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Is street cold approach worth it ?

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Is going hard into street cold approach , like for example , approaching 10 girls a day in the street  , going throw the fire of rejection , is it really worth the time and energy ? cause this shit takes a LOT of energy , so is it really necessary to do in my journey of development as man  , or putting this energy and time into something else is better ? I want to listen to your opinions on this ? I'm 19 years old btw ! 

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Focus on yourself.

I never done cold approach in my entire life, and I'm way less stressed and more effective at it if I chose to do it than any guy in my city (except pick up artist ofc).

The reason why is simple, women are just women, and almost none of them are high quality women, yes they are beautiful (on the outside), but there is no fire in their eyes, no aliveness.

The vast majority of women are only attractive to men who are slaves to their sexual impulses, very few women can catch your interest if you master this.

Even the ones who do, if you do proper spirituality and semen retention, will be very easy to approach, because you won't need anything from them that you don't already have in you.

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@Capital All depends on where you want to get. What is your end goal? Why are you even approaching? Is this something necessary right now? Only you could really answer these although i see you just want some practical advice. 

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21 hours ago, Capital said:

so is it really necessary to do in my journey of development as man  , or putting this energy and time into something else is better 

At the end of the day, that is something only you can decide. For some guys it is, for some guys it isn't.

Personally I think it's awesome. It's crazy fun once you get the hang of it and you'll develop a lot of skills that will serve you later in life.

Just make sure that whatever you decide, you go full out. One of only reasons I got better in this area was because I told myself I would learn cold approach even if it killed me. Guys who don't have that level of commitment usually just dabble around and then quit once they realize how hard it is.


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a lot of energy ? lol not really, you can go out and approach for an hour everyday for a 3 months straight and be 10 times better then you were the past years of your whole life, not a master but definitely better. 

pickup is great for facing your fears if you have anxiety around women and social interactions because you will most likely get rejected back to back , even if you're good looking. 

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Hey dude

Having just started cold approaching a few weeks back I can definitely say it's worth it. I'm not counting numbers, dates etc. thus far, however if you are straight-up and honest in your approaches you'll definitely make someone's day. For all the rejections I've had this far, every approach has ended with a very flattered girl and your sense of masculinity and self respect goes through the roof. That in it self is a nice motivation in the beginning. I may suck but at least I'm being true to my sexuality.

Good luck.

By the way, get a wing. So helpful.

 

 

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It is totally WORTH IT. The amount of self-development you get from this is ENORMOUS. And it doesn't matter if you'll end up sleeping with these girls or not. It is about pushing your comfort zone, being fine with your sexuality, crushing your fears and being the leader, that is what leaders do, they see the girl they like - they approach, they take action on it. 

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39 minutes ago, TheBeachBionic said:

How do I get a guy to cold approach me on the streets?

It's hard. Most of the guys are big pussies, so they won't do it anyways. Being attractive, open and authentic helps tho, become "approachable". Beauty helps too, but I wouldn't say it is #1. Being too beautiful can be an obstacle in a sense that a lot of guys will think that they are inferior to you, that they are a class below, when in reality it's not always the case. 
Also, try to do women's version of pickup. Initiate and get exposed to the world. Go socialize a lot. And by that I don't mean  with your current friends. Go and meet new people, start conversations, do small talk, join new social circles. And when you'll be doing all that, if you find a guy you really like, go send him some subtle signs of attraction, idk how that thing works from women's point of view and idk if it is conscious or unconscious (I guess the latter) but this shit is real. It is a real turn-on for a guy  even if you're not 10\10 in this stupid pickup estimation (I speak from my own experience here) .
Also, doing public and leadership stuff (such as speaking, singing, giving a presentation, etc) to a big audience will help you to attract confident guys who are leaders and do shit in the real world. Which is probably what you want from a guy.

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The only time you have to invest extra time and energy for it is when you're learning it.

But once you've made it part of your identity and who you are, then all you need to do is go about your day and when you see a girl you like in your path, you approach. 

It can be a big initial time investment to get to that point, but once you're there you'll never have the problem of how to meet women again.

 

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On 9/14/2018 at 3:34 AM, Hello from Russia said:

It's hard. Most of the guys are big pussies, so they won't do it anyways. Being attractive, open and authentic helps tho, become "approachable". Beauty helps too, but I wouldn't say it is #1. Being too beautiful can be an obstacle in a sense that a lot of guys will think that they are inferior to you, that they are a class below, when in reality it's not always the case. 
Also, try to do women's version of pickup. Initiate and get exposed to the world. Go socialize a lot. And by that I don't mean  with your current friends. Go and meet new people, start conversations, do small talk, join new social circles. And when you'll be doing all that, if you find a guy you really like, go send him some subtle signs of attraction, idk how that thing works from women's point of view and idk if it is conscious or unconscious (I guess the latter) but this shit is real. It is a real turn-on for a guy  even if you're not 10\10 in this stupid pickup estimation (I speak from my own experience here) .
Also, doing public and leadership stuff (such as speaking, singing, giving a presentation, etc) to a big audience will help you to attract confident guys who are leaders and do shit in the real world. Which is probably what you want from a guy.

It frustrates me that I never have guys approach me on the streets because I might not be attractive.

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9 minutes ago, TheBeachBionic said:

It frustrates me that I never have guys approach me on the streets because I might not be attractive.

No Guys are simply are afraid of consequences of approach. They are not afraid of approaching you, maybe they want you, they want to feel safe but they are afraid of rejection or being sent to prison and have their life shattered or worse get into physical fight that leaves them disabled for life... there are many reasons but those are the major reasons. 

If you like a guy, give him a CLEAR flirt signal and smile to him and say hi. You being passive will only make them not approach you at all!

I once approached a girl, she screamed so hard and harshly and people came up(white knights on guard) to me and almost beat just because this girl was neurotic and borderline and crazy. She flirted but then gave me the most scariest PTSD type of rejection and this has made not approach many women I liked but slowly I am doing it.

 


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On 9/14/2018 at 2:34 AM, Hello from Russia said:

It's hard. Most of the guys are big pussies, so they won't do it anyways. Being attractive, open and authentic helps tho, become "approachable". Beauty helps too, but I wouldn't say it is #1. Being too beautiful can be an obstacle in a sense that a lot of guys will think that they are inferior to you, that they are a class below, when in reality it's not always the case. 
Also, try to do women's version of pickup. Initiate and get exposed to the world. Go socialize a lot. And by that I don't mean  with your current friends. Go and meet new people, start conversations, do small talk, join new social circles. And when you'll be doing all that, if you find a guy you really like, go send him some subtle signs of attraction, idk how that thing works from women's point of view and idk if it is conscious or unconscious (I guess the latter) but this shit is real. It is a real turn-on for a guy  even if you're not 10\10 in this stupid pickup estimation (I speak from my own experience here) .
Also, doing public and leadership stuff (such as speaking, singing, giving a presentation, etc) to a big audience will help you to attract confident guys who are leaders and do shit in the real world. Which is probably what you want from a guy.

Well Guys are pussies, including you and me and almost 90 percent of all males. If you look at it this way. What If I told you that confidence comes with life purpose?  I remember when I failed most of my first tests, I was so determined to pass my classes at whatever cost, I actually was crazily driven to talk to classmates, girls in my class just so that they study with me. I even went to say hi to them at library and guess what I ended up building relationship, when purpose ended, my drive for conquest ended with it and I became the Timid person I am. Also, I noticed, Porn made me so timid and when I was on 6 month no fap, I was so driven for life. It coincided with me wanting to find a co-op and internship and I bought suits and bowties and fancy clothes and I started going to conferences, seminars and classes and started talking to people to build my resume. Its not just PUA type of talk and leadership bullshit. If you have no sense of purpose and self-regulation or even goal you want to achieve then you won't be social for most guys.

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"We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient"💙Quran: Suratal Al-baqarah (The Cow)

 

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