How to meet more people? Super lonely right now.

[Magnanimous]

Hey I'm in Uni now. I don't hang out with my High School friends as they weren't very good, and I'm feeling really lonely.

Any advice on how to meet more people?

[Leo Gura]

There are so many social events and spots at Uni. Start going.

Uni is as easy as socializing gets. It is much harder without Uni.

Edited 9 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Natasha Tori Maru]

I recall so many clubs and societies at uni - have you joined any? 

My high school mates where not friends, I discovered. Quite painfully. Merely aquantances born of the convenience of shared circumstance. The high school > University transition can be difficult. It's one of the biggest, if not the biggest, change you have faced so far. 

My first long term boyfriend I met at a social club at uni 😁

[Magnanimous]

@Leo Gura My city only has a population of 170k

But I obviously need a girlfriend at my age so I'm gonna start daygame at Uni, at malls, and on the street. I will go clubbing when I get my liscence.

How many approaches a day for daygame would you recommend?

[Magnanimous]

11 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

I recall so many clubs and societies at uni - have you joined any? 

My high school mates where not friends, I discovered. Quite painfully. Merely aquantances born of the convenience of shared circumstance. The high school > University transition can be difficult. It's one of the biggest, if not the biggest, change you have faced so far. 

My first long term boyfriend I met at a social club at uni 😁

I've only joined 1. How many did you join @Natasha Tori Maru?

Also aren't you in Australia? I'm in Aus as well.

How'd you get through the high school > Uni transition in terms of friends?

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Magnanimous first year? I went hard - book club, Buddhist society, character creator & world builders guild, chess club, drawing and painting club, science students society, mathematics & statistics society, physics society. I think that's it. University of Melbourne. 

I dropped out of a lot of them, but first year I just went crazy exploring the new world. Chess club, drawing and painting and character creator/world building guild were the best. Met some good mates there. True earnest weirdos totally authentic to themselves 😁

The transition for me was hard. I have to realise I was only being invited or speaking regularly to my high school mates due to shared obligations. Beyond that I had nothing in common with them. It took a year for those friendships to dissolve. But that time I had made 2 mates at uni and they opened up a huge social circle. I was always quiet and shy. Always introverted. But I have a Machiavellian side that comes out to play. I would lean more towards being an ambivert in retrospect. Despite the quietness, I was always able to have deep conversations with anyone. And I have a natural ability to understand alternate perspectives (in fact I have trouble not seeing things from multiple perspectives). I think this is why I was able to connect and make new friends. Real friends.

But to do this I had to push past my natural inclination to sit and draw at home, read or do creative stuff. It was lucky the friends I did make really pushed me! Like we talking rock up 7am it's pancakes time! Or 11pm mariakart marathon. Very spontaneous but good for my development.

Did you have close friends at high school? None of mine were close, or came close to understanding who I was. Uni guys got it though! It was only me, 1 chick and 8 guys in our circle.

[Jannes]

I regularely went to a table tennis bar alone. It was hard in the beginning and I didnt socialize much. Gradually I made it my home and know a lot of people now. 

[YIDIRYIDIR]

4 hours ago, Magnanimous said:

Hey I'm in Uni now. I don't hang out with my High School friends as they weren't very good, and I'm feeling really lonely.

Any advice on how to meet more people?

You have so many options in University. just be everywhere, try everything, join anything and expose yourself to lots of social situations. eventually you'll figure it out, you just need some exploration and experimentation. 

[iamlite]

Haha I remember my time at uni

Best moment of my life, it inspired me for everything

A lot of socialization and friends

[iamlite]

I think that dating is very easy at university. Just socialize with anyone, go to all events, and clubs, and parties. 

If you like some girl, you can ask her out on a date or go to some university activity

I think it is also good to make some good friends, so that you can support each other and share interests

[Sucuk Ekmek]

Just keep the numbers up. At one point I was dancing myself alone in the salsa club. Never give up.

[caspex]

I think true friendship is born out of shared experience and hardships. I think exposing yourself to many people should get you a few acquaintances to crack jokes with or share some time with. To convert them into friends you should plan hangouts and things to do together away from uni. Some people you click with instantly, those are the best.