Is Seeing an Escort an Ethical Choice? Let's Talk Honestly

[aurum]

1 hour ago, PenguinPablo said:

I would assume this goes both ways.

Because both customers and the prostitute are doing this.

That's right.

The women are usually more professional. They know why they are in this business (money) and why they aren't.

 It's the guys that often end up cracking in these scenarios and catching feelings.

[Hojo]

If you never had sex and you are like 30 years old I would say go for it. If you are like 20 - 29 Id say wait. 

Having sex with a woman is very important for a mans life. 

Edited yesterday at 02:18 AM by Hojo

[Emerald]

8 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

No, making a dick ejaculate is easy. Housekeeping is difficult; housekeepers are brave people.

But capitalism doesn't reward useful work, so you end up with people who are useless but are millionaires and people who are useful but just survive.

It's not about difficulty... it's about value.

People don't pay more for something just because it's more difficult for the one doing it to do it.

People pay more for something because it provides them more value or solves a bigger problem for them.

So, of course a sex worker is going to charge more for sex work than a house-cleaner charges for house-cleaning.

First off, the sex worker will charge more because the sex worker is risking more... legally, psychologically, and safety-wise. The juice has to be worth the squeeze form the supply side of the bargain.

But also, from the demand side, sex is more in demand and valued than cleaning is... and it's harder to come by for men.

[aurum]

In some ways, seeing an escort is the polar opposite of doing pickup in your early 20s.

In your 20s, you probably don't have much money or social status. Pickup therefore forces you to win on sheer personality and logistics handling. This actually can add to the appeal of doing it. You feel like she's into you for YOU, not just because you pay her rent.

Seeing an escort is the reverse. Your personality is irrelevant. You don't have to solve any logistical problems at all. You just flash some cash and that's enough. You as a person are barely in the equation. It's anti-game.

[RendHeaven]

18 minutes ago, aurum said:

You as a person are barely in the equation. It's anti-game.

Booo

More game! Less hookers!

[aurum]

30 minutes ago, RendHeaven said:

Booo

More game! Less hookers!

 I feel you.

Escorts are not as fun, except for @Princess Arabia of course 

[Schizophonia]

18 hours ago, aurum said:

Okay, but the point is that’s still your perspective.

No it's objective.

A few seconds of orgasms in a random girl's pussy are less important to the community than people who can feed their families while helping the community through their job; it's obvious.

18 hours ago, aurum said:

It’s not safe to assume people will value community wellness over their sexual needs. It’s not safe to assume other people will value what you think they should value in general.

Indeed, that's the whole point of collectivism.

18 hours ago, aurum said:

There is no skirting the fact that escorts can consistently charge such high prices because the demand is there. Basic economics.

Escorts can be expensive because men are willing to make irrational decisions when they're horny and have a little money.
It's also expensive because it's so alienating that few women are willing to do it; there are plenty of women in need of money who are willing to be housekeepers, so you can exploit them more easily.

[Schizophonia]

16 hours ago, Emerald said:

It's not about difficulty... it's about value.

People don't pay more for something just because it's more difficult for the one doing it to do it.

People pay more for something because it provides them more value or solves a bigger problem for them.

So, of course a sex worker is going to charge more for sex work than a house-cleaner charges for house-cleaning.

First off, the sex worker will charge more because the sex worker is risking more... legally, psychologically, and safety-wise. The juice has to be worth the squeeze form the supply side of the bargain.

But also, from the demand side, sex is more in demand and valued than cleaning is... and it's harder to come by for men.

I said it had no significant value for the common good.

Even for the individual good; both the prostitute and the client are allied for different reasons which motivate the transaction.

[Princess Arabia]

On 8/6/2025 at 4:30 PM, Schizophonia said:

It's a minority of men

NO, IT'S THE MAJORITY. Hush, if you don't know much about this field. I've read all your comments in this thread and it's obvious you're speaking from speculations, you're assuming most of what you say and have no clue about this field in general.

Just about everything that most people assume about this field is FALSE. So much so, that I roll my eyes every time I hear them. @aurumknows what he's saying here, and you're contradicting him like you've been some type of escort or something. 

Edited 5 hours ago by Princess Arabia

[Princess Arabia]

22 hours ago, PenguinPablo said:

I would assume this goes both ways.

Because both customers and the prostitute are doing this.

Excellent!

[Schizophonia]

12 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

NO, IT'S THE MAJORITY. Hush, if you don't know much about this field. I've read all your comments in this thread and it's obvious you're speaking from speculations, you're assuming most of what you say and have no clue about this field in general.

Just about everything that most people assume about this field is FALSE. So much so, that I roll my eyes every time I hear them. @aurumknows what he's saying here, and you're contradicting him like you've been some type of escort or something. 

No, it's a minority. I'm more sociable than you and most people here and I know who frequents escorts.

Edited 5 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, Schizophonia said:

I said it had no significant value for the common good.

Common good is relative. That CEO might be able to do his work better now that he's had some release or relief with an escort that his wife wasn't providing and if it's the Ceo of a product you purchase and use that's of value to you, then yes it was for the common good. Your mind is very limited here and you have no idea why people may use escorts who uses escorts and the value it has on society in many different ways that your limited mind can't even begin to understand. Everything you've said here is pretty much describing escort work as a man cumming and ejaculating  in some pussy and how it's easy to do when in fact, it's usually the least common reason why men sees escorts. The ejaculation and cumming part is usually the bonus and the dessert. Some don't even care if they cum at all. The reason why this field is so diverse in what goes on is because it's clients are from all walks of life and in every category imaginable. Cut the crap about it's horny men looking to ejaculate. HORNY MEN LOOKING TO EJACULATE GO DO PICK-UP. In my years of doing this work, I think i've seen one single guy, exaggeration, of course, but it's so few I can't even remember any. 

Edited 5 hours ago by Princess Arabia

[Princess Arabia]

15 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

No, it's a minority. I'm more sociable than you and most people here and I know who frequents escorts.

OK, for the record, i'm an escort and been for quite some time (over10 yrs) Just so you know. Single clients in this field is rare but I won't argue with you here on this issue. Single guys sees escorts, not saying they don't, but it's not the majority. In fact, the majority are married surpass even guys in relationships and even long-term relationships. Even a guy I would guess is single, turned out to be married. I once dated a guy who seemed kind of gay, turned out he was married to a woman. Most older single men are widowers and if they're pass a certain age and don't want marriage anymore.

Edited 4 hours ago by Princess Arabia

[Princess Arabia]

2 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

Escorts can be expensive because men are willing to make irrational decisions when they're horny and have a little money.

Anyone can make irrational decisions when they have a little money including going to get married to a female they barely know. 

[Princess Arabia]

18 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

No, it's a minority. I'm more sociable than you and most people here and I know who frequents escorts.

Just you saying this is whack. How do you know this. My job requires me to be sociable. How can you be more sociable than someone whose living requires them to be sociable. You're speculating a lot.

[Princess Arabia]

I remember I had a journal here just for a short while when I would talk about my work as an escort and even showed pictures of myself on the job. The reason I did it was to show the vast areas this work can entail and what a woman can get paid for. Once I was in a bar while getting paid to just sit there and flirt with men. I didn't even have to get up from my seat, just smile twiddle my hair and look sexy. Another time I made Thanksgiving dinner for my client while on a 3day resort. Both were married. That's why I didn't show their faces and also I didn't have sex with either and neither came or had an orgasm. Sexual stuff yes but no intercourse and the main thing on the date was having my company and providing a service that didn't require cumming in a pussy.

I have many stories like that even though regular stuff too. It's very diverse what this field entails and it varies and ranges from very low-end to very high-end. The lower the end is the more work and less $$ and usually more on the single scale and the higher end is less work and more $$ and more on the married and relationship scale but not necessarily the case in either category. The flirt guy saved himself for his wife and the other guy well, cumming isn't a priority for him he aims to please. Get your facts straight. Many nomal things happen too like just normal sex stuff but i'm saying it's not all an escort does or what is even required to be one and even if you want to use the word prostitution. A prostitute can be a prostitute without even having sexual intercourse. 

 

Edited 4 hours ago by Princess Arabia

[Joshe]

5 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

cumming isn't a priority for him he aims to please

Strange breed 😂

[Joshe]

@Princess Arabia Do you stay busy? Does work get slow? How hard is it for you to find new work that pays your set wage? Or does your wage fluctuate? 

 

[Princess Arabia]

 I also for 5yrs straight, once a year, serviced the Police convention when they came into town. Yes, these were police officers and sergeants. They had a convention every year and for 5yrs they asked me to come back and entertained them. Won't get into the details but it was a party-type situation with booze and liquor in the main room and they all had their own private separate rooms. The main room even had female police officers and judges. They had strippers in the main room for entertainment for like an hour and then I would mingle with them all and stayed till dawn and did whatever. Made like $4,000 one three night trip. Never had intercourse. 

Teacher's conventions too, fire fighter's conventions, insurance agents conventions, boat shows, wine and beer tasting shows, all types of conventions plus just regular type dates with regular men and even couples doing anything under the sun; different strokes for different folks.  So, saying you're an escort or working girl doesn't necessarily equate to a man cumming in some pussy. I had more sex non-working than I did working. Matter of fact, that's why I hooked up on the side because I wasn't having sex and it felt impersonal. The regular guys, only two or three of them for the duration, compensated for intimacy. They all knew what I did, I even lived with one for a few years and no, they weren't pimps. None of that here. I'm just showing how just mentioning escort is just not enough to firm an opinion about this work. It depends on the type of escort and the kind of work involved.

 

[Princess Arabia]

18 minutes ago, Joshe said:

@Princess Arabia Do you stay busy? Does work get slow? How hard is it for you to find new work that pays your set wage? Or does your wage fluctuate? 

 

I'm kind of dwindling down now a bit and not so much like I used to but as far as how I would find work it would be in the casino night life or word of mouth or other girls or just meeting guys in general. It varies. No one way. Of course it fluctuates. I don't charge by the hour. I charge by the client.