Getting married soon

[El Duderino]

Hello everyone.

So I think I'm at SD stage Yellow and I'm getting married in December. She, I believe, is at stage Blue with some aspects of Red and Purple. I'm deeply in love with her. Do you have any advice for me?

[Phil King]

Either youre not at yellow or shes higher than blue. Theres literally no way a long term relationship would work out with that much of a difference in development levels.

[r0ckyreed]

^^^.Agreed. OP is settling for less. It isn’t love, it is possession.

[Raze]

8 hours ago, Phil King said:

Either youre not at yellow or shes higher than blue. Theres literally no way a long term relationship would work out with that much of a difference in development levels.

That’s not remotely true, especially for the higher stages.

[thenondualtankie]

Could you be more specific in terms of how your worldviews clash? For example is it a matter of "she is very religious but I am not"?

[SamC]

15 hours ago, El Duderino said:

Hello everyone.

So I think I'm at SD stage Yellow and I'm getting married in December. She, I believe, is at stage Blue with some aspects of Red and Purple. I'm deeply in love with her. Do you have any advice for me?

I am in a long distance relationship with a Morrocon girl and she has a lot of stage blue aspects in her. I'm devouted to her and love her very much.

My advice for you is to dare to choose love. If you really love her and want to be with her, stay devouted to her in the ups and down of your marriage.

If you look at it logicially, it may look like it's going to be very challanging, inconvinient and not going to work but if you love someone or something - you will do everything for that person and relationship..

Is it crazy? Absolutly. But it's the way of the lover - and if you feel like that's your souls path - go all the way!

Much love and blessings

Edited September 9, 2023 by SamC

[Phil King]

7 hours ago, Raze said:

That’s not remotely true, especially for the higher stages

A stage yellow person may be able to be compassionate towards a stage blue/red/purple person, but from the blue/red/purple perspective, yellows world view looks insane and threatening. 

 

[Carl-Richard]

On 9.9.2023 at 6:51 AM, El Duderino said:

So I think I'm at SD stage Yellow

What do you mean by that? What concrete things makes you think there will be a clash?

Edited September 11, 2023 by Carl-Richard

[Raze]

1 hour ago, Phil King said:

A stage yellow person may be able to be compassionate towards a stage blue/red/purple person, but from the blue/red/purple perspective, yellows world view looks insane and threatening. 

 

You can have relationships with different world views as long as there isn’t major personal value clashing 

[D2sage]

Just change your Facebook status to married.

Don't use the governmental route with the paper work.

If you divorce her, there is no need to share anything you worked hard for.

Edited September 11, 2023 by D2sage

[LSD-Rumi]

On 9/10/2023 at 0:05 AM, Phil King said:

A stage yellow person may be able to be compassionate towards a stage blue/red/purple person, but from the blue/red/purple perspective, yellows world view looks insane and threatening. 

 

Some stage blue people can be very accepting too. They think your way of life is wrong but they don't care that much.