Etherial Cat

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  4. Posted

    5 minutes ago, puporing said:

    Yes but some people (men or women) are into acting to have a particular sexual experience, rather than some kind of imposition. Literally some people treat it as a form of self-expression/art. But I get that that may not be too common, just wanted to point out exceptions.

    If you've got some emotional arousal from it, there is not problem. My point was exactly that female need to be emotionally stimulated for sex.

    I'm just saying that a lot of women will not be aroused like in a porn or by your average porn like sexuality.

  5. Posted

    Just now, K Ghoul said:

    I’m sorry but what do you mean by that?  You guys are arguing concepts - love making/feminine concept of sex vs fucking/mens concept. Do you honestly think you would be able to outperform sexual workers who have made it their career to fuck men professionally? :o
     

    Sex as a job is a very different type of sex than sex between lovers.

    I'm only interested in the later.

  6. Posted

    26 minutes ago, puporing said:

    Sorry but I have to disagree with this, it totally depends on the person... and I also cannot claim to know what other women are like in this regard.

    I'm basing my opinion on studies and documentaries made on the impact of porn on human sexuality, as well as on female sexuality. It's rather well documented. 

    And just like movies are not reality, porn is not depicting accurately sexuality. It's often acted, scripted, or designed for a specific audience.

  7. Posted

    10 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    @Etherial Cat You think guys don't know the difference between a girl who knows how to have sex and one who doesn't?

    Lol

    "Knowing how to have sex" depends on what the guy's perception of sexuality is.

    Cast not pearls before swine. ?‍♀️

    9 minutes ago, PurpleTree said:

    do you think women often act horny if they aren't because they think guys like it?

    Having to act horny is a performance. It takes a lot of mental energy. The best is to be horny.

    A girl who will act horny will do it because she wants the guy to believe she enjoys herself for some reason. But if she's got to act, she's not being there herself.

    Sex is much better when it's enjoyed on both side. Otherwise, it's like a chore or a job. 

  8. Posted

    2 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

    It sounds like you are presuming that Leo watches a certain stereotypical kind of porn. But how do you know what porn does he actually watch and how does he wish a girl to act. From what he wrote, it seemed to me like he was just complaining about some girls being too passive and expecting him to be the only one to put in some effort.

    No, the meaning behind my words was that female sexuality is different from what is displayed in porn, and thus sex will end up being different IRL.

  9. Posted

    5 minutes ago, PurpleTree said:

    sure :)

    but just because you're not like that doesn't mean many other women aren't like that

     

    Sure.

    But a lot of bad sex is due to a lack of emotional arousal on the female side.

    In French, there is a famous saying which goes by "there are no frigid woman, only poorly approached ones".

    The bottom is: a horny woman will be horny and do a lot of work. If she's not doing it, it means she's not that horny.

    And becoming horny on the female side has a lot to do with the feelings she's got for a guy.

  10. Posted

    34 minutes ago, Etherial Cat said:

    Female sexuality is very different from male sexuality, and porn if anything would be largely more wired towards a "masculine" type of sexuality. So if you're expecting from a girl to act just like in porn or enjoy herself if you wish to fuck her like porn, question whether you're not trying to feed a lion some vegetables.

     

    9 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

    @Etherial Cat it doesn't even have to be some niche feminist porn. It can literally be just some random couple with decent sex skills filming themselves to pay the rent, lol. 

    My point is that what you are saying is an outdated stereotype that might have been true 20 years ago, but just isn't the case nowadays. So it's useless to use that argument to convince someone like Leo that porn is bad.

    You are interpreting my posts and deducing stuff out of nowhere. 

    I have never said it has to be some niche feminist porn, you said it.

    I have never said porn was just one genre of stereotypical porn, you deduced it.

    What I said is that porn if anything would be largely more wired towards a "masculine" type of sexuality, which is true. And then, I said that female oriented porn is niche, which is true as well. 

    All the rest is you arguing with yourself... And distorting my words. Feminist porn and female oriented porn doesn't convey the same ideas. 

     

  14. Posted · Edited by Etherial Cat

    If a girl sucks at sex and is bored... It's most likely because she's not emotionally turned on and/or you're not attuned to her sexuality.

    If she's not into it, she's most likely not emotionally into you or properly aroused. She's given in physically, but there is 0 proper emotional connection and intimacy.

    Female sexuality is very different from male sexuality, and porn if anything would be largely more wired towards a "masculine" type of sexuality. So if you're expecting from a girl to act just like in porn or enjoy herself if you wish to fuck her like porn, question whether you're not trying to feed a lion some vegetables.

    Obviously, it's not gonna work... on both side.

  16. Posted

    41 minutes ago, Medhansh said:

    Oh no, I don't interact naturally with many women on a daily basis. Or men.

    About the hobbies part, I don't have any.

    Also, I forgot that I am depressed. So maybe I need to focus more on my inner game. 

    Thanks for reminding me of my priorities.

    If I were you, I'd work on my healing, figuring out what you truly enjoy and then cultivating new social circles. You'll then meet girls there, and have subject to talk about that truly resonate with your experience.

    30 minutes ago, Someone here said:

    I like playing music and reading books .hiking sometimes. 

    Find girls in these circles. Attends social events related to these elements, and start to interact with girls there platonically first.

  17. Posted

    51 minutes ago, Medhansh said:

    Same issue. The girls I approach are complete strangers. I know nothing about them. 

    What the fuck do I talk with them about, that will also make them laugh?

    Do you have the opportunity to meet women in your everyday life?


    The easiest thing to do is to get familiar with talking to girls without any special expectations and thus have a good basis for approaching romantic relationships.

    I notice that a lot of guys who claim to be great at pick up really lack this basis, and as a consequence have a distorted image of femininity. Interacting with girls and women from all age casually will help you build a different image of what women are and normalize your relationship to females.

    If you're afraid of us, or have difficulties chatting with women in general, it means that you're afraid or at discomfort with the mental image you've built up of women.

    My second advice will be to take the time to reflect on your own hobbies, favorite subjects and so forth, then attends events or social opportunities related to these hobbies and interact with the girls there. Is there any peculiar things you enjoy? 

  20. Posted

    19 minutes ago, K Ghoul said:

    :) The subject of the thread did not prevent us from taking a moment to pause and acknowledge that you are having a special day as that’s what really important today :)

    Best wishes @Etherial Cat :)

    Awww.

    *teary eyes*

    ?

    25 minutes ago, Federico del pueblo said:

    Yep, I wrote it on a paper when you said it in the other thread ?

    So happy birthday!

    That's sooooooo adorable! :D

    9 minutes ago, PurpleTree said:

    Happy Birthday and good health ???

    Thank you. :)

  22. Posted

    33 minutes ago, Lyubov said:

    Yes, the thing is Belle built her image mostly on her own. She is/was a semi performing artist. I believe OnlyFans took their cut and that is it. Lana went into traditional porn which means she had all sorts of leeches on her, exploiting and manipulating her. I think some women love feeling desired and doing porn. I have had friends in the OnlyFans/Porn scene and they seemed to like the glamorous lifestyle, money, no need to really think about what to do (just make sexy content). It's a pretty comfortable and easy lifestyle that pays really well, especially onlyfans. 

    Yeah, but the easy money becomes the trap. The road from just making a few bucks on OnlyFans to sliding into full prostitution and/or porn is quite high.

    I have this theory that actually the porn industry produce a lot of content where the turn on is to see women getting raped on camera in return for money, while pretending it's a normal job. Pushing consent to the limit, and turning the woman further and further into a powerless, degraded low value whore is pretty much what turns on a lot of people. That's why Lana ended up drinking piss and that type of other mess.

     

  23. Posted

    13 hours ago, somegirl said:

    Wait why are people praising her that she made a bag and left? They are saying that she was a smart troll and making money our of it. But then I saw that she was filming herself getting... You know. So how is that smart? She was making easy money out of porn, and that is smart now?

    I know Lana Rhoades was doing the same but she was shamed for it. 

    I am genuengly confused, if someone cares to explain?

    Porn is really a lame business.

    You should have a look at the documentary Hot girl wanted, produced by Rashida Jones. It's not easy to make a career out of it. There are millions of free videos on the internet, and getting attention to build your niche and fanbase is difficult.

    There are always money for starters. A first porn video will bring you cash. The reason mostly being that the public is interested in seeing a girl getting into porn and get turned on by the "making of whore".

    But then, quite fast, job opportunities gets scarce and they've got to escalate to increasingly degrading stuff, and survive in a business where most of the pipeline and money is in producing content that appeal to the average guy's subconscious fantasy. And a lot of it has to do with female depedestalization and going extreme on the whore archetype.

    Lana Rhoades might be on top of that game, but she had to paid the price for it. 

    I discovered her on that forum, because someone posted a thread on the effect of porn on female body and psychology. Turn out, that girl (Lana) has severe PTSD from some of the movie she shot. I remember she said in the interview, that she's been followed by a therapist, and she's been discussing with it some of the degrading stuff she's been through. 

    Belle Delphine, on the other hand managed to build herself fame ahead, and get on top of the porn game while producing herself content on her terms. But I'm also questioning why she decided to go the porn route. Though, her fame was highly dependent on the male gaze, she could have monetized her fame in dozen of other ways if that's what she was after.  In my opinion, it was really much unnecessary.

  24. Posted · Edited by Etherial Cat

    7 hours ago, Loba said:

    @Etherial Cat This dating section is super below the belt when it comes to opinions it doesn't like, I ended up bowing out because I have other things to focus on than argue here.  I literally don't have the time, tell me people, where are you finding the extra time for that?

    I don't know. I suppose I am trapped in the same dynamic as a lib baffled at Fox news. Even some thread titles sounds like triggering clickbait. :D