Knock

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  1. What I find even more strange is that I have friends who are aware (at least on an academic level) of many of these personal development concepts, they just don't have the hunger to devote themselves into diving in. 2 years ago, I was having a deep talk with a friend the other day about personal dynamics. He knew all about being needy, playing victim, acting-out for attention because of low self-esteem... He explained past classmates and why they acted the way they did. He even talked about himself and why he has his current issues/problems. He is aware of all this, without even had read one personal development book. So I thought sweet, you sound like a switched on smart guy, let me share with you some resources (I shared some 5-10min YouTube clips about basic PD concepts). Next time we met, I asked what he thought of the videos. He didn't even open them. I thought, well, he will come around in time then. I kept dropping concepts and ideas into conversation every now and then, sharing what's improving my life. 2 years later and my life has improved exponentially, while his growth is mainly linear. He still hasn't come around yet to take PD seriously, despite seeing the results right in front of his eyes. He is a smart guy and won't have any trouble living a comfortable mediocre life. But I know he can be so much more, I just don't know what else to do to convince him to get into self-help and personal development seriously like I have.
  2. Cultivate a strong vision for what you are doing. Create a vision board and use it as a reminder for why you are doing what you are doing. It should evoke strong positive emotions in you when you see it. Then use that energy to take action on the next important thing. Also, understanding the process of what a true success journey looks like, will keep your mental game strong. Look up Leo's videos on mastery and the heroes journey
  3. +1 to what @7thLetter said. Also, you will ruin your reputation and relationship with everyone you know. I know this, because I did the same thing, posting on Facebook and trying to sell any old friend or colleague insurance. People started avoiding me because they knew I was using them or their friends as a means to a sale. Don't make the same mistake.
  4. This is observation bias. People who are attractive gain more attention (see instagram). These people also like to appeal to the unconscious masses with their platform, hence 'confirming' this idea that beauty = low consciousness. What you don't see is the good looking people who are not posting online. You also don't see the ugly people on instagram promoting low consciousness things as often, so the association isn't there. Most athletes and good looking people are actually higher consciousness than average. They have great self-awareness and often meditate more than the average person. A typical gym junkie may be a poor sample selection. But talk to someone who uses gym to compliment their other endeavors, and you will find that the opposite to OPs hypothesis.
  5. I'm confused, what is the feeling? Is it the thought that the world is out to get you, through appealing to your emotions? The world appeals to emotion because that's what gets us to act. Emotion = energy in motion. Emotion speeds the car, logic steers the wheel. Could you clarify your question more?
  6. I heard a story of an elderly man that was on his deathbed in the hospital, who agreed to be an organ donor. His family had all flown in from around the country to be with him for his lasts breaths. The organ harvesting team of doctors and nurses were hovering around like a bunch of parasites, and when he finally passed away, the family were ushered out of the room as soon as possible. Their final moments with their loved one was jeopardized, and they can never get that back. Hearing that story left a bad taste in my mouth. I love nurses and all that they do (my gf is a nurse), but I've decided not to be an organ donor. Just my 2c
  7. @TrynaBeTurquoise @Consept @Nahm Thank you guys for sharing your experiences. I love hearing about all the different ways we have come to this point, the deep yearning within all of us. Keep them coming
  8. @undeather interesting! Why did you choose to play spirituality videos in the background? How did you initially come about them and why them and not edm music or something else? Thank you for sharing May I ask a follow up question (open to anyone)? I have friends who tried that self-help stuff, it didn't work, and now they are closed off to the whole idea of trying anything else in the field. They won't even consider meditation, let alone therapy, spirituality content or psychedelics. In their mind, it's all lumped together under pseudoscience. What will they have to experience before they become open to these areas of life?
  9. @Alex Thanks for sharing! If you don't mind going deeper, how did you come about reading "Power of Now"? What stroke your curiosity to read the book in the first place? Story time- tl:dr at end Personally for me, I was very closed minded throughout high school and university. No-one in my environment talked about spirituality, reading books, meditation, self-help, conscious living etc. It seems shocking now, but I simply was not presented these ideas or have any role models that embodied this work. I grew up in a homogeneous rural community in Australia that lacked diversity of people and ideas. Additionally, I didn't have a smart phone or personal computer until I was 18 when I left school, so my access to information and 'stumbling upon' new ideas was throttled. It wasn't until I moved into the city to study at university that I began to see some diversity in life and new ways of living. Here I was exposed to various kinds of people who had different ways of thinking to mine, and this challenge many of my assumptions. My mindset and beliefs back then was very much a parrot of my own parents, some great beliefs and values, others no so much. I definitely wasn't an independent thinker, I wasn't consciously living and designing my life, I was simply following the scripts I was indoctrinated with from the past 18 years. Fundamentally, I was lacking in purpose, self-responsibility, self-acceptance and conscious living. Surprise-surprise, turns out I developed low self-esteem. Once I was in my last semester of university, it dawned upon me that I would be leaving the safe confines of traditional education, and entering 'the real world' as an adult. This scared the shit out of me. I was comfortable at uni, it had well defined rules and boundaries, expectations and trajectory. I was significantly immature and ill-equipped to take on the challenges of the real world, and deep down I knew it. So i did the one thing I was good at, using my initiative and resourcefulness, I designed my own research project on how to enter the real world, be a grown up, and how to integrate into adult society. I wanted to develop a character that had good interests and would be highly employable, as I knew that interests and personality was desirable in interviews. For the first time in my life, I did an internal audit on where I was, and what skills, experience, abilities and interest I possessed. And I had nothing. No discernible skills, hobbies, experience or interest that would make me stand out amongst the competition. It dawned on me that I was a nobody, a boring person that stays between the lines and has no voice of their own. My discernible characteristics? I was moderately successful academically and was nice all the time. Unfortunately for me, those 2 things are not enough to get you anywhere in life. I knew had to make a change. I knew I had to change something, but I just didn't know how or what. At the time, my friends and the environment around me where talking a lot about politics, an area I had no knowledge in. So, to become interesting, I started researching politics and for the first time in my life, became open minded to a different belief then the one that was passed down from my parents. I stumbled across YouTube and Reddit, places where I was exposed to a large diverse number of opinions and worldviews. The more I learned, the more questions I had, and more I learned what I didn't know. What started off as 1 question about politics, became 100 questions about politics, religion, social laws, relationships, sexuality, morality, philosophy and spirituality. That one question, and the hunger to learn more, has lead me to open my mind, question my lifes direction and ultimately given my the power to design my own life, instead of living in the shadows of my upbringing. My mindset now is that of inner confidence. That no matter what happens, I will be okay and I can deal with the outcome. I am consciously living my life with purpose, making choices for noone elses sake but my own. I have moved from a fixed and victim mindset to an abundance mindset, that growth and opportunities are always presenting themselves to you and you are worthy of the success that comes your way when you take action on them. TL:DR My upbringing didn’t set me up for success, and no, I don’t blame anyone for this. It wasn’t until I moved to a different environment, that the possibility of different life perspectives and ways of living entered my consciousness When I had to face the reality of life and leave my comfort zone, I was fearful and felt great pain through my perceived (and objective) inadequacy. The discomfort from the fear became greater than my comfort of living in my own paradigm, and hence I became open to solutions on how to fix my current situation. The more solutions I find, the more unconscious problems I saw. Once equipped with a hammer, I was able to see and fix all the jagged nails in my life. So anyway, that’s my story. I would love to hear more from you guys 😊. And lastly, how would you assist enabling others to become open minded so that they too will be willing to equip the hammer of life?
  10. What was it that lead you to become open-minded and willing to accept that your paradigms at the time may be wrong? What was your mindset before then, and how is it different now? Was there a significant event that lead you to this paradigm shift? How would you assist enabling this in others?
  11. Will watching 50 shades of grey be enlightening?
  12. The trick to being a consistent reader is to just read what you are currently interested in. If you read books because someone told you to, then you won't enjoy it and it will feel like a chore. Self-help knowledge has less to do with the content, and more to do with the timing and applicability in your life. Lots of financial books ultize systems thinking via money psychology. If you are interested in money, that might be a good point to start.
  13. Interesting. Merely the thought of someone being there is enough to cause you problems. This is a great representation of how social anxiety works. It's not the other people are physically stopping you from peeing . It's your internal thoughts about these people that causes blockages in your body. When we are anxious, we tense up. Our muscles and body systems don't work in unison, and this has real effects. Stress and anxiety has real effects on our body, even if the threat isn't real and just a thought. It is not that others are judging you, it is that you are judging yourself. This is insecurity. Tackle the insecurity, and the issue will resolve itself. As a practical tip, you can redirect your conscious attention away from thinking about others perception of you by giving your mind something else to work on. For example, you can try saying the alphabet backwards, or mathematically keep doubling numbers until you have to rack your brain on working out the answer. This will give your conscious mind something to focus on so as to let your subconscious mind do its thing
  14. If no one else is there, do you still find it hard to pee? @F A B
  15. Depends where you work and what type you do, but in today's interconnected age, social skills are very important, I would say more important than degrees. If you are doing your best, getting along with your colleagues, getting what you need done, and the boss is happy with it, I wouldn't worry about thinking about others thoughts about you.