assx95

On being a Conscious Incel - How do I confront and accept reality?

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To put it into context, I am 24 living in one of the metropolitan cities in India. I understand how the term Incel is derogatory to women. Women don't owe me sex. At the same time, my body (or rather I) craves for sexual contact with women, when i get horny. Solo female pornography where women display their selves, is I think one of the most beautiful things a person like me could ask for, where i can choose the women i am attracted to, and pretend to make love to her. And spill myself. 

In real life however, i look average. I have a girl in my life, but it is long-distance. We haven't defined the relationship yet, but we flirt a lot and act like a couple. Went out with her like 4 times in total over 3 years. Yeah, poor numbers. That being said, the amount of rejections i've had to deal with, in nightclubs or otherwise while asking someone I know on Instagram is say about 60-70 so far in total. 

If i go to a nightclub tomorrow, i will probably end up with a number or two, but any attractive girl I choose (I know i'm guilty of not picking the ones I don't find attractive, i don't even notice them), will have 10 other dudes texting her, and commenting on her Instagram, and so it takes a lot of investment on my part to even keep a girl's attention, and much more for her to feel the spark if I feel it too. And given how busy everyone has become with their 9 to 7 jobs, at least here, it is like that. There's no time. 

I know i could just sit back and relax. Focus on other intriguing aspects of life such as books, psychedelics and spirituality in a broader sense, and run the clock out, as it will. I could be genuinely fulfilled as i am when i do strong determination sittings. My parents will force an arrange marriage on me when I turn 30, but i don't like the idea. I could go to Thailand or some Latin country for sex tourism, but i don't like that idea either. 

At this point in my conscious evolution, i see the meaninglessness in the things that will unfold in the future. Not in a negative connotation, but a sense of indifference. It doesn't matter. and if it does, i will do it. I am a cog in a wheel. I am replaceable even by a woman i love most dearly. I have cried like 5 times in the past when that happened, but now it doesn't break my heart anymore.  I try because i don't have the freewill to not try. I just don't see what is there to do or accomplish in this world, than just live it out. Am i just here on earth as a human, to rant, to do my own thing, possibly bliss out, and that's it? 

I just cannot come to terms with it. With it all. 

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7 hours ago, assx95 said:

If i go to a nightclub tomorrow, i will probably end up with a number or two, but any attractive girl I choose (I know i'm guilty of not picking the ones I don't find attractive, i don't even notice them), will have 10 other dudes texting her, and commenting on her Instagram, and so it takes a lot of investment on my part to even keep a girl's attention

LOL

Yeah, if you wanna bang hot girls you're gonna have competition. Welcome to the jungle.

You really expect hot girls for free?

You are way too entitled. Attracting hot girls is a lot of work, and it must be that way because hot girls are valuable & rare.

So either lower your standards or up your effort.

I got 400+ rejections before I slept with my first hot girl.


"Be melting snow. Wash yourself of yourself." -- Rumi

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Learn about female psychology and game first. I've been studying them for 2 years almost everyday now with a little practice.

Now I'm starting to get the incredible results, I have girls lined up (~8s). First I used fake it till you make it and got very different results but it gradually become better, now I almost fully integrated those attractive qualities in my personality, I don't have to fake confidence anymore and I'm being more authentic. (Ofc I am a follower of Leo, which helped probably more). But yeah, I have my shit together (body,fashion), and genetically I am lucky cuz I'm good-looking and tall. So yeah girls give me choosing signals all the time but that doesnt mean shit. You need charisma, confidence and personality.

I used to suck with women, got my heart broken and stuff.

Do the spiritual work, the less ego you have the better. Won't explain why, you should know by now.

So basically my advice which 100% works is to improve in every area of your life.

 

 

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@assx95 difference between a master and a beginner is that the master has failed more time than the student has ever tried.

 

3 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

I got 400+ rejections before I slept with my first hot girl.

 

 


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I find it pretty funny how there are so many guys on this forum that are "average" (self proclaimed) or have personality issues or social anxiety, but want the hot, attractive, skinny girls to the point of starting threads and complaining about not getting it. 

 

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