How do you change your energy/personality when living with parents?

[Roch]

So I can often temporarily change my energy, mood and personality. Unfortunately when I’m around parents that tends to make me bounce back. I just feel like they’re holding me back from ever changing and improving myself. I feel like I’m in a catch 22. I can’t change unless I leave my parents, but I can’t leave my parents unless I change. I have similar issues with making friends. 

[Sahil Pandit]

@Roch Question the underlying structures that are governing your behavior and theirs.

Are they authentic?

What could you do to make them more authentic?

Is it time for you to have that difficult conversation with your mom/dad?

 

[SgtPepper]

I can relate a bit and have felt like that before.

Do it gradually and stop relying on them less and less.

I agree with @Sahil Pandit.

[Sahil Pandit]

@Roch What's your plan?

1, 3, 5 year plan?

[Eric Tarpall]

You should be more worried about your behavior than your personality. Are you behaving the way you want? How would you like to behave?

[Sahil Pandit]

@Eric Tarpall Good points Eric!

[Charlotte]

@rounder

[Gabriel Antonio]

Spend less time with them. 

[Consilience]

It’s a belief that they cause you to change. How is this belief serving your self structure? How is this belief totally false? What is an alternative explanation? Start viewing this as something YOU’RE doing rather than something your parents cause. Then, investigate how to change!

[Good-boy]

Growth is impossible when you are living with parents, they turn you into a little bitch.