreeable with people
• I criticize things and people more
• I'm dissatisfied with life
• I don't function properly
• I don't live to my full potential

If I am accepting of my sexuality...

• I'll accept being vulnerable
• I recognize having natural needs
• I'll accept that sexuality is part of life
• I'll be more comfortable with girls, especially sexual girls, pretty girls, and overall attractive girls
• I'll improve my mood
• I'll improve the clarity of my mind

If I deny and disown my sexuality...

• I don't feel authentic
• I feel split into different pieces
• I don't feel normal
• I put unnecessary restrictions on myself
• I feel anxious about my sexuality
• I repress my sexuality
• I entertain a form of toxic behavior against myself

[Raphael]

18/03/2021 (Week 8)

If I am more accepting of my anger...

• I'll let go of my anger
• I'll express my anger
• I'll release traumas
• I'll cry because anger is only a facade that hides pain
• I'll feel better
• I'll breathe properly

If I deny and disown my anger...

• I entertain bitterness
• I don't process past traumas
• I feel anxious around people
• I keep sadness inside me
• I don't appreciate life
• I have energy issues
• I block myself from raising my awareness
• I entertain a low self-esteem

If I am accepting of my sexuality...

• I'll admit having questioned my sexual orientation recently
• I'll admit having a pretty important feminine side for a man
• I feel better
• I feel great about having natural needs
• I'll be more able to cover my natural needs
• I'll feel more liberated

If I deny and disown my sexuality...

• I remove a part of myself
• I don't feel good
• I don't feel authentic
• I cannot function properly because basic needs aren't covered
• I feel sad
• I'm repressing myself

[Raphael]

19/03/2021 (Week 8)

If I am more accepting of my anger...

• I'll be more at peace with myself
• I'll be less reactive
• I'll be less anxious
• I'll understand where my anger is coming from
• I'll feel my anger
• I'll accept that I'm not angry, but sad and traumatized
• I'll resolve my traumas
• I'll experience sadness and distress
• I'll cry
• I'll let myself be in pain
• I'll function better in life

If I deny and disown my anger...

• I stay traumatized
• I stay sad in the end
• I don't function properly
• my thoughts aren't clear
• I easily get angry against people
• life feels difficult
• I feel restricted in doing some activities
• I feel more rigid
• I entertain parasite thoughts
• I don't work properly

If I am accepting of my sexuality...

• I accept to fap when necessary
• I accept having basic needs
• I'll be happy to be sexual
• I'll embrace my feminine side
• I'll embrace my masculine side
• I'll be dominant, yet gentle
• I'll use my sexual energy to achieve massive success in life

If I deny and disown my sexuality...

• I remove a vital need
• I feel cut into pieces
• I don't feel natural
• I abstain from fapping
• I don't work properly
• I am agitated
• I feel that I'm repressing basic needs
• I'm not happy

[Raphael]

20/03/2021 (Week 8)

I any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• find a healthy way to express my anger
• practice breathwork more regularly
• practice forgiveness more regularly
• understand that the people that hurt me couldn't help themselves and were: ignorant, incompetent, selfish, or trying to get love
• feel my pain
• feel my sadness behind my anger
• cry
• accept my sexuality
• express my sexual needs
• open myself more to women
• express my appreciation of women that I like
• love women

[Raphael]

21/03/2021 (Week 8)

I any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

• find the source of my anger
• find a healthy way to express my anger
• realize that my anger hides pain and traumas
• take responsibility to resolve my traumas
• take ownership of my sexuality
• accept having sexual needs
• try to find a partner

[Preety_India]

The thing is that I had found some entries that went like 

Raphael you need to get good sleep 

Raphael you are doing good. 

Can't find those entries now. 

 

[Raphael]

@Preety_India I did some of that in this journal. Page 15 and 17 for example.