Are You Aligned In Life?

[Miguel1]

This is why I am sick of pick up based dating and sex. It's performance based. I push buttons to get reactions. There is no real intimacy, connection, passion, safety with the other person. There is no truth in it! There is no trust and surrender. There is no real caring.

 

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[Miguel1]

4 hours ago, bazera said:

Yeah, a huge part of the work of becoming more conscious involves accepting selfishness, I also struggle with it and I'm almost certain this struggle will intensify tenfold once I have some Awakenings and try to integrate the insights into relative world.

Still, without such consciousness, even with selfishness, sometimes when I dwell on my own, how selfish I was in intimate relationships, with my family, friends, etc, and how robotic and automatic life becomes from time to time with all the addictions and survival stuff, it sickens me, but I also try to see the reasonings behind it, the intelligence that was behind it. Even addiction is a very intelligence mechanism, just to observe how it completely absorbs you to keep you surviving the only way it knows, not to mention the mechanism behind the selfishness itself as a whole, it's so complex and interesting, but at the same time obstructive if one is trying to transcend it or change life circumstances to allow more trutful living.

Well said.

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Yeah after a while that will get real boring. Something has to be rekindeling connection.

Maybe she needed more time to open up and go deeper with you? Or maybe she needed introductions to certain topics that she'd find interest in? I don't know, trying to see the situation from her perspective as well.

I talked to her literally like we were in fantasy land. I took her to watch the ocean, we drank wine, and I told her that I am going to build us a castle, she makes it a home for us, and I will bring us food and protect us from outside danger.

Then we played miniclip / browser games online. This was the most simple girl I have ever dated. But there is no way I could build a serious relationship and life with her, as her ability to think was almost 0.

[Elliott]

Just one of the ways patriarchy takes away from even men.