How to defend yourself from humiliation?

[Javfly33]

There are certain people that try to humiliate me.

For example, I have a very pale skin and brown skin people usually try to attack from that point, like "ohhh look he's so sensible you have gotten burn, you need to put yourself some suncream boy heheheh"

I recognize it is ultimately my responsibility to protect myself from this attacks. Any trick to how to instantly respond in the moment it happens?

Usually what happens is that "I froze" in the moment, is only later when I recognize what just happened, when is too late and the attack has been successfully inflicted upon my energy structure. 

@Schizophonia I'd appreciate your analysis on this!

Edited June 21 by Javfly33

[samijiben]

Hey man, you gotta be like a ninja, like a sneaky motherfucker, you gotta play their game, that is, if you want to

#1 solution here = drop your identity and don't get affected my insults bc you know who you are and NO ONE CAN TOUCH YOU!

BUt, if you're looking for a more combative/defensive way to go about, say, "putting them in their place" (bc who tf are they to talk to you like that?), then I would suggest doing just that. This requires supreme audacity & creativity. Has to come from humor. If you are genuinely interested in hurting them back, best to walk away. But if it is coming from a place like, "who tf are you to disrespect me," then you coulf say sometjing like, "Well, at least I am not you!" Or "Yeah, man, that really means a lot to me. Most people are too busy with their own problems to point out mine!"

Or, more snarky & aggressive, "Fuck you, who do you think you are?" 

"What would your mother think if she saw you being a dickhead in public and insulting other people?"

Also, if you can fight, or at least are stronger than whoever is insulting you, you can get closer to them in proximity, that will assert your dominance.

For example:

Geezer: "Your skin is too pale, you fucking suck, man."

You: Walks closer. Right up to their fkn face. "I am sorry, can you repeat that please, sir. I am TERRIBLY afraid that I didn't hear you!"

And so on. Again, best advice is drop your identity anf don't play these games. Only a fucking fool would insult you. They are only insulting themselves. 

[Schizophonia]

11 hours ago, Javfly33 said:

@Schizophonia I'd appreciate your analysis on this!

Hi mirror n°1789, thanks for asking my divine opinion.

 

If someone bothers me, I just stop talking to him/her; i just don’t care I don’t will do a topic ask advice or something. It seems it works given that nobody tries to humiliate or intimidate me, it doesn’t exists on my maya.

To affirm something is to generate it, by imprinting it on the subconscious mind. And the energy configuration that pushes others to seemingly humiliate you is the same one that pushes you to make a topic and even ask my advice, to generate the affirmation in general.

There's not really anything to answer you other than things you already know, the real unspoken goal of the thread is to assert your persona. Would someone who doesn't get humiliated make an actualized thread? Would they even give a damn about our opinion? The reconfiguration of the subconscious and by extension of maya, which is a projection of it, is done through affirmation; it's hard to stop saying our difficulties, ruminating, because there is a narcissistic rage to abandon our usual identity even if it's a shitty identity, but that's how it works; you can real neville goddard; there's a little book of about forty pages called "feeling is the secret", the thinkers of the Christian "new thought", or if you're not into that stuff simply content on the reconfiguration of the subconscious.

I can already see that there is maybe some patronizing energy and perhaps a little humiliating in my message, but that's because you asked for it; you made a thread that says you are humiliated and then give me overlordship.

If you had married the roleplay of someone who doesn't get humiliated, you wouldn't have made this thread and/or asked my opinion because you would be overlord enough to not care, and therefore I would never have returned this message.

 

Edited June 22 by Schizophonia

[Javfly33]

On 6/22/2025 at 3:26 AM, samijiben said:

Hey man, you gotta be like a ninja, like a sneaky motherfucker, you gotta play their game, that is, if you want to

#1 solution here = drop your identity and don't get affected my insults bc you know who you are and NO ONE CAN TOUCH YOU!

BUt, if you're looking for a more combative/defensive way to go about, say, "putting them in their place" (bc who tf are they to talk to you like that?), then I would suggest doing just that. This requires supreme audacity & creativity. Has to come from humor. If you are genuinely interested in hurting them back, best to walk away. But if it is coming from a place like, "who tf are you to disrespect me," then you coulf say sometjing like, "Well, at least I am not you!" Or "Yeah, man, that really means a lot to me. Most people are too busy with their own problems to point out mine!"

Or, more snarky & aggressive, "Fuck you, who do you think you are?" 

"What would your mother think if she saw you being a dickhead in public and insulting other people?"

Also, if you can fight, or at least are stronger than whoever is insulting you, you can get closer to them in proximity, that will assert your dominance.

For example:

Geezer: "Your skin is too pale, you fucking suck, man."

You: Walks closer. Right up to their fkn face. "I am sorry, can you repeat that please, sir. I am TERRIBLY afraid that I didn't hear you!"

And so on. Again, best advice is drop your identity anf don't play these games. Only a fucking fool would insult you. They are only insulting themselves. 

LOL, I laughed my ass off with those phrases.

Yeah you are right, I have to drop the identity and just not get into this games. 

On 6/22/2025 at 6:27 AM, Schizophonia said:

Hi mirror n°1789, thanks for asking my divine opinion.

 

If someone bothers me, I just stop talking to him/her; i just don’t care I don’t will do a topic ask advice or something. It seems it works given that nobody tries to humiliate or intimidate me, it doesn’t exists on my maya.

To affirm something is to generate it, by imprinting it on the subconscious mind. And the energy configuration that pushes others to seemingly humiliate you is the same one that pushes you to make a topic and even ask my advice, to generate the affirmation in general.

 

I can already see that there is maybe some patronizing energy and perhaps a little humiliating in my message, but that's because you asked for it; you made a thread that says you are humiliated and then give me overlordship.

If you had married the roleplay of someone who doesn't get humiliated, you wouldn't have made this thread and/or asked my opinion because you would be overlord enough to not care, and therefore I would never have returned this message.

 

@Schizophonia Makes sense. 

I'll start to behave in overlord ways 😂💪

[integral]

You’re supposed to laugh with them and join them in the fun.

When they say stuff like that, laugh and smile, and then they will like you.

The problem is you hate them when in reality you should hate everyone equally because they’re all dumbasses

So seeing as everyone’s a dumbass, make friends with everyone

You’re still very selective about who you like and don’t like and all these games

You should have zero expectations and underwhelming degrees of expectations with every person you come in contact with.

Your expectations of people are way too high to begin with.

You’re trying to make people live up to some standard because you’re not aligned with truth

Every person you come to contact with is a desperate survival self deceived animal, who is at the whim of every emotional fluctuation, which they have no control over.

It’s like expecting a dog to behave not like a dog and the only reason you consistently expect more from a dog is because you’re not aligned to the truth and are still living a fantasy

Edited June 24 by integral

[integral]

You have to babysit the entire population, that is the mindset

when you’re playing with a child, are you gonna get offended and angry?

No, of course not you’re far above them

Every game they play you play the game with them, you make a game out of every situation

Edited June 24 by integral

[Lyubov]

You can’t protect yourself from this because there is nothing to be safe from. People will always criticize you and withhold their approval. Same happens to me, same happens to everyone. To seek safety is itself a misnomer because it’s like trying to plug one of those boats up that is sinking, you plug one hole but water just finds its way in through another. This does not mean you have to be a push over or participate in relationships you believe do not help you or are not rewarding. This you can control. You can tell people off in a balanced way how you don’t want to see them or don’t want to relate to them if they throw criticism towards you. You can discuss things with them if they are open to it and they may or may not change. But you can’t control them and in a sense their words can’t touch you. You want to be safe from emotions you generate yourself based of perspectives that aren’t even yours. It doesn’t make sense when you inquire on it. There’s nothing to protect. You’re valuable as you are and their words don’t change this one bit. You are unique and special as you are. You have the right to be you. What they think of you is none of your concern because it’s something that you can’t control nor is worth putting energy into. The larger life lesson here is realizing you can’t control other people and that there are other people out there who will talk shit. You can’t be safe from this because there is nothing to protect or be safe from and it’s not something you can control, it’s just their bullshit perspective that isn’t even true. Do you value truth? It’s just their thoughts which can’t hurt you and you are free to not put energy into relationships with these people. When you no longer put energy into the haters, and value yourself, the law of attraction will bring into your life people who are more aligned and situations that are more aligned with you. 

Edited June 24 by Lyubov

[theleelajoker]

On 22.6.2025 at 0:10 AM, Javfly33 said:

There are certain people that try to humiliate me.

For example, I have a very pale skin and brown skin people usually try to attack from that point, like "ohhh look he's so sensible you have gotten burn, you need to put yourself some suncream boy heheheh"

I recognize it is ultimately my responsibility to protect myself from this attacks. Any trick to how to instantly respond in the moment it happens?

Usually what happens is that "I froze" in the moment, is only later when I recognize what just happened, when is too late and the attack has been successfully inflicted upon my energy structure. 

@Schizophonia I'd appreciate your analysis on this!

The best response often came to me five minutes afterwards 😂

Best strategy to me is no strategy. Sometimes I have a clever response, sometimes I feel humiliation, sometimes I freeze, sometimes I get angry and show it, sometimes I get angry but keep it to myself, sometimes I get angry and also act very aggressive towards the other person, sometimes I give a very loving response and /or make friendly physical contact, sometimes I laugh with them, sometime I just make or seek very strong eye contact, etc etc 

Be fluid. Be flexible. Allow the flow. The more open you get, the more powerful your response. But if I had to give one strategy as "best practice" then it's eye contact. Do that and then see what happens next 

Edited Sunday at 01:02 PM by theleelajoker

[Tenebroso]

You have to have something you are so passionate about that the stupidity of other people does not even register. I am so focused on writing a novel that someone could spit in my face and say something racist and I would just step aside. You have to think of the bigger picture.

[Salvijus]

Can you ever truly be humiliated? What can be humiliated is not worth protecting. 

[Javfly33]

On 6/24/2025 at 6:09 PM, integral said:

You’re supposed to laugh with them and join them in the fun.

When they say stuff like that, laugh and smile, and then they will like you.

The problem is you hate them when in reality you should hate everyone equally because they’re all dumbasses

So seeing as everyone’s a dumbass, make friends with everyone

You’re still very selective about who you like and don’t like and all these games

You should have zero expectations and underwhelming degrees of expectations with every person you come in contact with.

Your expectations of people are way too high to begin with.

You’re trying to make people live up to some standard because you’re not aligned with truth

Every person you come to contact with is a desperate survival self deceived animal, who is at the whim of every emotional fluctuation, which they have no control over.

It’s like expecting a dog to behave not like a dog and the only reason you consistently expect more from a dog is because you’re not aligned to the truth and are still living a fantasy

 

On 6/24/2025 at 6:34 PM, integral said:

You have to babysit the entire population, that is the mindset

when you’re playing with a child, are you gonna get offended and angry?

No, of course not you’re far above them

Every game they play you play the game with them, you make a game out of every situation

Wise words! I'll put into practice what you say.

[Raze]

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[Deziree]

You're way too attached to who you are as a person so it's causing a lot of friction in the inherent ego. Let it go. Let people say what they want to because people will do it anyway. Become immune to it, be more focused on what you want in the moment and then whatever they say will be a piss in the wind.