Who else lives like a hermit

[Zeroguy]

I am interested does anyone else lives like hermit?

Do you like it or not?

[Someone here]

Not hermit but I do live alone for years now and it has pros and cons . When you're alone you are free from society you feel better if you are introverted. But if you plan to have a wife or girlfriend you obviously need to learn how to socialize and mix with people. 

[Lyubov]

3 hours ago, Someone here said:

Not hermit but I do live alone for years now and it has pros and cons . When you're alone you are free from society you feel better if you are introverted. But if you plan to have a wife or girlfriend you obviously need to learn how to socialize and mix with people. 

Yes I would say there definitely are pros and cons to it. I’m married now but I in the past I prioritized introvert living and focusing on things other than relationships. I think the cliche word of “balance” is important here. 

[Someone here]

17 hours ago, Lyubov said:

Yes I would say there definitely are pros and cons to it. I’m married now but I in the past I prioritized introvert living and focusing on things other than relationships. I think the cliche word of “balance” is important here. 

Nice .Happy marriage my friend and I wish you all good. Most men these days abandon marriage and choose to sleep around with hundreds of women which is immaturity. Marriage is responsibility and maturity. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

I live alone and very very insular. I do not have much need for general conversation or socialising. But I have had a LOT of experience when younger. Like extroverted social / family mode up until around 35 years old. I just naturally grew out of the requirement for so much variety. I spend most of my free time in meditation, physical practice, nature, reading/research and drawing/art.

But my work is quite counter to my insular and peaceful homelife. I work in a family owned business that requires extensive socialisation. Additionally, construction is fast paced and based on people. Problems, always problems. Stress everywhere. 

So while I live alone with my dog in a very hermit like life on my time, outside of that is 100% people. 

Not sure where I fit hermit-wise really. If I had the choice (no financial pressure) I would dedicate all my time to inner work, art & body being.

[Ramasta9]

I been a hermit most of my life, then occasionally you meet someone and a love-story blooms, eventually heartbreak occurs, back to being a hermit, only stronger and more self-loving and accepting.

I've been to many spiritual and conscious gatherings, very few people I can meet at that deep level. Most are still surfing the surface layers, few are courageous enough to go deeper, to be truly alone and feel whole, even with another. The rarest thing of all is finding someone you can be silent with for hours and not a single word is needed. That's Rare !

I think the deepest souls will always be alone, and its both a blessing and a curse, blessing when you can truly make peace with it, curse when you cannot relate to anyone else and feel out of dimension altogether no matter the people or environment.

I've probably met three to five people in my life I can truly talk to and be seen and met at the same level.

Otherwise you always have to dumb down your conversations and it feels more draining than useful.

 

Edited Tuesday at 06:07 AM by Ramasta9

[Carl-Richard]

1 hour ago, Ramasta9 said:

Otherwise you always have to dumb down your conversations and it feels more draining than useful.

And they might feel the same way too unless they realize you're just different. I've peeked into what other people see that I cannot see that I was surprised in my arrogance that I couldn't see. What comes off as loud obnoxious behavior sometimes hides layers you might not see. They're still loud and obnoxious, but you're aloof and detached. You might feel them more in a certain way, but you might be entirely closed off to certain dimensions they're not. Not that you should gaslight yourself about your experiences, but just a curious observation.

Edited Tuesday at 07:38 AM by Carl-Richard

[Ramasta9]

1 hour ago, Carl-Richard said:

And they might feel the same way too unless they realize you're just different. I've peeked into what other people see that I cannot see that I was surprised in my arrogance that I couldn't see. What comes off as loud obnoxious behavior sometimes hides layers you might not see. They're still loud and obnoxious, but you're aloof and detached. You might feel them more in a certain way, but you might be entirely closed off to certain dimensions they're not. Not that you should gaslight yourself about your experiences, but just a curious observation.

I am aware, my words are my greatest obstacles online. Its a highly limited medium to express the fullness of a soul or spirit.

[Jehovah increases]

I never used to be. I was always going out, at least 4 times a week with friends, for like 30 years, and always having friends just pop over, which never bothered me, so you can be both extroverted and then become introverted,  but in the past 6 years, I have become somewhat of a recluse, which I am used to now.

Edited Tuesday at 10:01 AM by Jehovah increases

[Vestibuowl]

Absolute hermit for sure

[soos_mite_ah]

I could if I really wanted to. I have a remote job and if I were to get all my groceries and food delivered, I could easily go months without talking to people face to face. 

But no, I try to make it a point to go out side my place once every couple days whether it's to work out, run errands, hang out with people, or just touch grass in any other way lol. 

[Lyubov]

On 11/18/2025 at 7:29 AM, Someone here said:

Nice .Happy marriage my friend and I wish you all good. Most men these days abandon marriage and choose to sleep around with hundreds of women which is immaturity. Marriage is responsibility and maturity. 

Thanks, but I don't get your second part. I don't think most men are sleeping with even 10 women. Most men can barely get a date... hundreds of women? like half of guys under 25 are incels in the western world. Sleeping around is not what most men are doing over getting married, they are completely invisible to the opposite sex. like less than 1% of men have access to 100 women.

[Ajay0]

Around 15 years back I quit my job and lived like a hermit for a couple of months using my savings and a creative frugal lifestyle so as to reduce expenses.

I took the time to read books, contemplate,  gain perspective and practice meditation. 

An interesting insight I found then was that my life had slowed down to the point where I  found myself enjoying the beauty of the full moon at night , something which I had never done before. Same with the beautiful orange sun set at evening. 

I even wondered why no one else around is observing such free beautiful sights and seemed to be carried away by unimportant trifles with their minds elsewhere and not present.

I am not a hermit now but make it a point to slow down and enjoy the free sights of nature around in all its beauty. This always puts me in a good mood without fail and destresses me.

A guy can live in the most beautiful place and yet still miss its beauty due to unconsciousness or psychological time in past/future, and be perpetually miserable instead consequently.

[Yimpa]

F humanity; all I care about is Consciousness. I need more of it, and it ain’t gonna happen with others holding hands and singing kumbaya all the time . At a certain point you realize it’s  actually a waste of time. Best to be alone, take a psychedelic, and BAM you’re contemplating the nature of reality far deeper and more profound than any human can ever take you.

[Ramasta9]

1 minute ago, Yimpa said:

F humanity; all I care about is Consciousness. I need more of it, and it ain’t gonna happen with others holding hands and singing kumbaya all the time . At a certain point you realize it’s  actually a waste of time. Best to be alone, take a psychedelic, and BAM you’re contemplating the nature of reality far deeper and more profound than any human can ever take you.

Life is about inclusion not exclusion, remember that. You can be a hermit but also don't forget to love thy humans. Its a dance, an ebb n flow.

[Yimpa]

8 minutes ago, Ramasta9 said:

Life is about inclusion not exclusion, remember that. You can be a hermit but also don't forget to love thy humans. Its a dance, an ebb n flow.

Namaste outta my business... or else  

 

 

[Someone here]

13 hours ago, Lyubov said:

Thanks, but I don't get your second part. I don't think most men are sleeping with even 10 women. Most men can barely get a date... hundreds of women? like half of guys under 25 are incels in the western world. Sleeping around is not what most men are doing over getting married, they are completely invisible to the opposite sex. like less than 1% of men have access to 100 women.

Yes half of men struggle to even go on a date with a woman .the other half are not interested In marriage specifically as the form of relationship.  So I'm talking about those who do actually have success with women . There is a lot of statistics showcasing that marriage rates are declining in modern age .can you guess why? 

[Yimpa]

To date a hermit is to be dating yourself.

God is Love 

*breaks up*