You would not believe the kinds of girls I attracted: worldclass tennis stars, actresses, models, etc.
I went on a date with a girl who did all of Tony Robbins' marketing material.

All of them are valuable. Tyler's are great of course. You gotta sort through it all and see which ones resonate with you.
When I started pickup I had a giant torrent of like every possible pickup teaching in the last 20 years. I studied the shit out of it for 100s of hours. I studied it harder than I studied calculus in college, LOL. And that was before RSD's best free YT material was fully released. That was like 8 years ago now.
God, I'm getting old.
A lot of great new pickup material has been released since then. I started out studying Mystery Method, LOL. I studied like 20 different teachers and coaches. All of it was useful, but RSD I liked the most because it was so brutally realistic and down-to-earth. I don't like fluff in my dating teachings.

Street and day game is my fave. It works even better since there's almost zero competition.
One of the best things I got from my 2000 approaches is that these days if I see a cute girl at Wholefoods, I can fairly effortlessly just walk up to her and walk away with her number.
Once you get good enough, building state will not be so important. Especially during the day where you should be more low-key and normal.
Once you get good at pickup, social circle will be like shooting fish in a barrel. It's so easy. Normal dating becomes so easy.
Pickup in loud clubs is like Navy Seals training. If you can handle that you can handle anything.
Of course there's a lot more to it than one law. And state transference is not about clowning around, it's about being grounded, chill, confident, happy, etc. rather than terrified or anxious to be near a girl. Your fear will transfer to her so fast.
State transference is such a powerful principle. It even applies when you're talking to your girlfriend over the phone. Whatever mood you're in will quickly rub off onto her. It's important to understand this principle and use it to lead girls into positive states.
Pickup gets very advanced and nuanced as you get a few years into it. There are hundreds of nuances to learn, but you cannot learn them unless you do 1000s of approaches. I could talk about the nuances of pickup for 20 hours straight to a newbie.
I could talk for several hours just about the nuances of setting up the first date to make sure it's most successful. I spent dozens of hours just honing my first date process.
Every part of your game needs to be finely-honed like knife: your dress, your grooming, the approach, the opener, body language, sub-communication, state, small talk, kino escalation, flirting, leading, asking screening questions, logistics, bouncing, managing her friends, managing her excuses, getting phone numbers, texting, setting up dates, isolation, closing, dealing with last minute resistance, foreplay, sex, etc.
You do need a solid city for pickup. I highly recommend moving to big city. It's worth it.

I would look for a torrent of their entire old-school video catalogue. Not their paid material but their free YT videos. That stuff is GOLD. I'm sure it exists online somewhere.
Well, that hardcore approach machine mentality is basically what you need to gain massive skills and results. It works in Europe and elsewhere of course. It works anywhere there are lots of women.
But they also taught many fundamental inner game principles such as law of state transference, building up state, and much more. Those principles are crucial.
You are not going to get good with attracting women without MASSIVE approach experience. You need to be approaching 1000s of women. Everything else is secondary. You will learn the details as you force yourself to approach.
I approached something like 2000 women within a year. And that was still just the start of the learning process. I never got super good at it. But I got A LOT better than when I started.
It's not about sleeping with 100s of women. You'll be lucky to get a small handful from those 2000 approaches. It's about honing your skills and inner game through massive exposure and experience. It's about building yourself up as a man. Any future girlfriend you have will appreciate the strength pickup has built in you for her.
Pickup is like meditation. You must do it seriously to get results. It's one of the most challenging things you'll do in your life. But also one of the most rewarding.

Don't. Just do pickup when you're doing pickup, and do meditation when you sit to meditate.
If you can get numbers and dates, clearly you're getting attraction, so what are you insecure about? As far as your insecurity goes, what you need to get through your thick skull is this: within about 15 minutes you will either reach hook-point with a girl or not. If you reach hook-point, you will clearly see that she's attracted. Once you see that, you know she is willing to fuck you if you just don't screw it up from here on out and handle the logistics well. So drop any insecurity from here. You KNOW she's willing to fuck you. And if a girl agrees to go on a date with you: YOU KNOW SHE'S WILLING TO FUCK YOU. A girl will never agree to go on a date with a guy she's not willing to fuck.
Your insecurity should be about those initial 15 minutes to reach hook-point. If you get there, you've won! She's willing to fuck you. Which means your looks are now irrelevant.
One of the best guys I knew in game was a short 5'2" Pakistani guy. He was amazing. He got more girls than me at 6'2".
Your PERSONALITY is what matters. Focus on improving that. Become charming and bold and you will attract many girls.

Time is a projection of the human mind. Once you stop projecting it you will realize that the present moment is Eternal.
No time = Eternity = every moment exists forever

Since many of us here are INTPs I thought it would be useful to start a collection of resources for this personality type.
If there is high demand, we can do the same for some other popular types.
 

You can certainly go out sober and pump up your state in the club so much that you will feel intoxicated simply on fun. I've done this. It feels like being drunk. Dancing is a great way to pump up your state, as is approaching girls. Lots of approaches will pump your state up to crazy levels. Having good friends with you will also pump your state up.
The best way to become socially uninhibited it to go out to nightclubs very often and push your comfort zone in the club with dancing, flirting, talking, having fun, etc.
Hell, you can even fuck in the club! That will pump up your state for sure

The reason you feel that way is because for meditation to be life-transforming it must be done with extreme rigor.
If you half-ass meditation, it is 100x weaker than if you do it rigorously.
Most people in the West are not taught to do serious meditation. They are taught meditation for newbies.
It took me a lot of trial and error just to learn this. And I'm by no means a great mediator. But I understand what makes it powerful or life-transforming.
Also, not all people are equally suited for it.
To really appreciate meditation it must be done as a hardcore monk, virtually full-time. But almost no one is willing to pay that cost.
With consciousness work you get what you are willing to put into it.

Time is purely conceptual and imaginary.
When you become conscious enough you can just stop imagining it. You can just forget it like you do an old childhood memory, until it pops back into your mind.
Time is a conceptual projection of your mind. Don't confuse it with raw experience. Just because raw experience changes DOES NOT mean it happens in time. Change and time are not the same thing, even though we measure time by using change.
Also be careful with thinking that reality occurs in frames or has a frame rate. It does not. There is one continuous field.

Yes, what this tells you is that you two are simply not compatible personality-wise, values-wise, development-level-wise, etc.
You MUST look for fit in new relationships. Not all people and personality types or value sets fit together. You must screen harder for this on the front end before you two fall head over heals in love.
Muster the courage to admit to yourself that you two are not fit for each other, and move on. It is doing you both a disservice to try to make an unfit relationship work. It will not work. Relationships are hard enough even when you have great fit. When you have poor fit, forget about it.
FIT! FIT! FIT! Look for FIT!
When fit is found, the relationship flows naturally like a dance. Without fit it feels like grinding gears every week.

You have to clarify in your experience what "a brain" is. What does the phrase "a brain" or "my brain" actually refer to in your direct experience? For example, the phrase "Santa Claus" refers to an image of a fat bearded guy in a red costume in your mind. How about "the brain"? You'll have to be very careful here not to get lost in layer upon layer of concept.
If you think "my brain" refers to an actual physical object in your skull, think again! That is NOT true in your direct experience. That is a conceptual fabrication because there is no physical brain present in your direct experience. If you're honest, you've probably never seen a brain in your entire life. Which obviously means your entire notion of brains is imaginary.
Now, of course, this is where your mind will get extra tricky. It will say, "Okay, but if we cut open my skull there is guaranteed to be a brain in there!" But now you need to carefully notice that this too is imaginary! You are imagining your skull cut open. This is not real in your direct experience. Now you will say, "But what if it becomes real?!" << But that too is imagination! The entire notion of a future is imaginary!
You see, imagination works in multiple interwoven layers in order to create a sense of objective reality which isn't really there other than in your mind. If your mind stopped working, objective reality would disappear.
Don't take my word for it. Take a look at it. Is there anything about reality which is objective outside your imagining that it is? How is it possible that you have ever accessed anything objective at all when 100% of your experience of life has been subjective???!!!
Notice that objectivity is just subjectivity denied.
Fun stuff, eh?

Notice that science never tells you who's in control. So it's not like this question has ever been answered by mankind.
What if no one is in control? After all, who controls the rain?

Good, but do you realize that the brain is a thought?
That's a tricky one to swallow. Try it.

Yes, that is a good start.
Get very simple and direct with it.
Try this next time you sit down for 25 mins: Take your finger and try to point to yourself. Notice carefully what the finger it pointing at. Try to clarify what that thing is. Notice, the finger never points at a brain. What is seeing the finger?
As you do this, try to minimize thinking. Don't think about it, look at it. Clearly, thoughts come and go, so they cannot be essential to what you are. What is essentially you?

Of course
Sounds, feelings, or anything else in his experience. He must have some experience, otherwise he wouldn't exist.
It makes no difference what sensation you focus on. I use visual examples because most of us are highly visual creatures and our visual fidelity is highest.
Plenty of Zen masters got enlightened by focusing on sound. Sound can be an excellent meditation target. As can bodily sensations like pressure or breathing.
You can even focus on nothing and awaken that way. Since you are Nothing But it's hard for newbies to focus on nothing.

No worries. I enjoy it.
You are supposed to think: "Is that psychologist in the room with me? No? Then he's imaginary! And so is his bullshit scientific explanation."
You are going to have to seriously question the foundations of science here. Science is not true as you were led to believe. Science contains some partial and relative truths, but it cannot grasp Absolute Truth, Consciousness, or existential questions. Science cannot ever tell you what you are. This is a meta-scientific question. Science cannot tell you what anything is in the absolute sense. Science can only make relative comparisons between things. Science cannot ever get at the thing itself.
For example, science cannot tell you what red is, or what a chair is, or what matter is, or what energy is, or what time is, or what a number is. Etc.
Notice that science has never given you a bottom line answer about what ANYTHING is! Start to wonder why that is.

Dude! Cut the shit.
There is no brain in your direct experience. You've never seen your brain. Notice that.
This work is 100% about sticking to what is present in your direct experience. If it's not in your direct experience it does not exist. That means the back of your head does not exist.
You need to be ruthless here about noticing what is actually present in direct experience vs whatever your mind is imagining.
You are imagining your brain right now. Notice this. This is not a theory. This is literally what is happening in your experience. Take your finger and point at the brain and notice if the pointer is pointing to nothing.
It doesn't matter what your mind is saying, you must look strictly at what exists in direct experience. The mind is constantly imagining all sorts of fantasies. You must not fall prey to them.
Is your mother in the room with you right now? No? Then she does not exist. That's what is literally true. The rest is fantasy.
The whole trick here is to not believe your own lying mind. Your own mind is constantly lying to you because it is constructing reality. You have to catch the mind in the act of construction, and stop it. Otherwise you will forever be living in a self-constructed fantasy while thinking you are looking at reality.

Stop assuming any of that requires a brain. It occurs in the current moment as phenomena. It occurs in your consciousness, obviously, since that's where you find it.
A video game character can do all those things without a brain.
What you should be wondering is how some pink colors can think, learn, meditate, remember, etc.
Your mind is not in the brain, the brain is in your mind. And mind is nowhere, nohow, and nothing.

A simple way to explain it is like this:
If you cut open the skull of a video game character, you will see a "brain" there (if the designers programmed it that way). But that thing is not at all what is controlling the video game world. Perception in a video game is NOT coming from the avatar's brain or body. The brain/body is just part of the entire simulation which does not hinge on any one part within that simulation.

Because you're not in a position to appreciate the depth of the questions you're asking.
If you are serious you will need to spend years and perhaps decades carefully contemplating and deconstructing all this.
You are basically asking, "How does reality happen at all?" and the answer to that question is so radical that if you knew it, it would kill you.
Watch more of my videos and contemplate them deeply. Nobody is going to give you these answers. You must have major awakenings to understand.
Your mind is playing a game with you. It is imagining reality, and it will do everything in its power to make sure you never become aware that you are constructing reality, because otherwise reality will disappear. Your very life hinges on it.

See my video: Why Brains Do Not Exist
If you cut open the skull you will see some pink stuff in there. Which is color, not really a brain. Your "brain" is made out of color. So what is color? Do not make the naive mistake of thinking that color is something which happens in the brain. NO! Brain happens in color.
Your notion of "brain" is highly metaphysically loaded. By that term you don't just mean color, you use it as an anchor for your entire reality. This anchor needs to be deconstructed to see that it is nothing more than some color, not different than the colors your floor is made of.

Right... you are trapped in the materialist myth of brains and physical objects. It is good to question and deconstruct that. But that's only the begining.
There is no brain at all. The brain is just a story you invented to explain the present moment.
Thoughts don't happen in a brain. The brain is a thought. Take a close look at what "my brain" really is and where it came from. Deconstruct it. Raw experience is not happening inside of any thing.

You are EVERYTHING. The entire field of consciousness.
Be careful with your ideas of Nothingness. Whatever ideas you have of it are not it.
Awakening is not about becoming convinced of something. Awakening is not a logical conclusion or a belief. It is a new state of consciousness. You need to access a new state, rather than trying to convince yourself from within your current state.

It's not false per se, it's conceptual, relative, and partial.
There are multiple orders of reality which we can talk about. Be careful not to confuse them. Sensation is a 1st order thing. Causation is a 2nd order thing. Similar to how sand is a 1st order thing and sand castles are a 2nd order thing.
In this inquiry we are only interested in 1st order things. So stop asking 2nd order questions.