Leo can't fix you because you are Neurodivergent

[Hojo]

@Joshe Saying they don't have the structure but can realize the not having of a structure is beyond retarded. If you can read a book that points out your lack of structure and you can understand what its talking it about it means you have it. Or it would be like a book teaching you a colour you've never seen.

Maybe for the autistic punching himself in the face its true but not for you an intelligent being 

Edited 1 hour ago by Hojo

[Joshe]

23 minutes ago, theleelajoker said:

Me: recommending a book that shows how easily (parts of) the brain fools us when building models. And how we stick to it despite overwhelming evidence. (Watzlawik is also a good source)

You: "my model is correct"

😂😂😂

Me: What he pointed out is trivial to me. 

You: Gloss over the potentially devastating point about seeing distinctions as useless abstractions. 

You're allergic to distinctions that you think involve "identity". But notice how you're fine with other distinctions. 

I can hold distinctions about people separate from identity, so it's not a problem for me, but this rubs you the wrong way. See our conversation from several months ago about the attractiveness scale from 1-10. Whether you like it or not, these distinctions exist. It is possible to hold them without ego-interference.

Trying to ignore the distinction that one thing is more beautiful than another thing is to deny reality. It is possible to notice/accept the distinction without an unhealthy response to it. 

Edited 1 hour ago by Joshe

[Xonas Pitfall]

2 hours ago, theleelajoker said:

I'm unique, with a unique perspective of life. Same as anyone else.

I’m uniquely unique. I’m so unique that I’m special in my own way, but I also recognize that everyone else is special and unique too. I’m uniquely unique in a way that makes me special, but the kind of special that only works if everyone else is also special, which means my uniqueness depends on your uniqueness, which then loops back and confirms mine again. I’m so uniquely unique that I have to acknowledge everyone else’s uniqueness just to keep mine functioning properly. That makes me special, but only in a very normal way, the most average kind of special possible, like a perfectly balanced human being with an average IQ and an unremarkable label that I don’t use because labels would interrupt the loop.

I don’t divide people into neurotypical or neurodivergent, because that would make things asymmetrical, and my uniqueness requires symmetry. So instead I remain normal, which is its own special category of unique, which brings us back to the beginning, where I am uniquely unique again, but only because everyone else is too. I am special 

[Carl-Richard]

ND and NT are just funny words for being different or similar to other people, which applies to everybody and in different ways. It's a spectrum. Masking is what everybody does, it's essentially about aligning yourself with an outside social standard. Some are just worse at picking up the required standards, some just feel like they have to mask more or are just less comfortable with it than others. They will maybe identify with a label like ND or autistic. But it can be a trap to identify yourself too much with such labels or use them to think you somehow are not fit or don't belong in society.