Valach

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  1. Hi there guys. To introduce you to my story, I am 24 years old and 2 years ago I dropped out of my software engineering degree because I am was just stressed all the time and just couldnt finish it at all. Immidiatly after that I started working as a junior developer in job with very specific technologies which is not really related to other jobs so I kinda got stuck here. For a long time I was just fucking around not doing anything in my free time which I regret. Eventhough I don't see my future in the field, I haven't discovered my life purpose yet, but I know for sure that I will need a finance safety net for the future ( nothing crazy, but like an average salary in my country ). For that I have decided that I want to pursue further career in web developent as sort of a life purpose for now. However I am not sure if lack of my formal education is not gonna hold me back too much for finding job opportunities etc. I am not sure how to appraoch my situation and if I should go back to school or not. The thing with school is also that if I go back, my life will basically be full time working with no time for my friends & gf etc. Is there anyone here on this forum who has built a decent carreer in this field without a degree who could help me out? Much appriated.
  2. Excelent, thank you! Indeed. How do I work this out?
  3. Hey guys, Recently started dating a new girl and realized and ongoing problem that I had even with girls I dated before and that is a strong judgment towards girls sexual history. I find it hard accepting the fact the girls I am dating participated in casual sex and partying eventhough I did the same. I even judge the girls just for having the sex in general and I have no idea where is all of this judgment coming from but I realize it's not heatlhy, because it is destroying the way I see girls I am dating and I become quite neurotic about it. Sometimes this judgment gets even very irrational. For example the girl I am dating now told me she had a friends with benefirts arrangment with one guy in the past half a year before she met me. Eventhough I slept with more girls and had same arrangments too and just had richer dating life in general, I still get triggered by it ( I don't show it to the girl ) and I still judge the girl a lot for it. Then there is a period where she was single for a year and sleeping aroud a bit and I just can't stand hearing about this eventhough as a person so far, she seems very nice for a realitionship. I have no idea where is this judgment coming from and how to get rid of it. Why do I judge girls for sleeping around if I am doing the same. Maybe it's coming from my general lack of experience? Maybe an general insecurity? I was thinking also, that it could be me regretting my past as well? I was bad at dating until age 22 and obviously feel resentful towards my past and because the girl's past expiriences remind me of lack of mine I get triggered? Anyone who experienced this and could help me out would be grealty appriated!
  4. Hi there guys, Last year I started going out and learning pickup. Recently I met a girl, whom I liked so much I decided to give it a shot with her and be with her exclusivly. What I wonder now is how do I continue my progress even while holding a realitionship. Obviously I am not gonna be going out hitting on other girls (apart from occasional winging of my friends). So I was wondering what are some other principles or habits I could implement in my life that would help me develop myself and become more attractive even when not going out? Any ideas would be greatly welcome
  5. Welcome. Here I will have my own journal about my self-development with special focus on pickup which I will be doing with high intensity right now. I bought a RSD program, which takes 10 weeks to complete, so I will write down my experience here. I am starting with the program today. I will soon add more information and my whole pickup vision.
  6. Hi there, I would like to ask guys on forum..how did you keep up your energy when doing night game? Last week I have been on 4 nightgames (tuesday, thursday, friday and saturday) and I ran into a problem of not having energy after sleeping less. Let's say I go out on tuesnday and game until 2am and have to wakeup at 8am for a work. I can at my age (24) do just fine in work with less sleep but what catches me is if I want to go nighgaming again I just don't have any energy left and I am going half asleep through the interactions ( which is bad coz you really need to pump things up in nightgame ). So my question here is, how did you guys, who did nightgame consistently keep your energy up? I don't think just drinking coffee would help me much, since it increases anxiety for me quite a bit and I have less quality sleep after that. Thanks in advance.
  7. Hello guys, Coming back again with a dating question. I have been doing pickup for couple of weeks this year already and through cold approach I started seeing one girl. We've known each other for maybe like 6 weeks and saw each other once a week ( so 6 times). Tbh, I do quite like this girl and eventhough I still want to continue doing pickup over the summer ( since I bought a RSD programm) I do have some emotions already for the girl and I am not sure how to go about it. What am I thinking also is...how do I tell the difference between beeing needy and liking the girl for who she is? Like maybe I don't actually like her, I just like the idea of not being alone and not having to do all these scary approaches anymore. But if I really like her and I ditch her for pickup I could regret that greatly. Any more experienced guys on here who could share their knowladge? Thanks in advance.
  8. Hey guys, coming to this forum once again with a need for help. Recently I started dating this girl I cold approched in the park. We been on 4 dates so far. I slept with her for the first time on second date and stayed over the night. The dates after that were pretty much same meaning I would come in the afternoon, we would be at her place, hangout, talk, have sex, cook some food etc. I would sleep over and then next day leave for a work. Now I did keep some distance so we did this only once a week (I've learnt from my past). Eventhough I find the girl cool and I like her (when I come to hers we dont go straight to the sex but I am totally fine with vibing first couple of hours). But I guess I am just not really looking for a realitionship yet. I feel like I have my pickup journey still in front of me. Now my question to the guys here, how do you setup proper expectation, how do you behave ethically here. She didn't ask me the "What are we?" question yet so we didn't talk about this but I feel like it's my responsibility to clear things out. I kinda hinted on that I am freshly after breakup (which is true) but that definitly is not enough. How do I go about this? Do I wait for her to ask me or do I bring it up? Also if you want to have things more casual is it ok, if I sleep over or should I just leave right after sex? You know I can see us even hanging out and stuff, I just feel like I want to keep doing pickup and don't want to hurt the girl in the process. Also to the people who did pickup: When did you stop? When were you like "yep, now I have learned enough and I can start building realitionship or focus on other shit". Because I feel like pickup can never truly be mastered, there will be always something new to learn. There will be always better girls to date ( I have a feeling, that if I end it with this girl I can continue pickup and find better girl). Also I feel like I have huge problem actually deciding whom I like. I don't trust my intuition and I overanalyze my realitionships. How does one learn to list to my emotions more? Thank you for your answers in advance
  9. I get what you are saying. But I don't know how to integrate this. As a good-looking person myself I can clearly see I idetify a lot with how I look and how I am percieved by others. What would be the best route to get rid of this mind-indentification?
  10. Please do go in detail What is wrong with the books ideaology?
  11. That is true. I dont take it seriously too since I have options in the real world. However i think an attractive guy with options is more rare then a girl.
  12. You also have to realize that woman don't take tinder as seriously (usually) as guys. I would watch some of girls I dated go through their tinder and explain to me how they decide about guys. And to be honest, it was not so much looks based and rather feelings based. They would swipe right on guys I felt that were ugly and vice versa just because "they felt like it". Not to mention they would never meet and fuck vast majority of guys they would match. if you are a guy, fuck tinder a go out a meet girls by talking to them in social settings.
  13. As I guy who did both pickup and tinder I can tell you that tinder has just different set of rules and obviously you will be judged way more by your looks because its impossible to convey your personallity. Regarding importance of looks I think what matters more than how you look is How you feel you look. I would say I am fairly good looking person (though it's impossible to judge yourself objectivly). I am tall, I am thin, have a symetric face and full head of hair. And although I had these looks all my life I sucked with woman until I made proactive decision and started working on myself. After that my personality improved ( or rather I was not shy anymore to share it with others) and I started to get woman. And funnily enough as I worked on myself socially I began to like the way I look way more. I used to think I am like a 6/10. Nowadays I feel a good 8-9/10 eventhough I look just the same. I have not so good looking friends who are great with woman and good looking friends who are basically incels. I don't see any correlation between looks and sucess with girls. Of course all of you guys don't really care about this. All you want is just an excuse why you can't take action and why you don't have a sucess you want.
  14. Btw. How do I found out if I am against sleeping with girls with boyfriends because it's part of my value system or because I want to feel superior to others?
  15. Hi guys, I am now thinking about one thing and would love to hear an opinion from other people. I am dating a girl currently and she has been quite open about her past sexual experiences, which I was fine with although at I started to judge her for higher number of people she slept with which is at around 30. I personnally have slept with 7 girls in my life and it bothers me a bit. I think the reason for this is also some resentfulness towards older myself where I wanted to get sex but didn't know how so now I hold it against the girl. I obviously don't tell it to the girl but it still quite triggers me when she talks about guys she fucked and I tend to loose attraction for her even. Have any of you ever have these feelings? How did you overcome them? I feel like I am much better now at seducing girls but I still have this resentment. Second part of my question is about sleeping with people who have boyfriend/girlfriend. I personally never did it ( at least knowignly). But the girl I am seeing told me that she used to sleep with some guys who had girlfriends and even wife ( and kids)... I kinda have an issue with this since it goes against my values. She told me it was "not her problem" and in a way she is right since in my experience those people would find somebody to cheat with anyway. Funnily enough, she has major trust issues and feels like most guy (including me) cheat - I think its partly in her subconscious because she enabled the cheating in the past. I just want to ask people on this forum what is your approach towards this? Would you be fine with sleeping with someone you knew has a boyfriend/girlfriend? In a way I could say I am being ethical by not doing it but then again I am sure I do plenty of things in my realtionships that are not cool anyway, like lying, manipulating etc... Also one could say that doing this is in her case maybe a part of just being younger and wild ( she is 22 now..)