Should I Leave a Loving Relationship for Growth and Intellectual Compatibility?

[LordFall]

@Jordan of the Shire Do you mind sharing with us what's happened since you left that relationship? Were you not able to find other people that you were more aligned with? 

[Jirh]

It's tragic that you can't recognize a good woman when you see one.

[Elliott]

"she has little natural interest in introspection, personal development, or complex ideas"

Hard to say what this looks like to you, but if you want someone into 'spiritual' introspection, there's tons of women at say yoga retreat type scenes, hippy towns, bhuddist centers,... if you want someone interested more in psychology, then major American metros you can find these women volunteering or at local arts scenes. If you want a woman into philosophy, I think that's more rare,  try philosophy groups, but the other ones you can easily find women like that and they're all loving.

This is the best time in history for guys to EASILY find women like this. A bit ironic, all the troglodytes think it's the worst time for men, but it's the best time for men to find women we want. 'Down with the patriarchy!', up with heavenly matrimony!

Edited 9 hours ago by Elliott

[Patrick_9931]

Thank you guys  @Asayake @Elliott@Sincerity @integral@LordFall @Basman @WonderSeeker @Jirh for sharing your perspectives.

 

In the end @LordFall and @Elliott I think you were right. This is the first girl I stayed together with in South East Asia and I just got totally addicted by the warmth, femininity, comfort ecc. 

 

I just realized that I sold myself away for comfort.

 

The wisest choice here is breaking up with her, keep traveling, giving myself the chance to have more experiences and women that are more compatible with me which there are definitely plenty of when you know where to look as @Elliott said. 

Edited 2 hours ago by Patrick_9931

[Elliott]

32 minutes ago, Patrick_9931 said:

Thank you guys  @Asayake @Elliott@Sincerity @integral@LordFall @Basman @WonderSeeker @Jirh for sharing your perspectives.

 

In the end @LordFall and @Elliott I think you were right. This is the first girl I stayed together with in South East Asia and I just got totally addicted by the warmth, femininity, comfort ecc. 

 

I just realized that I sold myself away for comfort.

 

The wisest choice here is breaking up with hear, keep traveling, giving myself the chance to have more experiences and women that are more compatible with me which there are definitely plenty of when you know where to look as @Elliott said. 

That's dating, still beautiful, arguably more beautiful.

[LordFall]

@Patrick_9931 Thanks for the update. No shame in getting hooked on love even if it's based out of comfort more than growth. The good part is that the upside in this hero's journey is potentially endless. What women have to offer you as a man is basically unlimited and now that you've experienced this perhaps you'll experience with other forms of relationships.

For myself I'm also still exploring my options and will give polyamory a go soon. Will be also starting a world tour starting in January this year hopefully and seeing what the world and the women in it have to offer. I would give social circle game a go if I were you, it's how you find women that are highly compatible with you and fit specific niches and interests so for me I like business, finance and game design and I've hosted my first fashion show event last year that was probably one of the best days of my life. I host photoshoots and group diners as well. It's important to try different types to see what you like. I've met some really cool women over the past couple of years and the quality I tend to be able to attract seems to only be going up. 

https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/18036783041423983/

Edited 52 minutes ago by LordFall