Struggles with Game as an INFP

[ROOBIO]

Okay so something I've been sitting with around pickup, it was genuinely one of the hardest things I've ever done, and I think I finally understand why.

As an INFP, I couldn't detach. Every approach carried real weight. The fear and anxiety weren't surface level, they went deep, like each interaction was somehow connected to whether I was actually worthy of love. I took everything to heart and I couldn't switch that off no matter how hard I tried.

But when I did connect with someone? It was intense. Intense connection, real intimacy, something that felt almost beyond just dating. Like I was actually seeing the person and they could feel it.

I think the standard pickup metrics, approaches per night, number closes, pull is so stupid, they were never built for someone like me. They're measuring extraverted sensing performance and I'm just not wired that way.

Anyone else feel like the whole framework was designed for a completely different type of person?

@Leo Gura was it easy fo you to detach as an INTP?

Edited 3 hours ago by ROOBIO

[Leo Gura]

13 minutes ago, ROOBIO said:

Anyone else feel like the whole framework was designed for a completely different type of person?

Of course. Game is for extroverts.

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@Leo Gura was it easy fo you to detach as an INTP?

Hell no.

Game is just very hard for introverts.

You gotta seriously rewire your mind and do uncomfortable things.

You have to not think while you do it. You need to be in party fun mode. Not logic mode.

Edited 3 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Oppositionless]

Interesting . I'm an extrovert (ENTP) although I have my own struggles with game. My strength has always been social circle , I wonder if in some cases introverts have an advantage in cold approach in that they can be less concerned with approval.

[Leo Gura]

15 minutes ago, Oppositionless said:

introverts have an advantage in cold approach

No way.

Game for introverts is like showers for cats.

Edited 2 hours ago by Leo Gura

[mmKay]

How do you differenciate if you're an introver or an extrovert? As of now I define myself as an introverted extrovert. I absolutely need people in my life once in a while to be happy, fulfilled and sane. Also other people bring s lot of meaning to whatever I aspire to in life. But it gets too much very quickly and I need to retreat into my isolated shell where I can recharge and turn inwards.

 

Can't tell if I'm infp or enfp. Leaning on enfp-t for now

Edited 2 hours ago by mmKay

[Leo Gura]

4 minutes ago, mmKay said:

But it gets too much very quickly and I need to retreat into my isolated shell where I can recharge and turn inwards.

Haha!

That's an introvert.

Introverts are not Unibombers living in a  shed.

Extroverts go socialize to recharge. And they can't stop yapping verbal diahrea.

Edited 2 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Leo Gura Does pickup teach you to sit with and endure discomfort? Without making it the central aim - obviously the pootang is the aim  

[Leo Gura]

27 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Does pickup teach you to sit with and endure discomfort?

Teaches a man to man up and take action as it is needed. And to not care about rejection.

It desensitizes you to rejection.

Edited 2 hours ago by Leo Gura