Shaun

Bodymind always wants sex

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6 minutes ago, Gili Trawangan said:

@Leo Gura Honestly, this doesn't work for me. I used to do exactly what you "prescribed" ;) lots of sex would take away the "hunger" for maybe a couple of days, but then it would come back with a vengeance, stronger than ever. Feeding that hunger became a full time job. I guess people are just different, for me the tendency is to become addicted and unbalanced. That's why I'm having better results with longer periods of abstinence, together with yoga and meditation.

I think it depends on people mindset and cognitive evolution.

Easier to transcend when you're conscious

Almost impossible if you're not, you need to suffer first to be disgusted enough about to be willing to grow.

Leo only says that because he knows that the only way for this guy to stop caring that much about sex is to see that it doesn't work first.

Problem is, without the conceptual knowledge that it won't work, plus a little bit of awareness to feel it when you do that activity

People tend to get stuck for a very long time, if not for life.

It's a very thin line to surf on.

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2 minutes ago, Shin said:

Almost impossible if you're not, you need to suffer first to be disgusted enough about to be willing to grow.

Yeah this is what happened to me.

 

It does make sense from that perspective, I would not be so cool with abstinence nowadays had I not had lots of experience and had I not learned for myself that sex is no big deal.

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2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

@Shaun

Step 1: Go have lots of sex until you are full.

Step 2: Then return here and ask about how to transcend sex.

 

Additional notes:

  • Do not skip step 1
  • Wear a rubber ;)

@Leo Gura do you suggest to have sex with lots of people (like one night stands) or with a few trusted girlfriends who share high intimacy and sexual chemistry with you?

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9 minutes ago, Gili Trawangan said:

Yeah this is what happened to me.

 

It does make sense from that perspective, I would not be so cool with abstinence nowadays had I not had lots of experience and had I not learned for myself that sex is no big deal.

At the same time you can use this as an excuse to go deeper into lust too

Instead of going in the abstinence route when you could already do it.

We use everything in our power to stay miserable, this is amazing !


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I had some time with my girlfriend when we had sex 3 times a day. It was wonderful. But in the end of this period I wanted to almost vomit from sex. Thanks we do it in a more spiritual way than most people. From now on most of the cravings are gone.

Having a stable girlfriend with which you have good connection and with whom you can consistently have sex will eliminate bad side of sex cravings for most of you


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12 hours ago, Gili Trawangan said:

@Leo Gura Honestly, this doesn't work for me. I used to do exactly what you "prescribed" ;) lots of sex would take away the "hunger" for maybe a couple of days, but then it would come back with a vengeance, stronger than ever. Feeding that hunger became a full time job. I guess people are just different, for me the tendency is to become addicted and unbalanced. That's why I'm having better results with longer periods of abstinence, together with yoga and meditation.

This is precisely why I asked if there is a certain kind of sex that you want. You need to have the exact kind of sex that you're craving the most in order to be fulfilled. Just any sex won't do. So maybe take a look at your fetishes to find the answer there? Just a suggestion. I'm not a sex expert. :)

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