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  1. When I was young....
    When I was young....
    When I was young I suffered from low-self-esteem, and I had bouts of depression every now and then. This was a result of growing up in a family where my Dad always communicated to me that I was some how defective. As an adult I understand why he did it, but as a kid I obviously didn't understand (My grandmother apparently did that to my Dad when he was a child so he continued that pattern when he became a parent) but its ironic. Every bad thing that happened to me actually made me stronger, tougher, and more empathetic. I used my rage as fuel to prove the doubters wrong , but also was empathetic because I knew what it felt like to be hurt. But ironically seeing people complain about their pain instead of fighting it like I did unnerved me, because it was a side of me I never wanted to accept and even now I am still struggling to integrate that aspect....the part that doesn't want to fight.
    Anyway I am typing this to hopefully help those I keep seeing in the forums who keep complaining about how they want to off or kill themselves. I realize that they lack perspective....and do not realize that every feeling and emotion they carry is their own creation.....you are just torturing yourself. I am not saying life is easy....but understand that every moment that happens.....passes. As humans because we have the ability to hold onto the past and project onto the future we are usually living in the past....or our projection of the future. 
    The human mind is naturally negative....as a survival mechanism it needs to be to keep you safe, but as a result if not controlled it can create a map of reality that is very scary. If this is you....then of course you are depressed. You are constantly living from a perspective that sees life is dangerous, you as weak or flawed in some way, and that things can only get worse. I would hate to live in the head of anyone who views reality that way because you basically are living in hell.
    While life is not perfect...the average person lives a higher standard of living than their parents and their parents generation. Yet....at the same time mental illness is continuing to rise. Why is this the case? Because we live from the INSIDE OUT. This means what matters when it comes to your quality of life is your INNER world NOT your OUTER world. In fact your OUTER WORLD is a reflection of your INNER world and the problem with the West is they focus mainly on the OUTER world when if you PROPERLY ORIENT the INNER WORLD everything else will fix itself.
    I have mentioned this a couple of times but I recently got into a car accident and had a near death experience. As a result....I have no car, and my face is scarred. But that event is THE GREATEST thing that ever happened to me. Why? Because I was able to confirm many of the things I had been researching regarding reality. I saw the other side of existence and this made me even happier than I was originally.
    This revealed to me how so many destructive beliefs that have been placed on us that make us miserable. Here are a couple of them.
    1. Comparing yourself to others.  If you do this... you are doomed to a life of misery, everybody's journey is different and this is by design. When you compare you rob yourself and the other person (if you are comparing yourself to them in a discussion) of their divine uniqueness. 
    2. Thinking that society's model of success is the definition of success. Success is a personal opinion. Some people chase what other's tell them is success only to discover that it doesn't make them happy. Success is waking up everyday and living a life that YOU BELIEVE IS FUFILLING. As long as you are in alignment with what you value....you are successful.
    3. Being judgmental of yourself. This is a BIG ONE!!! Do NOT JUDGE YOURSELF!! When you judge yourself you open the gates of hell and walk in. Judgment is demonization, so when you judge yourself you are calling yourself a demon and placing yourself in hell. Obviously the same is true of others as well, so don't play the role of Satan in your life or the life of others. Judgement is not to be confused with logic. Logic labels....judgment places value. Value isn't bad per se, but seeing things itself as bad ironically IS BAD. So the only BAD thing is believing that something is BAD. This is a tough pill to swallow....but if you do....you will be FREE. As long as bad exists in your mind.....you will jump back and forth between heaven and hell. I don't know about you....but that doesn't exactly sound fun....but hey to each their own right?
    4. Always thinking you need to do something...and your desire to be in control. One of the biggest lessons you will learn if you walk the Spiritual Path is that you accomplish MORE when you DO LESS. I know it sounds counter productive but its true. The Spiritual Path will reveal to you that you are NOT in control...so stop trying to be in control. That you can accomplish more in Meditation, Gratitude, and Loving Acts than you can relentless pursuing your desires. You have no idea how much your desire to be in control sabotages your relationship with others and ultimately WITH YOURSELF!!
    5. Seeing life as ordinary. Life is ANYTHING but ordinary...anyone that thinks life is ordinary has never had their awareness risen high enough. Understand that life is ONLY ordinary if your awareness is low. For those whose awareness is HIGH life is an every changing dramatic present moment that keeps arising. For the 2 weeks my body was healing....life was VERY interesting because my awareness was RIDICULOUSLY high that NOTHING looked or felt ordinary. Now that my body is healed....my awareness is normalized to an extent and life appears normal again. The most amazing thing is life....it is so amazing that when your awareness is high you are either smiling, laughing , or crying tears of joy. This is the benefit of the Spiritual path....you get to see how amazing life really is.
     
    I will be adding to this post to go in more detail how I avoided falling into the trap of mental illness. Understand that the West laid a trap for you called mental illness.....don't let them convince you to stay there....or that it is normal.....its only normal for those who take in and believe the toxic ideologies. Notice even the rich and famous can't resist mental illness...yet there are poor around the world who smile ear to ear. Your identity, core beliefs, determine the reality you experience. Depending on this you will either live in heaven or hell, and you actually have complete control over this.....To Be Continued.....

  2. Getting over low self esteem and insecurity
    Getting over low self esteem and insecurity
    I think what probably helped the most for me was simply recognising that I wasn't the person I'd imagined myself to be, which came as a huge relief (mind you, it was very disorienting,too, because then it was like, 'Okay, if I'm not that, what am I?' I still haven't figured that one out, ten years later ).
    Low self-esteem was something I suffered with for most of my llife, I'd come to believe a lot of very negative things about myself: 'I'm stupid', 'I'm ugly', 'I can't do anything right', 'I'm useless'. This was mostly due to a combination of me just being a very sensitive, troubled kid anyway (stress and depression run in my family, largely on my mum's side), and my relationship with my dad, who could be incredibly insensitive and tactless, and it left me with the following core belief, which was what really ultimately broke my heart: 'I am inherently unworthy of love'. Because I think the thing we humans long for the most, when you get right down to it, is love, and acceptance, and so to feel yourself fundamentally unworthy of these things is so painful that it feels utterly, unfaceably painful. So you end up doing everything in your power to not feel that pain.
    But the cure for the poison is IN the poison, as they say; you really have to allow yourself to feel that pain in order to heal it. But that's easier said than done, mostly because we build up so much unconscious resistance against it, and so you have to become conscious of that inner resistance first, and allow it to release. Then everything you'd been repressing can surface, which is good, ultimately, but it can be a very challenging, very painful process. Developing presence in my body has been most helpful for me personally, because it's in our bodies that we store these traumas and emotional wounds - this is where practices like yoga and meditation are so important I think.

  3. Do emotions get stuck in the body? Are blockages real
    Do emotions get stuck in the body? Are blockages real
    @KatiesKarma here's the difference between animals and humans. 
    humans have both a physical and mental preservation, that's why we're so fucked in the head
    but yeah basically so a few people mentioned breathwork and i have to say that it poured so much out of me that i have to recommend it. you can join a zoom class, i used it a few times because the sharing and the group 'energy' and the music all played a part for me https://breathworkonline.com/flexible-date-free-breathwork-workshop-home/ 
    the question not really to 'solve' the dissociation because that is just a consequence of the actual things you need to 'let go of/solve'. and there has to be also a very very very very developed understanding into how your mind functions and that 'sense of you' is not  you, without realizing everyone is a mirror of you there is no room for you to allow yourself to FEEL the triggers of trauma so you keep them locked away, does that make sense? if  you keep getting identified with how you feel and avoid the negativity such as anxiety/feeling judged or whatever the fuck, then there's no room for change and no direct insight. you stay in the realm of intellectual understanding
    that in the past you ran away from so chances are you are either unaware of how much trauma, which is a very broad term, did you have childhood issues, heartbroken by a partner, left to be homeless, bullied? there's ways of surfacing that shit up without doing anything but talking to someone you're attached to or you are and you haven't been able to find a method back into your body so, here's a few things to try;
    Tre - trauma realese exercise, it's like shaking ur legs, also watch the lectures by the guy who created it - Peter Levine
    Talk therapy - it's pretty important to have a good mirror, it is actually too important to ignore, especially for inner child
    breathwork - do the wim hoff method for a while, at least daily for a few weeks, and push yourself to get to 5 rounds at once or something - things will absolutely happen, holotropic too/shamanic/the link i sent is like the INTENSE catharsis, it is like a psychedelic trip
    psychedelics - this is a bit tricky for me to put here because while they are SO useful and without them i would probably just be ruthelessly suffering and never got introduced to spirituality, they are just as potentially not useful lol so it's entirely up to you (mushrooms specifically helped). the intent must be solid in stone, but it has helped, i have also done a lot of drugs like mdma/ketamine that gave me A LITTLE insight, such as i need to forgive someone and work on that more and so on and some catharsis but i don't think it was necessary. medication/ssris/benzos/anti-psychotics was useless
    meditation techniques - try yoga nidra, do hatha yoga, allow yourself at least like an hour a day to just SIT with it all, without 'doing anything' / zazen, it is going to be very unpleasant but it is important you can sit with this pain. also, oshos dynamic meditation.  forgiveness!!! - metta, loving kindness.
    primal scream - go somewhere where you can scream so your lungs out. 
    read the book letting go: pathway of surrender, that is probably where you should start. and end
    i know how much pain you are in, that absolute numbness, inability to enjoy anything, the lethargy and craving it to end. good luck, you will feel again
     
     

  4. Transcending the emotional system
    Transcending the emotional system
    This was to be a reply on another topic but seems suited for an individual discussion topic.
    This is simply a translation of the direct experience of reality from the viewpoint of this form, and in no way does it contain spiritual truths. If you can use it as a guide to understand yourself, lovely.
    Imagine the emotional system as a sort of AI machine that primes the body with hormones that correspond to whatever one believes the emotion means. The core of anger is being unable to escape from something which has been labeled as unsafe for survival. It is deeply rooted in fear and operates energetically in the lower chakras. The central chakra system is quite simple to understand in terms of lower (form), higher (formless) and the heart being the perfect centerpoint for unity. It can be true that after awakening and recognizing the deathless directly, the emotional response to a stimulus related to fear can be recognized and eventually dropped away completely.
    The emotion is like solidity in the body...it’s connected to a dualistic mindset about the emotion which is in the form of a belief system in the mind. We identify the feeling as anger and that traps it in the corresponding chakra because of the belief, which is a very gross sensation and thusly it seems easy to hold onto.
    The way out is to recognize the emotions are a complete non-duality, that they are simply energy moving in its various flavors, and maintain mindfulness during the experience so that the original mindset can be overwritten.
    Anger is not bad, anger is not even anger. Anger is a term we use to describe a type of energy which the egoic self has labeled as bad because it fears the death of the form (the death of self). In this it creates resistance and solidity in the body. It is just a sensation.
    With the self transcended, there’s no longer someone labeling things as good or bad, happy or sad. In this way, yes, the emotions will drop away, and a constant level of peace can be maintained.
    This requires a deep understanding of the human experience and an unshakable understanding of Truth. If you maintain mindful presence at all times and are okay with every core belief you have being wrong, all your core beliefs will fall away and you’ll be left with peace.

  5.  9 Mantras to Help You Stay Mentally Strong
     9 Mantras to Help You Stay Mentally Strong
    While it can be easy to be mentally strong when life is going well, your true strength becomes apparent through adversity. The loss of a loved one, a health problem, relationship issues, and financial troubles are just a few of the hardships most of us will face at one time or another.
     
    The way you think about life's inevitable obstacles affects your ability to cope with tough times. Developing a productive inner dialogue is one of the most productive ways mentally strong people keep building their mental muscle, and repeating positive, yet realistic affirmations can drown out the negative thoughts that can hold you back. Here are nine to remember when you're going through tough times:
     
    1. I have what I need to get through this.
     
    Thinking "I can't do this" or "This isn't fair" will cause you to feel defeated. Rather than insist that you need more, remember what you already have. If you've made it this far in life, you clearly have some skills, tools, and resources already in place.
     
    2. Living according to my values is what really matters.
     
    There are going to be people who won't like you, and times when people will disagree with the decisions you make. But your job isn't to please everyone. Be brave enough to live according to your values, even when that means making unpopular decisions.
     
    3. Failure is part of the road to success.
     
    Failure isn't fun, but beating yourself up over it won't help. Each time you fall down, it serves as proof that you're pushing yourself to new limits. Each failure is an opportunity to grow stronger and become better.
     
    4. All I can do is my best.
     
    Demanding perfection from yourself does more harm than good. Whether you're interviewing for a job that you really need, or you've got one last shot to try for a promotion, insisting there's no room for error will make your anxiety skyrocket. Some self-compassion will help you perform at your peak.
     
    5. Five years from now this won't matter as much as I think it will.
     
    Keep temporary problems in perspective by reminding yourself that the emotional pain, anxiety, or turmoil won't last forever. Many of today's crucial decisions and major worries won't actually matter that much a few years down the road.
     
    6. I'm stronger than I think.
     
    A serious health problem or the loss of a loved one can be very difficult to handle. But catastrophic predictions like "I'll never recover from this" or "I won't ever be happy again" will only drag you down. Adversity often reveals hidden inner strength you never knew you had.
    7. I can handle feeling uncomfortable.
     
    It can be tempting to stay inside your comfort zone, but getting through tough times often requires you to do something different. Emotions like fear, embarrassment, and disappointment are uncomfortable, but they won't kill you. Be willing to face them head on and you'll gain confidence in your ability to cope with discomfort.
     
    8. I am in control of how I think, feel, and behave.
     
    Blaming other people for what's going on in your life won't help your situation. Acknowledging that you're in control of how you think, feel, and behave can empower you to either make the best of your circumstances, or create positive changes in your life.
     
    9. I've been knocked down before and I can get back up again.
     
    Look back at the times you've persevered before. Recalling your fortitude in dealing with past struggles can help you summon the strength to deal with new problems.
     
    Positive affirmations alone won't necessarily change your life—the way you think is only one of the three core factors of mental strength. But healthy self-talk will help you feel better and inspire you to behave more productively, which is key to getting through tough times.
     
    Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201511/9-mantras-help-you-stay-mentally-strong
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  6. somatic therapy techniques
    Mental Health/Disorder/Illness Mega-Thread
    Good idea!  
    I want to contribute Somatic Experiencing. It is a way of processing trauma through nervous system regulation using the body. 
    Official website: https://traumahealing.org/se-101/
    Couple videos: 
     
    Personally experienced much healing with it.