Haha!
Now you are playing the ultimate game.
Your game is to get everyone to stop playing games so that you get the upper hand.
You see how sneaky you are?!
You want mating and survival to be honest, but survival is grounded in dishonesty, selfishness, and manipulation. The desire to make survival selfless and honest it the highest form of dishonesty and self-deception.
Human mating will always involve games, because it is a game. The fact that it has serious consequences does not make it any less of a game. In fact, that's what makes it such a serious game. Since the stakes are life and death, games will be played by both sides. This is the nature of the beast and if you want to be honest then you have to start by admitting that.
The most honest position in a dating situation is this: "I will game you and you will game me. Let's play and see what happens. Let's enjoy it."
When you say: "Oh, I'm above that. I don't play any games. I'm not selfish like you, so you should stop being selfish and stop playing games because that's gross." << that is dishonest and that is your game.

Well, now you understand why conscious relationships are so rare.
It's possible, but it's very challenging precisely for these reasons. Because the whole point of most relationships is selfish gain. If you didn't desire selfish gain you probably wouldn't ever enter a relationship to begin with. So there is a deep existential paradox here.
Why relate at all if you need nothing? And if you need something, then you are selfish and that selfishness will sour your relationship.
This is the whole problem of desire. As Buddha said, all desire leads to suffering. And so it does. So if you enter a relationship you should be aware that your doing so will cause suffering. The suffering is existentially baked into the structure of the thing. Because the truth is, if you were happy without a relationship, you wouldn't pursue it at all.
If you think about it, a relationship is really no different than shooting up heroin. You are a fool if you think there won't be suffering involved. If you're going to do it at all, at least admit to yourself that there will be suffering, rather than doing the surprised pikachu face when it inevitably blindsides you upside the head.
Think about it. The best case scenario in a perfect long-term relationship is that you die before your partner does. Or else you have to watch them die and suffer terribly. But either way, one of you will suffer terribly.

Even if I grant you that (which I don't, because in fact your ego cannot handle the raw truth of such things as you believe), the reality is that most women cannot handle the raw truth of it, so games will be played.
You are not one woman in the world. You are part of 4 billion other women, and men's dating strategies will not revolve around your exceptional case but around how average women react. And average women react very poorly to truth about male attraction. You yourself reacted poorly to it earlier in this thread by calling it "gross".
When you call a man's deepest desires "gross", can you really blame him for not being truthful about it with you any more? Men would love nothing more than to be honest about their desires for women and not play games. But life has taught men never to be so foolish or naive. Being honest and direct hurts men's survival. Which is why they are not honest or direct.
The reality is that most women require plausible deniability and anti-slut narratives in order to sleep with a man. Hence games are played. If a man walks up to a woman in front of all her friends and say, "I like you. Let's go fuck." and she says, "Yes" she will forever be disgraced and excommunicated from her social circle. Which for a woman is about as bad as death. So she is forced to say, "I'm not that kind of girl", even though she wants to fuck him. And hence game is born.

No, she found them funny.
A lot of times the power of an obnoxious joke is not that she finds it funny per se, but what is sub-communicates about the guy. If a guy can spew off obnoxious jokes while having fun, smiling, not giving a fuck, and owning the whole room -- that is an honest signal of strength that women love and crave. Being a boss is more powerful than making her laugh.
But you have to pull it off very congruently. You have to be on fire when you do it. If you try to do this as a creepy, shy, beta male, she might call the cops on you. It requires a very fine balance that can only be developed through massive experience and trial and error.
There have been plenty of times when I bombed with an obnoxious joke. Like bombed so bad that she might call security or ask her guy friends to bounce me.
That certainly can happen. Some girls are shy and will just listen and watch without saying much, but she is still getting attracted below the surface. She does not need to be talkative to get attracted.

Single is always easiest. But single women are rare.
Groups of 2-3 requires more confidence and skill. But they are more common. During the daytime I would only approach single unless you got a wing. During the nighttime at clubs and bars you can approach sets, although realistically you need a wing to do that effectively. The logistics of it are just awful. Not easy to pry a girl away from her friends. Especially a 2-set. It's actually easier to hit on large groups of 5+ where you can pry her away without the rest noticing.

Realistically you should find a local wingman in your area who has some experience and can show you the ropes. Look online for one in your city.
If that fails and you dare to brave it solo, you need to research areas in your city where lots of attractive women hang out: bars, clubs, cafes, malls, etc. You need to make a list of all these venues, visit them, double-check them, and find the best ones that you will be using in the future. Then start going then several times a week and start approach single women.

Root problem is neediness, over-investment, and failure to close.
You should have slept with her by now. Instead you are being her gay friend and she can smell your neediness and lack of leadership.

One can not transcend what one is focusing on. 
Focus is effortless, not something one could need help with. 
Point it toward what you want, what feels good to you. 
Easy. 
Use the emotional scale to express, release and raise your vibration. 
Stop talking about & focusing on what is lame to you. ☺️ This is keeping your experience, lame. 
Doesn’t matter. Why still focusing on it? Because you’re not expressing and processing the lowest two emotional vibrations on the scale. It works. You will see. It works instantly, literally as you do it you feel the relief, and the goodness. 
You love. Unveil yourself, use the scale. 
Read this. You’ll feel Goodness instantly. 
Thoght stories, and narrative about yourself and others is ridiculous when you can go straight to feeling goodness. 
Notice what you’re thinking, and notice that’s how you feel. 
Using the emotional scale, you transcend samsara via emotional intelligence, and are no longer led around by seeking sex to feel better because you’re already feeling amazing! This enables you to know true mature discernment. You can know & experience the beauty and depth of an authentic relationship, if that’s what you find you want when you are not seeking outside yourself to feel better. 
It’s all love, all Goodness...and remaining ignorant of emotions you’re experiencing, attributing the goodness of feeling to anyone or anything outside ourself...we are like flies in vaseline. You’ll keep getting ‘stuck there all the time’.  ‘Burn your wicked garden (samsara) to the ground’, and you’ll be ‘punch drunk and without bail’, in love, in goodness, and you’ll never go back. Relationships completely change and become experience, icing on the cake of the joy of simply being you. ☺️ You can be single, have a relationship, have an open relationship, whatever you want. In not looking to relationships for the goodness of feeling, you attract exactly what you want, whatever that is. 

@assx95 It's quite simple really: you are failing at attracting these girls.
Sounds to me like you are texting them in needy ways, since you are needy and inexperienced, and they smell that neediness off you a mile away.
Nothing repels women faster than neediness.
The solution is to start going out and learning to build attraction with women face to face. This requires practice. If a woman is really attracted to you, she will not only text back eagerly, within minutes, but she will give you all sorts of compliments to make sure you understand that she want to sleep with you.
If you fail to attract her, she will be very cold via text. Basically non-responsive. If a girl is non-response or cold via text, that her telling you: I have no interest in you.
Women don't have it easy. Actually guys have it easier because we have the ability to go out make ourselves much more attractive via pickup. Women do not have this option.
You make the mistake of confusing your reproductive agenda with a woman's. Women have a totally different reproductive agenda than men. Pure physical sex is of little value to a woman. That's not what the woman needs. So just because she can easily get it with some random dude is of little help to her.
ATTRACTION CANNOT BE BUILT VIA TEXT! << Burn this into your skull. You must build attraction in-person. Texting is merely a mechanism to set up a date, assuming you have attraction. You cannot compensate for lack of attraction with clever text game. It will not work.
The solution here is simple: channel your frustration into going out and socializing with new girls face to face.
Stop expecting texts to get you laid. They will not.

Indeed it does.  What is presently actual for you is what is true for you.   That is the distinction between actuality and concept.  The words anyone speaks to you (including me) are concepts.  It is second order.  Actuality is first order.
Do not mistake concept for actuality.   Doing so turns it into dogma.   Be open minded that concept may or may not be pointing to something that can become actual for you.  But the only way for anything to become actual for you is to actualize it in your direct experience.  Meditation can be key here because it connects you directly with what is actual.

@assx95 Don't adopt truths which you did not realize as beliefs.
You have no idea if things are imaginary or not. You are just parroting some words you heard someone else say. These words are not true for you.
For you, if we cut off your finger, you are gonna think it's a real problem. So that's what is true for you.

Without daily meditation every morning, one skips right past the obviousness of how easy the actuality is. Effortless. 
You want, because you experienced. 
”I would explore consciousness through psychedelics and explore the earth by travelling, and be in a loving intimate relationship. And just be.”
Hells yeah to that. You feel that HELL YES or not man? In you. You feel the HELL YES in you?
.....Like an invisible first step on the slip & slide of thought...then the self referential thought story kicks in...
” I  could do a lot of things but none of them would mean anything. Really. “
That’s conditioning. The “ I “ who needs meaning, so it’s valued, important, meaningful. 
More thought stories, on the back of that opened door of believing the thoughts...
If my life is imaginary, then I don't know what to do with my life anymore. I don't see the point of contributing to the world, an imaginary world, and an imaginary contribution by an imaginary being.
Look, hear, feel. This is indeed it. Create. That’s what an infinite being would do. Be free to create, together. Let it be obvious. Allow all that you are wanting to create, to come into your life. This reality literally simply becomes what is focused on. It’s so magic - we’re like “magic?”. But this has unequivocally been the actuality, the case, the evidence 100% of ‘your entire life’. Never has a thing been outside of your focus, awareness, love, consciousness, wanting. Never once. 
Gonna call bs on ya here...♥️
Life feels like a MMORPG at this point and everything seems ridiculous. 
It that what you do when you know it’s just a video game you’re playing and you’re actually 100% safe sitting on the couch? You turn on the game, and then just sit there and say “oh, there’s nothing worth doing here”. 
Daily morning meditation is priceless. 
But even this reconciliation does nothing.
Reconciliation Is a thought, a thought is not an individual entity, and can’t be said to “do”. But here, in this game - you’re absolutely free. And you have wants. If you’re truly genuinely unaware of your wants, write out a list of what you know you don’t want. But, imo, this is as clear as consciousness:
”Explore consciousness through psychedelics and explore the earth by travelling, and be in a loving intimate relationship. And just be.”
 
Fucks sakes man. That’’s your adventure & metadventure and it’s beautiful all on it’s own. It is it’s own ‘meaning’. 
 
Take it! Take the adventure!
If “the slate wasn’t wiped clean”, you’d be stuck in determinism. But you’re not. You’re free. That’s unexplainable. Try as you may. In hope it helps by cutting through the bullshit thought stories, to the love in living...I’ll send you some pics from the world. ?

The ego's delusion is to believe that one outcome is better than another. The ego is a biased perception of reality. This bias is what creates suffering. So if you want to manipulate reality your whole life, go ahead. The cost of that will be living in a self-created hell. If you want an easy and effortless life, surrender to the will of the universe and stop manipulating.
The point of surrender is heaven and joy.
By trying to get everything your way, you end up creating your own hell. That's the tragedy of the ego's game.

Speaking more practically, from what I've read on your post, you definetely lack the respect and love for yourself and for the world and put too much emphasize on the love for her (or for vagina). Of course, it puts her Off, because from her PoV you look like a man with no substance and who has addiction to pussy. Why would you date someone only because he is addicted to your vagina? Would you like a long-term female partner who is addicted to your genitals but she is very bleak and wants to bring nothing positive to the world? Probably not. GIrls generally look more for life-partners rather than just hookup and If they don't feel that potential off of you, they won't be attracted. Unless they have very low self-esteem which you probably don't want to deal with anyways.

Love the world and yourself first, then women will come effortlessly. It is like the natural law of our universe

@assx95 Boundaries is something you set for yourself to follow (as you correctly did in "if she's seeing another guy, I'm not texting her again") to protect yourself from harm. Emotional hurt is also harm - and to keep loving someone who doesn't love you too usually hurts. So a boundary would be to do yourself a favor and let the thoughts and feelings go, gently, but as soon as possible. 

Lol
#1 rule with girls: never explicitly tell them about sex. If she's gonna fuck you, she needs to be able to maintain the appearance of being a lady. When you tell her explicitly about sex, you make her feel like a cheap whore, and she will never sleep with you after that.
You must play subtle and coy.
Instead of "You down to fuck?" make it, "Let's get a coffee." Make things sound as innocent as possible. Rather than telling her, "Let's go have sex" tell her, "Let's go watch cartoons".
There is no problem if you wanna fuck. Just don't go telling girls about it. Dating is a game. You gotta flirt and tease your way into her pants.
It's very counter-intuitive. One of the best things you can do is act like you are totally disinterested in sex. You can even tell her, "We are definitely not having sex tonight." Then have sex with her 10 minutes later.
Get good at playing these mind games.

@assx95 Dude, if a girl does not respond to your text within 24hrs, she is gone. She doesn't even know you exist. Move on.
A girl who is attracted to you will respond to texts within minutes or hours at most.
You cannot attract girls via text. If she's not responsive it's because you failed to build attraction in person and nothing can be done to overcome that.
You must reach hook-point in person in order to get responsive texts. Try harder to reach hook-point. It's very noticable when you do. Usually happens within 5-10 mins. You will feel her get enthusiastic about you. She will look in your eyes and be very interested in what you have to say. She will be eager to follow your lead.
Do not spend any time thinking about girls who haven't hooked. It will only bring you misery.

@assx95 Dump her!! She's not worth your time. There's a lot of people out there who genuinely want a committed relationship. She doesn't want a committed relationship, as much as she may bullshit you that she does (To be a good person or whatever)! She is hurting you emotionally (unlike what @Preety_India is saying). We're not an independent species, we're a relationally dependent species. Avoidance, silent treatment is emotional abuse, which you're letting her do to you cuz you're not stating your boundaries. Now I'm not saying she's an evil person, but we treat our intimate partners the way our parents treated us when we were little (this may be something to understand about her).
It's important for you to look into why you're attracted to unavailable people and work with that pattern. I'd suggest inner-child work. Also, being more assertive with your boundaries is critical.

@Justincredible76 Try not to touch yourself at all down there. I know urges will come up to do so, but you have to be strong. It gets easier day by day.
Then start killing bad habits for healthier ones. 
Example: if you watch TV and play video games, unplug that shit buy a bunch of self help books and start reading. Even if you read one page a day it counts. Meditation is key too. Daily practice even if only for 10 minutes. 
Three Habits you need daily:
1. Journaling
2. Meditation 
3. Reading
Keep your eye on the prize and DONT RELAPSE NO MATTER WHAT !! Give it at least 30 days. Once you get a little hit of the energy you will never forget it and will never go back to porn ever again. It’s more addicting than the most hardcore porn on the internet. 
Right now I’m attempting monk mode so that means no sexual thoughts at all or fantasizing. I try to look at women only from the neck up. I know it sounds extreme but I can see the benefit of that in the long term. 
Uncontrollable Lust=Suffering 
Good luck boys let me know if y’all have anymore questions. 

Definitely worth it. I’m on day 33 of semen retention right now. Longest streak is 107 days semen retention. I haven’t watched porn in 1.5 years. I have women twice my age staring at me constantly as well as women my age. I only need about 4 hours of sleep per day and I can get through the day effortlessly. My meditation is phenomenal. I’m really passionate about semen retention because how much it has changed your life. Lol I kind of sound like a cult leader but fuck it. 
 Trust me when I tell you being on no fap and cutting out porn is the best decision I have ever made in my life. I could talk for hours about the benefits I have experienced and the man I have become. Mind you I’m not perfect I still have lots of work to do but man I wish you could have saw me two years ago compared to now. Porn is shit compared to the energy and feelings you get from holding your nut. You only miss porn because you just weened off of it. Give it 90 days at least.  I go weeks/months without thinking about that bullshit and if I do i just laugh lol. Don’t listen to those people who say “no fap is stupid” ,“no fap is a waste of time” or “it’s only pseudo benefits or pseudoscience” lmao people who say that haven’t done it for 90+ days and are desperately wishing they could cut out porn and are trying to impregnate  a dell monitor. You got this bro. If you need anything pm me. 
 
peace 

@assx95 Lets be clear, when a woman is interested and it's on then you will know about it, without a doubt. Texts all day, very aggressive, very forward. There is absolutely no doubt what's on the cards.
 

This explains a lot of things in my life. 

Why do you think about your future, stop endulging in fantasies that will never happen and focus on being happy in the all encompassing now. Nothing can be added, nothing is needed now.
Your are dating her a few times and joked around, cool. Why are you making a big deal out of it. How can she know she wants kids with you if she isnt even decided on being with you?
If you want to know if she wants to have kids ask her seriously and dont joke about it. And if she says no and is young. Dont worry so much. Biology and society will do their magic and she probably will want some kids later on. Caring about someone else rather than oneself is very liberating. Most people like it very much. If not, they havent tried yet.
 
It means to detach first from your need to have the world any other way than it is. When you are detached you dont think about if you do this or that. You just do it without any attachment to the outcome. Aka you dont care.
 
I dont understand what you mean with self, authentic self and no-self.