Polygamy- does it work

[AerisVahnEphelia]

25 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Women are great, but they are pretty demanding. They will nag you to death if you don't do as they expect. A woman expects you to work for her. Now multiply that x5.

Why is that though. It might be an American thing to be honest. 

Best I can do is download the best series and watch with her. 

[Leo Gura]

18 minutes ago, AerisVahnEphelia said:

Why is that though.

Because that's how women are.

There is such a thing as how women are.

A female bird expects the male bird to make the nest.

Edited 3 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Majed]

@LordFall

48 minutes ago, LordFall said:

It's systems thinking.

HAHAAHAHAHHHHHAHAHAHAHA 

[LordFall]

19 minutes ago, Majed said:

@LordFall

HAHAAHAHAHHHHHAHAHAHAHA 

I see you went for the stage beige level reply

[Leo Gura]

1 minute ago, LordFall said:

stage beige level reply

[Majed]

@LordFall

3 minutes ago, LordFall said:

I see you went for the stage beige level reply

Dude you can't be seriously talking about having orgies while equating that with systems thinking. Lmaoooo

[Schizophonia]

50 minutes ago, LordFall said:

You ended up getting a girlfriend? That's sick tell us about that. 
 

No I'm talking to a girl; it's going well I think but I won't be able to see her until September. I also have other options I case I didn’t meet her, but I prefer her.

I meant that I would only use dating sites if I were really socially isolated or just wanted fuck; it could be relatively simple but it doesn't interest me that much.

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I put that business on pause for the moment to recenter myself and recreate my life purpose from scratch but I do still believe in it.

There are good photographers in every city. Every single person should try hiring one a few times. Your online image and presentation is the difference being between a random irrelevant dude and being known by thousands of women and being able to go on dates like a conveyor belt. 

It's the equivalent to us being on actualized.org a global platform instead of hanging out with our local meditation hippie group. Each person that has ambition should become a global institution.

Last time I went to Europe I was 13 years old and obsessed with playing Pokemon Black on the 3DS. Next time I go I will similarly be having a lot of fun but it will be a co-op game played in a hot tub this time. 

Yes the packaging makes all the difference. I have friends who complain about not getting any matches on dating sites, and of course their photos are awful like selfies in their shitty student room lol

Edited 3 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Schizophonia]

39 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Because that's how women are.

There is such a thing as how women are.

A female bird expects the male bird to make the nest.

If you have to do everything for your wife or girlfriend it means she doesn't love you.

Normally it's balanced; you are indeed the most "phallic" in the dynamic as a man (the most necessary for the other's survival; it can be money, beauty, muscles, making love well, humor, intelligence, compassion, anything) but in exchange she takes care of the rest.

Maybe I didn’t understand what you said .

[LordFall]

20 minutes ago, Majed said:

@LordFall

Dude you can't be seriously talking about having orgies while equating that with systems thinking. Lmaoooo

I mean yes it literally is?

You have to be competent in many areas of life to make such things happen. You need a comfortable space for people to feel good about letting their sexuality out. You need to be able to find and attract multiple people that are down to have group sex. You need to understand their psychologies and insecurities to be able to do it repeatedly without the polycule collapsing. You need to have a pretty high level of career and business development to hold the whole thing together financially. 

Most people don't understand that their dating life relies upon many other systems in their life that seem unrelated at first. For example stress tolerance and the ability to deal with problems under pressure will reduce your likelihood of divorce. It's not immediately obvious why mastering emotional intelligence and understanding the wheel of emotions would lead to a better sex life but it's clearly related. 

 

19 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

No I'm talking to a girl; it's going well I think but I won't be able to see her until September. I also have other options I case I didn’t meet her, but I prefer her.

It's a long distance relationship? How come you haven't met women locally in your city? 

Edited 3 hours ago by LordFall

[Leo Gura]

7 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

If you have to do everything for your wife or girlfriend it means she doesn't love you.

I said something more nuanced than that.

[Schizophonia]

2 minutes ago, LordFall said:

It's a long distance relationship? How come you haven't met women locally in your city? 

Valentin’s curse 😹

No it's okay she doesn't live very far away. Precisely she was in vacations and came with her parents to a place where I worked, then she came back alone.

At my second job, yes, I met girls. The problem isn't meeting girls.

 

[LordFall]

2 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Valentin’s curse 😹

No it's okay she doesn't live very far away. Precisely she was in vacations and came with her parents to a place where I worked, then she came back alone.

At my second job, yes, I met girls. The problem isn't meeting girls.

 

What would you say the problem is then? 

[Emerald]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

Women are great, but they are pretty demanding. They will nag you to death if you don't do as they expect. A woman expects you to work for her. Now multiply that x5.

That sounds like more of an incompatibility issue from the woman's perspective, than anything else.

The issue is that people get into relationships with other people who can't meet their needs. And then, they try all kinds of tactics to get the other person to change into the person who can meet their needs... including nagging, criticism, etc.

And the painful thing is going, "This person is incompatible with what I need to feel good in a relationship." And then having to admit there is no way to make it work... and breaking up with a person they're deeply attached to.

That's why it's so important to be very romantically discerning and to ask questions like...

• If nothing about this person ever changed, would I be able to co-exist comfortably with this person for years?
• If I had a child with this person, would I be comfortable with this person operating as they current do?

And if the answer is "No" to either of them... don't get into a relationship with them.

The issues is that women can tend to go for WHO they want rather than WHAT they want because of the hyper-particularized nature of female attraction.

We can get attached to Jonny and only Jonny.... even if Jonny is deeply incompatible with what we want.

And then, when women do this, they try to make WHO they want give them WHAT they want.

And they nag because they want their apple tree to produce them a lifetime supply pears. 

But if a woman knows WHAT she wants and she doesn't let the WHO attractions distract her too much, then she can find a partner that has both the WHO and the WHAT.

The trick for women is to raise her self esteem and level of discernment. 

Really, when a woman is choosing the WHO over the WHAT... she's choosing the relationship with the man over the relationship with herself. 

And the nagging is the result of doing that... as she's getting mad at her partner for just being himself when she was the one who chose to get into a relationship with him.

It's like a bird complaining to the fish it got into a relationship with that the fish never wants to go flying through the trees.

[Schizophonia]

6 minutes ago, LordFall said:

What would you say the problem is then? 

There aren't any  

I just wanted to say that your service looks cool and that I could have been a customer under different circumstances.

[Schizophonia]

15 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

I said something more nuanced than that.

You said that women require a lot of effort, and thus tacitly that the expenditure of energy is not reciprocal.

Ideally you don't lose too much energy; it's more of a transfer like a cathode and an anode.

 

[Inliytened1]

14 minutes ago, Emerald said:

That sounds like more of an incompatibility issue from the woman's perspective, than anything else.

The issue is that people get into relationships with other people who can't meet their needs. And then, they try all kinds of tactics to get the other person to change into the person who can meet their needs... including nagging, criticism, etc.

And the painful thing is going, "This person is incompatible with what I need to feel good in a relationship." And then having to admit there is no way to make it work... and breaking up with a person they're deeply attached to.

That's why it's so important to be very romantically discerning and to ask questions like...

• If nothing about this person ever changed, would I be able to co-exist comfortably with this person for years?
• If I had a child with this person, would I be comfortable with this person operating as they current do?

And if the answer is "No" to either of them... don't get into a relationship with them.

The issues is that women can tend to go for WHO they want rather than WHAT they want because of the hyper-particularized nature of female attraction.

We can get attached to Jonny and only Jonny.... even if Jonny is deeply incompatible with what we want.

And then, when women do this, they try to make WHO they want give them WHAT they want.

And they nag because they want their apple tree to produce them a lifetime supply pears. 

But if a woman knows WHAT she wants and she doesn't let the WHO attractions distract her too much, then she can find a partner that has both the WHO and the WHAT.

The trick for women is to raise her self esteem and level of discernment. 

Really, when a woman is choosing the WHO over the WHAT... she's choosing the relationship with the man over the relationship with herself. 

And the nagging is the result of doing that... as she's getting mad at her partner for just being himself when she was the one who chose to get into a relationship with him.

It's like a bird complaining to the fish it got into a relationship with that the fish never wants to go flying through the trees.

You guys find a way for us to be incompatible.   

[Xonas Pitfall]

30 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

You guys find a way for us to be incompatible.   

All of this stuff is way too generic. This isn’t a gender issue in the slightest.

What happened in your last relationship? Be honest with yourself and their side too.

It is always easy to have a failed relationship and blame the whole thing on the other gender.

Edited 2 hours ago by Xonas Pitfall

[Inliytened1]

12 minutes ago, Xonas Pitfall said:

All of this stuff is way too generic. This isn’t a gender issue in the slightest.

What happened in your last relationship? Be honest with yourself and their side too.

It is always easy to have a failed relationship and blame the whole thing on the other gender.

My last one was ultimate punishment of what winging it, not vetting brings.  I literally let psycho in my door to play.

[PsychedelicEagle]

3 hours ago, BlessedLion said:

I will say though , for whatever reason, Brazilian women seem more fluid and able to do this. I have a friend here in Bali who has a Brazilian gf who is bisexual and they have 3 sums and 4 sums all the time with other women and she actually genuinely seems okay with it. But i think it still messes with her a bit

I'm Brazilian. I don't see a big difference in terms of sexuality, especially when compared to other latin countries such as Spain, Portugal, etc. Most of the country is stage Blue, which speaks for itself.

When traveling you tend to meet people from other countries who are generally more open-minded and willing to explore, so perhaps that's where you perception comes from.

Edited 1 hour ago by PsychedelicEagle

[Terell Kirby]

Time and attention, all women in relationship requires it to some degree-and the more in love she is, the more she craves it.

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