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@Tyler Robinson It's a pilot trial, done by one of our universities and its psychiatric clinics. The goal is to provide insight into a functioning regulation of the substance. It's a step in the right direction in my opinion as weed is going to be consumed, regardless of whether it's legal or not. At least this will give our government tools to spread awareness of the dangers of the drug, which is going to have a bigger impact than individuals warning against it.
Personally, I think more people should be made aware of the benefits of cannabis though.
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On 17.9.2022 at 1:28 AM, Arthogaan said:Yeah, and then you research on how to take it and it turns out that some bald guy that is one of the most conscious people on the planet that was making videos on how to make girl squirt few years ago, tells you that best method is to shove it up in your ass.
Too good ?
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@Tyler Robinson Meanwhile Switzerland's health office just approved of the first project to sell weed for recreational use ?
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I'm happy with the work I'm doing next to my 9-5. I'm not passionate about my job, but I'm usually in the zone there, which is nice. I also like the challenge at work and the feeling I get when finishing a project.
I just know I could have a much bigger impact doing something else.
What makes me feel good is
- deepening relationships with people
- acquiring a new skill and perfecting it
- listening to music
- bushcrafting
- riding motorcycles
- working on anything mechanical
- video editing
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This might be helpful:
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@KH2 How often do you have a bear cross your path, dude? ?
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Happy after finally having faced a crippling fear.
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I've got a huge ass fear of spiders...not sure why either. You might be able to do an exposure therapy at some zoo near you, which would be the most effective way of facing your fear.
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You'll get by easily with English. I speak German and had to discuss a project with someone from the French speaking part the other day...so we both switched to English as it was the easiest.
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On 25.8.2022 at 11:12 PM, Tron said:creepy is subjective tbh
Creepy as in not socially calibrated. You can't avoid coming off awkward when just starting this though.
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It's a red flag for a girl if she gets approached by a guy who comes off creepy, yes.
But then again, the girl in the first image is just an example of an attention seeking drama queen, you don't need those in your life.
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On 21.8.2022 at 4:04 PM, Illusory Self said:I just hate constantly having to chase women and it annoys me that I get a lot of advice 'just be yourself' but when I do that, nothing good seems to come from it.
Why do you have to chase them?
It's not that you're not good enough when being yourself, you probably just lack some skills. But sounds like you're actually doing pretty well besides that ?
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Yes and it was the most unpleasant, yet valuable time of my life. There were low key mystical elements like synchronicity, not much else besides that. I kept getting insights almost on a daily basis after I had understood what I'm going through. One thing that allowed me to embrace this time was someone on here telling me something along the lines of: just watch it happen, no matter how ugly it gets.
The biggest thing I struggled with was getting as much time alone as possible during that period. I saw that I had poor boundaries and people kept stepping on them and take advantage of me. I realised I allowed them to behave that way. Ending this cycle was how it all ended. At least this one ?
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I usually pay when I'm the one inviting her.
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Hey man, this sounds a lot like what I just came out of. What's your intuition telling you? How have you been feeling in the past couple of years? Are you able to put the finger on what's off exactly? Do you feel confused and not like yourself while being with this person?
On 8.7.2022 at 11:53 PM, Solvinden said:- When I imagine leaving, I feel like a heavy burden is lifted from my heart.
You'll get there eventually, trust me dude. You posting this is the start of the leaving process, just gotta accept it and the suffering will start to soften.
On 8.7.2022 at 11:53 PM, Solvinden said:- I can not imagine a better girl than her on my side. She is extremely well developped and our values/life plans fit ridculously well.
Can you imagine a better life without a girlfriend (for now) though?
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So, after watching Leo's videos How To Deal With Confusion and How To Harness Your Intuition, intense self reflection, embracing uncomfortable feelings and doing research, I've gotten to the bottom of the suffering.
I intuited something was off in the relationship, but I just couldn't put my finger on it. Well, yesterday I came across several videos by Stephanie Lyn Coaching on Youtube and it just dawned on me. Every word described my exact situation. My world shattered and I just knew I've been living a lie the past two years. Everything points towards my girlfriend being a covert narcissist. The need for constant attention, silent treatment, lack of emotional connection, no empathy, love bombing, presents, no clarity about the past, twisting words in my mouth. It's like the coin finally dropped. I'm ashamed and creeped out but at the same time relieved.
But most importantly, what has become clear is that I still have codependent traits like poor boundaries, a false belief that I've got to take care of everyone and putting my needs behind other's. I understood this intellectually but now there is a real knowing. I know this stems from my childhood because my mum withheld love whenever I didn't live up to her expectations. The big lesson here for me is to take responsibility and not hand over my power to anyone else in my life because it will slowly poison me. Keeping up the narrative that I'm just a good person won't do anymore.
Also, insecurity is poisonous as hell and disguises itself as love, when in fact it is the opposite and will exploit and bite you in the ass eventually. It is the fox that gets playful with the cat only to crush its skull once close enough, as explained in Leo's video about scammers.
What I have to look out for now is to not to shut myself off completely, while still maintaining a healthy amount of scepticism. This could take a while for me to internalise but now there is a silver lining.
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1 hour ago, Noahsteelers34 said:It’s not a desperate move. The desperate thing for me to do is for me to give her my love and attention when she’s looking for other guys. It’s not desperate to have boundaries for your feelings. She actually thought the thread was funny then she showed me all the Reddit posts she’s been viewing about it. Also you don’t know what your talking about, me telling her I wanted to date her did not cause her to want to see other guys. It’s called Simple’s being honest about how you feel. There is no reason it is the females responsibility to do that
I agree with you on setting certain boundaries. But you were wondering what was missing. And I'm telling you it was the attraction. There's ways you can create attraction, and then there's subtle things you can do to turn a woman off.
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1 hour ago, Noahsteelers34 said:I just showed her this entire thread. I ended things. We’ll see if she comes running back later
What did you show her the thread for?
Work on understanding attraction. You basically told her it's either a relationship or the end. No woman trusts a man pushing to tie her down, it's a desperate move. It's the girl's job to put a label on the whole relationship dynamic. Notice how she said she wanted to see other guys afterwards...
You will also have to work on your jealousy issues as you'll run into more girls testing you this way. As long as you're not exclusive with a woman you'll have to tolerate other guys being in the picture. Girls push your buttons and see how you react, you can't avoid that. Next time just focus on having fun, make the girl laugh, and get her into bed. You'll see she will naturally gravitate towards you if she can see that you give her enough space for love to grow. Especially because most other guys don't know how to treat women properly, it just seems that way.
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This sounds like a bad deal, bro. Ideally, you want to be with someone who's serious about dating you. You've probably shown weak behaviour in the past, which is why she is acting hot and cold now. If I remember your last post correctly, you didn't seem to be too sure about whether you wanted to keep playing the field or be in a relationship either. She can sense that.
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On 4.5.2022 at 3:39 AM, Magnanimous said:Also, can I still read fiction books during self-actualization and deep spiritual epochs of my life?
If that's what you enjoy doing, why not?
You could ask yourself why this question popped up for you...maybe you feel like it could be a distraction for you?
I love listening to music, riding motorcycles, working on my car, going to the mountains, going out with friends.
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The thing is you can make up your mind about what you want in terms of dating this girl, but if she's up for it after summer break is out of your control. It sounds like she wants to keep her options open.
For now, I'd just agree to see how you both feel after summer break and when she reaches out to you keep it casual and fun. If you decide you're in for a relationship with this girl, don't bring it up, let her initiate this conversation. But don't wait around for her, it will make you look like you lack options, which is unattractive and will guarantee you ending up feeling miserable.
And don't forget to listen to your gut. Good luck, man!
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@andyurb I wouldn't expect her to become interested in those topics, most people are happy living a basic life and won't see the point in becoming a better version of themselves.
But you should take some time to think about whether or not you're okay being with someone who is bored of your interests. You will most likely not be able to have a deep emotional connection and won't get her support when it comes to facing the challenges in this area.
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@Leo Gura @BipolarGrowth @VeganAwake Thank you for your time, this is very helpful already!
Yeah, I guess there's no rush. I'll try to loosen up a little
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Last year I had some sort of awakening on weed while listening to Leo's "Guided Exercise For Realizing You Are God", where my paradigm shifted to a very strange place. I've been stuck here since, almost like I've seen through some illusions but not enough in order to have the peace I've been looking for.
Through all this confusion I've moved in together with my girlfriend, which really only made the situation worse. At that time I was also close to having a burnout at work and so all I wanted was time for myself to contemplate and just getting up to what I love doing without caring about anyone else in my life.
Here's some of the things I've realised during that time:
- Good and evil are relative. I've learnt to see the beauty in what's considered darkness.
- Memories don't represent what happened. I realised this by seeing that in my memories I am seeing the whole scene from another perspective and not through my usual point of view.
- If I can't remember my birth, it's possible I've been here longer than I think. I just don't remember.
- Death is the falling away of what I've become used to. I experience it every day, just in a more subtle way than physical death.
- If through technology a dead body was able to talk and move, there would be no difference between them and someone else I interact with.
- I am not the one typing this. The typing is all there is in this very moment.
- I put more filters on reality through concepts. I was talking to a friend outside in some bad lighting while looking into his eyes. Because of the shadows across his face I couldn't actually see his eyes. Then, for a split second, I realised this is what he actually looked like in that moment. It was creepy as hell but also pretty badass as he looked like a demon without my mind projecting his normal face onto him.
- I can function without thinking. When I want to move my arm and watch what/whoever gives the input for the movement, thought and the actual moving aren't in sync. I can think about walking left and actually go right.
Here's my problem: right after having an insight I keep getting pulled back into doubting whether I am actually on the right track or if I'm going crazy. All while having an inner trust that everything will turn out ok. I've been struggling with this confusion for a while now, over one year in fact, which makes it close to impossible to make any important life decisions. I'm not sure if I'm stuck because of my relationship or if I'm just going about it the wrong way. I was a different person when I met my girlfriend and more tolerant of people than I am now...probably due to ignorance?
Right now I don't know what's best for myself because my needs seem to change every day. Is this normal? What am I missing here?
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Nice post!
I love the way Eminem changed the game, he's the ? in my opinion by far.