Where to find a girlfriend

[Boost]

Where to socialize and have a girlfriend? I feel really lonely. I was never been able to connect really with other people. Somebody channelled my higher self and he said that "you are looking for a depth that the avarage third density interaction does not provide. Thus what you feel as an inability to connect is actually a refusal of your deeper mind, body, spirit complex to accept shallow or orange ray power based connections. You are seeking the green ray resonance, but the seeking is currently masked by the fear of being misunderstood." I'm a male with 4/10 looks. I regularly go to the church or gym and sit in the park of the city, but this isn't getting me any new connections. I don't really want to cold approach women on the street, because it ususally unpleasant for them and also I'm a unusual guy so I maybe won't be able to talk with her as an avarage person. I don't have been in any bar or club, I fear from them.

[Spiral]

If you are afraid of rejection and being misunderstood, you will not let people in. If you do not let people in you won’t connect. If you don’t connect and you’ll feel lonely. 

If you don’t socialize enough you’ll become more unusual and struggle more socially. This makes socializing even more difficult.

If you go to the gym for instance you can start there. Just be more friendly, put on a smile. Say hi to strangers, don’t expect things to lead anywhere there. That sort of thing takes time

[Boost]

I just don't know where can I socialize

[Spiral]

@Boost I get that, you can do so anywhere. Sure you might find more stage green people at certain places for instance. The particular place isn’t going to make a meaningful difference. Familiarity is more important, or in other words places you frequent. Like school and a job, the gym. A bar. Or wherever else you go.

In other words, the location question is a red herring.

Edited 2 hours ago by Spiral

[Human Mint]

Make a friend at the gym and start going to bars with him.

Patience and consistency.

[Leo Gura]

32 minutes ago, Boost said:

I just don't know where can I socialize

You need to move to a big city where there are more places to socialize like bars, clubs, streets, malls, cafes, etc.

You are going to have to face your fears to succeed in this. Stop trying to avoid it or looking for a loophole. Shortcuts don't work.

Edited 2 hours ago by Leo Gura

[QVx]

40 minutes ago, Boost said:

I just don't know where can I socialize

I think you mean you don’t know where you can socialise which feels comfortable.

[Terell Kirby]

If you don’t like drinking and loud music: Yoga studios, gym, parks, art festivals, coffee shops, Whole Foods / Trader Joe’s.

Moving to big city is important - you also want to stay in fairly close proximity to where all the action is — metro/downtown and surrounding areas

[Rigel]

As long as you need someone to feel ok, you’ can’t have healthy relationships. You don’t need to solve all your issues and be a saint but you do need to be able to feel happy on your own. It’ll hurt to admit but feeling lonely is very unattractive. Good news is feeling lonely and being alone are different things and the one you need to solve is within your control.

Go to any activity that interests you for you, for the activity itself and not for the ulterior motive of using someone to fix you. Those are the people you will vibe with. Create your joy from scratch and share it with them freely.

Edited 36 minutes ago by Rigel

[Elliott]

Volunteer. Plenty of opportunities right now with earth day.