Very sweet yoga instructor girl at my Zumba class

[Emotionalmosquito]

We’ve had two good talks so far. I think a connection has possibly been made because we resonate decently well on the yoga stuff. I have her telephone number and she has agreed to pick up trash with me next month. She was surprisingly forthcoming about not having a romantic partner when I assumed she did in conversation. But there’s also someone else who seems likely interested as I am. He’s taller, mega muscular and way more badass like than I. So I’m under no delusion at all she’ll pursue me over him as anything that could go beyond platonic friendship. 

It’s so typical I’m not even mad or annoyed by it anymore. I’m just sitting here clearly predicting the future. They end up in a committed relationship and I’m right back to depriving myself of ejaculation and taking ice cold showers. It’s so fundamental to reality it’d be like getting upset at water for being wet or predicting 8:00 at 7:30. For whatever reason it’s been decided that in this volume of absolute infinity, every time there appears to be a chance at girlfriend it’s either approach anxiety makes me appear as some psycho rapist that has her terrified, someone else gets to her first, someone better looking is available, we live too far apart, we’re simply not a good match… oh it’s endless but ALWAYS something without fail. 

So what do I even do in this situation? Do I burn the number and ditch the class? Do I submit to cuckoldry? Unless a miracle happens we already know the outcome either way. Except one may leave me with more dignity than the other. 

What was God’s intention behind this prank? 
 

 

[Valach]

Self-rejection, final boss.

Brother, you do not know what is going to happen. If you are interested, pursue her and let her decide if she prefers you or the other guy. On top of that work on the beliefs you have about yourself and your self worth.

[LastThursday]

@Emotionalmosquito you're being overly dramatic. The bottom line is, you don't know what's going to happen. It's a law of nature that women have other interests don't sweat it, you're not competing, you're inviting her to you. You've shown you're interested, if she reciprocates then good you can continue.

[Raze]

So since you last posted what practices and advice did you apply to resolve your mental health issues and resentments, how many hours did you do them? What approach anxiety progressive desensitization technique did you try and how many times? Did you improve your fashion and core communication skills, or do anything to try to address your negative mindsets? How many women did you practice talking to and how many reports did you write to find what your sticking points are. What content did you find and apply to address these sticking points, did you analyze if your weakness is at opening, at flirting, at conversation, what advice did you apply to resolve it? How many women did you ask out?

Edited Thursday at 10:20 AM by Raze

[Olaf]

@Emotionalmosquito why do you instantly belief it is gonna be nothing? This seems like self sabotage, never did she say or atleast not that you have described that she didn't like you romantically. Plus that is something that could build, by being more around eachother, I think my first girlfriend that we were friends for a month and only then when I was with another girl that I kissed before, she got scared and wrote me a love letter. SO don't throw in the towel so quickly that is weak and I am guilty of it too, but from what I read here, this is pure self sabotage.

I will tell you actually about a girl that I sabotaged with myself. She was in spirituality, I used to visit her class, we would sit in silence and connect, it was beautiful, like pure connection kinda. Then after like 6 months or so, I don't know I came just from the gym, my muscles were showing a little and I was a bit goofy, she jumped me and hugged me and was super interested in me, I couldn't handle her interest at that time and went away never came back. So don't be like me lol. Give it time, don't be desperate about it, she will eventually get interested or not and then when she is, be able to recieve and not runaway like I did.

Besides all of this, get around more woman, you don't want her to be the center of your world, there are plenty of woman around, maybe not all girlfriend material according to your taste like her, but still good to approach woman and see more woman so you aren't so desperate about one case, one girl. 

Edited Thursday at 04:11 PM by Olaf

[Salvijus]

Rip 

Edited Friday at 05:54 AM by Salvijus

[Olaf]

I literally went on a date with a meditation teacher who I met in front of a bar lol what a coincidence. 

[Salvijus]

"To truly love something is to grant that thing freedom."

Edited Friday at 05:55 AM by Salvijus

[meta_male]

On 22.10.2026 at 10:02 AM, Emotionalmosquito said:

For whatever reason it’s been decided

Point out to us when exactly this girl has rejected you. I would suggest you practice living with uncertainty, rather than already resorting to resignation. The latter can feel surprisingly peaceful, because it protects you from disappointment. But it also means you’ve already decided the outcome before anything has had the chance to develop.

On 22.10.2026 at 10:02 AM, Emotionalmosquito said:

But there’s also someone else who seems likely interested as I am. He’s taller, mega muscular and way more badass like than I. So I’m under no delusion at all she’ll pursue me over him as anything that could go beyond platonic friendship. 

Notice what's missing from that comparison: everything else that matters in a relationship. You are right that she might choose him over you, but not necessarily for the reasons you think. Right now, you had some positive interactions, shared interest, her number and plans to spend time together. You don’t know where this will lead. 

Edited Friday at 02:57 PM by meta_male

[Emotionalmosquito]

On 10/22/2026 at 5:18 AM, Raze said:

So since you last posted what practices and advice did you apply to resolve your mental health issues and resentments, how many hours did you do them? What approach anxiety progressive desensitization technique did you try and how many times? Did you improve your fashion and core communication skills, or do anything to try to address your negative mindsets? How many women did you practice talking to and how many reports did you write to find what your sticking points are. What content did you find and apply to address these sticking points, did you analyze if your weakness is at opening, at flirting, at conversation, what advice did you apply to resolve it? How many women did you ask out?

I’ve actually been progressing over the last several months. I’m less resentful. Not perfect by any means, but measurably better. I’m having better moods more often and the bad ones don’t last as long or hit as hard as they did a year ago. I’ve gotten back into yoga. Trying to get in at least a 20 minute meditation a day but it’s been tricky to work that into a habit. Much more physical exercise. I even took up a free improv training. Been to 3 classes so far. Not to mention therapy, I have the best guy I could’ve asked for. 

If I had any money I’d be able to get a dating coach to address the other things you asked. The specific problems I may be running into in my approaches. Writing pickup reports is an interesting idea, maybe I’ll do that and post them here for feedback. 

I’ve asked out one and she said yes. The girl in question here. Though I didn’t frame it as a romantic date. More like a simple, “Wanna do this thing with me sometime?”

[Rishabh R]

@Emotionalmosquito Hurray . Love to see your progress .Bro.

[Raze]

13 hours ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

I’ve actually been progressing over the last several months. I’m less resentful. Not perfect by any means, but measurably better. I’m having better moods more often and the bad ones don’t last as long or hit as hard as they did a year ago. I’ve gotten back into yoga. Trying to get in at least a 20 minute meditation a day but it’s been tricky to work that into a habit. Much more physical exercise. I even took up a free improv training. Been to 3 classes so far. Not to mention therapy, I have the best guy I could’ve asked for. 

If I had any money I’d be able to get a dating coach to address the other things you asked. The specific problems I may be running into in my approaches. Writing pickup reports is an interesting idea, maybe I’ll do that and post them here for feedback. 

I’ve asked out one and she said yes. The girl in question here. Though I didn’t frame it as a romantic date. More like a simple, “Wanna do this thing with me sometime?”

Nice. Just keep stacking wins to create momentum.

You can also get wingmen and write reports online to get feedback without paying. The people here aren’t that experienced, /u/becomesharp on Reddit is fairly experienced with hardcase clients and will often reply with advice if you ask for constructive feedback so you could try posting on his subreddit.

Also while yoga and meditation can be calming in the short term and long term, midterm they actually can bring up subconscious material and cause mood swings. So if you feel like you’re getting “worse” keep in mind that’s actually part of the process and you aren’t necessarily moving backwards.

Anyway one piece of advice I would give is don’t take “results” so seriously for now since you’re just starting to build the skill set. If it works out great but view it more as aiming for stable practice for now. 

Edited 14 hours ago by Raze

[PsychedelicEagle]

On 10/22/2026 at 10:02 AM, Emotionalmosquito said:

because we resonate decently well on the yoga stuff

Attraction is not a choice.

On 10/22/2026 at 10:02 AM, Emotionalmosquito said:

She was surprisingly forthcoming about not having a romantic partner when I assumed she did in conversation.

Indicator of interest. Treat it as a one evidence among the multitude of signals she'll send your way as you interact.

On 10/22/2026 at 10:02 AM, Emotionalmosquito said:

she has agreed to pick up trash with me next month.

Wtf... Have you ever fucked a girl picking up trash? Unless you don't mean it literally. Or are you into homeless chicks? 🤣

On 10/22/2026 at 10:02 AM, Emotionalmosquito said:

Unless a miracle happens we already know the outcome either way.

This mindset will frame your interaction completely. So if you believe this, it will be true. If you stop believing it, it won't. This is basic self-help btw.

What I suggest is you study "How to be a 3% man" from Corey Wayne thoroughly so you can be prepared. She's into it, you just have to go for the 3 Hs, and do all the other stuff Corey teaches. 

 

PS: Self-esteem is immune system of the mind.

Edited 9 hours ago by PsychedelicEagle