I want to hear a womans opinion

[Emerald]

11 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@Emerald yes I think the initial meeting isn't that intresting either hahaha, but I guess you have to find a place to meet someone and actually it leading somewhere. I don't know being friends with someone for a long time till it leads somewhere can also feel a bit like a waste of time you know. Like you will end up being friends with 10 girls and then you have no time for anything else in your life. Just because it is the ideal way to meet a men for her. Like some middle ground would be ideal I think. 

Think of it like you're cultivating a large platonic social circle of both male and female acquaintances. 

Then, because you have a lot of social connections, you're going to be in social spaces where you can meet women who are connected with the people you meet.

It's less direct than pick-up, of course. And it will take a bit longer

But for women that are well-resourced with a community, they are probably going to choose someone from their community or who knows someone that she knows.

Ultimately, this will provide you with more of your social needs as well. 

[Joseph Maynor]

I don't know what you guys are talking about to be honest.  

[Yimpa]

I find it hilarious when a man stares at me for 5 seconds and I bet he’s wondering “what the fuck is this?”  

[Inliytened1]

Just now, Yimpa said:

I find it hilarious when a man stares at me for 5 seconds and I bet he’s wondering “what the fuck is this?”  

 

It's the enlightened one  😝

[Olaf]

@Emerald yes I think that could be good, I have gone out on a date once with a girl that some friends of me set me up with, but she was like 18 and literally mentally not completly okay hahaha my friends did me wrong. But it makes sense, because she is comfortable you are not 100% a stranger, compared to someone on the street.

[Olaf]

@Emerald I think @LordFall would be very glad to hear this, he has been talking about social circle game the whole time hahaha

[Joshe]

9 minutes ago, Emerald said:

Exactly. 

One of the things that surprised me in this internet era is how many men are not dating or having sex or getting into relationships.

Back when I was a teenager, I had a big group of friends and acquaintances (with probably a couple hundred people in the wider network.. and about 25 in the closer part of that network... with 6 really close friends) where there was probably an equal amount of guys and girls in the wider group.

And it was a very interconnected ecosystem of teens that had closer friendships within the group... but would often interact at parties and at smaller social get-togethers... and at this church that had a teen night called the Vineyard, where tons of teens would go on Friday nights.

And my nerdiest and most reserved guy friend in the closest 25 people in my social circle lost his virginity and got into his first relationship at 19. And I was thinking, "He's a bit of late bloomer. But I'm glad it finally happened for him." 

But there were also a couple really creepy unattractive guys that I'm thinking of in the wider group who I was casual acquaintances with. And they were constantly in and out of relationships with other random female acquaintances of mine, and I'd begrudgingly hear the odd thing or two about their sex-lives through the grape vine. The two of them probably lost their virginity by 14 or 15. 

So, I was really surprised to learn that so many men weren't getting into relationships or losing their virginity until their mid-20s and beyond.

Then, I realized the reason why... All the guys that I know have at least one woman in their social circle. 

Never thought about it like that, but that tracks perfectly. There was a period in my life when I was involved in a social situation very similar sounding to yours, and shortly after that ended, I wound up in a bad group. I was getting girls in both situations but the first was effortless and the latter was much darker. In fact, mostly what led to the destruction of the healthy social group was me cheating on a girl in it with 8 other girls and then bragging to another dude about my "accomplishments", lol. There was abundance, then there was struggle. 

[Olaf]

@Joshe that doesn't sound like a smart move hehe thats the problem with social circle game is that if you fuck up, then everyone will know about it, but I guess you just got to give no shit

[Inliytened1]

25 minutes ago, Emerald said:

Think of it like you're cultivating a large platonic social circle of both male and female acquaintances. 

Then, because you have a lot of social connections, you're going to be in social spaces where you can meet women who are connected with the people you meet.

It's less direct than pick-up, of course. And it will take a bit longer

But for women that are well-resourced with a community, they are probably going to choose someone from their community or who knows someone that she knows.

Ultimately, this will provide you with more of your social needs as well. 

It's a security blanket. If you meet some Joe off the street from Nantucket you don't know of he's an axe murderer or not.  But nowadays you can find a lot out about a person by looking them up online.  Criminal history, etc.  By the way, it's not foolproof.  You might find the biggest nut right inside your social circle/community  

Edited 7 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Inliytened1]

27 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

I don't know what you guys are talking about to be honest.  

Just talk and smile. That's all you need to do with women.  You can just pretend to listen.  (Kidding folks..everyone relax)

Edited 7 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Joshe]

15 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@Joshe that doesn't sound like a smart move hehe thats the problem with social circle game is that if you fuck up, then everyone will know about it, but I guess you just got to give no shit

lol, yeah. Horrible move. I was a teenager finally getting attention from girls and I couldn't contain it. But seriously, all the attention I was getting literally came from being friends with girls, not from my looks or some sly shit I was doing. I recommend putting yourself in the friend-zone intentionally and see what happens. Suspend your desire to have sex with them - don't even think about it. 

Edited 7 hours ago by Joshe

[Joseph Maynor]

There is a safety component to many women it seems.  And I get it.  

[Olaf]

@Inliytened1 you are always trying to piss people off hahaha

[Inliytened1]

2 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

There is a safety component to many women it seems.  And I get it.  

That's what they desire. The man's job is to provide that safety. Safety and security.

Edited 7 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Inliytened1]

2 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@Inliytened1 you are always trying to piss people off hahaha

You laughed though 🤣😂

[Olaf]

@Joshe yes I did have some girl friends and one girl started touching my dick one time, I guess they get all horny when they feel comfortable. Not being a stranger or if in the same social circle its just another form of being comfortable with you. 

[Inliytened1]

6 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@Inliytened1 you are always trying to piss people off hahaha

When listening to women all you need is the last few words of the sentence.  From there you can construct what they were trying to say ..IF they ask.  And they will ask.  "Are you even listening to me?" "What did i say" 😀  You better be able to come up with something in the arena

 

 

 

Edited 7 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Joshe]

5 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

You can just pretend to listen.

I found the key to make women like you is to actually listen so you can engage them in ways they've never been engaged before. But since you gotta big dick, maybe that makes up for it? lol 

[Olaf]

@Joshe big dick privilege

[Olaf]

and if you have a tiny one you got to listen extra carefully