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  1. Posted

    1 hour ago, Don Wei said:

    @aurum that might be it, is it common for this to happen during the process of actualization ? I never really hear anybody talk about this and I find it hard to explain to other people, it's not very concrete.

    It happened to me at the very least.

    Not saying my life is perfectly peachy now, but it certainly was much more unstable and uncertain a few years ago when I decided to take a gamble as well. I’d say it’s only been in the last two years that I’ve really started to find some stability.

    The thing is, the unknown and chasing your dreams / LP go hand in hand. Anything that is just handed to you by society, and therefore is all planned out, is unlikely to be your LP. But there is a sense of feeling safety that can come with that.

    Your LP typically plays outside the lines. It doesn’t follow any set path. And so there’s a lot more unknown factor involved. And it can be a lot less financially rewarding upfront, which only adds to the instability.

  2. Posted

    2 minutes ago, AdeptusPsychonautica said:

    The only attacks were against the cult like mindset which I mske clear I think is absurd, and if you subscribe to that mindset then sure, you are going to feel ridiculed - that was 100% the intent. 
     

    The victory was for rationality vs irrationality, and again this is clearly stated in the video. I thought Leo had turned a corner by disowning all that delusional stuff which is a win for rationality.

    If you actually listen to the arguments I make then they probably aren’t what you think they are, but people here get so easily triggered.

    Consider this constructive criticism. I could not take your videos seriously.

    There were obvious misinterpretations in them as well as an unfounded accusation about Leo doing this to sell his LP course.

    Even if you do have some points and Leo has said somethings that were less than wise, it’s hard to see when you’ve already made so many errors.

    If you want your criticism to be taken seriously by this community, then I’d suggest you do serious research. That doesn’t guarantee I or anyone else will still agree with you, but I’d think I’d at least be more open to what you had to say. I have plenty of my own criticisms of things Leo has said in the past.

  5. Posted

    @MDMD

    Of course, because you exist within a toxic, stage orange system. To succeed within that system requires being toxic stage orange to a certain degree.

    You don’t just get to buck the system. If everyone could just buck the system, they would. The reality is many people have no choice. That’s how the whole thing maintains itself.

    That said, you can pursue ideals higher up the spiral. But it may require you to play the stage Orange a bit.

    The challenge here is this: how do you reap the benefits of participating in the stage orange system without getting stuck in its toxic aspects? How do you not “sell out”? 

    This is not an easy question with an easy answer. I’m still not sure I’ve found the balance myself. And undoubtably it will be different for each person.

    The key here seems to have a strong vision and to really know yourself. That will keep you grounded in your values as much as possible. Surround yourself with positive, higher consciousness influences.

  6. Posted

    1 hour ago, WaterDroplet--00 said:

    Is there anything that other people would recommend as a healthy way to try and get past this 'scaring' and not have this paranoia constantly in the background of thinking? Like a practice of some kind (I already meditate) which might help to get off the emotional railway tracks which this mind has been programmed towards in an attempt to cope with life under home conditions?  

     

    Breathwork is the absolute fastest thing I know. Works every single time. In ~30 seconds you can be in a completely different state.

    Your situation is a good lesson for how real devilry takes place. It isn’t necessarily some outside dark forces that are attempting to get us. Devilry can be your parents, in their distorted love, trying to fill with you anti-vaccine conspiracies. So wrapped up in their own fear that they may end up hurting others.

  7. Posted

    15 hours ago, JJfromSwitzerland said:

    What is your take on the global warming issue? Will humanity make it?

    The problem with this question is that it still frames survival as most important. And more specifically, human survival.

    This is of course normal as survival is part of our function. A climate poses a potential threat to that, which triggers us. 

    But could we also ask better questions?

    Could we ask: are we in alignment with our highest values regarding our relationship to the earth?

    Could we ask: will we survive into a world worth living?

    Could we ask: does the earth and everything in it have inherent value?

    I’m not saying these are easy questions or I have the answers. But I feel by asking them, we get the mind going in a much different direction than pure survival mode. The goal of actualization work is to thrive, not simply get by.

  8. Posted

    2 hours ago, soos_mite_ah said:

    Is it possible to get into a healthy fulfilling relationship even if your life isnt where you want it to be and you still have issues with anxiety and depression granted that you're good with being vigilant of red flags, a good judge of character, and have good boundaries? 

    There is probably some amount of “clean up” we can expect to do in our own lives if we want to attract a great relationship.

    At the same time, I sometimes feel like we place too much emphasis on this in the spiritual community. The reality is we are not supposed to be in relationships with perfect beings. They are supposed to have flaws, and part of being in a relationship is working that out.

    In fact, relationships are one of the primary tools that we can use to grow and heal. They challenge us and can help us find a sense of belonging.

    The world is going to be a very lonely place if everyone has unrealistic expectations for themselves and others. Many people want to cut and run at the first sign of any red flag. That could be a healthy expression of boundaries, but sometimes it’s an obsession with independence.

    Given that most of us on this forum have probably done a lot of work on ourselves, I think you’re likely in the clear.

  9. Posted

    2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    In practice you don't need to worry about it. As you reach higher levels of wokeness you can assess for yourself how much woker you wish to go.

    Obviously the highest levels of wokeness are not suitable for almost anyone. Only the hardest of the hardcore.

    This is also the beauty of psychedelics. They can give you a preview of how woke you could be, and if you even want that. So you can take wokeness out for a test drive without buying the car. And if you happen to love the car, then buy it. ;)

    One of the greatest things psychedelics taught me is just how much I innately love consciousness.

    That’s interesting.

    I feel I have this assumption that the more woke you go, the better it gets. Yes you have to surrender the ego, and that of course can be extremely challenging. But who wouldn’t want to go as woke as they can in one life time? 

    At the same time, if God wanted to be woke, God could be woke. So sleep must have its purpose. The ego of course wants to win the prize of achieving the most wokeness and reach the end goal.

    In practice I think you are right. No one can ultimately force you to awaken or not awaken. So we will awaken to the degree that is right for us. If someone chooses to go more woke, that will be a choice they make.

  10. Posted

    13 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    You have to really appreciate how much degrees of wokeness there are. What most woke people call wokeness is like 1% of full wokeness. If you were fully woke you could materialize a planet with a mere thought.

    Do you believe that "full wokeness" is even a worthy goal for most people in this lifetime?

    You've said that you do not believed you have achieved this, nor have I seen you mention any other spiritual master who has.

    Obviously any sense of a personal, egoic goal would be obliterated by then, but I think you get my point. Is this something you recommend for us to seek?

    I suspect most of us are struggling to even get to "1% wokeness".

  11. Posted · Edited by aurum

    1 hour ago, StarStruck said:

    On the internet they say 80% flake rate is normal.

    It's not normal at all. It's only normal for PUAs trying to do cold approach, which is not how dating is typically done.

    If I'm remembering correctly, I've already given you my advice on this topic. You need to make friends and build a social circle. I understand that may not be an option given that it's lockdown, but you can't really be surprised then when girl after girl flakes on you.

    If you are intent on going through with the solo cold approach thing, I think it's foolish, but there are likely some things you can do to reduce flaking.

    1) Make sure you are texting her right away as soon as you get her number. A simple "Hey it's StarStruck from X" is usually enough. She should text back, especially if she just gave you her number. Now when you text her for your date, she sees who you are and that she replied earlier to you. Some PUAs even send a picture so the girl remembers. I've never done that, but you can experiment.

    2) If the date is more than a couple of days out, you can't just wait until that day to contact her. That's basically a guaranteed flake. Keep in contact with her during the week leading up to the date. And keep it light & fun, you're just keeping the connection alive.

    3) Schedule dates earlier. Usually the sooner after you just got her number the better. The more days in between, more of the chance that you're getting dropped.

    4) Another sneaky PUA move you can do is on the day of the date, you text her "hey I'm going to be like 30 minutes late, can we push until X time?". The reason being that this gives the girl a chance to flake on you and cancel if she was going to do so, without you wasting your whole day.

    5) Make sure your dates are convenient and low commitment. As much as I might dislike our modern flakey dating culture, what I've found is that some girls will simply not go on a date with you because it's inconvenient and requires too much investment on her part. She has to drive, or go somewhere she's not familiar, or risk spending two hours on a dinner date that will suck.

    Ideally she is willing to make that kind of commitment, but good luck with that if you're doing cold approach. I've found it pretty rare unless you had an exceptionally good interaction or the girl just has nothing better to do. Usually you need some of both.

    6) Make sure you're getting her on social, not just her phone number. And make sure your social media is good, with regular posts and / stories if you're using Instagram. That's a super easy way for you not to just be another random phone number in her mind, but an actual human being. She can go through all your posts, watch your stories, all with no extra investment or neediness on your part.

    The flip side of this is that if your social media sucks, then this will backfire. Maybe she thought you were cool during the five minutes on the street, but as soon as she see's your bathroom selfie picture with mirror stains, she's out. So get that going well.

     

    If you do all of this you'll definitely up your odds. You will still get many flakes, but just not as many.

  12. Posted

    @Don Wei

    It sounds like you’re experiencing the stress of leaping into the unknown. You’ve taken a gamble on your dreams and you don’t know if it’s going to work out or if there’s any light at the end of that tunnel. Things are chaotic, unstable.

    A grounding practice of meditation could certainly help. Find ways to be calm even within the chaos, so to speak. Get outside, laugh with friends, etc.

    Inevitably you’re going to want to create a more stable situation. But if that’s not in the cards at the moment, you can still do what you can to ground yourself.

  13. Posted

    5 hours ago, impulse9 said:

    let's actually address the issue at the source - the corporations pumping all the CO2 in the atmosphere.

    Unfortunately I don’t think it’s that simple.

    Excess C02 is only a fraction of the damage being caused to the environment right now. It’s arguably not even the most significant, given that the earth could regulate excess C02 in other circumstances. But when you’ve got massive deforestation, soil quality degradation, key species die off, etc etc, excess C02 becomes even more problematic.

    And it’s not as simple as blaming corporations either. That would be nice. But corporations as just one piece of an extremely complex socio-political-economic system. You can’t just say “it’s the corporations” without the addressing the entire system.

    But of course addressing the entire system is far more challenging. In fact, it’s not even clear what the solution is at that point, which is quite scary. People talking about using technology like carbon capture machines or blotting out the sun, but do we really have any idea what the consequences of that will be?

    So far we have a very bad track record of understanding how our technology will affect an incredibly complex system like Earth. 

    There are dangers to climate alarmism. But there’s also dangers to people rolling over and hitting the snooze button. We need to strike a balance.

    I agree with what @Girzo said, it’s extremely complicated.

    @Alysssa It is scary to see. Ultimately I feel it’s good that people experience a little bit of fear and frustration, it at least shows they are paying attention. The challenge for those of us who are aware is to eventually go beyond that fear. To be in fear is to still be in ego. You cannot ultimately create environmental harmony from fear, only love can do that.

  14. Posted

    46 minutes ago, RickyFitts said:

    That was about as subtle as a sledgehammer xD Still almost went over my head, I was sat there thinking, 'What the fuck has using bladderwrack - bladderwhat? - got to do with wanting a woman with a good personality?O.o'

    Yeah we get these clowns every once in a while.

    These are the same dudes that have never heard of foreplay ;).

  15. Posted

    15 minutes ago, RendHeaven said:

    ^HUGE

    ;););)

    15 minutes ago, RendHeaven said:

    Well, actually jerking off is lit but doing it to porn consistently over a period of years will destroy your natural arousal mechanisms

    It is lit, but it quickly becomes unlit if you start having problems getting it up.

    In my experience, it’s not just that you’re desensitizing yourself, it’s that you’re actually rewiring how your body expects to have sex.

    If every time you look at porn you jerk off for 10 minutes, your body will expect to finish in 10 minutes when you actually have sex. That’s the pattern your body knows. Arousal -> 10 minutes of stimulation -> ejaculation.

    Conversely, you can use this to your advantage and wire the sexual habits you want.

  18. Posted

    9 minutes ago, tedbuteda said:

    A high-value woman is someone who knows her worth and exudes an energy that goes beyond the physical. A high-value woman is not just highly sought after by men but is someone who knows her inherent value and can hold her own, regardless of what people say or do to her. Men who use bladderwrack from https://druggenius.com/nutrition/bladderwrack-uses-benefits-and-side-effects/ want a woman with a good personality. To have a nice caring personality is especially endearing to a man. He will know that no matter what happens you will take care of the people around you. He will love your beautiful nature and he will be proud of you.

    Careful with the ad promotion. That will get you banned here.

  19. Posted

    @RoerAmit
     

    Because mastery is about much more than actually mastering a particular domain.

    It’s about how that process transforms you. And how through it you can find deep fulfillment. Anything that takes you 10 minutes to master will be meaningless, because there is no journey to get there. 

    It also ensures that only a limited number of masters can exist in any given domain. Because you cannot possibly master many, many different domains in one lifetime, only the select few who dedicate themselves to that level will make it. As it should be.

    You will learn patience, persistence, and true self-esteem through the mastery process.

    So don’t get it twisted. You might be God, but you came here to learn. That is what you chose.

    Don’t let your impatience cloud your judgment. Surrender to the journey.

  20. Posted

    5 hours ago, RoerAmit said:

    I understand the cynicism that I imagine came from disappointment. But yet it makes me angary.. 

    Opinions with this guy?

    Supposedly Jed McKenna is not a real person.

    He is a fictional guru based off the “real life” teacher of Ken McMordie.

    The books are mostly written that way for good marketing. It makes them interesting and controversial to read.

  22. Posted

    1 hour ago, SamC said:

    That's a cool perspective because they talk about connecting to their true masculinity and inner aggression. Does green talk about that?

    Yes in my experience Green does. Green loves to talk about connecting to and accepting your emotions, even the ugly ones.

     

    1 hour ago, DefinitelyNotARobot said:

    That's exactly what we are seeing here: Just a bunch of guys, who probably grew up at around stage blue/stage orange, getting back in touch with their primal energy.

     

    More or less, which in my experience is what happens at stage Green. Stage Green is big on authenticity and getting in touch with your primal, “true” self beyond social conditioning.

  24. Posted

    @SQAAD

    Well let’s consider what being a “billionaire” actually means.

    When people say “I want to be a billionaire”, they are not actually talking about having a billion dollars. Because money is totally relative. Given enough inflation, a billion dollars could be worth next to nothing. If everyone made a billion dollars a year, it would carry no significant weight. You’d just be average.

    So what people really want when they say “I want to be a billionaire” is “I want to be at the top of the wealth pyramid. I want far more wealth than anyone else”.  That’s what being a billionaire is. It’s wealth polarization. Someone has, and someone does not.

    Now you could say “well it’s fair they have more wealth than anyone else because they worked harder and / or provided more value to society”. But regardless of the justification, a society of polarized wealth is what you’re agreeing to by having billionaires.

    So yes, it seems to me that anyone who wants to really be a billionaire is coming from quite a bit of ego. It’s a Win/Lose scenario. They can only be a billionaire if others are not.

    However, our cultures comes with ready made excuses for this. Beliefs about individualism, meritocracy, freedom, etc.  It’s assumed that everyone should be focused on making as much money as they can. Who doesn’t want more money? Thus, I don’t think you have to be a psychopath to become a billionaire. You just have to follow many of the stories our culture has provided. Ignorance is as powerful as psychopathy.

  25. Posted

    3 hours ago, captainamerica said:

    @aurum I love good engineering. Is there any specific design (or part of a design) you are referring to? 

    I gotta research his designs. Sounds interesting.

    Nothing in particular. I’m not big into engineering. I would look into Jacque’s book The Best Money Can’t Buy. They also have a Youtube channel for the Venus Project where I’m sure you can find more specifics.