Women should really be the ones chasing me

[Something Funny]

I am starting to wonder, why am I even bothering with chasing girls. Thinking about how to approach them, initiate conversations, ask for their number, worry if they like me or not. 

It should really be the opposite. Girls should be the ones wanting to be with me, chasing me, and seeking my approval.

The way I see it, approaching someone by defaults puts them in a position of being higher value than you. So naturally, you should seek to be in this higher status position.

I am not there yet, and I think all the "pickup" stuff is nice at the beginning as a self-improvement tool, but eventually I think I will transition to simply working on myself, building my social status and charisma, developing a good social circle, and having women try to date me. 

[Hojo]

Change the word should with are.

[Something Funny]

@Hojo like a law of attraction thingy? 

[Hojo]

@Something Funny maybe or maybe they are, when you walk down the street and a woman is following you is she chasing you?  You have no idea.

[LastThursday]

@Something Funny you are hitting on the correct mindset, but having mindset is not enough. Women chase men for different reasons that men chase women. You have to externalise your "I am high value" mindset. But also you have to understand what "high value" means to most women, not what you think high value means to you.

[Something Funny]

Just now, LastThursday said:

@Something Funny you are hitting on the correct mindset, but having mindset is not enough. Women chase men for different reasons that men chase women. You have to externalise your "I am high value" mindset. But also you have to understand what "high value" means to most women, not what you think high value means to you.

But the whole point is to be yourself and be whatever this vision of your best self is. Otherwise you are just trying to get other people to like you. And that's not something a high value person, before who everyone drops to their knees, is concerned with. 

[Something Funny]

@LastThursday wouldn't you also want people to like you for who you genuinely are? Instead of trying to be someone they like

[Hojo]

@Something Funny Are you genuinely a person who chases woman? Or are you not being yourself?

[LastThursday]

1 minute ago, Something Funny said:

But the whole point is to be yourself and be whatever this vision of your best self is. Otherwise you are just trying to get other people to like you. And that's not something a high value person, before who everyone drops to their knees, is concerned with

The bit in bold is the important bit. You are already yourself now, not tomorrow. When you actually become the best version of yourself you can, then women will chase you. Believe me most people are nowhere near their full potential.

It would be amazing if we could all be loved for who we are now, but in reality we are invisible to 99.9% of the people around us, they are indifferent to us. To get noticed, and to get love, you have to shout quite loudly, wave you arms around and jump up and down, all the time. Even then only a few more extra people will notice you. Only your parents will love you for who you are.

The whole point of pickup is to improve your chances of getting noticed, that's why it's called "game", because it is a game you play.

I will say though, that if you are fully aligned within yourself, and in charge of your life in a sovereign way, then people will subconsciously pick up on that, and that in itself will get you attention. i.e. when you're fully "actualized" as a human.

 

[Something Funny]

@LastThursdayyeah, that's what I meant. Your fully actualized version. I just meant, creating that version according to your own vision vs what women want.

Edited yesterday at 09:38 PM by Something Funny

[LastThursday]

@Something Funny but be careful with being "fully actualized". You could be a fully actualized hermit, and that still will not make women chase you. You still have to play the game of attraction and provide the value that women want in a man. In fact providing value in general is the number one way to make you more visible to people. Work out what women value and then things will become a lot easier.

[aurum]

They don't need to "chase" you. Chasing is actually problematic.

What you actually want is surrender. There is a difference.

[Ramasta9]

You simply need to be yourself, disconnect from the ideas the world has planted upon you and figure out who you really are and whats truly "you".

The more "your authentic self" you can be, the more unique you become that no one else is or can be, and that is what is truly "attractive", something absolutely unique, authentic and original, because no one else can replace that but you.

You have a unique fingerprint for a reason, so you can leave a unique imprint no one else can.

 

Edited 11 hours ago by Ramasta9

[Daniel Balan]

@Something FunnyThis is the same as saying that the money should be entering my pockets on their own volition, why work for them. Everyone wants money the same way every man wants women. You have to compete against other horny males for a woman. That's why your attitude will lead to eternal masturbation.

[Leo Gura]

That is literally what celebrity does.

Girls do occassionally send me emails to fuck. Just cause I am known online.

But it is not enough. You gotta be mega famous for that to be effective.

And you still need skill to handle the girl. Even if she flys into your bedroom.

Edited 11 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Schizophonia]

14 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

That is literally what celebrity does.

Girls do occassionally send me emails to fuck. Just cause I am known online.

But it is not enough. You gotta be mega famous for that to be effective.

And you still need skill to handle the girl. Even if she flys into your bedroom.

I should become a militant for the far right party of my country.

It's not a joke i could easily get a deputy/"congressman" job at 7500 euros per month and maybe become at least a little known lol.

 

Become an european deputy is even easier and won even better like almost 10k before income tax. 

Edited 10 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Leo Gura]

Those Nazi cheeks don't clap themselves.

Edited 10 hours ago by Leo Gura

[AION]

You don't need to be famous for girls to chase you. You basically have to master the skill of bread crumbing aka understand the nature of desire. 

[Tenebroso]

6 hours ago, AION said:

You don't need to be famous for girls to chase you. You basically have to master the skill of bread crumbing aka understand the nature of desire. 

Tell me more. Elaborate. In 2025 going into 2026 it feels at least like you need to be either extremely attractive or famous to have women coming to you.

[AION]

19 minutes ago, Tenebroso said:

Tell me more. Elaborate. In 2025 going into 2026 it feels at least like you need to be either extremely attractive or famous to have women coming to you.

You don't need to be a super model looking guy but you need to check the bare minimum and that make it up with charisma, good vibes and emotional connection. 

So that is what you are offering to her but what is equally important is how you sell yourself to her. You don't want to actively sell yourself because that screams desperation. You want to be like Apple, have a good product (which is a well groomed you) and let the selling do itself.

Most guys push themselves onto the girl which is disgusting from her point of view. Imagine going to the Apple store and the employees trying to push you to buy shit. You would walk away and that is what she does. But if you stay pleasant, charming, make some jokes, do a wink and a nod, you will have a much better chance with no pressure and just allow her to play with the knobs.

That is refreshing for her because most guys are just pushy and desperate.