Anyone else alone at new years?

[Jannes]

I didnt plan well for today and my plans B, C, D all dont work out so I am home alone. Its all just peer pressure to do something today but I cant help but to feel left out. 

Anyone else in the same situation?

[Salvijus]

You have us and most importantly you have me - your best friend forever. 

[Jannes]

I am learning to knit right now. First steps successful. 

[Salvijus]

7 minutes ago, Jannes said:

I am learning to knit right now. First steps successful. 

That's the spirit. 

[Beans]

25 minutes ago, Jannes said:

I am learning to knit right now. First steps successful. 

LOOVE I also crochet 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

We are ahead in Australia so new years is donskies 😃

Had my brother over for a gaming night. Usually it's a non-event for me. New year is my birthday.

[Jannes]

Happy New years everybody !!

and Happy Birthday to You @Natasha Tori Maru  

[Natasha Tori Maru]

4 minutes ago, Jannes said:

Happy New years everybody !!

and Happy Birthday to You @Natasha Tori Maru  

My phrasing was so poor! What I meant was - I count my new year as my birthday (not 1/1/**) if that makes sense 🤪

I stuffed that up so bad with how it was worded! 

Happy new year right back at you! Love the knitting btw - have you tried crochet? I do both. But lately I have been teaching myself macreme 

[Jannes]

1 minute ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

My phrasing was so poor! What I meant was - I count my new year as my birthday (not 1/1/**) if that makes sense 🤪

I stuffed that up so bad with how it was worded! 

Happy new year right back at you! Love the knitting btw - have you tried crochet? I do both. But lately I have been teaching myself macreme 

Ah got it! No worries. 

Yeah I started with crochet but its not really for me. The whole reason why I do knitting is for emotional regulation as adhd makes emotional processing more difficult. With knitting its said that it is more flow inducing. I dont know about macreme, is it hard?

[Yimpa]

I’ll be spending time with family tonight  

And Happy NYE, from Leo ^.^ 

[Ramasta9]

Yes, most of my life is alone, even when I am with family, i am alone, i see through everyone, all the lies, suppression with drugs and alcohol, fake happiness, fake smiles, cameras and phones recording everything and not enjoying the moment. This new years was the most alone I've felt in a while while being in the company of others. It was also the first new years without my partner which was hard for me. The two people I would of loved to spend the evening with under the stars somewhere, unfortunately they were at other events / places. I simply surrendered to the nagging families wishes this time, cause I never go to their gatherings, and glad I am back home alone again, feeling much more whole being with myself than with a crowd full of falsities and suppression of what real and needs to be felt.

I couldn't stand the artificiality of modern humans ever since i was born, I see and feel through it all. Was a big reminder for me, can never really go back to old people and ways stuck in a 3D matrix and useless small talk. If I wasn't around my family it would simply be another day for me, I don't even celebrate my birthday anymore, just intuitively live, time works differently and aging process becomes flexible.

I was like this when i was younger too, partying with my friends, after they all pass out, i was in great joy to sneak home and go in my little room/cave and either go online and play games or explore deeper stuff with substances or simply watch a good movie or read a good book.

Makes me realize how traveling in my van, living and camping in nature everyday was a far richer and more profound life full of surprises.

I am feeling my next move is to sell everything and book a one way flight and travel / live minimalist and throw more things away.

I am starting to realize the deeper i go into my journey, the less I have, the richer and more whole I feel in my spirit.

The only thing I miss here is my garden and having access to your own land where you can grow food and raise animals.

That's all deep souls really need, nature, and animals, humans are optional. 

It was just me and my cat in the end, and we snuggled and i feel asleep.

He knows exactly what I go threw and need.

 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

3 hours ago, Jannes said:

Ah got it! No worries. 

Yeah I started with crochet but its not really for me. The whole reason why I do knitting is for emotional regulation as adhd makes emotional processing more difficult. With knitting its said that it is more flow inducing. I dont know about macreme, is it hard?

Knitting is much more unforgiving  - if you mess up crochet it is easy to somewhat compensate.

But knitting? If you miss or drop a stitch it can be game over! Part of the beauty of knitting is the clean, regular symmetrical stitches. Tension is a bit more challenging in knitting also.

Macrame isn't too difficult - more memorizing a series of knots and recalling which ones create the sort of design you want. The most time consuming and annoying part for me is cutting all the yarn in equal lengths with enough for the knots! If you cut to short the whole design ends up too short >.<

[Sugarcoat]

You can evaluate for yourself what category you fall mostly in, are you the one who feels challenged when being alone, or with other people, and let that guide you regarding what situation to seek out for growth. 

So personally I find it easy to be alone. I am able to get sufficient stimulation from other activities than irl socializing. I don’t have much fomo at all, because I don’t create/crave much of an identity around being someone who “has a life” (in conventional sense) - this could be aspect of why you feel “left out “ (or I am completely wrong here)

You may try to identify what are the blocks and neurosises inside you that are obstacles in your journey (could be for example internalized peer pressure like you mention) and does it help you to be alone to overcome them, or does it help you to socialize to overcome them. Or it can be both in different situations . So then you actively seek out the kind of situation (in this case socializing or being alone) that gets you in the direction you wanna develop in 

So you can see alone time and socializing as an opportunity for growth, and use accordingly . If you’re into that kinda approach to life . But also don’t obsess neurotically about it, if you miss either (socializing in your case or alone time) then understand sometimes life circumstances happen and we are put in sub optimal situations. Take this moment as it is and see what can you do from this moment, rather than stressing about what could’ve been….

[enchanted]

Make Arab friends and celebrate the Muslim new year in January.

Edited 9 hours ago by enchanted

[Someone here]

Everyone here has no life let's not talk bonkers jk lol😁

I've actually read a lot of studies on this..intellectual people and heady folks who dare to pierce behind the surface of things and can see through the whole social matrix in few seconds are usually introverted nerds. 

 

[Carl-Richard]

The last three or so New Years eve was alone but today I was with basically all my friends from high school. And I was the least sober one even while completely sober (kind of a joke but you know 😉). It's funny how much you pick up state from others in a let's say not so sober mood 😆

Edited 9 hours ago by Carl-Richard

[Carl-Richard]

3 hours ago, Ramasta9 said:

I couldn't stand the artificiality of modern humans ever since i was born, I see and feel through it all. Was a big reminder for me, can never really go back to old people and ways stuck in a 3D matrix and useless small talk.

There's like a spectrum of fakeness all the way from the most mundane shit to the most synchronous things your mind can produce, but that's also essentially fake or an act you're putting on as an ego, as a self speaking and talking about stuff. Learn to accept the act in all its forms.

Edited 8 hours ago by Carl-Richard

[Hojo]

I havent celebrated a special date in 10 years. Always alone.

Edited 8 hours ago by Hojo

[ExploringReality]

@Natasha Tori Maru happy new years love

[Natasha Tori Maru]

11 minutes ago, ExploringReality said:

@Natasha Tori Maru happy new years love

You toooo! 

So much respect for your drive and passion for this strange reality we inhabit ❤️