Synthesis of gender/queer theory with pick up/seduction theory.

[Majed]

Gender theory teaches us that gender is performative. Pick up theory teaches us that seduction is about your behavior more than about your looks or possessions. If we intersect both insights, and say that straight feminine women are attracted to masculine men, then the behavior of that man determines if he's a man aka if he's masculine which determines whether he's going to attract the feminine women he wants. In essence seduction from the male perspective, is about creating a fiction of masculinity through behavioral mastery, to then perform and embody the masculine man ideal that attracts women. Even though in essence gender is fluid and non binary.

Edited 16 hours ago by Majed

[Majed]

@Leo Gura What do you think ?

[Emerald]

Yes, that's essentially true that pick-up is about gender performance... as are all actions taken to affirm one's own gender identity.

So, a man learning pick-up or "how to be Masculine" is about performing the male gender to feel more embodied in the identity of maleness.

So, I can see connections between the notion of gender performance related to trans identities and the gender performances that straight/cis people do to affirm their own gender.

It comes from the same motivation. 

[Majed]

@Emerald I cannot agree more.

[Leo Gura]

Not really accurate. Most of pickup is learning how to talk to a girl and drag her to a bedroom. You're not performing for her. You're doing what women require to have sex with them.

There is a process for sex to happen. Pickup is that process.

Edited 15 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Majed]

@Leo Gura But doesn't pick up teaches you to have masculine and manly qualities which can be considered a form of gender performance ?

[Sugarcoat]

All women are not naturally feminine nor are all men not naturally masculine but a portion is and then it’s not performative when it’s who you authentically are. 
 

 

 

Edited 15 hours ago by Sugarcoat

[Princess Arabia]

8 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Not really accurate. Most of pickup is learning how to talk to a girl and drag her to a bedroom. You're not performing for her. You're doing what women require to have sex with them.

There is a process for sex to happen. Pickup is that process.

😏Conditioning 

Edited 15 hours ago by Princess Arabia

[Something Funny]

1 minute ago, Sugarcoat said:

All women are not naturally feminine nor are all men not naturally masculine but a portion is and then it’s not performative when it’s who you authentically are

Unless your definitions of femininity and masculunity are wrong.

[Sugarcoat]

Just now, Something Funny said:

Unless your definitions of femininity and masculunity are wrong.

I don’t know exact definitions but it seems there are loose conventional definitions and that’s what I’m referring to

[Something Funny]

@Sugarcoat I think it's wrong. We don't do it with any other species. You don't come up with a set of norms for how a wolf should act and then judge an actual wolf, in real reality, whether it is wolfy or not. Whatever the wolf does is a wolfy thing to do, by definition.

[Sugarcoat]

Just now, Something Funny said:

@Sugarcoat I think it's wrong. We don't do it with any other species. You don't come up with a set of norms for how a wolf should act and then judge an actual wolf, in real reality, whether it is wolfy or not. Whatever the wolf does is a wolfy thing to do, by definition.

To be honest I don’t know enough people to be able to draw a conclusion about wether there is a tendency for an at least significant portion of women and men to somewhat fit into norms of femininity or masculinity . So I can’t say if the definitions are wrong. Few people btw expect women/men to fit into them exactly, it’s regarded quite loosely I think

[Schizophonia]

What’s the point of the topic ? 

[theleelajoker]

19 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

@Sugarcoat I think it's wrong. We don't do it with any other species. You don't come up with a set of norms for how a wolf should act and then judge an actual wolf, in real reality, whether it is wolfy or not. Whatever the wolf does is a wolfy thing to do, by definition.

Super wolfy post, loving it 🤣

[Sugarcoat]

3 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

What’s the point of the topic ? 

I’m guessing to expose the nature of seduction 

[Schizophonia]

26 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

I’m guessing to expose the nature of seduction 

It’s a bit strange because it lowkey hides incel vibe, but it’s softer than usual and the agression is directed toward LGBT themes.

Like a leftist incel lol 

I don’t say that to be mean

Edited 14 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Leo Gura]

57 minutes ago, Majed said:

@Leo Gura But doesn't pick up teaches you to have masculine and manly qualities which can be considered a form of gender performance ?

Of course there's some of that.

[Sugarcoat]

6 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

It’s a bit strange because it lowkey hides incel vibe, bust it’s soften than usual and the agression is directed toward LGBT themes.

Like a leftist incel lol 

I don’t say that to be mean

It doesn’t have negative tone

[Schizophonia]

2 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

It doesn’t have negative tone

You mean my message 

[Sugarcoat]

Just now, Schizophonia said:

You mean my message 

His