Charisma is just verbal felatio

[Basman]

I'm halfway through that book on charisma from Leo's book list, and combined with a bunch of other sources and my own experience I've realized that charisma and making people like you is basically sucking people off verbally. Your trying to make people feel good about themselves and give them value socially essentially. 

I read into this stuff to work on my confidence but my takeaway besides these skills is that maybe I'm okay just not caring that much. Like, who am I trying to impress? Most people I don't even like or care about that much. 

Thoughts?

[Eskilon]

Yes, this is the point. Some people just don't care about attention from others. This is a personality trait, it's really hard to be charismatic if you just dont give a damn lol, and thats ok. 

Monks and mystics are not so charismatic, guess why? They just don't care what you think of them and they are not trying to attract anyone.

Edited 3 hours ago by Eskilon

[Basman]

26 minutes ago, Eskilon said:

Yes, this is the point. Some people just don't care about attention from others. This is a personality trait, it's really hard to be charismatic if you just dont give a damn lol, and thats ok. 

Monks and mystics are not so charismatic, guess why? They just don't care what you think of them and they are not trying to attract anyone.

I think monks can be quiet charismatic actually in a way that's quiet rare. They can be very kind and present and have this sort of whimsicalnes to them. But I guess its less of an act or deliberate practice.