Is 26 too late to get serious about socialising/pickup

[fabger]

I really want to get serious about this but since starting last year I haven't made much progress other then getting lucky a few times. 

Lack of effort, laziness ,a strong victim complex and self-deception are all big hurdles in this area of my life. Especially the victim stuff it's strong.

I like to delay things but I feel like my time is running short. I haven't been in a relationship since 2019 plus I don't have close friends either.

The image of me being a lonely middle aged man is terrifying.

[something_else]

It’s definitely not too late. I’d focus on making friends first though, having friends to do stuff with makes meeting women much easier

[aurum]

26 is an ideal time.

You can ask if it's too late when you're 46. 

[Sandroew]

Its not too late bro, dont stress yourself out like that. But dont let that make you complacent either. Go for it!

[Leo Gura]

I started at 27.

[Peo]

1 hour ago, aurum said:

You can ask if it's too late when you're 46. 

Wrong, not too late until you dead. I will do it until i am 50. 

I saw Leo posted on a post here he knew a 50 year old guy in Las Vegas who was pulling girls. Correct me if i am wrong Leo. 

Edited Wednesday at 09:03 PM by Peo
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[bazera]

@Peo The point was about starting and getting serious about this field, wasn't it?

So if you have like 20 years of experience, yeah you wont have a problem to game at 50.

Now imagine being 50 years old with maybe 1 relationship experience (wife) in your life, zero attraction skills and deciding to learn pickup and start dating again. I'd imagine that to be super challenging, for obvious reasons.

[Peo]

9 minutes ago, bazera said:

So if you have like 20 years of experience, yeah you wont have a problem to game at 50

Are you sure about that? Some people might go entire 20 years never speaking to a single women, you think they would have no problem to game at 50?

Sure it might be easier in terms of having money, but if you lack social skills it would be really hard. 

[bazera]

@Peo They will have huge problem, that was my point.

My point was that people who game at 50, probably already have gaming experience of like 20 years.

There wont be many noob old gamers at the club.

[Lord of Darkness]

4 hours ago, fabger said:

I really want to get serious about this but since starting last year I haven't made much progress other then getting lucky a few times. 

Lack of effort, laziness ,a strong victim complex and self-deception are all big hurdles in this area of my life. Especially the victim stuff it's strong.

I like to delay things but I feel like my time is running short. I haven't been in a relationship since 2019 plus I don't have close friends either.

The image of me being a lonely middle aged man is terrifying.

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[Hardkill]

5 hours ago, fabger said:

I really want to get serious about this but since starting last year I haven't made much progress other then getting lucky a few times. 

Lack of effort, laziness ,a strong victim complex and self-deception are all big hurdles in this area of my life. Especially the victim stuff it's strong.

I like to delay things but I feel like my time is running short. I haven't been in a relationship since 2019 plus I don't have close friends either.

The image of me being a lonely middle aged man is terrifying.

When I was your age, I used to think that maybe it was getting too late for me to learning pickup, dating, social skills, etc. 

I am glad that I was able to disprove that by the following year, which is when I really began to get real results. 

It was a very painful journey of self-improvement for me, but I only kept getting better and better with all of that in the long-run, including getting some sex partners without ever needing to pay for a hooker or escort and finally getting my first true gf ever by age 30.

I believe that I could've gotten even much better and faster results if I got to game in a big city practically every day as a routine lifestyle during my first years of improving my social and seduction skills.

Even when you get to your 30s, you will still be well into your prime for developing social and sex appeal, along with LTR experience. 

Plus, there is a reason why as a man in your 30s, 40s, and 50s you are generally at your peak potential years for a serious relationship, if you develop material success in your life by having a good career that you are happy with and make enough money for both you and your romantic partner to live off.

To be clear, having those things aren't even necessary to attract women for casual or short-term relationships. However, the greater your material success, the greater appeal you will have to women who want to lock down a guy for an LTR, especially for marriage. Moreover, accomplishing serious achievements in your life helps improve your self-worth, increases your confidence around others, and makes you look like an impressive catch.

Edited Thursday at 12:41 AM by Hardkill

[Ramasta9]

The moment you get "serious" the moment your life ends.

[RawJudah]

I’m 32 and considering socialising my ass off to get it over and done with. I can see that not socialising enough will come back to bite me later. 
I’ve had lots of friends and was very popular. But these last few years I’ve been isolating myself. 

[bazera]

@RawJudah

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I’m 32 and considering socialising my ass off to get it over and done with.

How are you planning to do that? Are you planning to reconnect with old friends, or going to bars / clubs for cold approach, or going to social events by yourself and meeting new people, or?

I'm looking for some ideas of the ways to socialize more myself.

[fabger]

@Hardkill

Thanks for the response. What kind of activities did you participate in? To meet girls and friends? In my experience nightclubs are only good for hookups.

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

2 hours ago, RawJudah said:

I’m 32 and considering socialising my ass off to get it over and done with. I can see that not socialising enough will come back to bite me later. 
I’ve had lots of friends and was very popular. But these last few years I’ve been isolating myself. 

That's the thing though, this is not something you can just do for a period of time and get it over with, it has to be a constant consistent thing. Like a consistent pro social orientation in life. But most of us are not wired like that. You'll always have to tolerate a lot of BS

[RawJudah]

3 hours ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

That's the thing though, this is not something you can just do for a period of time and get it over with, it has to be a constant consistent thing. Like a consistent pro social orientation in life. But most of us are not wired like that. You'll always have to tolerate a lot of BS

Yep. I live in a small town in the UK. I’d have to move to London and change my entire way of life in order to do it properly. That’s where people are, cities. 
I talk to people all day long at the moment but it’s never in a flirtatious way, it’s purely logical. 

[Peo]

I have done 160 approaches. Just need to keep up the grinding.  Even thought i have still not gotten laid or even kissed a girl, my skills is better then when i did my first approach. My first 20 approaches were so cringe, i want to die every time i think about them. 

[nerdspeak]

It’s an ideal age. The people who start at 20 become pickup-obsessed freaks. I was one of them for a time. Really harmed my life.

At your age you will be able to keep it in perspective and not let it control your life. 

Edited Thursday at 09:50 PM by nerdspeak

[nerdspeak]

6 hours ago, Peo said:

I have done 160 approaches. Just need to keep up the grinding.  Even thought i have still not gotten laid or even kissed a girl, my skills is better then when i did my first approach. My first 20 approaches were so cringe, i want to die every time i think about them. 

160 approaches is nothing. Think like a marketer. With an untested product you wouldn’t expect to make any sales on the first 160 ad engagements. 

Back in the day we’d do 160 approaches in a weekend. Not saying it’s good, it makes you crazy. But if you’re trying to learn pickup (admittedly a dubious pursuit), you need to crank volume at the top of the funnel for a while.