Something Funny

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  2. Posted

    4 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    A man pays for a date he asks a woman out on, period end of story whether she's ugly

    You are being so close minded.

    5 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    A man will understand what I'm saying. A grown mature man. One who has had lots of experience with ladies, not girls and teenie bobbers. 

    And it's upsetting how you don't even respect people having other worldviews.

    Not sure what a teenie bobber is but I would rather be with them if they are nice to others, at least.

  3. Posted

    2 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    Probably things like, what if I can't afford a date then I'm dateless

    No

    2 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    she doesn't like me as much she expects me to pay for her food

    Kind of, yes.

    2 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    I have to limit my dates with women if I have to keep paying for them all

    No

    2 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    Saying "put in a man's position", " have no idea how it feels from a male's perspective", reveals the mindset you have on this and the kinds of projected stories that is feeding this mentality. It's obvious to me and is only my opinion. 

    Yes, and I think it's a fair issue to have. What's wrong with expecting your partner to be able to relate to you and meet you halfway?

  4. Posted

    @Princess Arabia I think I've finally realised what actually bothers me about that attitude.

    3 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    All men have to worry about with me is to pay for a date they've asked me out on or not ask at all. Simple and genuine behavior.

    I can kind of respect this position, because yeah, at least you are being honest about it.

    And all that stuff about strong and independent women is nice but you can't judge a person's whole character on just this one thing. And that's not relly even what bothers me.

    I understand now that I would just be really hurt by my potential girlfriend's inability to see things from my perspective and emphasize with my position enough to be at least open to paying for herself. Like, I would honestly be upset about it to a point where I wouldn't want to be with her because it just feels so unloving and unappreciative to me.

    This is what would make it a dealbreaker for me.

  5. Posted

    Just now, Princess Arabia said:

    I never said that. I said I don't ask men out. I'm not the kind of girl to approach men for dinner dates or any kind of dates, not even when I'm working (but that's not the discussion here). Sorry, if that's a bad thing for a woman. I might give signals that i like you etc, but I'm not asking for a date unless we're already in a discussion and talking and you kind of hint it and I'm agreeing something like that, but I don't come outright to ask men for dates. Of course, if I already know you and we've been out before or we're dating or married I might say let's go to so and so, that's different.

    I didn't say that it's a bad thing. I just said that you have no idea how it feels for the male perspective and that you wouldn't be able to hold the same opinion about it if you were put in an average man's position.

  7. Posted

    1 minute ago, Princess Arabia said:

    No one should be expected to pay for themselves when asked out. This is not paying for themselves. This is paying and coming out of pocket for a date you asked for whether she agrees to go should not entitle her to pay for your suggestion

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    It's disrespect to propose a date and expecting them to pay.

    I honestly don't see any logic behind this. Like why? What makes you say that? 

    This is honestly such a privileged position. Only a person who has never had to go through a labour of asking someone out can hold.

    2 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    Nothing to do with all that.

    In practice, it has everything to do with that. Girls who make it a principle to always pay for themselves are usually the more strong willed and independent ones. There is just something inherently submissive about expecting another person to pay for you.

    I once went on a date with a power lifter girl (I approached her), guess what - she paid for both of us, lol. 

  8. Posted · Edited by Something Funny

    3 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    Why are you guys bringing in paying for someone's time. He's not paying for my time, he's being appreciative. Likewise I'm being appreciative for showing up. You guys are totally ignoring the part where I said, and I'll put it in caps this time, I WILL GLADLY PAY FOR A DATE THAT I ASKED SOMEONE TO GO ON.

    I get your point, It's just that it sounds a bit hypocritical since you have admitted yourself that you never ask anyone out. It's easy to hold that position when you are not actually being put in it.

    I wonder how you would feel about either being expected to pay for everything or being considered cheap if the only way you could ever get a partner would be by asking them first. I bet you wouldn't be so black and white then.

  10. Posted

    2 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    Sex worker? How dies that even fit into the picture.

    Okay, maybe not the best example. But your party example is also bad.

    4 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    Idk, maybe it's a generation thing and I'm from a different generation. Plenty of both men and women agree with my stance in this matter and it has nothing to do with treating some one like a sex worker

    Why make appeals to culture or majority opinion if we are trying to use reason?

  11. Posted

    Just now, Hojo said:

    @Something Funny What a man has to do for the woman

    Ask out

    possibly get humiliated mulitple times over years

    pay for date

    ask out for relationship

    Act like a pussy to her family

    She will tell you to change you will deny your own identity

    You will get married

    Have to beg for sex

    You will have to fundamentally live as a different person

    Give all your money

    She will stop liking you cause you changed your identity and are a shell slave of a man

    The woman will leave

    You will be a empty shell alone

    Great deal

    This is not how God made it. Woman should be begging for men.

     

    this is going too far

  12. Posted

    3 minutes ago, Hojo said:

    How are you using the word entitlement here? Like the man is saying he is entitled to your time without paying for it?  Are you saying he has to pay for your time and if he dosent he is entitled? That sounds like projection.

    Like really, as if he is not also giving her his time.

    If she thought that their time is of equal value, then they would cancel each other out. Instead, she feel like her time is more valuable so she wants to be paid for on top of him putting all his time and effort in.

  13. Posted

    1 minute ago, Princess Arabia said:

    feel entitled to just ask to go out with you on a romantic date and doesn't know how to show their appreciation for you saying yes.

    Asking a person out IS THE HARD PART. You should be the one showing appreciation for being approached. 

    You are feeling entitled, to be approached, asked out, taken out on a pre-planned adventure, and also be paid for, lol. 

    But somehow, in your mind the guy is the one who is entitled.

    3 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    Opening your side of the car door for you after you've let me in, showing respect to you throughout the date, giving you my undivided attention and sharing with you a lovely experience. 

    This is expected of both parties. And so should be paying your half. It's a shared experience that both people are benefiting from and they should mutually contribute to it.

    4 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    Genuine and authentically cheap is all the guy will be showing me if he expects me to pay my half.

    It's not about being cheap, it's about being fair. But I guess if all you see are dollar signs than yeah, very cheap.

  16. Posted

    48 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    If a guy is interested in me romantically and he wants to take me out on a date, why should I have to pay my share. Ridiculous

    Lol, this honestly sounds so arrogant.

    45 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

    Exactly, that's platonic and with casual friends. That's the way to go, but not on a romantic date where he asked me out. That's what I'm referring to.

    I don't see why it should be different?

    Also, I don't think you are considering this, but you basically filtering out all the guys who are actually genuine and authentic enough to actually have a position on this. Leaving yourself with the kind of guys you see in this thread "I will do whatever if it means I will get into her pants". But maybe that's who you are looking for, idk. 

    Personally, I think that if a man is willing to give up sex and dating opportunities for the sake of his beliefs, that says a lot.

  17. Posted

    2 minutes ago, freddyteisen said:

    When your feet touches the earth it neutralizes your body’s positive charge, restoring the natural electric state of the human body and you gain a sense of ‘peace’.

    Being in nature has a positive psychological effect on people. And being barefoot can stimulate the nerves in your feet, and in general give you a lot of cool sensations, which might once again have positive psychological effect on you. What makes you think that it has anything to do with electric charges?

  19. Posted

    13 minutes ago, Leeo_SA said:

    Due to that, I will close this journal and continue with them.

    Not so fast!

    Before you go, check out this 4 minute habit tracker video. And if you get interested, the whole concept of bullet journal in general.

    I think this is a much more positive mindset, because you stop looking at relapses as relapses, just a part of your journey to rewire your brain.

    And also imagine tracking it for like a year, and seeing yourself gradually improve, a few percent at a time. 

  21. Posted

    @Hojo first of all, this "asking to get taken advantage of" is a weak mindset. The worst thing that will happen is that you will pay for some random person's coffee, is it so horrible? You don't have to see them again if you didn't like their attitude.

    Secondly, I didn't say how you need to act. I didn't say that you always need to act in a way to please them. What "act accordingly" means depends on you and the situation. Maybe for you that means get up and leave.