What is the essence of Sexual Tension?

[Lauro Chapa]

Let's start a collective contemplation about the essence and dynamics that define Sexual Tension and Sexual Attraction between the masculine and the femenine.

Other correlative questions:

• What is sexual tension all about?
• What is sexual attraction all about?
• What is the role of the masculine and the femenine in the sexual domain?
• What is the difference between friendship's trust, romantic connection and sexual attraction/passion?
• In a relationship, why is the case you can have some without the others?
• How to generate sexual tension with a woman as a man?
• What does it take to produce "the sexual spark" in a woman?
• How to generate sexual tension with a man as a woman?
• What does it take to make a man crazy for a woman?

[Princess Arabia]

Hi there. I love this post but I think it's a bit overly complicated or a bit too involving many topics even though they all fall under the same category. It might be a bit challenging to answer all those questions in one thread except if mentioned in respective remarks or comments and the answers happen to pop up spontaneously. I suggest you might try to condense them into maybe one major question with maybe another or two follow up ones that still has all or most of the sub questions within it or just leave some out entirely and maybe they'll still be answered within the thread through individual comments. I've noticed members here are a bit on the lazy side when it comes to answering a bunch of questions in sequence form and usually one-thought threads seem to work out better. These are very complex sexuality questions and I can tell you put a lot of thought into this post. Just a suggestion.

Welcome to the forum, as I see you're what's considered a newbie, and we look forward to you sharing your thoughts and ideas during your stay here. I know, sounds like an ad for a hotel stay..lol.  I'll try to get back with some answers pertaining to your post but I've been on here pretty much all day today and can't do the "thinking too hard for answers to well-thought out and complicated questions like these right now. ❤️

Edited May 3 by Princess Arabia

[SamC]

2 hours ago, Lauro Chapa said:

Let's start a collective contemplation about the essence and dynamics that define Sexual Tension and Sexual Attraction between the masculine and the femenine.

Other correlative questions:

• What is sexual tension all about?
• What is sexual attraction all about?
• What is the role of the masculine and the femenine in the sexual domain?
• What is the difference between friendship's trust, romantic connection and sexual attraction/passion?
• In a relationship, why is the case you can have some without the others?
• How to generate sexual tension with a woman as a man?
• What does it take to produce "the sexual spark" in a woman?
• How to generate sexual tension with a man as a woman?
• What does it take to make a man crazy for a woman?

In my experince, Methaphyscially, the femenine is trying to wake up the masculine which creates the tension that is this dream. 

What the feminine seeks is security, and when it feels it is safe it will naturally serve the masculine. The masculine seeks love, and when it feels fully loved, it can step into it's power and serve the femenine

You attract the femenine by being secure and the masculine by making it feel needed.

 

Edited May 3 by SamC

[Hojo]

What is sexual tension all about? Desire for the other person.

What is sexual attraction all about? Geometry

What is the role of the masculine and the femenine in the sexual domain? Man let woman dominate him then he dominate her.

How to generate sexual tension with a woman as a man? Look at them and feel it.

What does it take to produce "the sexual spark" in a woman? You have to somehow cleverly put the idea in their head that they are dreaming and you are going to fuck right now (without saying it like that) and make their stomach drop for a second. Like make a sex joke that isnt clear and could be taken several ways. If they are attracted to you but arent thinking of it like that doing something like that is putting the idea there and the stomach drop is a reaction to a thought that isnt real( the joke wasnt clear about anything). Reaction to a thought will make them react to it again when their chat gpt runs it by them again.

If it worked you will notice the next time you talk and stare directly at them they will flinch. They will either look away really fast when your eyes meet or start touching their hair or do something with their body they dont normally do.If you can be close and stand tall really dominating do it so they can feel you. Laugh really loud. Then you just ignore them. If they engage dont ignore them still be pleasant but stop thinking about them and let them do their thing. Alot of people dont know how human mind works and that initial stomach drop is something not noticed but its a seed. Its a reaction to something imaginary. The mind needs to know ! It needs to know what happened and if its threatening or not the person gives it no information and it keeps asking and re doing the scene over again. Every time it repeats it cant know and they will feed the neuron and feed it unconsciously. The person is an identity the identity are re occuring thought patterns. They are now identifying with you.

This is why they stay around abusive men the abusive men keep making their stomachs drop and they secretly like it. Its like cumming.

Edited May 4 by Hojo

[Lyubov]

The beauty and allure of the unknown because you don’t know what’s going to happen 

[Princess Arabia]

3 minutes ago, Lyubov said:

The beauty and allure of the unknown because you don’t know what’s going to happen 

Close the thread. This response just about sums it all up in 2 secs. All questions answered in this remark. Fuck, this is beautifully said. 

Edited May 4 by Princess Arabia

[Sincerity]

The feeling of something distinctly "other" from you is alluring.

The otherness, the mystery! In my experience, awareness of otherness of something creates a sexual feeling. I can feel sexual attraction towards Infinity when I focus on it. Or at least my vision of it.

Edited May 4 by Sincerity

[Lauro Chapa]

19 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Hi there. I love this post but I think it's a bit overly complicated or a bit too involving many topics even though they all fall under the same category. It might be a bit challenging to answer all those questions in one thread except if mentioned in respective remarks or comments and the answers happen to pop up spontaneously. I suggest you might try to condense them into maybe one major question with maybe another or two follow up ones that still has all or most of the sub questions within it or just leave some out entirely and maybe they'll still be answered within the thread through individual comments. I've noticed members here are a bit on the lazy side when it comes to answering a bunch of questions in sequence form and usually one-thought threads seem to work out better. These are very complex sexuality questions and I can tell you put a lot of thought into this post. Just a suggestion.

Welcome to the forum, as I see you're what's considered a newbie, and we look forward to you sharing your thoughts and ideas during your stay here. I know, sounds like an ad for a hotel stay..lol.  I'll try to get back with some answers pertaining to your post but I've been on here pretty much all day today and can't do the "thinking too hard for answers to well-thought out and complicated questions like these right now. ❤️

Thanks for the recommendation. 

The heart of the contemplation is Sexual Tension, what is it about, and what does it take to feel it with another person.

Focus on that one. The other questions are just secondary. I'm going to contemplate about it and share my insights later.

@Lyubov @Sincerity I love your answers about mystery and the allure of the unknown btw.

@Hojo What do you mean when you use the word "geometry"?

Edited May 4 by Lauro Chapa

[Hojo]

@Lauro Chapa Circles triangles squares. The titties and curves on a woman are just circles and you are going thats a hot circle. Like a woman lift up her arms and you see her hips and you go look at that curved line its hot. God program the minds brains to be attracted to curved lines on a woman.

Edited May 4 by Hojo

[Lauro Chapa]

Ah, yes. But we humans are not attracted only to the forms, right? What is the non-material aspect of attraction all about?

[Hojo]

@Lauro Chapa I dont know are you going to have sexual tension with something you are not physically attracted to?

[Lauro Chapa]

good question. Physical attraction could be necessary, but not enough tho

[Sugarcoat]

Study yourself when you feel sexual. I personally feel like there’s different types of sexual excitement, there’s the raw physical horniness that’s about the physical sensation, desiring the orgasmic release from the physical aspect of sex, then sexual attraction is a thing but it doesn’t have to be so major because you’re just horny. Then there’s more sexual attraction when you really desire the person (could be looks based). You find them sexy, they awaken sexually in you. The physical is major here too but it’s not all. Then there’s sexual excitement in the feeling of feeling sexy, mainly a female thing, can also be masculine as in a man enjoying himself feeling powerful and dominant, also admiring her, so here we have two self images involved, the one of themselves and the other person. It’s ego based. Here also the physical isn’t the main thing. You can have them all at once or separate, the first one is most common to have by itself. Then porn and masturbation can be enough. If I’m making any sense. 

Edited May 4 by Sugarcoat

[Schizophonia]

I see the girl as a big lollipop.
I want to touch her, lick her breasts, smell her, grab her hips, etc.; taste her energy.

If the girl signals that she wants to be tasted and offers herself, it's even more automatically triggering.

Certain clothes like garter belts are designed to create a "representation gap" that encourages attention and therefore sexual arousal.

For some reason, I find it exciting when the girl keeps her shoes on, like completely naked except for a pair of sneakers and/or a sweater/t-shirt.

Playing with attention.

[Emerald]

Anticipation is the nature of sexual tension.

[Lauro Chapa]

I think sexual tension is about playing with desire. It's about holding the other's desire. Showing them what they want, but don't giving it right away. Playing with the idea that the desire may not be satisfied. All of this happens in a space of alert, excitement, and anticipation of what could happen, but is not certain. Sexual tension is the fun exploration of desire, it's the process of a satisfaction based on waiting and not knowing.

Edited May 19 by Lauro Chapa

[Xonas Pitfall]

Anticipating sexual fulfillment with a reciprocating other.

1. Anticipation means it is not certain, guaranteed, or yet to happen. For example, someone may glance at you in a way that suggests interest, creating a possibility that something might happen. This uncertainty spikes dopamine and builds tension. Even during a sexual act, like a striptease, you continue to anticipate what will happen next, so the tension remains until the fantasy or act is fully realized. Once fulfillment occurs, the tension fades. That’s why anticipation is essential - without it, the tension doesn't exist. The best way to picture this is two people naked, looking at each other. You can feel the tension building in that moment before they kiss or fuck.
2. Sexual desire or fantasy means the tension is rooted specifically in sexual interest. For example, if your partner does something sweet or meaningful that fulfills an emotional need, such as caring for you while you were sick or making you breakfast, you may appreciate it, but it will not create sexual tension unless it connects to a sexual desire or fantasy. It might sound obvious, but a sexual context is essential for sexual tension to arise.
3. Fulfillment means the person involved must be someone who can realistically fulfill the sexual desire or fantasy. This includes matching your preferences in appearance, personality, orientation, or other factors. You might find someone physically attractive, but if they don’t fit your personal criteria (type of banter, teasing, spontaneity, playfulness, mystery, looks) or sexual orientation, the tension will be weaker or nonexistent.
4. Reciprocation means there has to be some form of mutual exchange or signal that suggests the possibility of the fantasy becoming real. For example, if you are attracted to a celebrity who shows no sign of interest, you may feel lust but not sexual tension. Sexual tension usually needs direct personal interaction - in person, by phone, video chat, sexting, or other communication where there is some mutual exchange and reciprocation, either one-on-one or with more people. You can anticipate sexual fulfillment when you’re alone, like during masturbation, but that doesn’t create tension in the same way. It’s more about self-pleasure than desire or lust. That’s why sexual tension requires at least one other person who is reciprocating and desired. Plus, both people need to be able to match and respond to each other’s energy and style of tension and play.

Maybe something like this? 

Edited May 19 by Xonas Pitfall

[AION]

It is kundalini 🐍

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Desire.

Sexual tension, for myself, is a charge & desire created in the space that is occupied by proximity & restraint.

It is a charge that propels my thoughts, and drives me to action. A creative energy. THE creative energy.

When I look at my partner in their mastery, when I see them in a way I have never seen them - desire. The space and distance needed to feel the tension is maintained in the unknowing of the person.

I have found to maintain sexual tension/desire in a relationship requires me to see my partner consistently in a new light. Reframe. Change perspective. This comes from me. When I witness them in their mastery with whatever their passions may be. This perspective on how I know them must change and evolve with time. Otherwise desire declines, and sexual tension wanes with it. 

This is why curiosity is such a critical element to the recipe - and the wisdom that we can never really know another person.

Edited May 20 by Natasha Tori Maru

[ExploringReality]

Desire and allure of the unknown is beautiful and sexy