I Hate Women

[Schizophonia]

1 minute ago, Salvijus said:

That's actually true. Men want to be left alone to recharge their testastorone. 

You're just more tired for a few minutes because of the orgasm. What does that have to do with suddenly becoming antisocial?
This happens if you sleep with a girl you can't stand, or if you're antisocial to begin with and driven solely by your libido.

[Schizophonia]

1 minute ago, Sugarcoat said:

@Salvijus the post nut clarity hits 

Does this happen as a girl?
Not really, I imagine. 

[Sugarcoat]

@Schizophonia id agree with that. If you like her you wouldn’t feel that way. It’s if you just sleep with her for the sex and physical attraction (or barely even that sometimes) and you don’t genuinely vibe, connect, like her personality. Then you wouldn’t feel drawn to move away from her

[Salvijus]

4 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

You're just more tired for a few minutes because of the orgasm. What does that have to do with suddenly becoming antisocial?

Not few minutes. It takes a couple of hours at least to get back the sexual energy after ejaculation. Women don't lose anything tho, so they want to continue hugging and mingling and what not. 

6 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

@Salvijus the post nut clarity hits 

Had to look that up, lmao. 

Edited May 3 by Salvijus

[Sugarcoat]

Just now, Schizophonia said:

Does this happen as a girl?
Not really, I imagine. 

I can’t answer this unfortunately 

my guess would be that it could happen in the form of feeling dirty and perhaps humiliated 

[Breakingthewall]

3 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

You're just more tired for a few minutes because of the orgasm. What does that have to do with suddenly becoming antisocial?
This happens if you sleep with a girl you can't stand, or if you're antisocial to begin with and driven solely by your libido.

We are talking about casual sex . Casual. You don't know the other, you haven't deep connection, you don't care about anything except sex. That is casual. It's not noble and pure, it's something that people do because it's impossible to avoid. It's better perfect sex of your dreams, but if it doesn't happen, then you do anything, like 99,99% of men. If you manage to get free of that impulse, you have done a big thing, it's very difficult.

[Schizophonia]

1 minute ago, Salvijus said:

Not few minutes. It takes a couple of hours at least to get back the sexual energy after ejaculation. Women don't lose anything tho, so they want to continue hugging and mingling  and what not. 

Had to look that up, lmao. 

Maybe your testosterone is a little low and your prolactin is rising too high.

I can ejaculate several times a day without any fatigue issues, except for a few minutes.

[Salvijus]

4 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Maybe your testosterone is a little low and your prolactin is rising too high.

I can ejaculate several times a day without any fatigue issues, except for a few minutes.

That could be true. But it affects everyone I believe to some degree to become somewhat more distant after ejaculation. And the opposite happens when you're full, you become super drawn to mingling. 

[Schizophonia]

9 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Then you wouldn’t feel drawn to move away from her

Except maybe if she sweats too much 😂

Jk

4 minutes ago, Breakingthewall said:

We are talking about casual sex . Casual. You don't know the other, you haven't deep connection, you don't care about anything except sex. That is casual. It's not noble and pure, it's something that people do because it's impossible to avoid. It's better perfect sex of your dreams, but if it doesn't happen, then you do anything, like 99,99% of men. If you manage to get free of that impulse, you have done a big thing, it's very difficult.

1) There's a spectrum between fucking the first girl I come across, and the "sex of my dreams" lmao.

2)"99,99% of men" is nonsense. 

 

[Schizophonia]

1 minute ago, Salvijus said:

That could be true. But it affects everyone I believe to some degree to become somewhat more distant after ejaculation. And the opposite happens when you're full, you become super drawn to mingling. 

Yes, but you don't want to jump on just anyone just because your balls are fulls. 

After ejaculation I just feel good and want to smoke a cigarette lol. 

And the energy returns to normal after a few minutes, but I already said that.

I dont even have a high libido. 

[Breakingthewall]

8 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

There's a spectrum between fucking the first girl I come across, and the "sex of my dreams" lmao.

If you find casual sex you don't know the other person and there's no real connection. If you're very emotionally disconnected from yourself, in psychopathic mode, you don't care, but if not, you're really having sex with someone you don't know at all and that's weird . Their physical beauty doesn't matter; it's strange and alienating. So, if the situation is sustained by your sexual desire, there's only sexual desire. But the moment that desire disappears, in two seconds the situation reveals itself as uncomfortable, weird, not natural 

Edited May 3 by Breakingthewall

[Sugarcoat]

30 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Except maybe if she sweats too much 😂

So random

[Sugarcoat]

@Breakingthewall Do you think many guys desire deeper connection with girl they have sex with but they don’t have the patience to wait after dating for a while so they go for causal sex because the sexual desire is too strong?

[Breakingthewall]

25 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

@Breakingthewall Do you think many guys desire deeper connection with girl they have sex with but they don’t have the patience to wait after dating for a while so they go for causal sex because the sexual desire is too strong?

I don't think it's exactly like that, imo it's more that if you don't have a real, deep connection with yourself, you always perceive a lack in your relationships with others. So, it always seems to you that this isn't exactly what it could be, and you keep searching, but it's always unsatisfactory because you're not complete. Some settle for what more or less fits, and others don't, but always it's a bottom of dissatisfaction 

Edited May 3 by Breakingthewall

[Sugarcoat]

2 minutes ago, Breakingthewall said:

I don't think it's exactly like that, imo it's more that if you don't have a real, deep connection with yourself, you always perceive a lack in your relationships with others. So, it always seems to you that this isn't exactly what it could be, and you keep searching, but it's always unsatisfactory because you're not complete. Some settle for what more or less fits, and others don't, but always it's a bottom of dissatisfaction 

Ok. I’d agree. It all starts with yourself

[Breakingthewall]

3 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Ok. I’d agree. It all starts with yourself

What I see is that there are people who place their sovereignty on something external to themselves, on the norms of society or the standards of their family. If this is solid, these people have a high probability of finding a stable partner because there is someone who fits exactly what they're looking for.

But if there's no such external frame of reference, people are lost. They look for what they lack in the other person, and it's never there. So, either you go very deep or you're in no man's land, what seems to be the norm in our society.

 

[Sugarcoat]

22 minutes ago, Breakingthewall said:

What I see is that there are people who place their sovereignty on something external to themselves, on the norms of society or the standards of their family. If this is solid, these people have a high probability of finding a stable partner because there is someone who fits exactly what they're looking for.

But if there's no such external frame of reference, people are lost. They look for what they lack in the other person, and it's never there. So, either you go very deep or you're in no man's land, what seems to be the norm in our society.

 

Solution could be becoming very rooted in yourself

[blackchair]

Just remember all of incurable STD's 10 000 BC or just in Middle Ages, no thanks.... 

[Twentyfirst]

On 5/3/2025 at 1:53 PM, Breakingthewall said:

Sure that most of women from a structured family consciously or unconsciously they look for a partner who is approved by their father, but that does not mean that the father chooses him

Approves = chooses

[Vincent S]

@SQAAD I hear you and see your point.

But I think us men put too much value in the thing we “think” we deserve. The thing we “think” will be the best for us.

The pleasure of sex is of course very stimulating and a way to release built up tension. But when we see this as the only way to release and let go of tension, that becomes a trap. And a sure way to destroy and to deplete our vital energy.

What you might secretly want in being intimate with a woman is to be connected with the part of you that is willing to let go and which is willing and open for life and new things to come. And ultimately to feel connected and intimate with life itself. But if you lack this connection within yourself, you are always going to outsource it to someone/something outside of you. Then and there you have accepted and confirmed that this is something that you don’t have. A feeling of lack and incompleteness. And if we are not aware of this as it happens within us, we unconsciously see sex, intimacy and sexual release as the “only” way to feel “whole/complete”.

“I need to have sex with women, In order to be connected with life.”

Which is far from the Truth.

And the sad thing is, others feel this energy you have built up within yourself and your body. And it is repelling people and stopping people from entering your life-path. People that are good for you, and people you are good for.

This hate you have within you, it is eating you up. But it can be let go of in an instant, but only when you truly see the futility in harboring hate for women and life itself.

And imagine for a second, you meet a woman that you admire, like, and feel a connection with, would you be intimate with her and share this hate and heavy energy with her? Knowing that sex is not only pleasure but a way to exchange energies? And potentially harm her in unloading this burden on to her? 
Most likely not. So what is the best thing you can do now?

Start with your own sense of being within your body. Start to feel intimacy with life itself, within your own being. Stop outsourcing your intimacy and start to feel everything around you.

Start to let go of this heavy mountain of a burden you carry on your shoulders. Day by day, little by little let go of this weight. And the more you let go, the lighter you will feel. And the more open you can be and start to experience life in a different light.

Truth is, “Hurt people -> hurt people.”

It’s an extension of hurt passed through generations. One and the same identity. The victim and the perpetrator being same person. Same fixated and distorted energy, overextending the hurt over and over again. Secretly seeking to see itself in the light.

And harboring this much hate that men and women have for each other, leads us nowhere but deeper in the hellhole.

What each of us have to do individually is to sit with our baggage, dissect it and find the root cause of our suffering. If we don’t, we will just end up creating more hate and extending the game of projection and manipulation. That has been going on for generations between the sexes. 

Yes there are unconscious people out there, in both genders. But breaking the cycle is possible, right now, in the midst of the trauma we are undergoing.

Edited May 6 by Vincent S