Where to find a girlfriend

[Boost]

Where to socialize and have a girlfriend? I feel really lonely. I was never been able to connect really with other people. Somebody channelled my higher self and he said that "you are looking for a depth that the avarage third density interaction does not provide. Thus what you feel as an inability to connect is actually a refusal of your deeper mind, body, spirit complex to accept shallow or orange ray power based connections. You are seeking the green ray resonance, but the seeking is currently masked by the fear of being misunderstood." I'm a male with 4/10 looks. I regularly go to the church or gym and sit in the park of the city, but this isn't getting me any new connections. I don't really want to cold approach women on the street, because it ususally unpleasant for them and also I'm a unusual guy so I maybe won't be able to talk with her as an avarage person. I don't have been in any bar or club, I fear from them.

[Spiral]

If you are afraid of rejection and being misunderstood, you will not let people in. If you do not let people in you won’t connect. If you don’t connect and you’ll feel lonely. 

If you don’t socialize enough you’ll become more unusual and struggle more socially. This makes socializing even more difficult.

If you go to the gym for instance you can start there. Just be more friendly, put on a smile. Say hi to strangers, don’t expect things to lead anywhere there. That sort of thing takes time

[Boost]

I just don't know where can I socialize

[Spiral]

@Boost I get that, you can do so anywhere. Sure you might find more stage green people at certain places for instance. The particular place isn’t going to make a meaningful difference. Familiarity is more important, or in other words places you frequent. Like school and a job, the gym. A bar. Or wherever else you go.

In other words, the location question is a red herring.

Edited 19 hours ago by Spiral

[Human Mint]

Make a friend at the gym and start going to bars with him.

Patience and consistency.

[Leo Gura]

32 minutes ago, Boost said:

I just don't know where can I socialize

You need to move to a big city where there are more places to socialize like bars, clubs, streets, malls, cafes, etc.

You are going to have to face your fears to succeed in this. Stop trying to avoid it or looking for a loophole. Shortcuts don't work.

Edited 19 hours ago by Leo Gura

[QVx]

40 minutes ago, Boost said:

I just don't know where can I socialize

I think you mean you don’t know where you can socialise which feels comfortable.

[Terell Kirby]

If you don’t like drinking and loud music: Yoga studios, gym, parks, art festivals, coffee shops, Whole Foods / Trader Joe’s.

Moving to big city is important - you also want to stay in fairly close proximity to where all the action is — metro/downtown and surrounding areas

[Rigel]

As long as you need someone to feel ok, you’ can’t have healthy relationships. You don’t need to solve all your issues and be a saint but you do need to be able to feel happy on your own. It’ll hurt to admit but feeling lonely is very unattractive. Good news is feeling lonely and being alone are different things and the one you need to solve is within your control.

Go to any activity that interests you for you, for the activity itself and not for the ulterior motive of using someone to fix you. Those are the people you will vibe with. Create your joy from scratch and share it with them freely.

Edited 18 hours ago by Rigel

[Elliott]

Volunteer. Plenty of opportunities right now with earth day.

[AION]

 If you have the face only a mother could love, church is the best option. Go to different ones. Most women go to church to connect for something serious.

[Rafael Thundercat]

4 hours ago, Boost said:

Where to socialize and have a girlfriend? I feel really lonely. I was never been able to connect really with other people. Somebody channelled my higher self and he said that "you are looking for a depth that the avarage third density interaction does not provide. Thus what you feel as an inability to connect is actually a refusal of your deeper mind, body, spirit complex to accept shallow or orange ray power based connections. You are seeking the green ray resonance, but the seeking is currently masked by the fear of being misunderstood." I'm a male with 4/10 looks. I regularly go to the church or gym and sit in the park of the city, but this isn't getting me any new connections. I don't really want to cold approach women on the street, because it ususally unpleasant for them and also I'm a unusual guy so I maybe won't be able to talk with her as an avarage person. I don't have been in any bar or club, I fear from them.

 

 

wish a good study. I am 44 and I date a girl of 19. 

 

 

 

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

A sense of purpose, or the sense that you are contributing value to other people, does override lonelines. I get such a good feeling when I objectively know that I contributed to something worthy, that the good feelings from it can last for the rest of that day. It's actually pretty decent ROI from a completely selfish point of view in terms of mental health. Girlfriend is not even that important, who cares. But volunteering would be lowkey underrated if it was more common and available, but it's not so much really. Also not that easy to make yourself usefull to society, society seems to need us less and less as time progresses. Maybe once all the jobs dissapear people will just start going out for no reason whatsoever cause they'll be so bored, and create problems out of thin air that they'll be able to volunteer for

[ExploringReality]

14 hours ago, Terell Kirby said:

If you don’t like drinking and loud music: Yoga studios, gym, parks, art festivals, coffee shops, Whole Foods / Trader Joe’s.

Moving to big city is important - you also want to stay in fairly close proximity to where all the action is — metro/downtown and surrounding areas

Target as well. 

[Ryan M]

I live in Las Vegas, 33 years old, above average looking, good shape w a 6 pack, make close to 500k a year and can’t really get dates to save my life lol. Been single for 4 months, talked to dozens of girls and spent a lot of money on dating apps. It’s the only thing in life that basically seems impossible, making a million dollars online was easier. I’ll just visit Asia a couple times a year I guess

Edited 4 hours ago by Ryan M

[Elliott]

6 minutes ago, Ryan M said:

I live in Las Vegas, 33 years old, above average looking, make close to 500k a year and can’t really get dates to save my life lol. Been single for 4 months, talked to dozens of girls and spent a lot of money on dating apps. I basically just gave up it’s not really worth the effort. It’s the only thing in life that’s seems impossible, making a million dollars online was easier. I’ll just visit Asia a couple times a year I guess

Just hire a matchmaker, you'll have a date every weekend.