Raphael

Let's Get Practical #3: Raising Self-Esteem

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21/06/2021 (Week 22)

Sometimes my child-self feels rejected by me when I...

  • suppress my emotions
  • don't let him express himself
  • suppress my joy
  • suppress my creativity
  • don't allow myself to be curious
  • don't listen to my intuition

Sometimes my teenage-self feels rejected by me when I...

  • don't express my anger
  • suppress my ambition
  • don't try to understand him
  • isolate
  • try to do everything my myself
  • don't listen to my emotions

One of the things my child-self needs from me and rarely gets is...

  • security
  • reassurance
  • acceptance
  • understanding
  • containment
  • love

One of the things my teenage-self needs from me and hasn't gotten is...

  • love
  • support
  • encouragement
  • understanding
  • touch
  • emotional connection

One of the ways my child-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

  • sadness
  • anxiety
  • repressed emotions
  • neediness
  • the need for attention
  • closing himself

One of the ways my teenage-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

  • wanting revenge
  • by being addicted to information
  • not wanting to take action
  • lack of motivation
  • lack of social connection
  • fear
  • by shutting down

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22/06/2021 (Week 22)

Sometimes my child-self feels rejected by me when I...

  • don't express myself
  • hide my emotions
  • don't myself be crazy
  • hide my curiosity
  • close myself
  • don't take care of my basic needs

Sometimes my teenage-self feels rejected by me when I...

keep my anger inside

  • don't pursue my goals
  • don't act on my desire
  • don't give myself love
  • don't listen to my intuition
  • don't care about my needs

One of the things my child-self needs from me and rarely gets is...

  • attention
  • visibility
  • containment
  • security
  • love
  • understanding
  • acceptance
  • freedom

One of the things my teenage-self needs from me and hasn't gotten is...

  • freedom
  • support
  • understanding
  • security
  • love
  • touch
  • nurturing

One of the ways my child-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

  • sadness
  • laziness
  • feeling isolated
  • fear
  • neediness
  • ego-centrism

One of the ways my teenage-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

  • repressed anger
  • difficulty to focus
  • neediness
  • non self-expression
  • lack of motivation
  • laziness
  • fear
  • lack of courage

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23/06/2021 (Week 22)

Sometimes my child-self feels rejected by me when I...

  • criticizes me too much
  • try to be too perfect
  • don't express joy
  • don't let myself be authentic
  • don't listen to my basic needs
  • don't speak
  • don't allow a bit of craziness in my life

Sometimes my teenage-self feels rejected by me when I...

  • repress my emotions
  • don't try to understand myself
  • repress my anger
  • isolate
  • suppress my ambition
  • am too perfectionist
  • criticize my body

One of the things my child-self needs from me and rarely gets is...

  • attention
  • containment
  • love
  • proper nurturing
  • freedom of speech
  • letting go of expectation

One of the things my teenage-self needs from me and hasn't gotten is...

  • love
  • understanding
  • encouragement
  • support
  • touch
  • communication
  • a deep emotional connection

One of the ways my child-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

  • neediness
  • sadness
  • depression
  • shyness
  • fear
  • insecurity

One of the ways my teenage-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

  • anger
  • laziness
  • lack of motivation
  • by hiding his needs
  • poor thinking habits
  • negative self-talk
  • anxiety
  • social anxiety

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24/06/2021 (Week 22)

Sometimes my child-self feels rejected by me when I...

  • don't express myself
  • don't show my craziness
  • repress my emotions
  • repress my basic needs
  • don't cry
  • hide my authenticity

Sometimes my teenage-self feels rejected by me when I...

  • don't show my frustration
  • don't act on my goals
  • don't show my anger
  • don't take actions
  • don't show myself compassion
  • don't show myself love
  • close myself from people

One of the things my child-self needs from me and rarely gets is...

  • attention
  • visibility
  • nurturing
  • empathy
  • compassion
  • love

One of the things my teenage-self needs from me and hasn't gotten is...

  • motivation
  • understanding
  • respect
  • support
  • love
  • touch

One of the ways my child-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

  • sadness
  • depression
  • shyness
  • thought storms
  • neediness
  • isolation

One of the ways my teenage-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

  • wanting to go fast and failing because of this
  • anxiety
  • bitterness
  • inability to stand out for myself
  • fear
  • sleepless nights

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25/06/2021 (Week 22)

Sometimes my child-self feels rejected by me when I...

  • don't self-express
  • don't express my joy
  • don't listen to my basic needs
  • hide my authenticity
  • don't let me be
  • refuse to cry

Sometimes my teenage-self feels rejected by me when I...

  • don't give him support
  • repress my emotions
  • don't follow my ambition
  • don't open up
  • hide my sadness
  • pretend that everything is OK
  • have a negative self-talk

One of the things my child-self needs from me and rarely gets is...

  • nurturing
  • compassion
  • love
  • joy
  • self-expression
  • touch

One of the things my teenage-self needs from me and hasn't gotten is...

  • support
  • the authorization to express himself
  • encouragements
  • motivation
  • love
  • understanding
  • touch
  • attention
  • an honest vulnerable communication

One of the ways my child-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

  • sadness
  • self-isolation
  • social anxiety
  • lack of friends
  • depression
  • fear
  • distrust

One of the ways my teenage-self gets back at me for rejecting him/her is...

  • repressed anger
  • laziness
  • lack of motivation
  • distrust
  • lack of focus
  • discouragement
  • pain
  • sadness

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26/06/2021 (Week 22)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

  • let myself be
  • let my child-self express himself
  • let my teenage-self express himself
  • shout to let go of repressed emotions
  • provide security to my younger selves
  • provide comfort to my younger selves
  • listen to my younger selves
  • understand my younger selves
  • nurture my younger selves
  • give my younger selves the love that they didn't get

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27/06/2021 (Week 22)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

  • find inner conflicts with my younger selves and other sub-personalities
  • fix the inner conflicts with my younger selves and other sub-personalities
  • let my child-self express his emotions
  • let my teenage self express his emotions
  • support my younger selves
  • communicate more with my younger selves
  • let my younger selves exist within myself
  • make peace with my younger selves

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28/06/2021 (Week 23)

At the thought of giving my child-self what he/she needs from me...

  • I feel responsible
  • I feel nurturing
  • my child self feels that he can trust me
  • my child self feels safer
  • my child-self feels that he can trust me
  • I feel being a good parent of myself
  • I feel that I can trust myself
  • I feel my confidence increasing
  • I feel my self-esteem improving

At the thought of giving my teenage-self what he/she needs from me...

  • my teenage-self feels supported
  • my teenage-self feels understood
  • my teenage-self feels more courageous
  • my teenage-self feels more motivated
  • I feel that I can integrated this part of myself who wants to exists in the world
  • I feel my competences improving
  • I feel more loving

If my child-self and I were to fall in love...

  • I'll hold my child-self in my arms
  • we would walk holding each other hands
  • I'll say to my child-self that I love him
  • my child-self would tell me that he loves me
  • we would build a great relationship together
  • my child-self would open up to me
  • I'll respond to my child-self needs
  • we would better speak to each other

If my teenage-self and I were to fall in love...

  • my teenage-self would appreciate my company
  • I'll talk more to my teenage-self
  • my teenage-self would allow himself to be more vulnerable
  • I would enjoy my time with my teenage-self
  • I would embrace my teenage-self
  • my teenage-self would show what he is capable of
  • we would appreciate each other
  • my teenage-self would be less angry
  • we would work together and support each other

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29/06/2021 (Week 23)

At the thought of giving my child-self what he/she needs from me...

  • I feel that I'm helping myself
  • I feel that I understand myself better
  • my child-self is trusting me more
  • my child-self is opening more
  • I feel responsible
  • I can learn from myself
  • I become more authentic

At the thought of giving my teenage-self what he/she needs from me...

  • I feel that I can understand my teenage-self anger
  • I think I can solve conflicts with my teenage-self
  • my teenage-self opens up
  • my teenage-self can finally grow
  • my teenage-self can finally get his needs covered
  • I can resolve repressed anger, frustration, and similar emotions

If my child-self and I were to fall in love...

  • we would embrace ourselves
  • we would hold each other hands
  • we would communicate better
  • we would trust ourselves
  • we would show our vulnerabilities
  • we would make peace

If my teenage-self and I were to fall in love...

  • we would communicate on our issues
  • we would embrace each other
  • we would start to understand each other better
  • we would resolve our conflicts
  • we would make peace
  • we would work together
  • we would trust ourselves

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30/06/2021 (Week 23)

At the thought of giving my child-self what he/she needs from me...

  • I feel reconnecting with myself
  • I feel nurturing
  • I feel being an healthy parent
  • I feel responsible
  • I think I can grow enormously
  • I'm showing back my child-self

At the thought of giving my teenage-self what he/she needs from me...

  • I feel that I can build a bridge to communicate with my teenage-self
  • I feel that I can understand my teenage-self
  • I feel that my connection with myself is getting deeper
  • I feel that my teenage-self will show himself more
  • I think that repressed emotions will show up
  • I think I can improve my capacity to love difficult people
  • we would grow together

If my child-self and I were to fall in love...

  • we would communicate more
  • we would trust each other more
  • I'll open up to my child-self
  • my child-self would open up to me
  • we would embrace each other
  • we would cry in each other arms
  • we would share our joy

If my teenage-self and I were to fall in love...

  • my teenage-self would express himself
  • I would comfort my teenage-self
  • I would change my mind on my teenage-self
  • my teenage-self would feel more comfortable in expressing himself
  • we would work better together
  • we would make peace together
  • we would cry in each other arms
  • we would heal our shared wounds

 

My teenage self is pretty hurt overall.

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01/07/2021 (Week 23)

At the thought of giving my child-self what he/she needs from me...

  • my child-self feels understood
  • my child-self is trusting me more
  • my child-self is appreciating me more
  • I feel a deeper connection with my child-self
  • I'm opening up about my childhood traumas
  • my child-self feels safe
  • my child-self feels nurtured

At the thought of giving my teenage-self what he/she needs from me...

  • my teenage-self is expressing his pain
  • my teenage-self is expressing his anger
  • I feel responsible
  • my teenage-self can grow
  • my teenage-self finally gets the support that he needs
  • I can be a great parent of myself

If my child-self and I were to fall in love...

  • we would communicate with each other
  • we would spend more time together
  • we would play together
  • we would embrace each other
  • we would hold each other hands
  • we would walk together joyfully

If my teenage-self and I were to fall in love...

  • my teenage-self would let himself be vulnerable
  • I would talk to my teenage-self
  • my teenage-self would talk to me
  • I would change my mind about my teenage-self
  • I would let my teenage-self be
  • my teenage-self would trust me
  • I would feel better
  • we would embrace each other
  • we would try to understand each other
  • we would make peace
  • we would work together
  • we would walk holding each other hands

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02/07/2021 (Week 23)

At the thought of giving my child-self what he/she needs from me...

  • my child-self feels understood
  • my child-self would trust me more
  • my child-self would open more to be
  • I feel like an healthy parent
  • I feel growing
  • I feel responsible
  • I feel having a better communication with myself

At the thought of giving my teenage-self what he/she needs from me...

  • I feel that my teenage-self would trust me more
  • I feel that my teenage-self is thankful
  • I feel that my teenage-self is opening up
  • I feel that my teenage-self is expressing himself
  • I feel that my teenage-self is healing
  • I feel that my teenage-self is feeling understood
  • I feel my teenage-self expressing himself

If my child-self and I were to fall in love...

  • we would embrace each other
  • we would share our dirty secrets
  • we would speak more to each other
  • we would let each other being vulnerable
  • we would hold each other hands
  • we would appreciate each other company
  • we would be crazy together

If my teenage-self and I were to fall in love...

  • we would express all of our emotions
  • we would communicate together
  • we would share our fears and insecurities
  • we would be there for each other
  • we would appreciate each other
  • we would cry in each other arms
  • we would express our thoughts
  • we would express our emotions
  • we would try to understand each other
  • we would make peace

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03/07/2021 (Week 23)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

  • give my child-self the understanding that he needs
  • give my child-self the support that he needs
  • give my teenage-self the love that he needs
  • give my teenage-self the compassion that he needs
  • start loving my younger selves
  • give everything that my younger selves needs

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04/07/2021 (Week 23)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

  • take responsibility to cover the needs of my child-self
  • take responsibility to cover the needs of my teenage-self
  • create a secure environment for my child-self
  • nurture my child-self
  • let my teenage-self express all his dirty emotions
  • give my teenage-self the support that he needs
  • give my teenage-self the understanding that he needs
  • embrace my child-self
  • embrace my teenage-self
  • give my younger selves compassion so that they can grow

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05/07/2021 (Week 24)

If I accept that my child-self may need time to learn to trust me...

  • I'll be patient with my child-self
  • I'll give time to my child-self
  • I won't shame my child-self for not opening up as fast as I would like
  • I'll trust my child-self in the process of trusting me more and more
  • I won't criticize my child-self for taking its time
  • I'll the love that my child-self needs to learn to trust me

If I accept that my teenage-self may need time to learn to trust me...

  • I'll be patient with my teenage-self
  • I'll accept my teenage-self expressing himself in unhealthy ways until he starts to open up to me
  • I'll let my teenage-self do what he needs to do in order to trust me
  • I'll let go of the expectation to go fast
  • I'll give the understand that my teenage-self needs
  • I'll give the support that my teenage-self needs
  • I'll have more compassion for my teenage-self
  • I'll accept that my teenage-self needs time
  • I won't criticize my teenage-self for needing time
  • I won't shame my teenage-self for needing time

As I come to understand that my child-self and my teenage-self are both part of me...

  • I understand that I have been repressing them
  • I understand that I was ashamed of them
  • I now need to integrate them healthily
  • I open up to them expressing themselves
  • I'm starting to understand myself better
  • I'm becoming more authentic
  • I'm starting to love them
  • I'm starting to nurture them

I am becoming aware ...

  • that my child-self and teenage-self wants to express themselves
  • that my child-self and teenage-self wants to express their pain and to cry
  • that I need to make peace with my younger selves
  • that I need to love myself
  • that I need to let myself be
  • that I need to express myself

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06/07/2021 (Week 24)

If I accept that my child-self may need time to learn to trust me...

  • I'll let time for my child-self
  • I'll have more compassion for my child-self
  • I'll stay open for my child-self
  • I'll have patience
  • I'll comfort my child-self during the learning process
  • I'll let him breath

If I accept that my teenage-self may need time to learn to trust me...

  • I'll let him be angry
  • I'll let him time to evolve on the emotional scale
  • I'll be patient with him
  • I'll stay open to him
  • I won't criticize him for taking time
  • I'll give him the love that he needs to grow

As I come to understand that my child-self and my teenage-self are both part of me...

  • I understand that they need to express themselves
  • I understand that they need emotional understanding
  • I understand that they need to be
  • I understand that they need love
  • I understand that they need support
  • I understand that they need to be integrated

I am becoming aware ...

  • that I can heal my younger selves
  • that I can have an healthy relationship with my younger selves
  • that I'm making progress
  • that I need to be kind of myself
  • that I need to support myself
  • that I need to love myself

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07/07/2021 (Week 24)

If I accept that my child-self may need time to learn to trust me...

  • I'll be patient with my child-self
  • I'll give my child-self the compassion that he needs for learning
  • I'll accept my child-self hesitations
  • I'll let go of expectations to go fast and get immediate results
  • I'll accept mistakes of my child-self
  • I'll let my child-self being a child
  • I'll let him time

If I accept that my teenage-self may need time to learn to trust me...

  • I'll accept my teenage-self hesitations
  • I'll accept my teenage-self doubts
  • I won't force my teenage-self to trust me immediately
  • I'll give my teenage-self all the time that he needs
  • I'll support my teenage-self
  • I'll have compassion for my teenage-self
  • I'll let my teenage-self experience his trust backslash healthily and give him a hand when needed

As I come to understand that my child-self and my teenage-self are both part of me...

  • I understand that I cannot avoid them
  • I understand that I cannot repress them
  • I'm letting themselves be
  • I understand that they have the right to express themselves
  • I understand that they need support
  • I understand that they need help
  • I understand that they need to be integrated
  • I understand that I need to communicate with them
  • I understand that I need to deepen my connection with them

I am becoming aware...

  • that I'm improving
  • that my child-self is expressing himself
  • that my child-self is afraid of his dad
  • that one way to make my child-self grow is to communicate with his dad
  • that my teenage-self needs to express his anger
  • that my teenage-self needs understanding
  • that my teenage-self needs help
  • that I need to communicate more with my younger selves
  • that I need to give love to my younger selves

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08/07/2021 (Week 24)

If I accept that my child-self may need time to learn to trust me...

  • I'll let him time to learn to trust me
  • I'll reassure him
  • I'll let him test me
  • I'll give compassion to my child-self
  • I'll allow my child-self to experience with me
  • I'll let go of expectations of immediate result

If I accept that my teenage-self may need time to learn to trust me...

  • I'll let time to my teenage-self
  • I'll let my teenage-self express his fears
  • I'll give support to my teenage-self
  • I'll give love to my teenage-self
  • I'll have compassion for my teenage-self
  • I'll let go of expectations of immediate results

As I come to understand that my child-self and my teenage-self are both part of me...

  • I'm understanding that I need to integrate them
  • I understand that I need to communicate with them more
  • I'm letting them expressing their emotions
  • I'm understanding that they have the right to exists
  • I'm understanding that they the right to express themselves
  • I understand that they need to be

I am becoming aware...

  • that my child-self is showing himself more
  • that my teenage-self is showing himself more
  • that past traumas are getting released
  • that I need to self-express
  • that I can grow a lot by self-expressing myself
  • that I have the right to self-express
  • that grow involves self-express
  • that grow involves connecting with my younger-selves
  • that grow involves trusting my younger-selves
  • that grow involves making peace with my younger-selves

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09/07/2021 (Week 24)

If I accept that my child-self may need time to learn to trust me...

  • I'll give time to my child-self
  • I'll have patience with my child-self
  • I'll support my child-self through his learning phase
  • I'll give compassion to my child-self
  • I'll accept the difficulties of my child-self
  • I'll let my child-self be

If I accept that my teenage-self may need time to learn to trust me...

  • I'll let my teenage-self express his fear of me
  • I'll give my teenage-self all the time that he needs
  • I'll try to understand the difficulties of my teenage-self
  • I'll have compassion for my teenage-self
  • I'll let time to my teenage-self
  • I'll let go of critics and judgments of my teenage-self

As I come to understand that my child-self and my teenage-self are both part of me...

  • I understand that I need to integrate them
  • I understand that they want to express themselves
  • I understand that by integrating them I'm becoming more authentic
  • I understand that they need to live
  • I'm giving them love because they need it
  • I'm letting themselves be

I am becoming aware...

  • that I don't have to repress emotions
  • that I'm deepening my connection with my younger selves
  • that I need to be kind and supporting of myself
  • that I am becoming more authentic
  • that I need to be patient
  • that I am healing

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10/07/2021 (Week 24)

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it might be helpful if I...

  • give time to my younger selves to learn to trust me
  • trust my younger selves
  • give compassion to my younger selves
  • integrate my younger selves
  • let my younger selves express themselves
  • let my younger selves exists
  • heal the relationship with my younger selves

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