Better then Cold Approach

[integral]

I was at the park doing slack line shirtless sweating and doing a work out.

Normally, I do this all the time and people talk to me constantly, the people range from older to younger to kids every age range. So I'm talking to a lot of people. 

Today a girl asked me for my number lol now I already have a girlfriend so it's not going to go anywhere.

Basically in reality you want to do everything you can to avoid cold approach and just set yourself up to have good odds. Cold approach is like playing chess on equal footing, but the problem is why in the world would you want to play fair? If you're in a fight with someone to the death, are you going to not use a gun because your opponent is using a knife? Of course not just do what you need to do to win. 

I get cold approach is useful for self-development, but strategically it's stupid. Never play fair.

Instead, go to public places do some interesting shit and talk to a bunch of people, things will work out. You'll enter into social groups and different social activities, you'll build a social network this way.

The point I'm making is I'm not trying at all, I do whatever I want to do and people are drawn to me. If you guys are doing 5,000 cold approaches with no results, holly shit STOP. Be strategic instead

Edited 7 hours ago by integral

[Miguel1]

Mmm

1. You cant compare this to a real fight

2. Cold approach teaches you so many fundamental things about being a strong man.

3. What interesting things could one do?

4. Your way is very limited as only so many girls will approach and ask for ur number.

5. You spend a lot of time socializing with everyone, who is not an attractive girl.

[integral]

1 minute ago, Miguel1 said:

Mmm

1. You cant compare this to a real fight

 I'm comparing it to being strategic versus not 

2. Cold approach teaches you so many fundamental things about being a strong man.

I agree, this is not a substitute it's simply improving your odds by not playing Fair 

3. What interesting things could one do?

Well with your skills go to a public places and do some dancing, play musical instrument, just chat people up, but the point is you're not there to get laid you're there to have fun doing what you want to do naturally and then you build a network.

4. Your way is very limited as only so many girls will approach and ask for ur number.

it's a remote Park in a secluded area and yet somehow with very limited people that are there I'm still getting numbers. I increase my odds so much That with almost no public exposure im getting results, if I went to a more popular location it would be ridiculous.

It's good practice talking to everyone in general

5. You spend a lot of time socializing with everyone, who is not an attractive girl.

Yes you're living your life and you're doing what you would be doing anyways, I want to work out and practice my balancing. 

 

[Schizophonia]

Why give a girl false hope by giving her your number

[integral]

Just now, Schizophonia said:

Why give a girl false hope by giving her your number

Thats true i messed up. I felt bad afterwards when she was texting me.

[Schizophonia]

Just now, integral said:

Thats true i messed up. I felt bad afterwards when she was texting me.

It good you are nice

My question cames from a negative energy I wear 

[integral]

1 minute ago, Schizophonia said:

It good you are nice

My question cames from a negative energy I wear 

It's all good, I think your statement was true.

Edited 7 hours ago by integral

[Miguel1]

@integral good points.

But basically what you are doing is ”working the venue”, just during the day.

This is cold approaching.

[integral]

14 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

It good you are nice

My question cames from a negative energy I wear 

ya know I'm old, bald, my abs are gone, I got plenty of fat around my waist, didn't shave my back or my chest lmfao 😆 5"8

I'm not out there like some chiseled God but i do have some muscle.

Dude sometimes I grow like these singular crazy long back hairs, that I can't even see or reach lmfao

Edited 7 hours ago by integral

[integral]

2 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

@integral good points.

But basically what you are doing is ”working the venue”, just during the day.

This is cold approaching.

That makes perfect sense, it's a strategic conversation about cold approach, Where you set yourself up so people come to you instead of you going to them.

[Miguel1]

12 minutes ago, integral said:

That makes perfect sense, it's a strategic conversation about cold approach, Where you set yourself up so people come to you instead of you going to them.

This is one of the main functions of the ”natural” game. Socializing with everyone and building massive social proof. ”Shotgun”.

Technical game is generally more snipery.

[enchanted]

The perfect man has both: cold approach skills and being high value/approachable 

Edited 6 hours ago by enchanted

[integral]

35 minutes ago, enchanted said:

The perfect man has both: cold approach skills and being high value/approachable 

That makes sense but like I see guys like @Majed struggling to get results and doing crazy numbers of approaches.

It's better just to focus on a different strategy

Edited 5 hours ago by integral

[Ulax]

How come people keep approaching? You wearing fake tits or something?  

[LordFall]

3 hours ago, integral said:

I was at the park doing slack line shirtless sweating and doing a work out.

Normally, I do this all the time and people talk to me constantly, the people range from older to younger to kids every age range. So I'm talking to a lot of people. 

Today a girl asked me for my number lol now I already have a girlfriend so it's not going to go anywhere.

Basically in reality you want to do everything you can to avoid cold approach and just set yourself up to have good odds. Cold approach is like playing chess on equal footing, but the problem is why in the world would you want to play fair? If you're in a fight with someone to the death, are you going to not use a gun because your opponent is using a knife? Of course not just do what you need to do to win. 

I get cold approach is useful for self-development, but strategically it's stupid. Never play fair.

Instead, go to public places do some interesting shit and talk to a bunch of people, things will work out. You'll enter into social groups and different social activities, you'll build a social network this way.

The point I'm making is I'm not trying at all, I do whatever I want to do and people are drawn to me. If you guys are doing 5,000 cold approaches with no results, holly shit STOP. Be strategic instead

I mean you sort of invalidate your own point. Cold approach is very strategic. It's an activity that allows you to create connection on your terms with anybody that you see with a consistent and simple action that also reveals your shortcomings in many tangential areas of life. 

What you're suggesting works great because it's doing what you would already be doing which is quite efficient. The problem is most people are already doing what they're doing but don't get results or the results are inconsistent. Last time I did slack line at the park I had a homeless dude not leaving me and my buddy alone sharing his dubious theories on astrophysics with us. To be fair I'm pretty terrible at it so perhaps the public display of competence helped your case if you managed to stay on the line lol. 

Cold approach is already not playing fair, 95% of men won't do it. Combining it with social media and intentional social circle game and then you have something that not many men in your city will bother doing so you can within a few years gain results that people would believe are out of this world. The reason I think I can have 4-6 women in my life long term and have children with a lot of them is I don't see many men being able to replicate the results that I do mostly from lack of effort and systems thinking. I think my system would work to great success to any man I teach it to since it most dudes are not gonna be your competition anyway. 

Edited 4 hours ago by LordFall

[Ulax]

12 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Last time I did slack line at the park I had a homeless dude not leaving me and my buddy alone sharing his dubious theories on astrophysics with us.

LOOOL

[PenguinPablo]

3 hours ago, Miguel1 said:

@integral good points.

But basically what you are doing is ”working the venue”, just during the day.

This is cold approaching.

I mean kinda.

It's more like a sophisticated form of peacocking.

Where peacocking is primitive as shit.

And to some extent cold approach also.

Approaching like a mad man is like cold calling in sales. Not very effective for most.

Also there is not a shared context in many cold approaches, complete lack of social proof in most cases which is cold approaches biggest weakness -- hence what integral is getting at. @integral

Just like meeting a girl at work even, the shared context gives you a reference point within the social hierarchy of that environment. You are part of that tribe so to speak.

But some random guy trying to sell a vacuum at your door step is not too different from cold approach in terms of lack of trust, social proof, etc... because you are a total stranger.

I think this effect does vary from city to city, and so on and so forth...