Is this girl receptive or am I just wasting my time ?

[Rishabh R]

She was from my class in college. Whenever we talk now on phone the conversation lasts for half an hour(30 minutes ).She asks lot of questions about me. We also talked on phone during college and face to face. In the convocation when we were getting our degree she was the one who waved hi to me when she saw me and she did this twice during convocation. 

There have been some girls in my past who approached me and initiated the conversation with me. Whenever I talk to a girl I too feel anxiety but I do it anyway. Recently I opened this up to a therapist and she said me to think about my good qualities atleast once while talking to people and your confidence will increase. By the way I have been on antidepressants and antipsychotics since 7 years due to anxiety after getting rejected from a girl while I was in high school.

Majority of girls didn't even cared to talk to me.I am a 25 year old single now out of college and on apprenticeship.

In college she was a girl who wasn't harsh with me but treated me decently when I was suffering from chronic rejection where single girls rejected me and later dated some other guy which first made me envious then resentful.

I even feel extremely resentful seeing couples getting intimate. A part of me says that I have never held any girl's hand and this guy is so far ahead.Also even if I talk to a girl other guys get pissed off and try to attack me. 

I have watched Leo's - How to get laid series over and over again. Read Models by Mark Manson 3 times. By the way I have fear in myself that I will never find someone (I have questioned this belief ) and will get arranged married to a girl who is already experienced in dating ( Yeah I live in India ).

So, Is she receptive or just being friendly?Am I wasting my time talking to her ? 

[theleelajoker]

Are you truly interested in her?

If yes, go and approach her. Find out what she feels for you.

If you're not interested in her, doesn't matter if she's receptive for you. 

If it's hard for you to approach her because of fear of rejection, because of your past experience and your current perception of yourself, ask you this:

How much does it matter if she will potentially reject you when you are already rejecting yourself? 

Because if your interested in her, but you don't follow your feelings, that's what you are already doing. 

(Credit to Joe Hudson I saw him pointing this out in a coaching)

[LastThursday]

6 hours ago, Rishabh R said:

Am I wasting my time talking to her ? 

Connection between people is a beautiful thing. First and foremost let yourself enjoy the connection. Is it better to capture a butterfly and study it, or to watch it fly?

[Raze]

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Edited 22 hours ago by Raze

[Inliytened1]

7 hours ago, Rishabh R said:

She was from my class in college. Whenever we talk now on phone the conversation lasts for half an hour(30 minutes ).She asks lot of questions about me. We also talked on phone during college and face to face. In the convocation when we were getting our degree she was the one who waved hi to me when she saw me and she did this twice during convocation. 

There have been some girls in my past who approached me and initiated the conversation with me. Whenever I talk to a girl I too feel anxiety but I do it anyway. Recently I opened this up to a therapist and she said me to think about my good qualities atleast once while talking to people and your confidence will increase. By the way I have been on antidepressants and antipsychotics since 7 years due to anxiety after getting rejected from a girl while I was in high school.

Majority of girls didn't even cared to talk to me.I am a 25 year old single now out of college and on apprenticeship.

In college she was a girl who wasn't harsh with me but treated me decently when I was suffering from chronic rejection where single girls rejected me and later dated some other guy which first made me envious then resentful.

I even feel extremely resentful seeing couples getting intimate. A part of me says that I have never held any girl's hand and this guy is so far ahead.Also even if I talk to a girl other guys get pissed off and try to attack me. 

I have watched Leo's - How to get laid series over and over again. Read Models by Mark Manson 3 times. By the way I have fear in myself that I will never find someone (I have questioned this belief ) and will get arranged married to a girl who is already experienced in dating ( Yeah I live in India ).

So, Is she receptive or just being friendly?Am I wasting my time talking to her ? 

If she is spending that much time and investing that much in you than no youre not wasting your time.  But you need to get more aggressive.  Set up a time to meet with her and take it to the next level.  You need to always be pushing it to the next level with a girl.

[CARDOZZO]

You are resentful because you don't communicate what you think/feel.

 

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[aurum]

There's little information here other than that you talk on the phone and she has been nice to you in the past.

I'd say don't waste your time speculating. Ask her out and you'll know.

[Leo Gura]

@Rishabh R You can test her by dropping some vague signs of sexual intent. When you interact with women, it should be clear to them that you want them in a sexual way. You are failing at sexual intent. Sexual intent can be communicated without being explicitly sexual.

You can drop subtle hints to her by saying stuff like:

• "I want to squeeze you like a ripe fruit"
• "I'm going to bite you"
• "You've been a bad girl"
• "You're giving me impure thoughts"
• "Hey baby"
• "Get your butt over here"
• "I want to cuddle you so hard right now"
• "I want to pet you"

You should be saying stuff like that from day 1.

Stop talking to her like you're her dickless friend.

Edited 6 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Rishabh R]

@Leo Gura I told her that I like talking to you she said that she also liked talking to me. ( We said this to each other twice )I also said it to her that I enjoy talking to her and she gave a different response each time.Such as I am cooler than everyone. Then I said her that you are a narcissist jokingly. I complemented her on her looks over text and she replied with a laughing emoji. When I complemented her over call she said it's all right .Also I asked to meet her in person since we are both in same cities. She told to inform her if I am free.

Edited 4 hours ago by Rishabh R

[Inliytened1]

2 hours ago, Rishabh R said:

@Leo Gura I told her that I like talking to you she said that she also liked talking to me. ( We said this to each other twice )I also said it to her that I enjoy talking to her and she gave a different response each time.Such as I am cooler than everyone. Then I said her that you are a narcissist jokingly. I complemented her on her looks over text and she replied with a laughing emoji. When I complemented her over call she said it's all right .Also I asked to meet her in person since we are both in same cities. She told to inform her if I am free.

Women are very sensitive creatures and sensitive with words.  If you don't have anything nice to say my advice is dont say it.  Just a helpful hint.  They like the strong silent type especially once you perform in the bed.  After that you barely have to say anything just listen and be attentive.  Thats what a woman wants.

Edited 2 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Leo Gura]

3 hours ago, Rishabh R said:

I told her that I like talking to you she said that she also liked talking to me.

That is too weak. Your sexual intent is not strong enough. You are acting dickless.

You are not out to talk, you are out to fuck. Own it. Carry it proudly. Be a man.

Edited 1 hour ago by Leo Gura