Does any man here feel like a woman in a man's body?

[Raze]

Are you low testosterone?

[Hasson_Miah]

@Raze I checked his post the dude said himself '' 

I don't like my life anymore. I have very low IQ, I don't want to live like that anymore. My life is a series of failures. I want to go to the next life. Does such thing exist?'' 

I would say sign of low test imo.

[Human Mint]

Do you eat healthy and exercise? Or do you eat excess sugars and sedentary life?

That is directly linked.

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

Kinda strange to want to be like hoes as a man. You want to be with a hoe, but actually be a hoe, or hoelike? Wouldn't be my cup of tea at all, all things considered

[LastThursday]

The compassion, generosity and intelligence of some, knows no bounds.

[Adrian colby]

On 04/05/2026 at 8:49 AM, LastThursday said:

There's a higher chance if you're autistic that you're more gender fluid, but I forget where I read that factoid, some study or other.

I’ve Deffinately come across that before, many times. If someone’s neuroendocrine pathway development is divergent from the reproductive sex it’s certainly in line with a type of neurodivergence. 

there must be some truth to it because I’m trans and also have a DSD… and just today I started the proper assessment process for an autism and adhd diagnosis. ( age 40+, the typical collapse of masking revealing all the sensitivities).

my sexual variation had a part to play in triggering my awakening but my awakening triggered the slow collapse of my personality.

first time was an intellectual deconstruction, the second time was the exhaustion of an unfit adaptation. No more being inauthentic.

others have suggested following his authenticity and I second that. Be what you are, whatever that is and you know,  when you start to function better. … and definitely integrate both masculine and feminine aspects. For me that had nothing to do with being a man but a balanced human being. 

[soos_mite_ah]

On 5/3/2026 at 4:07 PM, Never_give_up said:

I don't like my role as a man. I don't want to die at wars, protect, provide. I don't want to fight other men for stupid reasons. I want to have fun. I want to be cared and yes even protected. I want to have fun like women do. Even sexually I am very submissive. I don't know what's wrong with me but I feel if I pretend that I don't want all these things I actually am not real to myself and if I try to act as a man I dysfunction.

I don't think that a man's role is inherently to die in wars, protect, or provide. That's a pretty narrow view of manhood and masculinity imo and it strips the humanity of most men to box them in that way. I don't think being sexually submissive is any less manly. And I think it's natural to face dysfunction if you find yourself performing inauthentically for long stretches of time. 

I think the way you said your role specifically is interesting. It makes me inclined to think that you may still identify as a man but not resonate with the cultural and sociatal associations with manhood as opposed to being trans. I know I'm not a man but I've had many moments throughout my mid 20s especially where I don't particularly feel like a woman but not really in a gender noncomforming/ gender fluid way but in a "there is a sociatal script that feels inauthentic to me." 

On 5/3/2026 at 4:07 PM, Never_give_up said:

I swear if I could switch my gender I would do it but with current technology we can't do that completely so there is no way I will become a trans (I am not saying trans women aren't women but that's my personal opinion). 

I mean, bottom and top surgery along with hormonal therapy are pretty effective of getting you like 90% there imo. Sure, you cannot change yourself on a chromosomal level but I think a lot of transpeople I have met  (and I don't think they are the exception) do see such medical interventions as a huge step forward to helping them feel more authentic in the way they show up in the world. You can still be trans and have yet to undergo such interventions. 

[LastThursday]

@Adrian colby I think with autism there is a weak "theory of mind". This makes it difficult to take social cues from a person, interpret those and create a mental model of what that person is thinking and feeling, in real time. This also applies to oneself. We have a theory of mind of our own emotions and bodily sensations and build an identity from it. I suspect those with autism have a more fluid or looser identity. Identity mostly comes from copying others, and applying that to ourselves, but if that process is disrupted then building an identity becomes harder. 

Anyway, don't take my words verbatim, just my ideas nothing more.

[Basman]

I remember hearing that the chance of being autistic if your trans is legit something ridiculous like 500%. Pretty much guaranteed lol.

[Adrian colby]

13 hours ago, LastThursday said:

@Adrian colby I think with autism there is a weak "theory of mind". This makes it difficult to take social cues from a person, interpret those and create a mental model of what that person is thinking and feeling, in real time. This also applies to oneself. We have a theory of mind of our own emotions and bodily sensations and build an identity from it. I suspect those with autism have a more fluid or looser identity. Identity mostly comes from copying others, and applying that to ourselves, but if that process is disrupted then building an identity becomes harder. 

Anyway, don't take my words verbatim, just my ideas nothing more.

I always take these ideas as contemplation fodder so I’m thankful for the answer. 

there’s probably some truth in what you’re pointing toward regarding identity formation like social mirroring and autistic differences in social processing. But I’d be careful about reducing autism to simply ‘weak theory of mind’ because modern understanding is moving away from that idea as a blanket explanation.

Many autistic individuals can understand others deeply…sometimes excessively deeply through analysis but may struggle with rapid implicit social interpretation in real time. That’s different from lacking empathy or lacking a theory of minds altogether. I’d also be cautious with the idea that identity mainly comes from copying others. Social mirroring certainly contributes, but identity appears to emerge from many layers like biology, temperament, nervous system structure, endocrine influences, embodiment, attachment, memory, social interaction, and self-reflection.

Ironically, many autistic people report not a weak identity, but an unusually persistent internal sense of self combined with exhaustion from masking and performing social expectations that feel unnatural. That has certainly been part of my own experience and the phase of exhaustion I’m currently at. Where I think discussions like this become dangerous is when a leap is made from ‘autistic people process identity differently’ to ‘therefore trans identity is simply confusion or imitation.’ That doesn’t logically follow.Autistic individuals are often less socially conformist, more introspective, and more likely to question imposed roles rather than automatically absorb them. So the same observations could support the opposite interpretation: that some autistic people are less capable of suppressing internal incongruence for the sake of social harmony.

In my own case, having a DSD complicates things further because we’re not talking about a purely social or conceptual phenomenon. There are biological developmental variables involved from the outset. I think these ideas are worth contemplating carefully, but I’d avoid collapsing a very complex interaction of biology, neurology, embodiment, and social development into a single explanatory mechanism.

A lot of the problem I find is A lack of understandable communication between divergent ways of processing and one trying to pathologies the other. 
 

my wife is very good at interacting with me. She does a lot of animal behaviour work so is clued into highly sensitive nervous systems ( she communicates with that, not my intellect) Humans are constantly faster, bigger, louder, overstimulating, desensitised, short attention etc so when someone like myself goes into an environment where there’s so much change, it interruptes the hyper focus I have my baseline in, it becomes very overwhelming very quickly. I tend to remove myself and enjoy the quiet and subtle nuances of natural environments instead.

I'm going to stop yhere cause I realise I’m diverging away from topic. 

 

[Ramanujan]

@Never_give_up look into MBTI . you maybe an NF in MBTI. NF men in MBTI have womanly traits. they are like  a woman trapped in a mans body