Cannot deal with rejection. Dont know how to deal with this bs

[actually]

For every girl I talk to who is more interested in me than the other way I feel awesome and liked and all that bullshit. But if a girl is ignoring me it eats me up inside and I wanna know how to properly deal with this. If im texting a girl and she isnt responding or gives me dry answers ill go fucking nuts and I hate this about myself. I know I shouldn’t be so desperate and just have enough self respect and all that. I just cannot deal with it and I wanna help myself so this stupid thing wont stop me from finding a girlfriend or have a girlfriend who is also just as fucked up as me so we both end up in this toxic relationship. I just wanna be normal and not freak out when she leaves me on read (even if she is just busy i keep thinking the worst thing) 

 

fuck this is so tiring and I just wanna be normal

 

im 25 and it might come from childhood trauma i dont know bro just please tell me how i should fix it

[Leo Gura]

What you do is go out for a few years and learn proper inner and outer game. Then all those problems will go away.

Less bitching, less self-doubt, more learning.

Edited February 21, 2023 by Leo Gura

[Hardkill]

31 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

What you do is go out for a few years and learn proper inner and outer game. Then all those problems will go away.

Less bitching, less self-doubt, more learning.

Constant rejection does undoubtedly cause one to feel very discouraged and demoralized.

I almost lost hope after getting by hundreds and hundreds of girls in a row in real life.

If I hadn't ever gotten lucky enough to finally get my first ever real girlfriend at 30 years old after years of countless rejection, then I could've either ended up in a hospital for major clinical depression or commit suicide or start taking drugs or drinking alcohol to numb myself from the trauma of failure and being unwanted or resort to paying prostitutes/escorts for the rest of my life or abandon my family to become a celibate monk for life or live alone in the wilderness until I get killed by some wild animal.

Who knows what insane and self-destructive thing I really could've done to myself.

Edited February 21, 2023 by Hardkill

[Emerald]

It sounds like you’re dealing with shame. Shame has to do with feeling like we’re unworthy or invalid in some way. 

Here’s a video that I made about it, if you’re interested…

 

[StarStruck]

If you don’t like yourself why should she like you? Unfortunately for you hungry dogs are not fed by girls.

You need to meditate on why you don’t love yourself and get some insights that will dissolve negativity about yourself and neediness for approval from others: you are a grown ass dude, you shouldn’t need approval. Once you love yourself, other people rejecting you won’t hurt. 

If you become a loving person you will attract people because they will hope some of your love will rub off of them. 

Edited February 21, 2023 by StarStruck

[flowboy]

@actually  this is a shame trigger. I've got a guided release for that. Takes about 20min. Do it 3 times on different days, then see whether you still react the same way.

Yes, it's rooted in childhood trauma.

When she doesn't respond in a way that you want, you make that mean something about you unconsciously, which is intolerable.

You don't want to be this.

You don't want to feel this.

What is it?

What is the feeling exactly, where is it in the body, what emotions arise?

Where have you felt it before?

And before that?

And before that?

And before that?

If the shadow work sequence above doesn't do the trick, I'd recommend doing some self-regression to permanently get rid of it.

Tracing it back to older situations will already help to not overreact in the present.

[meta_male]

3 hours ago, flowboy said:

I've got a guided release for that.

@flowboy This is a real gem, thank you ? I just did one session before and bawled my eyes out.

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZwcuLLBUBiA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHfAMh6Edm4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7L2MzmE8cwo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y73pYVYthOA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s6vdkh-VkmY

 

Edited February 21, 2023 by Raze

[flowboy]

11 hours ago, meta_male said:

@flowboy This is a real gem, thank you ? I just did one session before and bawled my eyes out.

Awesome 

[Chives99]

believe in yourself, you can do it