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  1. Posted

    2 minutes ago, Lila9 said:

    No, I just was eager to answer your question as I understood it at that moment ? 

    Just an attempt at developing a sense of humour :$

    3 minutes ago, Lila9 said:

    And I don't see acceptance and numbness as opposed things, numbness isn't the purpose of the practitioner but the side-effect or the result of accepting suffering.

    That's an interesting perspective. I didn't think about it like this before.

  2. Posted

    @Lila9 you thought I watched a few serial killer documentaries and was about to start hacking babies left and right? ?

    3 minutes ago, Lila9 said:

    @Something Funny

    I don't know but I think that when you practice meditation for years and you know how to enter to deep meditative states, it's sort of numb your body sensations because deep meditative states (or state of trance) prevent your mind from being too focused on physical pain.

     

    I don't think it works like that. I probably don't have a clue just like you but I imagined that you transcend pain and suffering by feeling deeply into it (as opposed to numbing) and fully loving and accepting it.

  3. Posted

    1 minute ago, Leo Gura said:

    I'm sure it's possible. But not without super-human levels of hardcore training.

    I don't see anyone here who's serious enough to achieve it. But maybe a handful might.

    It is not the same thing as Awakening. But it might be a worthwhile pursuit. I cannot say because I have not seriously pursued it. At least yet. Maybe in the future I will. But for now I have higher priorities.

    I was just always drawn to and excited by stories like this. So I am wondering if I should set it as a long term goal for myself.

    Ok, thanks you for advise 

  4. Posted

    @Lila9

    2 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

    No, I didn't mean it that context. I don't agree with the commenters above. I am trying to be vegan myself for ethical reasons (emphasis on trying)

    Just in general. Is this actually a real thing? Can you transcend your own pain and suffering this way. Is this a worthy pursuit or do you consider it a distraction from real Awakening?

     

     

  6. Posted · Edited by Something Funny

    4 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    This is not license to slit child's throat.

    That says nothing about animals and babies suffering.

    No, I didn't mean it that context. I don't agree with the commenters above. I am trying to be vegan myself for ethical reasons (emphasis on trying)

    Just in general. Is this actually a real thing? Can you transcend your own pain and suffering this way. Is this a worthy pursuit or do you consider it a distraction from real Awakening?

     

  7. Posted · Edited by Something Funny

    4 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    I will stab you in the skull with my dinner fork. Then let's talk.

    In your strong determination sitting video you had a story about Shinzen Young doing a root canal without painkillers and being totally at ease and smiling throughout the whole process.

    Or there are monks who set themselves on fire and sit still.

    What about that? What does it say about pain and suffering?

     

  11. Posted

    @Lila9 I've just watched this one:

     

    What a well done documentary. I actually didn't think I would enjoy watching it that much. I will probably get into documentaries now, haha. I have been wanting to watch "The last dive of David Shaw" for a while now, but have been putting it away.

    And wow, this case is insane. It's crazy how he was able to kill 33 people, and could probably kill even more if he didn't get so careless with the last boy. That's just insane.

    Imagine having so many people gone missing that have this guy in their social circle and police just didn't give a fuck.

    I wonder if it's the same nowadays or something has changed for the better.

    Also this guy is a very interesting person to study if you are interested in psychology I think. Such a nut job. To be honest I wished that they didn't execute him but instead put him into a mental hospital and sudied him like the lawyer suggested.

    So, anyway, thanks for sharing )

  13. Posted

    @Judy2 that's great because if it's runnind windows then any random keyboard would be compatible with it. So in the worst case scenario you can just go and buy a cheap Bluetooth keyboard.

    https://www.mediamarkt.de/de/category/tastaturen-375.html?sort=currentprice%2Basc&filter=specialty%3ABluetooth

    If you are unsure, you can just grab your tablet, go to a store and say that you need a cheap Bluetooth keyboard that will work with it. They could probably even help you to connect it right there.

  14. Posted

    @Judy2 oh, I thought you had a laptop.

    Then what kind of keyboard do you have? And is it an ipad, android, or windows tablet?

    You still have 2 options. You could buy a usb to micro usb / usb c connector. They also shouldn't be that expensive or buy a Bluetooth keyboard.

     

  17. Posted · Edited by Something Funny

    @Lila9 I don't necessarily say that I want to be chased by girls. Sure, I as a guy have to do the first steps of approaching, setting up a date, etc.

    I am just against the idea of me being the only one who invests into a relationships, shows love, care, attention, etc.

    I also want to be told that I am loved, or be given a compliment, or cuddled, or jumped on and hugged from time to time.

    I don't see what's wrong with that orbhow would that make me lose attraction towards her. 

  20. Posted

    5 hours ago, Emerald said:

    I’m sure that game is helpful.

    But the real issue that keeps men lonely isn’t lack of game… or some nonsense that Karmadhi was saying about needing to be in the top 10% of men to get a girlfriend.

    The real problem is a lack of social outlets… which then behooves men to learn game and do cold approach in lieu of a healthy social life.

    That’s why I recommended creating a social circle. You can just be an average (or even below average) guy and not learn much game and still get a girlfriend if you have a social circle.

    I know this because my high school and college social circle consisted of a lot of nerdy guys and girls. And none of them were unable to find partners despite the fact that many of them lacked in social graces and/or looks.

    And the connection is honestly just better and more organic with social circles.

    If we were living in a time where society wasn’t so atomized and online, the men who are on here that are complaining about not being able to get girlfriends would have already had some luck.

     

    Okay let's say I would be open to trying this "just socialize" appoach. But here are questions and concerns that I have about it:

    Lets say my hobby is climbing. If I oush myself out of my comfort zone I could probably find myself a group of friends, like 10 people, at my climbing gym and hang out with them.

    1. Am I supposed to have a social circle of a hundred + people and spend half of my waking time on it? The social circle of 10 friends would have 2-3 girls in it let's say. This just seems like not enough volume. What if none of them are attracted to me or I am not attracted to them?

    2. If I can't find a partner within my social circle am I supposed to ditch it and set up a new one? For example in this case, am I supposed to find a new hobby for myself, lol? I don't like that idea.

    3. Let's say that I am lucky and I find a gf from my social circle. What happens if we break up? Hanging out together in that social circle would get super awkward for us. Once again, am I supposed to ditch it now? Or am I supposed to get a new gf from the same social circle, considering how we would all know wach other?

    4. Am I supposed to now view every girl within my social circle as a dating opportunity? I don't like it becuase it kills the idea that man and woman can be just good friends and not have any hidden intentions behind their biceness/ friendliness and not play dating games with each other.

    Seems like a really weird situation full of gossiping,  games, and manipulation. Comparee to that pickup seems like a much more authentic and honest option.

    5 hours ago, Emerald said:

    And the connection is honestly just better and more organic with social circles.

    My dad met both my mom and my stepmom by cold approaching them basically. And in both cases was able to create a fine and healthy family out of it. So I don't know why girls are shitting on cold approach so much.

  21. Posted

    2 minutes ago, Emerald said:

    Of course, there is balance and mutualism in the Lover and Beloved dynamic.

    You would both be ebbing and flowing between the Lover and Beloved in a healthy love dynamic.

    So, she would also be expressing love.

    Love is a conversation.

    And the Lover speaks and the Beloved listens. But those are archetypes not human beings.

    Two human beings must ebb and flow between the two for there to be conversation.

    You should have started with this. Thank you, now it makes sense.

  22. Posted

    @Emerald okay, most of it makes sense now, but I am still skeptical abaout this part

    5 minutes ago, Emerald said:

    But if a man positions tinkers around in the Lover role in the initial stages of attraction and hooks the woman… and then shifts himself in the Feminine Beloved role, where he is up on the pedestal… she will be in love and he will not.

    He will be detached and she will be falling all over herself to keep him because she will sense his detachment and get really anxious that he will leave

    Why would I not love her. I feel like I would really appreciate it if a girl expressed her love to me. That would actually enable me to express love back to her.

    And if she was only in the receiving role then I would restrict the amaount of love I express towards her. And would eventually breaak up with her probably cause what's the point of being in a relationship like that when you don't even feel loved...

  24. Posted · Edited by Something Funny

    16 minutes ago, Emerald said:

    In this way, they can gain relationship to a woman (or women) without any of the vulnerability or loss of control that is required of the Lover.

    I can't help but feel that you only think that this is a good idea because you are a woman and of course as a woman it would benefit your survival if guys behaved this way.

    Like honestly, as a guy, why would I risks going through all that trouble, be vulnerable, increase my chances of being taken for granted or friendzoned when I know that I can do the opposite and get a girl get super attracted and attached to me with much lesser risks?

    If I am genuinely attracted to her as well and don't plan to mistreat her in any way then what's so wrong about it?

  25. Posted

    2 hours ago, Emerald said:

    These male/female dynamics are important to understand…

    - Women tend to fall in love by receiving.

    - Men tend to fall in love by giving.

    The more he gives and invests, the deeper he will love.

    And the more she allows herself to receive of him, the deeper she will love.

    @Leo Gura what do you think about this? Doesn't it go against traditional pickup theory of being detached and not over investing in the girl? Which is supposed to make her more attracted to you?

    @Emerald doesn't it go against women having a motherly role in a family? It's a feminine role to give love, care and empathy to children and masculine role to provide for them and protect them.

    To me it makes sense that giving love is feminine by nature and should translate into other areas as well, no? Why would that be different in a man to woman relationship?