@Candle Same here. Nationality, family aso are just concepts. Further, we couldn't choose where we wanted to be born. I think our way is to accept ourself in our situation as good as we can. 
To be friendly to myself is my personal challenge since my last LSD trip. I saw, that I couldn't trust myself due to my addiction, promising myself over and over again, that I want to stay sober but finding myself with the same behaviour. I think beating ourselfs up and have a negative behaviour with ourself is a general problem. we dont treat our friends in the same way that we do with ourselfs.
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What's the problem if I start a new religion in future? 
(Disclaimer : I am not doing anything on this forum, as creating a religion on the forum is against the guidelines.) 
I will write books and promote the religion too much. I'll write everything that's needed for a good life. Bcz many things are not included in older religions. And there are many rituals whose meanings have been changed by people. Times have changed a lot. 
I will write my own ways of living. 
Pillars : 
Education system. 
Protocols for Health. Business. Relationships. 
Parenting. Teaching.
Sports. Environment. Social Work. Gender sensitization. 
Tantra and supernatural abilities. 
Science and Art. 
Spirituality & Philosophy. Etc. 
The point is : I see parents and teachers don't do their work well. And this is one of the root causes of all human problems. Bcz kids are not raised properly. They lack great qualities and values. Only bcz of the education system, parents and teachers. 
No religion has a specific code of conduct for parenting and teaching, which is much needed if we have to transform societies. 
Also, what would happen if we remove all religions from the world? Are religions necessary? bcz 99% of religious people are blind followers. 
✓ Sometimes, even in blindly following a code of conduct, they do good things and prevent this planet from becoming more hellish. 
✓ If I remember this motivation in future, I'll create a new religion. 
✓ I am afraid of other random people starting  new religions and messing up everything. 

You may have internalized the belief that women have it worse due to historical oppression. It is important to understand that using this belief to invalidate the suffering of yourself and others is a form of emotional abuse and is unhealthy. Injustice can exist for anyone regardless of gender.
When males are sexually abused, It is usually a consequence of a broken institution or system. Most sexual abuse of males can be found in places like prisons and juvenile detention. Sometimes the police officers are willfully negligent of prisoners being beaten and raped because on some level it is believed that these men deserve to be raped. This is a clear violation of the constitutional protections against cruel and unusual punishments, but sexual abuse is still an implied punishment in practice.
In order to challenge this thought process, you need to maintain strong moral clarity that rape is never justice. Society does not care about these men being sexually abused because it is somehow believed that they deserve it for being criminals who were convicted to begin with. There is no such thing as deserving to be raped.
Furthermore, I was sexually assaulted and harassed on several occasions which made me extremely uncomfortable due to past trauma. It was invalidating when others expected me to rejoice in unwanted sexual contact. In a separate incident the community and my therapist didn't take me seriously as a pathological liar controlled the narrative.
Situations like these caused me lasting psychological harm especially as a child. Due to my difficulty in understanding this behavior as a result of gaslighting through playful demeanor, I became increasingly confused and it fed into my fears of becoming a perpetrator myself. This led to trauma based ocd.
There are other more severe stories you can read about if you want. I found them on an online forum called male survivor. Perhaps men receive less compassion because the usual perpetrator is male. If we want a better society, then injustice must be opposed no matter who the victim is.

Because of what the fundamental definition of "femininity" implies, along with societal conditioning.
Femininity is often associated with vulnerability, weakness, openness, purity, emotionality, beauty/ideal/perfection, love, care, and empathy.
Vulnerability/Weakness
When something is perceived as weaker or more vulnerable, we tend to respond more intensely to it because it feels "unfair." Consider why harming babies or children is such a significant issue. We understand the innocence and lack of defense mechanisms that make them easily influenced and open to impact. 
Greater Impact: It hits harder and causes more pain to the fragile individual. Defenselessness: The perpetrator exploits something easily vulnerable, which makes them feel even more scummier and evil. "Pure evil" can only ever exist in the suffering of the truly innocent. The closer an action is to this "pure evil," the more it angers and emotionally affects us. Openness, Purity, Naivety, Easily Influenced, Impacted
Similar to vulnerability, these traits explain the societal value placed on female virginity. Females are seen as more innocent, so harming them feels worse. There's also a misconception that any man would love to be sexually assaulted, believing it's a "jackpot" due to the assumption that men always seek sex (a very disgustingly harmful stereotype).
Emotionality and Expression
Emotional expression makes the impact more immersive. This is why those who express their pain vocally often receive more help than those who suffer in silence. When someone cries out, their sheer pain and terror are visible, drawing us into their experience. Immersion is key to empathy; the more someone immerses us in their world of suffering, the more we feel it. The gender that is more emotionally expressive conveys strong emotions of suffering, which we respond to more deeply.
Beauty/Ideal/Perfection
The more something is perceived as beautiful, the sadder its loss. Something endearing and perfect being ruined evokes a strong emotional response. We feel sadness and anger over the destruction of beauty. Hence why even aging can feel sad.
Less Threatening
We lower our guards and allow things to impact us more when they are perceived as less threatening. A person with a sturdy voice, strong, as in substance, construction, who seems put together, is harder to imagine as being harmed because we see them as a potential threat. However, when we see something weaker, we can immerse ourselves more easily in their vulnerability.
Care, Empathy, Nurture, Love
Things that feel more loving or caring are seen as inherently "good," and valuable. When such things are harmed, it feels more tragic. It evokes a strong emotional response because it feels like an attack on the very essence of goodness and purity. (Which we seem to inherently want to preserve and protect.)

I’m currently journaling about the topic of lightness, ease and effortlessness. Feel free to share your thoughts with me. 
Here are my thoughts about this topic:
What does it mean to live with more lightness?
Worry less Letting Go of Contro: Trust in life Move with eaze and effortlessness being high in energy Don’t carry physical or mental burden clear and calm thoughts How to life with more lightness / eaze
Get good highquality sleep Feel your whole body all the time. Good Body awareness Be aware of the room around you Move with lightness Act as though you life with eaze: Dance, Jump around for fun Detox your gut Detox your brain Fasting Light Diet, Less Fats, Less Fibre, Less heavy indigestiable foods Spend time in Nature and observe the effortlessness of tress and birds. Trees grow to greatness without tryharding Surround yourself with lighthearted relaxed people Avoid heavy information input like News (especially in the evening) Set less rules without flexibility: Veganism, Sugarfree, Everydays, always,   => Go from 100% consistency to 95% Become aware of how Life works out exactly the right way Use Psychedelics to see the beauty and ease in reality Practice QiGong, TaiQi and KungFu: Practice of effortless movement Observe your thoughts and look for truth

@Candle Hmm...
Revenge is always a tricky decision. Ideally, if you can "let it go," that would be great, but often it's not a simple one-to-one answer. The myth that "Just forget it dude, revenge never feels good and will never get you what you seek" isn't entirely true. Some people can truly make your life a miserable hell, and for some, the only way to regain a sense of sanity is to attain justice.
The idea that "Oh, Karma will come to them all one day!" is also not necessarily accurate either; many evil people escape the consequences of their actions and live blissfully ignorant lives until they die. While they might face repercussions on a spiritual level, that’s often not useful in the context of your question.
I would suggest evaluating how you feel about the situation. Monitor your emotional state over time: Does it consume your thoughts throughout the day? Do you feel like nothing you do will ever satisfy your need for justice? If so, then pursuing some form of revenge might be necessary for your mental well-being. Some people need to "burn through" the karma and see justice served before they can move on to higher pursuits. (See Leo's episode on Burning through Karma)
On the other hand, if you feel you can let go of this desire for revenge more easily, or if you can find motivation and focus elsewhere, it may be best to do so. This is a complex situation, and it's difficult to give a definitive answer without understanding your inner thoughts, the severity of the situation, and your personal biases. Feel free to PM me in case you want to discuss it in more detail.
It's worth mentioning that many people say "Revenge wasn't worth it." simply because they didn't execute it properly. If you choose to go down that path, make sure you clearly define what type of release or emotion you want to achieve, and ensure that you get it. Don’t cut corners; otherwise, you may end up feeling even more bitter about the situation. If you want to pursue legal action, for instance, hire a competent lawyer and develop a solid plan to fuck them over. If your goal is to damage their reputation, ensure it's something that will genuinely sting them for a long time.
I don’t consider myself a vengeful person, as I find it exhausting. However, I understand that some individuals have faced terrible situations where seeking justice was the only option that felt satisfying. 
Ultimately, much of life revolves around the skill of choosing when to indulge or transcend one's urges. Sometimes, we can do so, and other times, it may be necessary to act on those urges. Both approaches are valid and should not be viewed as superior to one another. It'd be equivalent to trying to jump to Coral in Spiral Dynamics while you haven't even gotten Blue's lessons of discipline and you can't pay your rent.
Oh... and - 
Which state am I from? Well, I need to satisfy my urge for infinite mystery and privacy on here, sadly... teehee, hugs.

For the sake of avoiding permanent IP bans, I’ll outline the general patterns of the most horrifying and unimaginable forms of suffering:
1. Unimaginable Levels of Physical Pain
The sheer intensity of physical torment can be beyond comprehension. This involves inflicting extreme pain through torture, dismemberment, or grotesque acts of cruelty. It’s about prolonging the agony as much as possible. The victim is kept alive through whatever means necessary, ensuring that they experience every moment of their suffering in full, unrelenting detail. There’s no escape, no momentary respite from the pain. They are forced to remain fully aware of every excruciating sensation.
2. Crushing Emotional Devastation
Emotional pain can be far more destructive than physical suffering. Stripping away everything that defines a person’s purpose. Take away their most cherished possessions, their accomplishments, their sense of security, and isolate them from the support systems they’ve spent their life building. Cut off from family, friends, and all emotional anchors, they are left in a void of loneliness. Their very identity is torn apart, and all that remains is an overwhelming sense of despair. Their financial security is obliterated, their reputation shattered, and any hope of rebuilding is crushed. Add to that the horror of being physically maimed, losing limbs, and mental faculties, and becoming unable to care for themselves.
3. The Cruelty of False Hope
Giving them glimmers of hope, only to rip it away again. A person, barely clinging to life, being shown kindness or love -- only to be plunged back into unimaginable despair. This constant cycle of “edging” hope keeps them teetering on the brink of madness. The cruelty lies in this: they are kept alive not just to suffer, but to believe in the possibility of relief, only for that belief to be crushed again and again.
4. The Slow Descent Into Madness
Slipping into a state where everything you thought you knew becomes unreliable. Your senses betray you; memories fade or become distorted, and you can no longer trust the world around you. The victim begins to lose their grasp on reality itself. They question everything they know, and their mind becomes a prison, a place where they no longer know what’s real. Inflicting conditions similar to dementia or schizophrenia, where they slowly witness the erosion of their grasp on reality and their sense of self. Gaslighting them into questioning everything they perceive, showing them how easily their reality can be manipulated and changed. A good example of this would be scenarios described in bad-trip horror stories - visions of ghosts, jesters, or voices mocking them, telling them contradictory things about reality, and toying with their perception of the world. The human mind is fundamentally terrified of losing sanity, making this one of the cruelest forms of torment.
5. Watching Loved Ones Suffer
Subjecting the victim to watch as the same levels of physical, emotional, and mental pain are inflicted on their dearest loved ones. Hearing the screams and cries of family members, friends, or anyone else they hold close while being completely powerless to intervene. Watching the hope and lives of those they love get destroyed. Some people value their loved ones more than themselves, so this could be even more torturous for them than personal suffering.
6. Forcing the Victim to Perpetuate the Evil
Forcing the victim, after losing their sanity completely, to commit the same horrors inflicted upon them onto their closest loved ones. Making them responsible for the pain and suffering of those they hold dear, turning them into the source of the evil they once endured. This adds another layer of torment, as they’re trapped in an unthinkable moral and emotional agony.
Core Elements of Torture:
Inflicting extreme levels of physical, emotional, and spiritual pain that break the victim on every level. Manipulating hope, keeping the victim on the edge of possibility while never allowing them to truly escape their suffering. Forcing the victim to watch and endure the suffering of their loved ones, with no ability to intervene or stop the pain. The erosion of sanity and self-trust, leading the victim to question everything about themselves and the world around them. Mockery, shame, and gaslighting, which strips the victim of their dignity and leaves them powerless and broken. Forcing the victim to become the perpetrator of their own suffering and the suffering of those they love. Extreme, visceral visions of disgust and horror—an all-encompassing, immersive experience. Fully aware, every sense heightened, drowning in gruesome smells that suffocate the air, nauseating textures that crawl under the skin. Forced to consume, forced to feel, as each organ is twisted and distorted from the inside. The more vivid, slow, and painfully real the experience becomes, the deeper the agony.
A permanent sense of entrapment, forever trapped in this torment, unable to escape. The feeling of being completely powerless, inferior to the pain that is relentlessly inflicted. There is no control, no escape, no sense of security, only a deep, suffocating awareness of helplessness. Each moment is a reminder that the suffering will never cease, and the victim remains utterly at the mercy of the relentless, overpowering force of their pain.
TLDR; Exploit all the things the ego deeply fears and directly threaten its survival.
Helplessness and Lack of Control: The fear of being unable to shape or influence one's environment or circumstances, feeling at the mercy of external forces. Being Useless, Meaningless, and Unimportant: The ego fears being irrelevant, unnoticed, and lacking purpose or value in the grand scheme of things. It dreads being insignificant. Death: The most fundamental fear, the ego is terrified of its mortality and the cessation of its existence. It strives to preserve itself at all costs. Pain: Both physical and emotional pain are deeply feared by the ego, as they threaten its sense of well-being and stability. Loss of Love: The ego thrives on validation and affection from others. The fear of being unloved, rejected, or abandoned can be overwhelming. Loss of Safety: The ego seeks security in its environment, whether that be physical, emotional, or financial. The fear of being exposed to danger or uncertainty destabilizes it. Loss of Identity: The ego is tied to a constructed sense of self. The fear of losing this identity, whether through mental collapse, identity crises, or external forces, is a profound threat to its survival. Failure and Inadequacy: The ego fears not living up to its own expectations or those of others. It dreads failure and the shame associated with it. Isolation and Loneliness: The fear of being alone, abandoned, or disconnected from others is a deep anxiety for the ego, as it thrives on social validation and connection. Being Exposed or Vulnerable: The ego fears having its weaknesses, flaws, or insecurities exposed. Vulnerability is seen as a threat to its survival, as it craves control over its image. Time: The fear of time slipping away, the inability to control one's future or legacy, or the looming uncertainty of aging and decay. Rejection and Criticism: The ego fears being judged harshly, criticized, or rejected by others, which threatens its sense of self-worth and esteem. Disintegration of the Self: The terror of feeling fragmented, disconnected, or out of control of one's thoughts, emotions, or behaviors, leading to a loss of coherence and unity in the self. Remember, ultimately, God doesn't care about anything we label as "gruesome" since it has no "ego-self" to deeply attach to. So, the only way to amplify a gruesome, horrible experience is to directly attack and amplify the one that actually perceives pain and horror as something to fear - which is our lovely friend Ego, of course! 😊

A notion that can only be held by one who has not been physically abused.

A few key things:
1) Talk less, experience more. Seek out more experience rather than bullshitting. Don't wait for experience to befall you, strategically plan to acquire it.
2) "Experience" also includes stuff like reading books, talking to experts, doing deep research, and contemplation. Most people talk about stuff not only without direct experience but even without basic research and reading and contemplation. For example, you can talk about war or read a book about war. The book will at least cure basic stupidity on the topic.
3) Practice more humility and not-knowing when talking about things.
4) Just practice recognizing when you don't have any experience on a topic. That alone is a game-changer vs what most people do.
5) You can talk for years and still never get the bullshit out of your system. It's not like there's a finite amount of bad opinions and arguments. Your mind can bullshit endlessly about any topic. But of course you can't always avoid saying stupid things. Stupid things will be said.

I have been doing some research on crimes against humanity. I have discovered that sometimes rape is seen as a valid military tactic designed to terrorize and dehumanize the population. This tactic is especially effective and terrorizing against deeply religious communities who place a strong emphasis on being proper to the point that women may be killed when violated or they are forced to marry the rapist. Rape is also a form of biological warfare designed to impregnate the victim population, destroying their race and ethnicity or to infect with STDs. 
I have read about several examples of genocidal rape, trying to put myself in the victim's shoes to see how I would feel. I genuinely felt disturbed by what I imagined.
Here is one of many examples of genocidal rape.
Rape was widespread during the Armenian Genocide, which was committed by the Ottoman Turks. During the death marches of Armenian civilians through Anatolia in 1915, Turkish soldiers frequently raped and killed Armenian women and children. In many cases, Turkish and Kurdish civilians also participated in these crimes. Turks took Armenian women and girls into sexual slavery or forced them into marriage. Those women forced into marriage also had to convert to Islam. Some perpetrators believed that women and girls could be successfully assimilated into Muslim Turkish culture, unlike men and boys. After the genocide ended, women and girls who had been forced into marriage often could not return to their former lives. They had no family left, no source of income, or otherwise feared the stigma of having married a Turk. Additionally, Turks publicly raped the wives, daughters, and other female relatives of important Armenian men. In addition to dehumanizing the victims, these targeted rapes intimidated the Armenian leadership into submission and dissuaded them from resisting. Some Armenian women and girls were sold as sex slaves. The Turkish soldiers stripped them naked and displayed them at auction. Their nudity in a conservative society served to further dehumanize them and strip them of agency. Many were forced into marriage or prostitution.
In many cases women prefer to kill themselves to avoid being raped. There were cases with women being chased by soldiers through the streets only to jump off a bridge to kill themselves, avoiding rape. There were also mass suicides in Japan near the end of world war two because the women believed the enemy would rape them. Rape can also cause severe PTSD leading to suicide at a later date.
Rape can also cause a challenging moral dilemma if it leads to forced pregnancy. On one hand the victim is not responsible for the child, but on the other hand the child doesn't deserve to die. Some women throw these babies in a dumpster. Meanwhile there are some anti abortion women who were raped and are now single mothers.
There were some more severe cases of rape. For example, there was one woman who was nonstop gang raped for eight days believe it or not. She died shortly afterwards in one example of being raped to death. Other examples include things like the rape of nanjing in which babies were torn from the arms of their mothers by a bayonet, the mother's were raped, then the women were stabbed in the vagina with a bayonet until they died. Meanwhile boys were cut open and raped through an artificial vagina as well. I would rather die than have my penis cut off and be raped through an artificial vagina. I probably wouldn't survive such a brutal rape anyway.
One last example I found was from unit 731. This was a world war 2 death camp in which prisoners were infected with STDs and then held at gunpoint being forced to have sex with each other. This process continued with this repeated rape by coercion, infecting people with more and more STDs. The result is that each rape was more agonizing than the last. In the end the victims developed horrific infections in their genitals to the point that they all died and there were no survivors. I imagined how I would feel if I were one of the victims. I would rather refuse to have sex with this woman even if I am shot to death to avoid developing a horrific infection that may be lethal.
With all of that in mind, here are my questions.
Is rape worse than death? How would you feel about being raped as a man or as a woman? How severe does rape have to be for you to kill yourself?
Personally, if I were raped it would be severely disturbing and traumatizing. I would be damaged forever, but maybe I would survive. I think I could live with being raped once, but probably not multiple times with no hope of escape. I would definitely rather die than be a sex slave. For me I think it depends on how brutal the rape is, how many times, and what kind of STDs for me to fear it more than death.

We have folks literally across the entire globe. With a majority in the USA, Canada, UK, Europe & Australia.
Here's a map of countries that purchased the life purpose course:

 
Right now the forum population is too small to do effective meet ups. Once we reach a large number of forum members, then I'll look into some way to possibly enable this.
In general the Actualized.org audience is global. Which might explain why ya'lls English is so damn sloppy!

Yes it is possible they say, they can do many things for the right reasons and purpose. Someone desperate to have a loved one come back to life because they miss them or something else is not one of those reasons I think...
They say "Leave the Dead to the Dead", feel blessed and happy that You had that person in Your life, use the pain to realize You are a complete life on Your own, and not needing anything/anyone in particular to Experience Completeness. and Via that completeness You want to share with others, not extract from others...
Just my 2 cents!

Within 100 years, none of the 8 billion people alive today will be alive. Who killed who, who raped who, who torchured who, won't matter after 100 years. Because the oppressed and the oppressor both would have merged into the same source. 
100 years later, there will be a completely new generation busy in their own bullshit.. 

Being lonely  Being single  Having no friends  Losing a loved one  Seeing someone in grief  Seeing dark sides of the world Your friend ghosting you  Your friend betrayed you  Fear of being judged by others  Fear of missing out (fomo)  Nostalgia  Expectations not fulfilled  Disillusionment  Confusion  Rumination  Brain chemistry not good.  Feeling bored or exhausted  Failure  Mistreatment by someone  Bullying or confinement.  Headache  Headache due to seeing toxic influencers online.  Headache due to seeing people like Trump, Elon, Tate, etc.  Headache due to seeing toxic masculinity.  Micro suffering while using negative words "hate", "toxicity", "anger", etc. in our posts.  Embarassment  Shame  Anger  Trauma  Someone you admire lets you down  Trying to control what you can't control.  Seeing bs.  Seeing bitter truths of the universe.  Rapes and rape news/stories  Brutality  Force, someone did sth against will.  Being violated. Being used.  Destruction of evidence by powerful/rich people.  Injustice.  Victim shaming.  Will add many others later. 

Well.. I don't look at them the same way anymore. They begin to look untrustworthy to me. Not saying that they're bad. If it's too much cussing, then I will doubt their social calibration and mannerisms and I would find it gross. Eventually I would dissociate from them. I get weirded out by cussing and it gives uncultured vibes.