I have no patience for developing valuable skills

[blankisomeone]

As I've mentioned in my previous post, nothing really comes easy to me. I wish I had financial abundance so I never had to worry about money again in my life. But money only comes in as a result of offering value to others. And building up something of value takes time. And I have no patience for things that take too much time to actualize. I feel a sense of urgency. I wanted more money NOW. Guess I'll just give up, I can't bear the long process... I wonder what's at the root of this impatience. I wonder if I can speed up the process somehow, idk

My fantasy is I wish I already had a natural skill that required no time to develop, just like a gift that I could naturally offer others. But I guess it doesn't work that way right?

Edited 14 hours ago by blankisomeone

[Leo Gura]

Your expectations are just wrong.

It doesn't work that way for anyone. Even talented people work their asses off to train to be great and to perform.

Modern culture has spoiled you with an entitled attitude. You expect life to be too easy. Life has never been that easy. That is some Hollywood/Disney-spun fantasy.

Everything great requires deep patience, hard work, and long term investment.

Even just having a child is a 20-year investment. Even after 20 years of life that child will still be a fool.

You need an attitude change and a strong work ethic.

Even if you had the skill it would still be lots of work. I have the skill of speaking, but each new video still requires lots of work. Great work cannot be effortless.

Meaning and satisfaction comes from working hard and investing in yourself every day. Anything effortless isn't meaningful. It is meaningful because of how much you had to work to develop it. So pick a domain and start investing. You don't need to wait for years to feel good about yourself. You can start feeling good now, just knowing you're training hard and investing.

Edited 14 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Deziree]

Your expectations seem unrealistic. That’s not how progress works for anyone. Even highly talented people have to put in years of focused effort to reach excellence.

Modern culture often creates the impression that things should come easily, but that’s rarely true. Real achievement has always required patience, discipline, and long-term commitment,ideas of effortless success are more fantasy than reality.

Anything meaningful demands sustained work. Even raising a child is a decades long investment, and maturity itself takes time. Skill alone is never enough, attitude and work ethic matter just as much.

Even when you do have ability, the work doesn’t disappear. Quality is built through consistent work, not ease.

It may help to reconsider your expectations. Growth and mastery don’t come easily for anyone, including those who are naturally talented. Talent still requires training, repetition, and persistence to turn into something meaningful. We’re often surrounded by stories that make success look quick or effortless, but those narratives leave out the long periods of patience and hard work behind the scenes. Real progress has always taken time.

Anything worthwhile is a long-term investment. Even raising a child spans decades, and learning continues well beyond that. Skill matters, but without commitment and effort, it doesn’t go very far.

Even when you have experience, the work remains. Good work isn’t effortless,it’s built.

Your expectations don’t match reality. That’s not how success works for anyone. Talent doesn’t replace effort, skilled people still train hard and put in serious work to be good at what they do.

The idea that life should be easy is a myth. Real achievement has always required patience, discipline, and long-term effort. There are no shortcuts.

Everything meaningful takes time and investment. Skill alone won’t carry you, mindset and work ethic are essential. Even when you’re capable, the work is still demanding.

Strong results are earned, not effortless.

[ExploringReality]

45 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Your expectations are just wrong.

It doesn't work that way for anyone. Even talented people work their asses off to train to be great and to perform.

Modern culture has spoiled you with an entitled attitude. You expect life to be too easy. Life has never been that easy. That is some Hollywood/Disney-spun fantasy.

Everything great requires deep patience, hard work, and long term investment.

Even just having a child is a 20-year investment. Even after 20 years of life that child will still be a fool.

You need an attitude change and a strong work ethic.

Even if you had the skill it would still be lots of work. I have the skill of speaking, but each new video still requires lots of work. Great work cannot be effortless.

Meaning and satisfaction comes from working hard and investing in yourself every day. Anything effortless isn't meaningful. It is meaningful because of how much you had to work to develop it. So pick a domain and start investing. You don't need to wait for years to feel good about yourself. You can start feeling good now, just knowing you're training hard and investing.

Omg Leo, not blowing smoke up your ass, but you are a gold mine of wisdom that even this throwaway post to the user is hitting me and transforming my mind. It's motivating and inspiring 

[Hojo]

You can do it very slowly.

Just look. 5 - 10 mins a day just look at what you want to do.

You are like trying to hold the boulder of time all at once when you dont have to expect anything.

Its an ADHD thing I think.

Stop thinking and just look at whats happening now.

If you feel like its a boulder of work it will not go gracefully. All you need to do is pick up a pebble at a time.

You can pick up one pebble a day.

If you just know you only have to pick up a pebble a day you will eventually see its easy and pick up 2 pebbles a day. Then 3 then 4.

If you want to learn something you can just learn one word about the thing a day.

Edited 11 hours ago by Hojo

[bazera]

@Leo Gura

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Meaning and satisfaction comes from working hard and investing in yourself every day. Anything effortless isn't meaningful. It is meaningful because of how much you had to work to develop it. So pick a domain and start investing. You don't need to wait for years to feel good about yourself. You can start feeling good now, just knowing you're training hard and investing.

Have you ever had crisis in meaning, like when you lost all the meaning you had and as a result didn't know what to do in your life or felt hopless and desperate?

I struggle with that myself from time to time, but as you said, picking a domain (fitness, relationships, creativity, spirituality, etc) and investing daily, weekly, monthly creates that meaning and satisfaciton for sure, but in the end you realize that you create it, if you stop investing, you will lose the meaning, but I guess that's how it should be.

For example, when I had a relationship, I stopped investing in myself and in other domains of life and I was leeching most of the meaning for my life from that relationship, which in the end crumbled and I suffered because of it. That was a very hard learned lesson of meaning creation and to not put all the eggs in one basket and distribute, and also I realized the importance of consciously creating meanings in life, as oppose to unconsciusly creating it, like this relationship that I had, I realized that I was leeching all the value from it after breakup, not before. 

@blankisomeone

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I wanted more money NOW. Guess I'll just give up, I can't bear the long process...

Every major change in life requires time and patience, plus consistent daily investment over weeks and months, that's just the reality of it. If you have to lose weight, earn money in ethical ways, make yourself more attractive, etc, that's how it works in all of that, for all of us. So if you give up, that means you don't really want those things, because guess what, it's equally hard for us as well who don't give up. 

Edited 9 hours ago by bazera

[Leo Gura]

44 minutes ago, bazera said:

Have you ever had crisis in meaning, like when you lost all the meaning you had and as a result didn't know what to do in your life or felt hopless and desperate?

Yes. 2 years ago during my long break from the channel I had to give up my life purpose and all the meaning I created.

Of course meaning isn't bulletproof. You can lose it. But you can also create new, higher orders of meaning, and you can drop meaning altogether and ground yourself in the Being of God.

Really, you want both.

If you work on creating ambitious projects that align with your top values, you will hardly ever run out of meaning.

Edited 8 hours ago by Leo Gura

[UpperMaster]

6 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Yes. 2 years ago during my long break from the channel I had to give up my life purpose and all the meaning I created.

Of course meaning isn't bulletproof. You can lose it. But you can also create new, higher orders of meaning, and you can drop meaning altogether and ground yourself in the Being of God.

Really, you want both.

If you work on creating ambitious projects that align with your top values, you will hardly ever run out of meaning.

What was your life purpose before, what is it now?

[OBEler]

@Leo Gura sounds like a very intense time. I hope you can share what you went through this time in a blog video one day. Whatever happened you improved a lot in your video makings and plog posts.

[SimpleGuy]

Get a job which will develop your work ethic. Get to see that you don`t really understand how hard life is. We are all just scraping by in some way or another. Get stage orange core fundamentals.

[Entrepreneur]

9 hours ago, blankisomeone said:

As I've mentioned in my previous post, nothing really comes easy to me. I wish I had financial abundance so I never had to worry about money again in my life. But money only comes in as a result of offering value to others. And building up something of value takes time. And I have no patience for things that take too much time to actualize. I feel a sense of urgency. I wanted more money NOW. Guess I'll just give up, I can't bear the long process... I wonder what's at the root of this impatience. I wonder if I can speed up the process somehow, idk

My fantasy is I wish I already had a natural skill that required no time to develop, just like a gift that I could naturally offer others. But I guess it doesn't work that way right?

Receiving a financial windfall without having to earn it is a recipe for misery in life, believe it or not.   That is why Warren Buffett is not leaving his egregious wealth to his children and is giving it to charity instead.

I promise you that whatever happiness you think you would get from a financial windfall would be short-lived because you didn't earn the money through your own efforts.   You would be even more miserable when you went broke after having all that money.  So stop searching for that path and instead accept that fulfillment is something you must earn for yourself through serious effort.

If you rid yourself of your existing mentality and consistently point your mind in the right direction, you will get where you want to be.  If you started doing that today, in as little as one month, you could look back and recognize that you are already more successful and on your way to accomplishing whatever goals are meaningful to you, financially or otherwise.

The inner feelings of success, self-esteem, optimism, and fulfillment are only a month away once you make the switch.  Then you build on your minor progress and savor life along the way, knowing in full confidence that your life is going to keep getting better.

Is one month too long a time for you?  If it is, you are effed.

[Elliott]

18 minutes ago, Entrepreneur said:

That is why Warren Buffett is not leaving his egregious wealth to his children and is giving it to charity instead.

This is a lie told to the masses by all billionaires, his kids don't work and they're rich, their job is 'philanthropist', lol. He's donating his wealth to charities alright, his KIDS charities. His 'farmer' son also just so happens to be CHAIRMAN of Berkshire Hathaway, obviously an earned roll, lol, farming really taught him about hedge fund management 🤣. Charities are how wealthy launder money to avoid the 40% estate tax, they'd rather direct that 40% exactly where they want over 10 years running a charity than lose it in 1 day. His kids were millionaires from inheritance before buffett has even died. The tax strategy for the wealthy is to give the inheritance EARLY, they got theirs at 19, you save millions in taxes.

Edited 4 hours ago by Elliott

[Ishanga]

12 hours ago, blankisomeone said:

As I've mentioned in my previous post, nothing really comes easy to me. I wish I had financial abundance so I never had to worry about money again in my life. But money only comes in as a result of offering value to others. And building up something of value takes time. And I have no patience for things that take too much time to actualize. I feel a sense of urgency. I wanted more money NOW. Guess I'll just give up, I can't bear the long process... I wonder what's at the root of this impatience. I wonder if I can speed up the process somehow, idk

My fantasy is I wish I already had a natural skill that required no time to develop, just like a gift that I could naturally offer others. But I guess it doesn't work that way right?

What would happen is you would become so bored with life that you would go on drug binges everyday numbing yourself all the time..not so healthy..

Yes some ppl have more natural skills, John McEnroe was probably the most naturally skilled tennis player ever, the way he hit the ball is not the way most everyone hits a tennis ball and he could generate power and finesse and touch with it like a master violin player, and he practiced little in his prime, it just came to him, but he got lazy and the other guys got better...

All skill takes some work, find out what interests You and then work at it, and do something You luv that will motivate You more...

[AION]

You have a TikTok brain. And no amount of lecturing will change this because you are a product of your environment. Only a new environment and gradual reconditioning will heal you. You need to cut out the sources of high dopamine like porn, TikTok, fastfood etc. If you are young you can still change your brain. If you are old just accept yourself and the hard knock life. 

[Schizophonia]

You set your goals too high maybe.
For example you could get a job at a store and in a month you'd have a good amount of money; and if you want to do something else, you can pay for training (though you don't even need it anymore with YouTube and AI) for, for example, a manual trade, and with that you can offer craft services that will bring in more money.

I posted in the thread about success and ego that those with the "least ego" are the ones who succeed the most and the fastest because, since they don't have the pressure to produce something "big," they can do lots of small things that will ultimately add up to something important later on.

The idea of depriving yourself now to eat your bread later is for me a total illusion and people who believe they can operate like that end up lazy, scammers, or doing shit.

 

Edited 47 minutes ago by Schizophonia

[blankisomeone]

1 hour ago, AION said:

If you are young you can still change your brain. If you are old just accept yourself and the hard knock life. 

I'm 26 am I still fixable?

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I got some pretty good responses here. Thanks. A lot to think about😭

Basically I need a major mentality shift and lifestyle changes.

I'm now working at a grocery store basically just receiving the products the truckers bring, checking if everything's correct. Sometimes I work the cash registers as well. Sometimes I help bag the groceries. Sometimes I help customers find or carry stuff. And I oversee 2 people working the cash registers.

I make minimum wage in Brazil. I created a spreadsheet for my monthly expenses like Leo suggested in one of his videos, and looking at the numbers feels terrible Lol. I just really feel very stuck about how to make more money. So I'm kinda making it my 2026 theme to understand more about finances.

Edited 27 minutes ago by blankisomeone

[siasatmadar]

"I feel a sense of urgency", "I wonder what's at the root of this impatience"

It might be helpful to contemplate about the underlying cause for this sense of urgency. It could be mental-health related (depression, anxiety, adhd,  trauma, etc.) In that case, I suggest you seek support from a psychotherapist AND psychiatrist.

[Schizophonia]

14 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Your expectations are just wrong.

It doesn't work that way for anyone. Even talented people work their asses off to train to be great and to perform.

Modern culture has spoiled you with an entitled attitude. You expect life to be too easy. Life has never been that easy. That is some Hollywood/Disney-spun fantasy.

Everything great requires deep patience, hard work, and long term investment.

Even just having a child is a 20-year investment. Even after 20 years of life that child will still be a fool.

You need an attitude change and a strong work ethic.

Even if you had the skill it would still be lots of work. I have the skill of speaking, but each new video still requires lots of work. Great work cannot be effortless.

Meaning and satisfaction comes from working hard and investing in yourself every day. Anything effortless isn't meaningful. It is meaningful because of how much you had to work to develop it. So pick a domain and start investing. You don't need to wait for years to feel good about yourself. You can start feeling good now, just knowing you're training hard and investing.

Once again you emphasize deprivation, as if this viewpoint made you productive, revolutionary when it doesn't.

My father for example has a fairly low ego as you might imagine based on your criteria; that is to say, kind and present in the moment.

And he's a skilled craftsman who has always earned a good living and been a business owner.
Most truly productive people have this "psychological makeup," and the people you suggested as "achievers" with big egos are actually just garbage when they're not simply heirs. A big ego works when you read Wikipedia pages (i tease you), when you're a YouTuber, a coder, when you do training, coaching, dropshipping, and other ramdoms things like that.
You won't find a great craftsman because you don't renovate a house with ego, but rather with a love for a job well done.
The same goes for doctors, technicians, musicians, artists, railway workers, and great philosophers, great politician and so on; all those who actually produce and don't pretend; they can produce because they enjoy their work, not because they're in a "I have to do something great" delusion - it doesn't work like that.

The separation between pleasure and effort is an illusion; it's pleasure that motivates you. "Dopamine," to use a vulgar and materialistic term, is what drives you. The problem is that people are losing energy because of new technologies and drugs, and/or precisely because they have an inflated ego, which paralyzes them because great things are made up of small things.

That's what having a developed prefrontal cortex means: instead of thinking "I'm going to be king of the world," as a gorilla might say in its own language, you focus on less egotistical things like building a shelter, hunting, gardening... And who is more productive, a gorilla or a human.

Edited 2 minutes ago by Schizophonia

[Schizophonia]

1 minute ago, siasatmadar said:

"I feel a sense of urgency", "I wonder what's at the root of this impatience"

It might be helpful to contemplate about the underlying cause for this sense of urgency. It could be mental-health related (depression, anxiety, adhd,  trauma, etc.) In that case, I suggest you seek support from a psychotherapist AND psychiatrist.

It's paranoia.

https://fr-wikipedia-org.translate.goog/wiki/Hypertrophie_du_moi?_x_tr_sl=fr&_x_tr_tl=en&_x_tr_hl=fr&_x_tr_pto=wapp

[Joshe]

14 hours ago, blankisomeone said:

I feel a sense of urgency.

That "urgency" is fear. Fear of staying locked into what you perceive as hell, and you see no clear way out. This creates a very heavy load. 

This desire to escape is so strong that it dominates your experience. It nags at you all the time and pressure accumulates. 

"Patience" is not the antidote. You only need patience if you continue feeding the problem.

The antidote is to forget about the outcome and submerse yourself in work, and trust that reality will see you through while you get your ducks in a row. 

The good news is you're still young. You have plenty of time but you have to get going because it goes by fast. 

Breaking free from your loop will take some time, but the mind is malleable. If you distract it with work for long enough, it will drop the fear that currently dominates. Doom thoughts keep your fear alive. Starve it out by replacing the doom thoughts with productive action, such that the slate of consciousness is preoccupied with processes other than fear generation. 

Edited 5 minutes ago by Joshe