I compare myself to you guys

[jacknine119]

I am super weak with girls. I even don't remember when I fucked girl. In 2 days I have date. She told me yes to my offer today and whole day I am super super excited think about how I fuck her how I meet her, I feel like world is mine. But then on the forum I read some guys comments about their sexual partners. It means nothing to them. It's easiest for them and I felt super bad after reading this. Why am I such excited and proud when it's very normal thing for others to fuck girls.

[Leo Gura]

Meeting a new girl is always exciting. If it isn't exciting something is wrong.

Take it easy man. Don't compare yourself to someone who has 10-20 years on you.

Everyone started at 0.

You should be excited.

And try not to be so crass about it. "Fuck her" << this is a bad attitude. Treat women as humans.

Edited yesterday at 08:24 AM by Leo Gura

[theleelajoker]

Everyone is unique. But if you still want to compare - why not compare with someone that doesn't have date? Someone that is sick? Someone that is lieing in the trenches of Eastern Ukraine right now, alone, slowly bleeding to death? 

Every expectation towards the date will create pressure and takesaways joy. If I was you, I would maximizing presence in the date without any further goal.

That's it. Be as present as you can, in the moment. Rest will come as it happens.

[Ramasta9]

Comparison is the thief of joy and self worth.

[Looks]

Thief is the comparison of joy and net worth

[meta_male]

14 hours ago, jacknine119 said:

I am super weak with girls. I even don't remember when I fucked girl. In 2 days I have date.

It's a matter of perspective. For some guy going on a date feels impossible. And someone else reading this is probably thinking: I can’t even say I’ve ever slept with a girl. 

There's always someone ahead and someone behind.

[Rigel]

Because actual sex is not like the fantasy of it you are creating in your mind. It is exciting for sure but I feel like you don’t have realistic expectations. And to be honest, you are probably repelling women by being obsessed with it. Be more nonchalant if you want to have more fun on dates. Sex is not an end. You’ll be the same unfulfilled person after sex if you are deficient before it.

[pablo_aka_god]

8 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Meeting a new girl is always exciting. If it isn't exciting something is wrong.

Take it easy man. Don't compare yourself to someone who has 10-20 years on you.

Everyone started at 0.

You should be excited.

And try not to be so crass about it. "Fuck her" << this is a bad attitude. Treat women as humans.

@Leo Gura serious question, what's wrong with being crass? what if my mind thinks in these terms? I like such terms bc they feel more real to my current needs

Edited 23 hours ago by pablo_aka_god

[pablo_aka_god]

17 hours ago, jacknine119 said:

I am super weak with girls. I even don't remember when I fucked girl. In 2 days I have date. She told me yes to my offer today and whole day I am super super excited think about how I fuck her how I meet her, I feel like world is mine. But then on the forum I read some guys comments about their sexual partners. It means nothing to them. It's easiest for them and I felt super bad after reading this. Why am I such excited and proud when it's very normal thing for others to fuck girls.

@jacknine119 You are not alone! I get upset when I see someone getting success in this area while I don't! Jealously is real.

Have to work deliberately to manage it.

 

[Salvijus]

Because you want to be as cool as me. Perfectly understandable. No shame in that. 

[Hojo]

@pablo_aka_godI hear a guru say if you want fuck something the universe will fuck you.

[CARDOZZO]

On 12/01/2026 at 5:22 PM, jacknine119 said:

I am super weak with girls. I even don't remember when I fucked girl. In 2 days I have date. She told me yes to my offer today and whole day I am super super excited think about how I fuck her how I meet her, I feel like world is mine. But then on the forum I read some guys comments about their sexual partners. It means nothing to them. It's easiest for them and I felt super bad after reading this. Why am I such excited and proud when it's very normal thing for others to fuck girls.

You solve the "dating problem" when you start dating all women.

Stop choosing woman. Develop high testosterone to improve your relationship w/ women in general.

You should date all of them, no matter age, race, beauty, scales (1-10).

Do not go out with underage/minor girls.

Edited 8 hours ago by CARDOZZO

[Lucasxp64]

It's definitely not normal for me because I'm too much of a recluse working on some inner stuff, and I ended up wasting years coping by getting my romantic and sexual needs half-fulfilled with women online that lived too far because I was doing it unconsciously. It's very easy to get stuck in comfort zone when it comes to women. Was that some kind of success? It gave me at least insight into their psychology, but it wasn't fully fulfilling to me not getting women in person. Like I said, I repeat, I have a lot of stuff I'm working in my life, otherwise if I continued with that online addiction I'll distract myself too much and won't have the kind of life and kind of real world relationships I want.

It's possible to be a loser like me too stuck in a limbo, there are all kinds of gradients lol.

I'm sure there are probably guys out there that are very wealthy, but the women that like them are leeches. Or they are very physically attractive guys, but they have inner issues that makes all of their relationships toxic and draining. Or regular guys that can't get girls that they feel are attractive enough to them.

I hope she is all you want and need.

Edited 15 hours ago by Lucasxp64

[Leo Gura]

8 hours ago, pablo_aka_god said:

@Leo Gura serious question, what's wrong with being crass? what if my mind thinks in these terms? I like such terms bc they feel more real to my current needs

You are going to lose girls with that attitude because you are not treating them well. It will create serious problems for you and it will be hard to untrain that bad habit.

Your barbarian ways will backfire.

It is a mistake to treat people as sex objects.

Edited 15 hours ago by Leo Gura

[jacknine119]

@Leo Gura And Leo, We don't treat them as sex object okay I got it and don't we play with them? I mean push/pull flirt method for example and what game teaches us. Or disagree with her first 5minutes what she says and after agreeing etc.

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[theleelajoker]

Wtf

16 minutes ago, jacknine119 said:

@Leo Gura And Leo, We don't treat them as sex object okay I got it and don't we play with them? I mean push/pull flirt method for example and what game teaches us. Or disagree with her first 5minutes what she says and after agreeing etc.

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WTF?  What game teaches you? Are you a robot? 🤖 Are you also making plans how to kiss her? 💋 

Ok this is my plan: First slight touch upper lip, the I use tip of my tongue, only tip to gently search her tongue, then I make a 0.65 second break, then left half of her lower lip, while I use my left hand - LEFT only - to touch her head and take a 0.64 step towards her, but only if her left foot is closer then her right. Again a break to swallow my saliva, and... then.... shit, do I use tongue or lips? What was the plan again???

Edited 6 hours ago by theleelajoker

[meta_male]

2 hours ago, jacknine119 said:

I mean push/pull flirt method for example and what game teaches us. Or disagree with her first 5minutes what she says and after agreeing etc.

You're mixing up flirting with tactics like negging and other strategies. Techniques can still be objectifying, even if socially acceptable. When the frame is "how do I manipulate her emotions to get validation/sex" that comes from insecurity and women feel it immediately.

2 hours ago, theleelajoker said:

shit, do I use tongue or lips?

First tongue, then lips. Depending on the length of your tongue, you can also skip the step toward her.

[theleelajoker]

21 minutes ago, meta_male said:

First tongue, then lips. Depending on the length of your tongue, you can also skip the step toward her.

Thanks! I really got confused. How was it with introducing the idea of sex? Do I do it after the third negging and the sixth body contact? Or the sixth negging and the third body contact? Ah shit how was the rating again? Touching hand 0.5 points, touching hip 0.85 points and touching ass 1.5 point?

And after a total of 5 points I can go for sex, but only if I hide my true intent to a degree of at least 6/10 right? So saying "let's have coffee at my place" is a ok? Or should I it be a more subtle "I live close by and I forget [ ....] and I really need it?"

Guys, I'm so happy that there are all this dating coaches and videos nowadays! Really, without these instructions I would not know how to do ANYTHING. Must have been really super hard for people in the last centuries! How did they ever get some flirting and even sex going AT ALL?

Edited 4 hours ago by theleelajoker

[Leo Gura]

3 hours ago, theleelajoker said:

Are you also making plans how to kiss her?

Actually, as a newbie he should make such plans because it is not easy to know how to kiss a girl when you are inexperienced.

So yes, literally make a plan to kiss her.

[theleelajoker]

59 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Actually, as a newbie he should make such plans because it is not easy to know how to kiss a girl when you are inexperienced.

So yes, literally make a plan to kiss her.

Best make two plans. If the first one fails.

Or three, to have a backup for the backup. 

Nothing more satisfying and fulfilling than making plans and using them to try to control reality in a 1:1 setting of a date. 

Since reality is totally foreseeable and the magic of life - especially the magic of  flirting and love making - is following plans, that's my favorite hobby! Making plans on how to interact, and describing reality with words - all to not be present and in the moment! Genius!

When I was inexperienced in sex I had plans for which positions in which order, how deep I put my dick inside and how many thrusts. I even made plans re the power or my thrusts! Got a whole box of charts and concepts if someone is interested! 

Edited 2 hours ago by theleelajoker