Yoremo

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    @Striving for more Comepletely agree with you, but as you said if you can do like meditation in the evening that might help you. But I have been doing the golden milk peanutspathtotruth reccomended and now after like 2 months I go to sleep really easily. So if you can find things like that you won´t need to sacrifice your health, because realistically I can´t keep that up either without compromissing the rest of my life.

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    On 2022-03-12 at 2:43 PM, Philipp said:

    you can just start writing a list of specific things you apreciate in life and this can be as basic as "having a conversation with a friend" "eating icecream", ... just to get started if you feel you have no passion at all (maybe your view of passion is a bit too extreme) 

    And what is the correct way to view passion? I don´t think my view of passion is extreme, I think today´s society is just so fucking unpassionate that that is the new normal. Why should I write a list of things I appreciate?

    On 2022-03-12 at 9:30 PM, Osaid said:

    Have you ever gotten really invested in a video game? Maybe you grinded for some item in the game or something. Time went by so quickly, and you could easily spend lots of time on it. That's what passion/life purpose feels like, but it has to be something to do with your career or monetary gain. I've yet to pinpoint something like that as well though.

    sadly enough I have only ever been passionate about games and not even that for long. I get bored of games too.

     

    On 2022-03-12 at 9:48 PM, mojsterr said:

    What makes your heart light up?

    What are the things that tickle you deep inside?

     

    Is there anything like that? If yes, then try to go from here.

     

    Perhaps you don't know what you want for yourself but you like helping others. Or working with animals. Or children. I don't know, stuff like that.

     

    But what am I going to do of that? I want to have something to do during my days! Now I spend most of my days staring into the distance, I don´t know how to extract a passion from this depressed state.

     

    On 2022-03-13 at 10:57 AM, Spence94 said:

    @Yoremo The paradox of passion is that in order to do what you are passionate about you have to take action to master a skill you're not passionate about. By developing proficiency in the skill and seeing the results of that proficiency benefit other people, you will develop passion for that work. In short, passion is created not found. Don't wait for it. 

    This perspective comes from the book 'Be so good they can't ignore you.'

    He says, don't wait for your calling, focus on building skills so you can do work that is passionate. Passionate work is a valuable thing and contrary to popular belief is something you have to earn, not just stumble upon.

    He suggests to follow the things you're interested in and have inclination towards but don't get hung up on wether or not you're passionate about the things or not because you will never get anywhere that way. Passion comes once you build the skill in the area and serve others with it. Take action first, then passion will come. Not the other way around.

    I don´t know about this one... I have studied math for thousands of hours and I want to disappear during math. I also played soccer A LOT but never really felt any passion for it. There has to be some initial interest in it or passion won´t come, feel free to dismantle that if you want but I don´t see how just choosing something and doing it obsessiely will make me passionate about it. I have tried in the past.

     

    On 2022-03-13 at 5:19 PM, A_v_E said:

    Read about da vinci, and books about him.

    how not to be inspired ?
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    what´s about da vinci?

    20 hours ago, Arthogaan said:

    Also you can think in a very abstract way. Your passion does not to have be defined in this typical way like it is a particular job. Maybe it is looking at the sky whole day. Maybe it is eating pizza.

    I for example in the past also gave myself a lot of hard time to find my passion. I analyzed my past, what did I do as a kid, who I wanted to be as a kid. And I realized that I also didn't have anything sharply defined and have no clear idea. I was jumping from hobby to other hobby. Quickly loosing interest. I got a lot of critique from parents for this my whole life. And felt bad about myself.

    And then it clicked that this is exactly what my passion was. The freedom to jump from hobby to hobby. The freedom to be careless and look at the sky. To explore life, and pick the things that resonate.

     

    Well, I long for something to work with all day everyday. I have a lot of passions... porn, junk food, yelling at people that don´t deserve it etc. But I want something to devote most of my time to do.

     

    20 hours ago, zurew said:

    @Yoremo

    Even if nothing excites you at the moment, you could contemplate about it.

    If you really can't find anything, then you can "attack" this with answering the following question. What would be useful/worthwhile to do?

    Because if you can find some answer for that question, even if it doesn't excites you at the first moment, you can still feel some purpose there, because in your opinion it would be worthwhile to do.

    You can also change up your routine, you could move, change you evironment so you can gather more experience. You could try different kind of jobs, so you can have a sense what you are naturally good at ,or what can catch your attention. Make sure you are open to new experiences and places.

    I think one of the most important one is, to change up your routine. Make new friends, make sure, you have different kind of experiences.

    You could contemplate about jobs, and then watch videos about it, to see how those jobs are looking like in the every day world. Also, you could talk about people about their jobs, especially if you see that they are excited about it.

    Well my job is to go to school, and after every school day I feel empty and sad and I am kind of stuck in that. I am trying to make new friends and change my environment already but thanks.

     

    Maybe I am looking at this from the wrong perspective. Maybe I shouldn´t look out for what makes passion but eliminate that which undermines any kind of sense of meaning. I guess depression plays a big role in preventing me from seeing any possibilities?

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    Okay, I think I am a bit anxious to read a lot and "learn" a lot. Which is why I just read without really practicing. How is it that so many people talk about how they have read hundreds of books? Like that would be totally impossible, maybe if you do it consistently until you´re like 90 but I guess this is where I got it from.

    So read, when I read something I feel is valuable I contemplate it a bit (not too fancy) and then I apply it into my life and see what comes out of that and learn further when I apply.

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    @Sucuk Ekmekdon´t even know what curiosity is at this point. My main motivation for reading is to learn stuff so I can live my life without falling for all of the stupid mental traps.

    @zurew Yes, this might just be one big thing about the solution. But how do I drag myself to do that? I am going to try and read one quite short book and apply what you just said and see what happens. I feel myself resisting it a hell of a lot though.

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    Going to not do shadow work or anything like that here anymore, feels like I am having a bullshit journal here. I won´t write big passages about things anymore, I am just going to write about whatever is going on in my life, and I am going to try to write more carefully and sincere and not just pour out as many words as I can as fast as I can. I want some more structure on this, and I want to do this journal because it kind of motivates me. Short, concise and dense is what I want here for myself.

    Anyone who wants is welcome to post anything here.

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    1 minute ago, At awe said:

    I saw his responses as a friendly slap in the face. It was like” come to this moment, wake up” Slap…?Refreshing 

    same. I´m grateful for what he has done for me. I don´t know how to explain it in words, but I feel a greater sense of direction after talking to him.

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    So, been trying to do self help for a while. I am now beginning to see a pattern— nothing fucking works!

    So, I am not here to welcome you to my pity party. Because I feel that I am missing something still, or that I don´t get it. I am hopeful about some things right now but other things haven´t worked out for me so I am kind of trying to find this out for later "studies".

    So it´s weird for me because self help advice has never resonated, I feel depressed now so that might contribute, but even when I was feeling good I was struggling. And as you know there is more advice than you could ever go through. And I don´t intend to. But what might I be doing wrong/what am I not understanding about this? 

    Do I need a life purpose and some kind of grounding for it to work?

    If not, then how do you source out a good source of advice from bad advice? The advice given are so contradictory, and it ain´t easier by brainless people saying that it changed their life. Like it says that on every self help book.— Then my thought is: maybe I am having a bad attitude towards this? Maybe I am not persistent enough and consistent enough?

    I want to be happy, that´s what I´m being a bitch about. And last when I was consistently happy was when I had purpose (atleast some) and when my body wasn´t injured. And these two things both are important, but they are not relevant to this. Because still then I was insecure and stupid. I couldn´t implement any self help then either.

    Another thought— is self help only helpful by providing techniques? Like for an example, I read six pillars of self esteem, and people have loved it but the only thing I implemented was the sentence completions. Other than that that book was like a long description of the word self esteem, I can´t see how people can use that to improve their life!! Like yes NB explained what self esteem is characterized by, but intuitively all humans know this. "be confident"- thank you.

    I don´t know if I am trying to fuck up all the advice given. Like am I that traumatized that my mind is unable to see possibilities of change because I am so fucked up? I don´t really see myself as that fucked up but maybe I am. I do have incredible mood swings. The only "advice" I have been able to internalize for a while in the past has been to forcefully be disciplined and to act confident. Not even practical advice is working, it´s like I am defying all biology, logic and physics for the detriment of myself.

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    @RMQualtroughHave you never had any benefits with self help? I guess you mean a certain kind of self help doesn´t work? You are just boggling my mind, so the people that have healed real emotional problems is this just this dopamine hit of the product? I see a lot of people myself that are praising books, courses etc. without having real results, I am just curious to what kind of self help you consider helpful and what is not. Once again I just want to see how you´re thinking, btw already watched that video and I am coming out of that trap. But ironically I am coming out of that consumtion of self help with self help, but with a different mindset of actually applying and taking action and learning more from experience.

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    @ValiantSalvatoreI have the same problem. I am just now looking into letting go/releasing/revealing from looking at this guy: https://www.youtube.com/c/Thefearlessman but the same technique is also found in the books sedona method and letting go. Also a key concept is the 1% rule found in "the slight edge". I don´t know if this works though but send me a pm in a month or so if you want to find out. The idea is that if you can observe and welcome your emotions and then let them go that they turn into higher emotions, making attaining stuff easier.

    I mainly just wrote this because I wanted to collect my thoughts but feel free to look into it, my first experience with it has been that I have felt my whole body just pulsating with good emotions. But if you don´t want to spend the time looking it up, just pm me in a month or so (makes me feel responsibiliy to actually so this).;)

    This guy´s meditation has also helped me in just a week: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichaelTaft108 Never had good meditations but this actually makes me feel calmer, more confident and more loving instantaneously. But the sessions can be really fucking frustrating if you haven´t meditated in the past.

    I´m sorry I didn´t include a measuring tool or somehting of that sort, but honestly (and this comes from a emotionally low place I am in) I don´t think there is a perfect measuring tool for you. When you are emotionally aligned with your passion and you can let go of all your fears and insecurities (or atleast gaining confidence and security in feeling those hard emotions) then attaining your true passions and goals will be effortless.

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    10 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    or even just repeatedly asking stupid questions will be banned.

    Hypothetically, what does this mean? Like I have been on this forum for about 3 months and many of my questions has been really stupid, but they have led me to a better understanding of this work today. Do you mean repeatedly asking the same stupid questions or just if someone asks general stupid questions? Because I am definitely asking stupid questions, stemming from a deep inseurity about whether I am correct or incorrect (coming from a lot of failures).

    I think this is good, I have posted without much thought a bit too much and posting more thought out and responsible questions/answers is something I think will benefit everyone

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    @RoyI drink water, lemon water and milk (no more milk now though). But lemon water can´t possibly be bad?

    I will change my food consumption pretty radically from now on. Actually got my parents to accept this new diet of mine so they have agreed to let me do my stuff, do you think that will be hard? Honestly I´ll do it anyways cuz I´m sick of feeling bad and food is something I really want to change to healthy.

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    23 hours ago, K Ghoul said:

    Majority of the most fascinating men that I have encountered all looked like they were living on the streets. They just don’t give a fuck about how they look or how someone might perceive them

    Develop yourself from within. The rest will follow 

    @K Ghoulwhy do you dress the way you dress? don´t you care? What I mean is I don´t really intend to please everyone around me, I am just wanting to have clothes I actually like. Feel free to dismantle that if you wish as I see how I can be lying to myself but I think this is a genuine desire to just have some decent clothes:D